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What to do about my living situation?
Ok my parents are divorced. Im 15 yrs old and I have been able to choose where I want to live since I was like 12. Well I have always lived with my mom and seen my dad on the weekends. Well since I have gotten older things changed I go to my dads when I wanna and I have moved to my grandma's. well with it being summer I go and stay at my dad's house to see him and my step family. Well the last yr or more they have been bugging me to move in. I dont have a good reason not to other then my mom saying I cant.She tells me I cant move out she hasent even came to terms I live with my grandma. she has told me over and over I can never move in with my dad. My question is how do I move in there with out things changing between me and my mom?
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Your situation is exactly mine! I am 16 and I have lived with my dad most of my life, going to see my mom on weekends and such. I now alternate between the two frequently, but my mom is constantly bugging me to move in with her full time, while i dont want to hurt my dads feelings! I dont have a good reason not too, other than feeling bad for my dad. I love my dad just as much as my mom, but sometimes, my dads place is just more pleasant. My suggestion would be to sit down with your parents (one at a time) and tell them your situation. Tell them you dont want to have to live with just one, since you love them both very much. I told my parents that I dont want to have to choose, and I would like to do half at my moms, and half at my dads. Suggest that for sure. I'll check back, tell me how it goes! Good Luck, Emma
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Well, I sorta had the same thing happen to me. You might want to talk to your Mother, and in a nice way say you want to live with your Dad. You have every rught to. If she says no. Ask her why. And you do have every right to move with your Dad as his son and you as a human being. If she still says no. Make it clear in a polite way you dont want to talk to her because she`s not respecting your right as his son+humanbeing`s free will, and say " Well, If your 'need' for me not to live the are above my happieness, then I have nothing futher to say. And then dont talk to her for as long as it takes. I`ll get to her, trust me. And if she calls, make it short and sweet. Letting her know you dont want to talk and you wert shiting around. And dont let her know how you are doing. Be indirect and change the subject aboot everything she askes.(letting her know you dont care)And like once a week ask her if she has come to her senses and will let you go b4 your 18 and then cant go. And my favorite count down to your birthday, like wight on a calender how many days till your 18, like one per page. So you can say "hey you know if i was living with dad i would have 862 days to be there. Only 862 days. times flys. Then be quite. And end the conversation asap! but not like funk you (click) Just make up stuff."Oh my ride is here sry goto"
And if thats taking to long, Say your a anti-sexual Buddhist and your fasting untill you get to go to your fathers. You might want to brush up on alittle bit on buddhism so if she calls the cops, They`ll think your trying to kill yourself and its a mandatory 72hours. I got out in 17. But be sure your at your moms house if shes within reach. Or call her and tell her how many hours its been since your last meal.
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as you said before you saw your father weekends and mother during the week. maybe you should see your father week days and your mother weekends and week days maybe go hang out once in a while rent a movie and popcorn on a weeknight stay the night and go back to you dads on weekend.
good luck
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Sit down n talk to your mom about it, tell her you want to move in with your father, your her daughter and she loves you so she should be able to accept that. She probally tells you that you can never with your dad because she wants you to herself and she probally feels like you might be picking favorites and she wants to be your only parent. well i hope i helped. =)
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Well, this is often a common problem with childrn of divorce. No matter what you choose, someone is going to get offended and not be completely happen. It is a bad situation to be in, so you have to just do what's best for you. I think you really need to sit down and think about where you will benefit the most by living there. After you decided, I thin you should have a calm, mature talk with (your mom if that's who you aren't choosing to live with) and explain to her why you have made the choice that you did. Make sure to express that you aren't trying to hurt or betray anyone--or go against her. Just tell her (or your dad if it's him, or even your grandma) that you just want a change and have really thought about this. Then make sure to visit whoever your not living with as often as possible, and call to check on them. I know it will be tough, but you can do it, and eventually, they'll understand--or at least accept it. :)
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