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I really love talking to him
This guy and I have been talking a lot lately. I really love talking to him. The thing is, we met online. I'm really skeptical about the whole online dating thing. He's such a good guy though. I really love talking to him and being friends with him. The thing is, we barely ever talk about anything serious. I'm just not sure how to bring anything serious into a conversation. I can't say I completely trust him, cause we met online. Plus i've only known him for a few months. I do trust him enough to tell him some things. Like if i'm upset he can always tell, and he always asks if i'm okay. I really hate it because some of the times I just have to lie to him and tell him i'm fine. The reason for that is I don't like talking about my problems and stuff because I feel like i'm complaining and i don't want to be annoying or anything. I really hate lieing to him. Anyway i'd really love to meet him and be friends with him after I finish high school. I don't want to rush anything because I really don't want to lose him or anything. He's really the only good friend I have right now. My question is, how can I bring up serious things when we talk and sound casual? Or at least bring up serious things in a conversation?
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I agree with the first two comments that were posted earlier...you honestly have no clue to "who" exactly is this person you're chatting with and it is dangerous to give out personal information (obviously that's common knowledge by now).
Buuuut, I understand what you're going through since there's this person I met on the internet also and I know that it feels great to at least chat with someone that makes you feel like..."the real you (not sure how to exactly word it!)."
It's good that you're at least thinking about not giving out too much about your personal life, as many people make that mistake, but if you feel really down and you just have to take it out of your chest...it wouldn't hurt to chat it over if you trust him a little.
As long as you don't specifically name people, place, send pictures, so on and so forth. Word it like how other billions of people say about their problems, hopefully this would still make you safe. Since you want to talk serious with him, you definitely should ask him if you want to have conversations like that, first and then just see his reaction with his replies (but don't let your guard down even after he says he agrees to listen or something!).
I hope this advice was able to help you, even in a little way! Take care~ =3
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My friend introduced me to this guy online, we were exactly as you described, and exactly how I felt. We spoke for about 3 months and then we met, and 7 months on we've never been happier.
So just go for it really :) you won't regret it and, hopefully, things will turn out as good for you as they did for me :)
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Just bring it up and don't be scared. I've also met someone online and i really liked him so i gave him my cell number and he's really sweet and he really is a kid just like me, just bring it up if he's really as sweet as you say then he will listen, hope i helped.
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Just like the person said below, It is dangrous to bring up anything personal to someone you don't even know in person. Yes, he comes across as a nice, sweet gentlemen but honestly do you actually know he is telling you the truth about himself? I would NOT get personal with some guy you met over the internet. If you have things you need to get off your mind then I would go to a friend or even a family member that you trust. I do not recommend giving out information to someone you don't even know. Afterall, he could be someone who is not what you think he is. They all come off sweet and nice in the beginning. Never trust ANYONE off the internet because you never know who you are talking too.
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well first off this is very dangerous.
he could be some creepy old man for all you know.
but that's besides the point.
casually you could say hey, and then state the serious thing you want to talk about.
maybe you could ask him to talk on the phone?
and if he says no, red flag!
or you could take charge and just straight up ask.
he might think that was very brave of you.
it all kinda depends on the level of seriousness.
hope i helped(:
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