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Need to pick between two guys
Ok, well, I'm 15. And I found these two guys that I really, really like. The one's 24, and I know it's illegal for us to do anything like sexual or anything, but it's not about that. If he does make it that, I will stop it. The other guy is 17. And I know the choice seems so easy, that I should go to the guy that I can actually date, but I can't get it out of my mind; what if he's the One or something like that? I actually really feel he could be the One, but like I said, I'm 15, could it work?
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When I was 15 (&& 16) I was w/ a guy that was 21 (turned 22). We were together for a year. Take this advice.........
DON"T
I used to spend nights at his house w/ his family, that was great, but never anywhere else. He treated me like crap && in the end I got hurt.
After that I dated someone only 1 year older than me. I am now 19 && my fiance is 20.
No matter what you think (remember, I was you once) sex is an issue (unless he is a virgin) to guys his age. Men's sex drives go crazy in their 20's. Womens do in their 30's. He will expect it && you WILL end up doing it.
The first guy, now 25, is now trying to get me back. He explained that when I was younger he was ashamed to be dating someone that much younger than he was. This guy will be no different, trust me. If he really, truly likes you HE WILL WAIT.
Hope this helps!
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If he is 24 and interested in you, there is something wrong with him. No matter how much you want to think otherwise, age is never just a number. At 9 years older than you he SHOULD be vastly more mature. At 24 if hes not dating women 18 or older theres probably a reason, he probably cant win the interest of girls who are supposed to be dating guys his age.
He is in or out of college and possibly supporting himself, and you are in high school. He is at an age where sexuality is often assumed in relationships. You are at an age where you might not or probably have not had sex. You are worlds apart.
Also, there is no such thing as "the one" for ANYONE. Some people are compatible with who you are at a given time. Other people will be compatible with you later. The fact that you are interested in him (not having been dating him for a while) and think he could be the one proves it. You dont know what "the one" is. You just daydream of possibilities and the 24 year old can seem to fill possibilities better.
At 15 you arent old enough to even have a clue as to what you are going to want in a partner or a husband. Go with the 17 year old guy who is about in the same place you are.
And don't encourage the 24 year old. He needs to grow the hell up and not be talking to 15 year olds like this.
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Go for the 17 year old. It is not a normal reaction for a 24 year old to be even remotely interested in a 15 year old.
When you're 24 and you think of your friends and other people your age, you'll be disgusted by the thought of that age difference.
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Here's the problem, and you have said it yourself, you and the 24 year old is illegal. Now, I will tell you why this is not a good idea. First of all, will your parents let you date him? If not, would you be willing to sneak around for 3 years just to date him? Do you feel completely safe with him? Do you think that at some point he may one someone older than you? Above anything, I would think you would want a secure relationship with someone that your parents would agree to let you see. I have lived that life of seeing someone behind my parents back, and I was stressed out constantly. I was finally relieved when it came out in the open. So, your choice is to really decide what you want to do and how well it would work out. Besides, if the 24 year old is truly your soul mate, he'll either a) wait, or b) find you again. Good Luck!!
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well im only 13 but youshould go with what you want to do and don't worry about the age UNTIL it gets to the sexual part and things like that. If u like the 17 year old more than the 24 year old then just enjoy or time with him
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