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Is taking him back stupid and not even worth it?
Me and my ex went out for about 19 months. Near the end of the relatinship, i worked two jobs working every single day almost and went to school full time. (im 17 hes 18 in college) Whenever i wanted to hang out on my one day off or whatever, he would find other things to do. I felt like his last priority, and i finally broke up with him just cause i was so pissed one day cause we were supposed to hang out and he completely ditched me, he never acted sorry. Anyways, that night he got with a girl. I wouldnt talk to him no matter what he said for 2 months. Then i saw him at a party. Ever since hes been trying to get me back. But one weekend he went away for this drink fest concert, he claims he heard shit about me and another guy talking and he got his dick sucked by this bitch and he fingered her, and he showered with her twice cause it was like all muddy there it was outside. Anyways, he never told me, and i found out about 4 days later. He says he did it cause he heard shit about me and this guy, which everyone around here thinks was true so its not like a suprise, but still. To not tell me and do that shit fucked up. Its been a few weeks since, Day in and day out he has been doing anything anything and everything he possibly can to get me back, to the point where its so annoying. I loved him the first year of our whole relationshio, i couldnt have pictured anyting better but as all relationships shit changed.
Honestly, i know taking him back would be stupid. I wont let him kiss me nothing. I wanna be his friend till i figure things out, cause its summer and im having so much fun. Would it be stupid to take him back honestly if he never gives up for like four months? Cause i dont plan to anytime soon, i just know its easier to find excuses and forgive someone and be with them, and i dont wanna be stupid like that cause i see a lot of my friends do it.
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I agree with Raz.
Move on, Taking him back isn't the best idea. Instead of talking to "his girlfriend" about what he heard he went on taking other peoples word for it and insisting on it all being true. Don't talk to him, Not only will is get you more pissed off but it isn't going to solve anything. If he went off with another girl then clearly he isn't worth your time. Sounds like a loser if you ask me, You deserve better.
-BahaiMa22
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Taking him back is stupid. It would still be a pretty stupid thing in four months.
Actually, I'll go a step further here: TALKING to him isn't the brightest move either.
He's a drama-loving little boy. He made excuses throughout your relationship to go out and do whatever he wants. Now, he wants you back, but he still has a whole bunch of handy excuses each time he does something he knows it's going to help him win you over.
This isn't a 'serious of bad choices' or 'a few mistakes', this is the person he is.
Do you think he's changed?
Why? He is doing the exact same thing as before?
Why would a second time be any better?
Is three or four months of making him beg going to turn him into less of a selfish child?
Let this relationship be over. Don't be his friend. He isn't a friend.
Part of growing up is learning it's okay to just leave this sort of shit behind you.
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