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i need a positive reinforcement...PLEASE HELP
So...i have been fingering myself since i was lyk 10 & i do continue doing it (im 14 now) but im beggining to get scared cuz one of my clitoris is like really large, brown nd ugly, nd i dnt know wierd. It makes me self councious nd i dont know what im goin to do when i have sex or when my boyfriend gets into my pants to finger me. I just get really worried/nervous/scared. Do you know what this is? 14/f
~~~Olie (or u can call me Michii) D= (link)
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Everyone is different down there, We are not all exactly the same. Don't worry about it, It will be fine. When you have sex for the first time it's special and that won't even matter I promise.
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I am 20 yrs old. I was the victim of a raping at a very young age. After being checked out by the hospital, it really made me scared and uncomfortable. that was when I was 6, now im 20 and still have never been to an OBGYN. my mother never took me to one, and since ive lived on my own for the last 2 years, i havent taken myself either. I am really scared and uncomfortable and really dont know how much it will cost. Does anyone have any advice for me?
scaredy cat (link)
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I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you as a child.
1. A gynocologist is a doctor, If you feel more comfortable you can even ask for a female.
2. I do not know how much it cost no..but if you have insurance you could call them and ask them about it.
3. It is recommended that you see a gynocologist once a year to get checked and be safe.
The first time is uncomfortable for everyone, Trust me though it is much better if you have a female doctor. Try to tell yourself you can do this and it will be okay. They are there to help.
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i finally got the tampon in but its a little uncomfortable...it looks like its in pretty good though. can i use something like the empty applicator to pushit up a little bit more? or is that just asking for trouble? i don't want to take it out and try with a new one cause taking out a dry tampon hurts, i've experienced it. (link)
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When you take it out try to take out slowly so it doesn't hurt as much. Also, If you want to put a tampon in I heard that if you use lubricant first it will help it slide in more comfortably. You can buy this at a pharmacy. I would not try to push it in with the cap it will be even more painful Good Luck!
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Alright, this seems like a really stupid question but I've never really been in a relationship before. I have a friend that recently I've begun to like in "that way." I'm somewhat getting signals that she may like me too. Anyway, what I'm asking is how do I go about talking to her about becoming my girlfriend? We hang out and stuff, so I'm not sure whether to just profess my feeling towards her which could get awkward, or ask her if she likes me, or what? (link)
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If you like her and she is already your friend then come out and tell her. If you dont' know how to approach the subject then you could go along these lines
"I wanted to talk to you about something...I know it's sort of off the subject but I really like you and was wondering if you'd go out with me"
I wouldn't just come out and ask her if she likes you in that way...It would be kind of awkward yes. However if you want to know how she feels about you then tell her that you really need to get something off your chest and tell her that you started to develope feelings for her and take it from there. :)
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So I got my depo shot on June 11th, a month ago today, I had my period for a week, which is weird for me concidering mine are only between 3-5 days.
I thought my period was over, and my boyfriend and I had sex, and the bleeding came back but went away. The next day we had sex again, and there was no blood.
Today, which would be 3 days after the bleeding, I noticed a brown discharge, and just a brown substance inside of me. Is this normal? Is it a side effect of the depo, or should I talk to my doctor? (link)
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I was on the Depo Provera shot for 4 years. The long term period could be an adjustment to the depo shot. The brown discharge could be old blood but again it is a possiblity it is a discharge. Seeing you are new to the depo provera shot it will take a few months for your body to fully adjust to the shot. From what I remember the doctor telling me it took a few months for my body to adjust afterall it is birth control. You should notice your period too start lighting up soon. It is also normal to only bleed very little "Spotting" basically very little blood. When I was on the shot I hardly bled at all..The only downfall was I did gain a lot of weight and had to be switched to another birth control.
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okay so i really want to dye my hair a bold color. today i tried dyeing it with kool-aid and it failed miserably. you couldnt even tell a change, i tried purple, and than blue, and neither of it worked. i have medium brown hair so its really hard to dye it a bright color, and all the websites i went on said i have to bleach my hair. like i want to use manic panic, special effects, or splat hair dye, but im really skeptical about bleaching my hair to get it to look bold. any suggestions? anyone thats ever done this have anything to say? like is bleaching your hair that bad? helppppp.
thanks in advance. (link)
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The whole kool-aide thing is new never heard of it.
If you want to dye your hair temporarly then I would suggest using manic panic and if you really want it too show then yes you might want to bleach your hair because if you dont it will only look more natural. I used the red color manic panic brand and it only lasted 2 days it washed out as soon as I took a shower and washed my hair. If you want a "HOLY COW" look then maybe try another brand of hair dye. If you want a more noticable look than you might want to bleach your hair first.
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hey,
my parents just singed me up to go to trinity high school for grade 7 but I don't want to go cuz there is this guy I really really like. it's already been around 4 weeks of summer vacation and I have been upset ever since. do you think I should hang out with him, call him, or even think about him anymore?? I just don't know what to do!!! he is the sweetest guy ever. :(
~ emily ~ age 13 ~ (link)
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Okay,
Just to let you know..Please do not post the name of your school or personal information on the website.
You can still be friends with him, Talk to him and hang out with him. Going to a new school shouldn't effect having contact with him.
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I'm 17/f and I don't even have my permit. Before you laugh and giggle in your computer chairs please understand that I would rather jump off of a building than drive a car. I've tried the whole empty parking lot, empty field, empty everything, but the second I start the car it's like I tense up. I hate it with a passion, but it's hard to watch my friends out and about with thier liscences (don't care if I spelled that wrong) and I'm still getting rides from my mom. I could have my own liscence right now if it weren't for the stupid panic attacks and the other people driving on the road. How do I get over this? Any one?
Thanks,
ScaredyCat (link)
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I went through the same thing when I first started driving let me tell you it's normal. Once you start driving and praticing you get used too it the tense will gradually go away as you become more comfortable behind the wheel. The number one thing that helped me is you need to "try" to be confident before you enter the car. Even if you need to sit for a minute take a breath check the mirrors etc. Don't worry, It's not a laughing matter I went through it too. It will fade as you become more comfortable with driving I promise!
-Bahaima22
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hi im from canada and i struggle with helping my mom get over her addiction, im 14 and i have a chance of moving in with my aunt who is much more better for me and has more time, money and strengh too keep up with me. so do i stay with my mom for grade 8 and be stressed with the bills and her self or do i leave and start fresh with my aunt and hurt my mom for myself? (link)
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You need to do what you need to do. If you think it would be best to move in with your Aunt then maybe you should do so. Yes, It might hurt mom a little bit but make sure she knows that you love her and is it possible that you can stay at your aunts house just for a little while until things get straighted out? If not.. then maybe you could go home and visit mom on the weekends.
Good Luck
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ok so....
15/f
So...um...my boyfriend and I have been hanging out a lot at his house and we're usually alone cuz his parents work and stuff. Lately he's been getting very....touchy. I mean, we've always kissed, but lately he's been going for my breasts and running his hands up my shirt and over my stomach and trying to get his hand down my pants. I really don't think I'm ready for that. I mean, I love him, a lot. But I don't think I'm ready for that. For him to finger me. Or give him a hj or bj, like he wants. How do you know you're ready for sex? But, actually, I guess mainly I'm concerned about, how do I get out of doing what I'm not ready to do, without him getting angry and/or dumping me? I mean, he has a bit of a temper, and he is very VERY inpatient, and he's gotten close to hitting me before. He'll raise a hand and then walk away, slam a few doors, kick some furniture and then come back like nothing happened. So, really, basically, how do I tell him no without getting hurt? I don't want to loose him, because I really really love him. But I'm just not ready for sex.
Sorry it's so long. Thanks for reading. Any help appreciated.
Chail (link)
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Whoa...
If your boyfriend has gotten "close" to hitting you then WHY? are you with him? Ugh.. yes, I agree it is a RED FLAG. Honestly, NO don't have sex with someone who treats you like this. You deserve so much better and the fact that you are worried about his temper tell me that you aren't thinking of having sex with him because you are afraid that this idiot is going to get mad at you. Sex is supposed to be with someone who loves you for who you are, respects you, cares for you and is there for you. Not for someone who is a complete idiot and is going to pressure you or make you worried that he will possibly hit you and god knows what eles. Clearly, He has issues if he even attempted to hit you. I say, It's time to leave him, move on. There is so much better out there and don't ever let someone talk you or make you feel pressured to doing something that you arent' ready for because sex is a one time thing when you are a virgin..Once you do it it's gone. Make sure it is with someone you truely love and someone that feels the same way for you.
-BahaiMa22
24/f
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This guy and I have been talking a lot lately. I really love talking to him. The thing is, we met online. I'm really skeptical about the whole online dating thing. He's such a good guy though. I really love talking to him and being friends with him. The thing is, we barely ever talk about anything serious. I'm just not sure how to bring anything serious into a conversation. I can't say I completely trust him, cause we met online. Plus i've only known him for a few months. I do trust him enough to tell him some things. Like if i'm upset he can always tell, and he always asks if i'm okay. I really hate it because some of the times I just have to lie to him and tell him i'm fine. The reason for that is I don't like talking about my problems and stuff because I feel like i'm complaining and i don't want to be annoying or anything. I really hate lieing to him. Anyway i'd really love to meet him and be friends with him after I finish high school. I don't want to rush anything because I really don't want to lose him or anything. He's really the only good friend I have right now. My question is, how can I bring up serious things when we talk and sound casual? Or at least bring up serious things in a conversation? (link)
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Just like the person said below, It is dangrous to bring up anything personal to someone you don't even know in person. Yes, he comes across as a nice, sweet gentlemen but honestly do you actually know he is telling you the truth about himself? I would NOT get personal with some guy you met over the internet. If you have things you need to get off your mind then I would go to a friend or even a family member that you trust. I do not recommend giving out information to someone you don't even know. Afterall, he could be someone who is not what you think he is. They all come off sweet and nice in the beginning. Never trust ANYONE off the internet because you never know who you are talking too.
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So, my bf and I were lying on the bed side by side facing each other and we were hugging etc. with our clothes on and he had an orgasm and I don't know if he had ejaculated. If he had so, could sperm go through clothes? He had boxers and a pair of jeans and I had underwear and shorts.
Then I went to the bathroom and I found that my underwear was wet with discharge. Could it be sperm or just discharge as I was sexually aroused? (link)
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No you cannot get pregnant unless the penis has contact with the vagina. If you two had clothes on then you should be fine. Sperm cannot go through clothing. If your underwear was wet more than likely you had either a discharge, or an orgasmn. If you are worried, Maybe it is time to take a test but remember you can only get pregnant by having sex.
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(18/f) One of my really good friends confided in me and told me that they are thinking of committing suicide, and he made me promise i wouldnt tell anyone. I'm really scared for him and im not sure what i should do. i tried talking him out of it as much as i could but i am still scared he might do something. (link)
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If you are his true friend then you need to tell someone. I know you promised him that you wouldn't tell but it is alot better to get him help than to have to hold onto something that could haunt you for a lifetime. Clearly, This guy needs help attempting or ideal susicidal thoughts tell someone. Yes, I won't lie if you tell and he finds out he will be mad at you but hey..it will pass let him be angry at least there is a chance to save his life rather than to not say anything at all and let the possibility happen.
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can you get food poisoning by eating certain foods together?
for example, maybe something like crabs and mangoes? (link)
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Nope, Only if you cook. "Way under cook" "Bad meat" etc. The most crabs and mangoes can give ya is just some serious gas...lol
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I totally love playing the Sims (I have the original just Sims, Sims 2 + expansions, AND Sims 3) but I was wondering if there are any other games like the Sims that I could look into playing. Does anybody know of any?
Doesn't have to be on the computer either! :D (link)
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Yes there is, I'm a big gamer not to the point where I'm a nerd, but I like games. Try Second Life it's a computer game but you need to download it it is pay optional simular to the sims.
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is it possible to be pregnant and not even know it until basically you're going into labor?
i mean, are there people who don't show? or get any of the signs?? (link)
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Yes it certainly is my dear. People can become pregnant and not even know it until all the sudden they are in the hospital saying "OMG, What is wrong with me!" Not all pregnant people show the signs of being so. How this can happen is people who are on birth control and not using condoms...Some don't bother to take a test because they have it embedded in their brians that it is impossible because they are on birth control. You do not have to gain a massive amount of weight over the course of being pregnant...So therefore not everyone shows signs. ;) Be safe!
-BahaiMa22
24/F
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Me and my ex went out for about 19 months. Near the end of the relatinship, i worked two jobs working every single day almost and went to school full time. (im 17 hes 18 in college) Whenever i wanted to hang out on my one day off or whatever, he would find other things to do. I felt like his last priority, and i finally broke up with him just cause i was so pissed one day cause we were supposed to hang out and he completely ditched me, he never acted sorry. Anyways, that night he got with a girl. I wouldnt talk to him no matter what he said for 2 months. Then i saw him at a party. Ever since hes been trying to get me back. But one weekend he went away for this drink fest concert, he claims he heard shit about me and another guy talking and he got his dick sucked by this bitch and he fingered her, and he showered with her twice cause it was like all muddy there it was outside. Anyways, he never told me, and i found out about 4 days later. He says he did it cause he heard shit about me and this guy, which everyone around here thinks was true so its not like a suprise, but still. To not tell me and do that shit fucked up. Its been a few weeks since, Day in and day out he has been doing anything anything and everything he possibly can to get me back, to the point where its so annoying. I loved him the first year of our whole relationshio, i couldnt have pictured anyting better but as all relationships shit changed.
Honestly, i know taking him back would be stupid. I wont let him kiss me nothing. I wanna be his friend till i figure things out, cause its summer and im having so much fun. Would it be stupid to take him back honestly if he never gives up for like four months? Cause i dont plan to anytime soon, i just know its easier to find excuses and forgive someone and be with them, and i dont wanna be stupid like that cause i see a lot of my friends do it. (link)
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I agree with Raz.
Move on, Taking him back isn't the best idea. Instead of talking to "his girlfriend" about what he heard he went on taking other peoples word for it and insisting on it all being true. Don't talk to him, Not only will is get you more pissed off but it isn't going to solve anything. If he went off with another girl then clearly he isn't worth your time. Sounds like a loser if you ask me, You deserve better.
-BahaiMa22
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ok so my friend has been dating online and she met this guy, who i dont think is right for her, and like he tells her stuff..which seems like a lie to me. he wont talk to her on the phone, all they do is text. he claims he's in college. meanwhile, she told me he goes from sept.-june. (like normal high schools)..he said his first class is homeroom?? and that he takes shop class or whatever. i told her it sounds like a lie but she's not sure and either am i because we're both in high school and don't know how college works..can anyone give me answers please? i really want to know what this guy is all about.
Thankyou! (link)
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There is no homeroom in college, Least the one here in my state anyway. I honestly wouldn't be suprised if it all is a lie afterall the internet is FULL of liers etc. Why is she even looking for a relationship on the internet anyway?...Why can't she try to find a guy that is right for her in person? Not only is the internet not safe...but you never know who is on the other end. I think you might want to talk to your friend about it.
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i've always had a problem with my memory. i'm constantly forgetting things. if someone ask me to do something most likely i won't do it. not because i'm lazy but because i don't remember you asked me. or i will tell the same stories over and over to the same people and cant remember ever telling them. it's gotten really bad. it's always been bad, but lately i just cant seem to remember anything. my family thinks it's because i'm not listening or i'm lazy. but i know i'm not lazy and i know i listen to people. i'm worried about this because it's straining my parents' and i's relationship. also i've been diagnosed with ADD. does that have anything to do with it? what are my possible diagnosis? anyone else have the same problem? and what do you do to help it? (link)
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Let me ask you a question..
Are you on medication? Certain medications can cause short term memory delay. Therefore, You might want to see a doctor and let him know about the problem. As far as I know ADD...doesn't cause short term memory problems.
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Hi, I'm worrying about my period because still didn't come, is 3 days late now. When I touch my breast hurts me.
I didn't have sex, my bf just touched my vagina with my clothes on even he had clothes on. If he had an orgasm, sperm couldn't enter my vagina through clothes right? If I worry, it will delay more right? What can I do to not worry about it??
Sorry for asking, but I'm worried. I would appreciate if you reply!!
Thanks.
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If you didn't have sex then you shouldn't have anything to worry about, 3 days late could result in stress etc. I would wait a little bit longer. If you are paranoid about it take a test if you want a more positive result then wait 2 weeks before taking a test. No, sperm cannot enter the vagina through clothing.
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