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fingering
ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and im 17, i like being fingered but he never wants to touch me down there and when i ask him like whats wrong hes just like, jessica it temps me to have sex with u. I think hes lying.. do u know whats wrong with him, i feel like i do everything for him and he never touches me
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Sex is a two way street. Both people in the situation can be tempted to have sex, but there are other ways to resolve the situation.
If you are doing things to your boyfriend and he will not reciprocate, you might want to have a discussion about this. You have a right to pleasure as well, and your boyfriend is making some assumptions that aren't correct:
1. That you, too, won't be tempted.
2. That once tempted, people can't choose to not have sex.
Have this discussion in a neutral time and place, when you are not engaged in any sexual activity. If you both decide now is not the time for sex, fabulous. Decide on what is and isn't okay, and agree to stick to your boundaries. Things need to be equal and shared, and this can best be sorted when not in the heat of the moment.
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He could be telling the truth. It may turn him on so badly that he is afraid that he won't be able to stop himself, or he may prematurely ejaculate just from touching you. It happens. Now, this happening may be embarassing for him, and he's scared you will think something bad about him. Try talking to him and seeing if any of what I had said is true. If it is, let him know that it doesn't disgust you that he does that, in fact, it's a turn on for him to get so excited just touching you. Maybe, you could reciprocate the action for him, at least this way he can get his release in a way that is not embarassing.
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He might just be uncomfortable.
You can ask him to be honest with you, that you won't leave him if he doesn't feel ready to finger you. Don't pressure him into doing something he's not ready to do.
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