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i dont know what to do about this one guy
so theres this one guy that i really do like..and hes really liked me for a long time...hes totally different then any of my last boyfriends..hes a good guy,hes shy around girls (not me anymore), always makes smart choices,and my last boyfriends have been really out going, "ladies man" crazy, not always the smartest choices..but thats besides the point im so confused on what to do..i mean i know if i went out with him he would treat me right..and a lot better than my exs..but see i went out with him once and i broke up with him two days later...it was for a crappy reason..hes a little bit shorter than me and that bothers the heck out of me..im usually a confident girl but b/c hes shorter than me i feel like i want to run...and it makes my confidence level go way down! and it doesnt help that everyone one would always make comments about us being together...b/c i was his first g/f and hes like me for soooo long and were totally opposite! and i always just saw him as a friend...i feel soo shallow...i mean the whole first girlfriend thing really doesnt bother me its the height thing!! it bothers me soo much! but i keep thinking to myself im going to not take a chance with him b/c of his height...i mean i know if he was a few inches taller i would date him in a heart beat!! UGH! what should i do?
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Wow, parts of what you described to me I can REALLY relate to. As far as this new being a lot better than your last boyfriend, I don't think you should pass up to oppurtunity to be with a great guy--especially because of small PREFERENCES--that's all they simply are. Sooo many times, and soooo many girls go for the real jerks because they think they can change, or they like the rush of a "bad boy". It's not until you get really burned..and I mean REALLY that something will finally click inside of you and you will see that you don't want those jerks anymore. Yes, it's hard sometimes to make the switch and it might not be as exciting, but it's very much worth it. I know that you know (especially in the back of your mind) that this is the better choices--to give this guy a chance. Love and relationships are suppose to lift you up, not bring you down. Be with someone who treats you how you would want your OWN daughter to be treated. As far as the shallow height thing goes..I don't think it's wrong of you to be picky and have preferences, but don't let that completely stop you from being with him. I recently went to a wedding where the pride was 6 foot and the groom was 5'6". Your case is only a few inches. As long as you are comfortable and secure everyone else will back down. At this age, people take..it's just something you have to look past. If you show you don't really care and that you are confident that all that matters. It's you that will be in a relationship with him, not them. So let people talk, and then they'll shut up. Ultimately, the choice of who to be with is yours only. But don't let his height be the SOLE reason--especially if he's a good guy. Good guys need a break! Also, don't mention it to him because you will hurt him. Just try taking things slow with this guy and really get to know him. Hang out a lot. I have a feeling you'll soon be able to look past the height and more at the heart. :)
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