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best friend and ex boyfriend
My best friend of 9 years is trying to hook up with my ex-boyfriend, who is my best friend, WHO i had sex with. She acts like theres nothing wrong with it, but it bothers me. When i tell her, she just calls me drama and starts cussing me out. Do I have a reason to be upset? I feel awful!
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Of course you do. Shes wanting to hook up with your ex. When you tell her and then she starts saying stuff ask her how she would feel about u going out with her ex . if she says she wouldnt care then pretend like one of her exs ohh and talk to your ex about it. Tell me how it goes write back. Signed Speedy0301 Goodluck!!**
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Yes, you have a very good reason to be upset.
She has no right at all to cuss you out when you tell her how you feel.
If I were you, I wouldn't be her friend anymore.
You should not just ignore it and move on like everyone said. All doing that would prove is that she can just keep doing this same thing to you over and over again.
Try discussing everything with her one more time and if she cusses you out again just say, "Look, if you want to act this way, then fine, but we can't be friends anymore."
Good luck!
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you have a reason to be upset, because you guys were together. but you dont own him, and she is allowed to date him
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Yes, you do have a right to be upset. And your friend should probably be more considerate of your feelings toward the situation. Afterall, she is your best friend & guys should never come between your friendship. Even if you're not going out with him anymore, she should respect the fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable for her to go after him. In my opinion, I don't think you should go after any friend's ex unless the friend is completely fine with it. You can both agree to have a calm conversation without any cussing just to get both of your feelings out. If she's not willing to do that, then maybe you should reevaluate your friendship.
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I can understand why you are so upset about this. I mean you had se with him so you are always going to feel just a little mad everytime some girl is hangig on him. If i was you I would talk to your ex-boyfriendd and tell him how you feel about him and your best friend going out, and as far as your friend if she really was your friend and you ask her not to date him because you are unconfy about it, then she should respect that. hoped I helped
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i can understand that you get upset but sometimes you have to forget the past and move on you know what i mean? and you should not let her cuss you out you should just not take any crap from her and start cussin her out to it might finally get her to shut up.. but since hes ur ex u should move on and just let her hook up with him but if the break up was long ago you should let it go but if it was very recent then its a problem
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Oh you have without a doubt a reason to be Upset!!
ur best friend likes someone you had sexual relations with and ur ex better not be into her thats fucked up on both there parts!!
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ofcourse you should be mad...what kind of friend would go out with her friends ex and on top of that you slept with him wouldnt she find that even weird atall...i think you shouldnt let it go like that tell her how you feel and if she says your a drama queen tell her if she went out with a guy and had felings for him and sleep with him and her best friend comes up and tell her hey i wanna get your ex boyfriend in my pants wouldnt she get mad and if she says oh its differnt or something gay like tell her its exactly the same thing and then cuss and diss her ass out
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aww sweetie, just forget about her ♥
you DO have a reason to be upset. i think you should talk to your ex and tell him how you feel, and then maybe he can talk to her. i would go with your real friend (your ex)
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Well, me and my friends actually have a pact. That if one of us have dated someone, and actually had a REAL relationship with them, then he is off limits, even if they are broke up. This might not work for you, so you could just try telling her about this. Tell her that it hurts you, and if she starts to cuss you out, tell her that isnt cool. If she cusses you out in the first place, she obviously isnt a good friend to start out with. Eventhoug I dont think Its worth loosing friends over a guy, its worth loosing a friend over her just being an ass. Hope I have helped. :]
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you do have a reason to be upset. this is a very common problem with friends. if you have already talked to her and nothing works and she doesn't listen to you then try to just get away for a while. create space. hang out with some other people. if she isn't gonna be conciderate of your feelings, then shes not a good friend. i understand you've been friends for so long and if you've made it this far, then she'll come back in the end.
hope it works out for you.
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yes you have a reason to be upset!
that's your ex that you did that stuff with.
and if she really was your best friend, she
wouldn't even THINK about doing that ..think
about that. and tell her next time you talk
to her that if she really was your friend and
if she really doesn't want to loose you then
to stop even thinking about going out with him.
hope it helps. =]
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Not hooking up with a SERIOUS ex of your best friends is like an unwritten code of life. You just don't do that. You have EVERY right to be angry with her and upset over the situation. After being friends with you for 9 years she should know better. The fact that she's acting like there is nothing wrong is crummy of her. I know you have already tried, but try talking to her again. Really express to her that it makes you feel uncomfortable and not just because you are a bit jealous but you feel BETRAYED by her. Also, talk to you ex/best friend. Tell him that you feel like he's violated a part of your friendship. Chances are, he's your ex for a reason ,right? Usually the best-friend-ex's thing doesn't last. She'll get burned by him. He'll talk to you all about it and get closer to you. You don't want this. You probably don't want to know anything about a relationship between them, rigt? So the best thing to do, is talk to them both and really tell them you aren't cool with it and feel disrespected. If they don't listen..well then their actions speak louder than words. You don't need stuff like that. :)
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Yes, you have a reason to be upset. Tell her it's HIM or YOU. A real friend will choose you. I'm sorry you have such a sucky best friend!
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