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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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im so scared.

if lecture halls get to be big how can you hear the professor speak? also do you think they will talk fast? bc what they say will be important, right? and i cant write fast enough (abbreviations cant be used for everything or like omitting certain words like "the") still. can i bring recorders? im a senior in hs. and i dont think we can bring recorders in class.. but is college different?

Yes, you are allowed to bring recording devices into class with you, actually it is encouraged. This way, you have a way to review everything that was said during class. It would even come in handy to transfer the files to an MP3 player and listen to it while you are doing other tasks. This way, you can learn it and remember it. I would ask your dean at high school if it would be okay to take a tape recorder into the class for study notes. It wouldn't hurt to ask, and if you get permission instead of just going in and doing it without permission, you won't get into trouble. Good Luck!!

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My parents have been together for 25 year this year and i just wanted to do something for them.They aren't married just been together since about the end of highschool year 10 or 11.I was thinking of like a slide show of their life together.Wat else could i do??
Thanx

My parents will be together for 40 years, this September. My mom has this disillision that I am going to pay for a 4,000 per person cruise for her and my dad, to Alaska. I know that she must be on crack, because if I could afford that for her, I wouldn't be renting my house. Anyways, now that I have cleared that off my chest, here are some more suggestions.

If you could pull it off, you could throw a surprise anniversary party for them. I'm sure that there would be people willing to help you with this task.

I know that this may sound strange, but do you remember The Cosby's? For my age sake, I hope you do. The childen used to put on a singing skit for their parents. It was corny, but it was still cute and came from the heart.

You said something about doing a slide show, you could also make a scrapbook. I know that the previous response said something similar, but my way would to put it in a book.

Another corny, but oh, so sweet gesture, would be to get them the best friends necklaces that have the broken heart between them. You put the two pieces together and they become a whole heart.

Of course, these are just suggestions that are pretty budget friendly. I hope that I've helped, and that your parents have a wonderful 25th and hopefully at least 25 more coming. Good Luck!!
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Update: Scrapbooking is easy to do. If you need suggestions, e-mail me or send me a message on here and I will be glad to help you. If you have glue, tape, construction paper, scissors, photos, and a book to put them in, you are good to go!!

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ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and im 17, i like being fingered but he never wants to touch me down there and when i ask him like whats wrong hes just like, jessica it temps me to have sex with u. I think hes lying.. do u know whats wrong with him, i feel like i do everything for him and he never touches me

He could be telling the truth. It may turn him on so badly that he is afraid that he won't be able to stop himself, or he may prematurely ejaculate just from touching you. It happens. Now, this happening may be embarassing for him, and he's scared you will think something bad about him. Try talking to him and seeing if any of what I had said is true. If it is, let him know that it doesn't disgust you that he does that, in fact, it's a turn on for him to get so excited just touching you. Maybe, you could reciprocate the action for him, at least this way he can get his release in a way that is not embarassing.

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Sorry to bother you all again.. but I have a few more questions:

The dance is February 1st. It's about a week away. They're going to start selling tickets a few days before the dance, but I don't want another girl to come in and ask him before I do. What would be the right time to ask him? [I'm prepared].

I don't have his number yet, we're just friends, so when I ask him, how do we make plans? Will he ask me for my number, or should I ask him for his?

Sorry.. I'm just anxious. There was a sweetheart dance last year, but I was out of town. I don't really know what to do. I plan on just flat out asking him.

I would say that you need to just go up to him, ask if he has a date, and if he says no, ask him. Directly may be the best way to go. Now, for the part of making plans for it, if he says yes, give him your number, tell him to call, and go from there. Just have a piece of paper with your name and number written on it, ask him to go, then hand him the paper, say call me, and we can work out the details then. Good Luck!! Have a great time at the dance.

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sometimes when i have sex with my boyfriend.

i seem to start cumming out my butthole as well as my vagina. can you tell me why i am doing that ?

I honestly don't think that is what is happening. You could be having spasms down there in that area and that is what you feel. It's common for the sphincter muscle to contract during orgasm. If you are referring to the actual fluid coming out from down there, it could be that you are doing it from the original area and it is sliding down to the area in question.

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ok wats a hymn for? i mean i know that its like the string that holds a chis vagina together, and that it pops wen u have sex but wat truely happens to it after it pops? does it just like dissapear? then wat the use of havin one at all.

It's not a string, the hymen is a piece of skin inside the vaginal walls. It is basically nothing important anymore. It used to be for cultural recognition of chasity. It doesn't "pop", it tears. When you have sexual penetration, this piece of skin tears. After the initial tearing, it is like elastic and doesn't go back to normal again. There is no reason for the hymen. As for why have one at all, the appendix is the same way and we still have that too. This is a question that may take some researching.

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My ex boyfriend (I'll call him L)and I went out for a month last year, and broke up becuz we were just acting like friends (it was our first relationship). Anyway, we are a rare case, because we just got ridiculously closer and its exactly a year today that we were together; we talk everyday, and he is almost like my best friend, only more. Anyway, i never completely got over him. I honestly love him. Not in love, but i do love him so much. We connect in a way that I never have with anyone. And i know he loves me too, we make a cute couple and balance each other well, but two months ago, i told him that i still had feelings for him and he told that we should just be friends. Anyway, my guy best friend's good friend J likes me alot, and I am attracted to him,but I cant see myself with him, because I still like the other guy. So, last night, I asked L for advice on what to do: whether I should give J a chance or not (because he is the only one who could give me a true answer). And he gave the sweetest advice, that if I saw myself with him than I should give him a chance, but if I cant than maybe I shouldnt. I told him that he (L) would be fifth wheel if I went with J (becasue my guybest friend, his girlfriend, me and L...and now J hang out alot). And he told me not to worry about him, and be selfish for once. Then he quietly asked if I liked someone else, why i was so unsure about J...and I didnt want to answer(because of course I like him). There is nothing wrong with J,but I love L, and I want us to have another chance. We are perfect for each other. We are always flirting with each other, and i love the way he talks to me. He said I brighten his day. Should I give J a chance, or try to give it one try with L again (mind you, he might not even want to try it again.) I want L to know that I do love him. I just dont want to get rejected again. But I dont think I can be with J unless..

Ok, I am going to be straight up. If I offend, I'm sorry, but from what I have read, this is my suggestion. First, ever consider that L is gay? Girl for a best friend, not interested in rekindling, and doesn't have another relationship. This is just a thought. Now, I would say give J a try. You are holding on to a dream of getting back together with L, when there is clearly no chance of that right now. You are holding yourself back from having happiness, because of the slight chance L will come to his senses. If you never do anything for yourself, at least try to move on from L and give others a chance. You never know your love for L could be in a friend sense. Good Luck!

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Ok, for school I have to add a couple people into a Little Red Riding Hood play.
Any ideas on characters I can add?
And what they could say or do?

Thanks =]

did you ask twice? or am I seeing something that isn't there? If not, sorry, if so, I answered the other one! ;)

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Ok, well, I'm 15. And I found these two guys that I really, really like. The one's 24, and I know it's illegal for us to do anything like sexual or anything, but it's not about that. If he does make it that, I will stop it. The other guy is 17. And I know the choice seems so easy, that I should go to the guy that I can actually date, but I can't get it out of my mind; what if he's the One or something like that? I actually really feel he could be the One, but like I said, I'm 15, could it work?

Here's the problem, and you have said it yourself, you and the 24 year old is illegal. Now, I will tell you why this is not a good idea. First of all, will your parents let you date him? If not, would you be willing to sneak around for 3 years just to date him? Do you feel completely safe with him? Do you think that at some point he may one someone older than you? Above anything, I would think you would want a secure relationship with someone that your parents would agree to let you see. I have lived that life of seeing someone behind my parents back, and I was stressed out constantly. I was finally relieved when it came out in the open. So, your choice is to really decide what you want to do and how well it would work out. Besides, if the 24 year old is truly your soul mate, he'll either a) wait, or b) find you again. Good Luck!!

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Ok, for school I have to add a couple people into a Little Red Riding Hood play.
Any ideas on characters I can add?
And what they could say or do?

Thanks =]

Here's the great thing about plays, you can turn any inanimate object into a character role. Think The Wizard of Oz, where the trees talked. You could have people dress as the trees, or flowers, or even "stray" birds. They could tell her something along the way, like "Hey, Red" if they know her, or if they are going to be "not known, they could say something like "look out behind you" or "your going the wrong way" or "don't trust that wolf". I hope this gives you some ideas. Good Luck!!

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ok well my bf has just started fingering me and well now he wants to start using 2 fingers wich is good But when we went to do that he couldnt get them both in so ya whats wrong!?

I'm sorry, I would no way want to discredit any advice you get on this site, however, the advice you received from the other lady, needs to be considered to the fullest capacity. When you increase your tampon size, you have a higher risk of getting T.S.S. This a very horrible disease that can lead to death. You should only use tampons of the right size depending on your flow.

Now, with that being said, the issue of your inability to successfully use more than one finger could be that your body just isn't ready for more than one finger. If you want to loosen up your vaginal area, I would suggest doing a lot of foreplay, and using lubricants. The more you get used to it, the more flexible it will become.
Try having him use one finger until you are more relaxed and receptive. After that, have him gradually work his way up to using another finger.

I hope this helps, Good Luck!

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I rate high!

Me and my boyfriend had sex but I don't know if he has any std's or not. How do I ask him and how do I get checked for std's?

I'm not sure if you have this option available to you, but try going to the Health Department. It is totally confidential and usually free. They will give you your annual pap test and with that they do the STD cultures.

A suggestion about asking your boyfriend or telling him your ideas, would be to say you seen a t.v. show on STD's and tell him what you think and ask him his viewpoints on this subject.

One thing to consider, safe sex. This way, you won't have all the worries of STD's. Sex is something that is a big responsibility in and of itself, without putting the extra guilt of pregnancy and STD's.

Good Luck, and I hope I have helped!!

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Please help =]! It was my first time the other night, and I knew sex is supposed to hurt first time, at least, or at leat be uncomofortable. However, when it got to the point, it was so painful it became unbearable. Please help, could someone please give me advice on how to prevent it being so painful and help my understand why it was =]?

Thank you.

That's wonderful that you have a man that is understanding, they're hard to find. Now, for the pain part. Sometimes, when you are new to sex, you start to tense up. It's possible that you weren't expecting the full amount of pain you were going to have the first time, and you clinched up making it hurt worse than before. I sympathize with you on the painful sex problem. I'm 29, married with two children, had my tubes tied, and had my fair share of sexual experiences, and I still get pains. Mine are from ovarian cysts though. That is another possibility for you as well. If it gets to bothersome, please go see a doctor to make sure that you are okay. Also, I hate to sound like a mom, but make sure you are having protected sex, even the sweetest of guys could have a disease, or get you pregnant. Good Luck, and I hope you feel better soon!!

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so i have been kissing my boyfriend for months now, and we have been to first base (above waist touching), while we are kissing his hands go up my shirt and do what they do, but i don't have anything to do... i need some ideas on what i can do with my hands that will entice the making out and let him have some pleasure out of the kissing than just me... i have tried running my fingers and just touching his back but what else??

any ideas would help!
thanks...

Have you ever watched movies or t.v. shows where the girl will run her fingers through the guys hair or touch his face while they're kissing? I have found that this is an extreme turn on for my husband. It may work for you too. Good Luck!!

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I made out with another guy at a party where the guy that I was "talking" to was. We were in a fight, i was drinking and I made a huge mistake. So, I need help on how to get him back? Best from someone who's been cheated on and took the person back. Like, what worked. It happened friday night. He won't take my calls, or texts, or facebook messages, or the voicemails i leave. I want to do something that shows him how much I care (the deal was that night, I didn't know he liked me that much). Do i just need to give him time? HELP! I like him way more then I had originally planned, and I can't imagine the rest of my semester without him. Oh, and i'm a freshman in college if that helps. he lives in his frat house, and I am in a dorm. He is also a freshman.. thank you!

I know that this may not be the answer you were looking for, but the best advice that I can give you is to give him time. He may just need his space right now because he is hurt. If you just give him some room, in a few days, go and talk to him. Admit that you were wrong, you want to try and work it out, and that you will never cheat again. Of course, if you make this promise, you must stick to it. No more drunken nights of cheating. Good Luck!!

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Hi.

This isn't an advice question, but I do need help.

I am working on article that may be published. I am looking for three people who spend a lot of money they don't have trying to live a more upscale life.

If you fit this and you don't mind me e-mailing you to ask a few questions, I would greatly appreciate it.

Thank you,
Yara

Your asking someone to openly admit they spend above their means? Good Luck!! I would suggest finding a more credible way to do your article, for starters, you could be getting misguided information. You never know if someone online is telling the truth or not. Secondly, I would suggest finding people in your area willing to participate in this type of project. At least this way, you know you are getting facts and not someone's hype, or having a joke at your expense. They saying buyer beware comes to play with this situation. I wouldn't trust people online. Good Luck!!

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What's the format you use to to credit pictures for a bibliography?

Ok, first I am not sure which guidelines you are using for your bibliography, i.e.- APA, MLA, Chicago, Turubian (sp?), or other. So, my best advice to you would be try two things, first of all, ask your instructor/teacher the proper way to cite this type of source. Secondly, my first guess on how to cite it would be to do it as you would text, with specific page #'s and all that. Good Luck!!

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Ok this will sound weird just a warning for you anwyay my mom's friend had this psychic party thing basically she had this psychic do a half hour reading for everyong now i didnt go but my mom said that the psychic said that i'm a leader but i'm leading people down the wrong path and for some reason thats bugging me now this chick said alot of true stuff like the fact that my dad isnt living with us cause my parents are getting a divorce and alot of other stuff that was true anyway it's been buggin me a little cause you know i dont want to lead anyone down te worng path or anything but yeah does anyone know what that might mean i mean i'm normaly not all into this stuff but for some reason it's bugging me so i thought i'd ask about it

First of all, psychics aren't psychic. They probe you for answers and tell you things by how they determined it should be. There is no such thing as a psychic. Second of all, if you feel you are doing something you shouldn't be doing, then stop, if you are worried about it. If you are not doing anything wrong, I wouldn't worry about it. Psychics are just for fun, and they make a lot of money off of people's fears.

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ok so since the beggining of school i liked this boy and i asked him out and he said there was to much goin on right then and he didnt want a gf.afta that i decided to become closer with him and become friends.well we have and i still like him alot!!!were always jokn with each otha and makn fun of each otha.every time i see him i bump into him on purpose and start sayn o im sorry i didnt see you there knowing that i did.hed start lauging and like try to push me back.he takes drivers ed on sat and i come evry sat with my dad cuz hes the prinicipal.well durn there lunch break i started talkn to him and we were jokn on each otha then we startn havn a sort of deep convo.well i ask people before to ask him if he likes me and they say he says no but i keep havn this feeln that he does by the way he kinda flirts with me and looks at me.but then maybe hes just a nice gut who does that to everybod and im no special person.its just so hard to read him beacuse i feel like hes flirting and he might like me but the few peeps i asked says he doesnt.im jus so confused and i really dont want to ask him myself cuz i already asked him at the beggining of the year and that was hard.and now that were freinds it would be evn more hard and i dont wanna jepurdise our freindship.i just like him so much and i wanna know if there is somthn there or if hes just a naturally flirtatious guy!

I never usually tell others to try and make people jealous, but in this case, it may come in handy. I would suggest flirting with another boy that you are close with, and when you and the boy you like are hanging out and talking, mention to him that you kinda like this other boy. See if that sparks some jealousy in him or at least give him a nudge in the right direction. Good Luck!!

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ok well i was fingered for the first time last weekend and it hurt like a mother and well 2 days later i started my period a week early but eh that didnt bother me much but it "ended" 3 days later like usual but then i was fingered and it started up for another day and then i waited a day and saw my bf again today and he fingered me and its going again but only a little bit WHY? is it normal? cuz its annoying the crap out of me

sometimes when you have any kind of sexual interactions right after your period, it will make it start back up again. For future reference, I would suggest waiting a full 48 hrs after your final show of bleeding has stopped.

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