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I sex supposed to be so painful?
Please help =]! It was my first time the other night, and I knew sex is supposed to hurt first time, at least, or at leat be uncomofortable. However, when it got to the point, it was so painful it became unbearable. Please help, could someone please give me advice on how to prevent it being so painful and help my understand why it was =]?
Thank you.
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I wouldn't worry too much, loads of people have a problem like this :). On your first time (I should know... mine was, well, it wasn't really a first time because we didn't get anywhere) its likely that you're far too worried or tense for it to either be easy to get in - or it could cause lots of pain. You need to be properly aroused... did you try lots of foreplay? If not, try it. You need to be sufficiently aroused for it for easy .. well, 'entry'. If next time this happens again, take a time out. Have a few weeks or maybe even a month or two to get your bearings and experiment with your partner with other things. Hopefully, due to the fact you say he's a nice guy, he'll understand. Then when you try again hopefulyl you'll be alot more confident and entry will be easy and less painless. It will hurt, or it may hurt, but not so much that you have to give up. Don't worry - relax! And it'll go smoothly.
:)
Faye.
Good luck.
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That's wonderful that you have a man that is understanding, they're hard to find. Now, for the pain part. Sometimes, when you are new to sex, you start to tense up. It's possible that you weren't expecting the full amount of pain you were going to have the first time, and you clinched up making it hurt worse than before. I sympathize with you on the painful sex problem. I'm 29, married with two children, had my tubes tied, and had my fair share of sexual experiences, and I still get pains. Mine are from ovarian cysts though. That is another possibility for you as well. If it gets to bothersome, please go see a doctor to make sure that you are okay. Also, I hate to sound like a mom, but make sure you are having protected sex, even the sweetest of guys could have a disease, or get you pregnant. Good Luck, and I hope you feel better soon!!
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Well it will hurt a few first times. You might want to get fingered too loosen it. It probably won't hurt as much the next time you have sex.It could've hurt because you were tight up "there".
i hope i helped.
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