about

Hey everyone! My name is Michelle and I'm fifteen, sixteen in a month! I'm a junior in high school. I've been in too many relationships, and I'm finally taking a break from boys. I'm a dancer and bowler. Ask me anything :) Thats why I'm here.


xoxo, Michelle

advice

What do girls do when they flirt? like how can you tell when they are flirting or just being a friend? any girls out there who can answer this quesition? how do you flirt? i want to know cause i like 2 people and i sometimes think that they are fliriting with me but i'm not sure. thanks!!!!!

girls will usually try and look you in the eye but if they like you they kind of look away. and they will pay attention to you, and smile a lot and just be fun and cute. lol.

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i have a couple of red marks on my face and arms..they're little red dots..i gotten them about four years ago, and more and more keep developing...theyre not pimples or not anything i think i seen on anyone..i dont know what they are, but they wont go away..i cover them up with makeup every day. can any one tell me what they are and how to get rid of them..i really hate them, they make me look flawed and ugly..help please! ♥

i think i have what your talking about. ive had them for a while too. they are like red bumps that look like pimples but they arent. i have them on my arms and inner thighs. its soo annoying. but i asked my doctor and she said they are caused by having pale dry skin. soo if you have that then im pretty sure you have what i have. my doctor said not to worry about it and that they fade when you grow up. so..its not anything serious..im pretty sure. :]

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k, so me and the ex. we dated for over 2 years. he broke up with me because he thought we were too serious. it's been about a month now, he's over it. i'm not. what are things i can do to completely get over it, besides hang out with friends (they all work a lot), find another guy (im not interested yet), or write. please help me.

I've been through almost the same thing. It hurts, and i was really upset as well. All i can really say is just live your life, dont hold back with anything that comes to you because life goes on. If you waste your life worried and confused about everything life will pass you by. Good luck, and feel better!

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2 guys asked me out yesterday and I don't know which one to say yes to. I like them both the same and they both have really good things about them and some things arn't so good.

Guy 1 Good things :
hes really funny
hes super cute
he really loves me
hes got a nice personality
we have so much in common
hes only 1 year older then me
hes like an older version of me
hes a virgin
he lives near me

Guy 1 bad things -
he wants sex i'm not ready
he tries to act gangster but hes white
he used to smoke i dont know if he still does
sometimes i feel like he uses me
he invites me to his house every day and it gets annoying
alot of people hate him they say hes a poser
he gets pissed off easily and starts cussing me out

Guy 2 good things :
hes really sweet
hes romantic like me
he likes to kiss
hes really hott
he tried to finger me but i said stop and he listened
he respects me

Guy 2 Bad things -
everyone says hes litarrly special ed in 1 class but he says he isnt
he stayed back 3 times
hes 3 years older then me
hes not a virgin
he smokes
he stutters a little when he talks

...
I really like them both in different ways. Guy 1 is more like me but Guy 2 respects how far I'll go sexually. But Guy 1 is closer to my age. I really don't know who to pick. If you had to choose 1 according to those facts, who would you choose?

No one on here can tell you what to do because only you can know for sure. But if it was me i would pick guy #2. Age is just a number and he seems like he really cares about you and listens to what you have to say. It`s really up to you though, so follow your heart when the time comes to really choose. Good luck!

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I have volleyball try-outs in roughly a week, and I would appreciate any advice on how to do well at them. What should I eat, what should I do beforehand, when should I sleep, and any advice fromother volleyballplayers would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

well i dont play volleyball but to get ready for basketball tryouts last year, i remembered to eat a healthy dinner the day before tryouts and make sure i got at least 8 hours of sleep. so depending on what time you have to wake up, you`ll know what time you have to go to sleep. other than that stuff..there isnt really much more. good luck at tryouts!!

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hey
i was wondering where you can buy soffee shorts at? (for girls or women) because i go to the mall and almost everyone is wearing them with the top part of the shorts flipped back so you can see Soffee on the tags.. thanks !

i usually get them at dick, kohls, and bon ton:]

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I been dancing for about 7 or 8 years. But im scared to try out for dance company, because the fact not making it, it kills me! Should i try out? Or should i not try out so it doesnt hurt mee

I know how you feel..ive been dancing for 10 years and ive never had the courage to tryout for this dance team at my school untill this year. I never thought i would be able to make it but i did! Soo yeah deff. tryout. You`ll never know what could happen! Good luck if you decide to tryout =]

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My boyfriend is 16 and I am 13, I know that is kind of a big age difference but he's alot more mature. I'm really afraid to go to the movies with him and stuff because I don't want him to try to make a move. I'll make out with him and stuff, but he might try to reach down my pants, and I'm soo NOT ready for that. How do I tell him that without sounding like a prude? He's had sex before so I told him that I'm not gunna have sex with him. This was his answer: "i dont care I dont want sex either I just want a beautiful aka you." So does it seem like he's after sex? And I'm really scared to talk to him on the phone so when he asked me to call him I said my phone is lost which it reallly isn't. I feel guilty, but my parents don't want me talking to boys. Haha, if I do go to the movies with him, should I bring a friend?

It obviously sounds like hes into you and not after just some girl to have sex with. This was something i had to deal with too. Im 13 and my boyfriend`s 15. When he first asked me to the movies i was scared that he would try and do stuff with me since he`s older. I talked to him about it and said im just not ready for anything more than making out and he was fine with it. I still brought a friend when we first went to the movies and now that i trust him not to do anything, we can go to the movies just me n him. So bring a friend the first time and if you think everything went good, you can try going just you and him. Everything should be fine as long as you can trust him. He sounds like a great guy =] Good luck!

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16/f--Okay,well i like this guy. hes a year older than me. And i told him that I liked him, and he told me that he felt the same way about me. We have been talking a lot and flirting and he said that one day he is going to take me somewhere where you can see the stars clearly and just lay there staring at them. But, I dont understand why we arent going out. We both really really like eachother and we flirt like crazy. Everyone always think that we are going out and when they ask me, im always like im not and they are all like are you sure? and im like yah. So what should i do to tell him that i wanna go out with him??!

Maybe hes just really shy and is waiting for you to make the first move and ask him out. I would do it right when you think the time is right. Make sure that you are 99.9% positive he likes you as much as you like him and make the move! Good luck =]

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O.k. now I always give good boy advice but this has never happened to me or anyone else I know. Ok here's the situation:My boyfriend hasn't called me in 4 days! Thats not normal 4 him he usually calls almost everyday if its only a 4 minute talk or 4 hours. I mean there are plenty of situations to where he can't call like for some example's: His grandmother won't let him use his cell(their hous phone is disconnected),he's punished, or he's working with his uncle. but he doesn't work 24/7 so he could of called. What do ya'll think of this. Is he gonna break up with me or what? I mean its ok if he wants to break up with me but everyone knows (even his own mother and my mother!!) that he loves and adores me. The last time I talked to him he didn't act like anything was wrong everything was perfectly ok and I can tell when somethings wrong with him or anyone by attitude, tone of voice, and stuff like that. So anyone got any tips on what I should do and what he's trying to tell me, (if anything, cuz no matter what he usually tells me straight up no matter how bad), or why he's ignoring me!> Just anything please help me!! I'll rate high for good answers.

im sure everything is normal if he didnt act any different. the same thing happened with me and my boyfriend and he didnt call me for like a week. Turns out he was at his cousins house thats like an hour away. Dont worry about it, im sure he`s just up to something that he couldnt tell you about. hope you feel better =] -Michelle-

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I'm 13 and obviously female and this afternoon I started getting cramps. At first I thought it was just a stomach ache and maybe I ate too much, but it felt kind of different. My mom suggested that I was going to get my period soon, and I already had boobs, hair on my body, and discharge. 3 hours later, when I went to the bathroom I noticed a big dried up brownish spot on my underwear. There wasn't alot of it but it wasn't liquid. Could this be my period? I don't know because people tell me the very first time you get your period you dont have cramps and you don't get cramps until like the 2nd or 3rd time. I didn't feel any blood coming out either. Not to gross you out, but in a way it looks like dried up poop but in a really light brown color.

Yes, its probably your period. And when you get cramps isnt the same for everyone. The first time i got my period i had REALLY bad cramps and i was really sick. hope i helped =]

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ok so my mom smoked and than she stopped becuase of breast cancer but than she started again and than she stopped recently and now she begun again a few days ago ! i dont udnerstand it. i try and make her stop all the time but she just doesnt listen. she ingores the fact that it can kill her and do all other things. and i really dont know what to do and i really want to get her to stop .. please give me some adivce.. i really dont want smoking to hurt her.

I`m going through the same exact thing you are except with my dad. I`ve pretty much done everything, talked to him, printed out papers on smoking, and i even cry about it because i dont want anything to happen to him. So to start off, your not alone.

I would sit down and have a talk with her. Really make her notice that it is hurting you and you want her to be around to see you get married and have a family. Let her know that its really important to you. I`m not positive that she will stop but it can sure help.

Good luck. -Michelle-

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When I am asleep and on my period, I don't usually bleed... Is this normal?

yes this is very normal. when your not active and moving around, it doesnt come out as much.

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how can you get your photos to the right size (15k) to put on your advice column?

if you go to www.imageshack.us you just browse for your picture, pick the size you want it and then click "host it" after the page is done loading you will see your picture and you copy the last code you see, and paste it in your profile settings under "URL picture of you" =]

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ok i really want a digital camera but i dont want to spend a lot of money on it so i was wondering if anybody has a digital camera thats works good and is affordable?

thanks

i got a Kodak EasyShare C300 and it works really well. it was about $100 but if you want extra things like a battery charger for it, then you have to pay extra. i think $100 is the cheapest you will find. hope i helped=]

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my best friend just told me shes bi. i always kind of thought that because she always tries stuff with me and our friends. it makes us uncomfortable and we always tell her to stop. but now she told me that me and another one of our friends turned her bi...and its creeping me out. i dont want to be a bad friend and stop talking to her, especially because we have to spend the next week together at camp, but after that i'm probably going to hang out with her less. i'm not trying to be rude and judge her, but that just really freaks me out. please dont tell me i am being a bad friend, because thats not what im asking. i need to no how i can make it seem less weird when im around her for the next week at camp, and how i can not talk to her as much after camp without it being obvious that the reason is because she is bi. and also my whole family thinks shes annoying and i do too, and although she is one of my best friends i have always thought about maybe trying to make more friends in high school next year and not really talking to her that much anymore. so it wouldnt be a big deal if we werent as great of friends i think. sorry if that sounds mean. but please help me!!! thanks. btw im 14/f

wow..i know where you are coming from. my friend recently told me she was bi too. and she said she liked me! its still tough to be around her, expecially knowing that she likes me and all but i try and keep it off my mind. because she was bi before she told you and you were friends with her you know? i dont know you should do to avoid her, but try to be distracted with other things when you think she is going to approach you. i hope i helped! =]

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I think that I might have gotten Chlamydia because I basically have all the signs but I'm so scared to go to the doctor because I will have to tell my parents and not only will i be embarrassed I'll get in trouble..i have no idea what to do please help

i dont know where you live, but you prolly have a Planned Parenthood somewhere near you. They can run free tests and everything is confidental. if you cant find a planned parenthood, then im sure theres some STD clynic somewhere that you can go to. good luck=]

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Im just checking if anything is wrong with me or anything. lol. Im not sure what it could be or if its nothing really. Well, lately i have been getting dizzy a lot. Sometimes when i first get up from sleeping. When Im watching T.V. ill get up and then ill get really dizzy when i get into my kitchen to the point when i know its coming now. I also get really dizzy when its hot outside. Its not hard for me to get dizzy, and i can feel it coming. When i do get dizzy it lasts a while and sometimes i loose my balance, well, most of the time i do. Im not sure what it is, or if i have to worry about it at all.. If anyone knows or has any ideas of what it could be or if you have any suggestions please let me know. Sorry its so long.

wow your just like me..this always happens. almost everytime im laying down and i get up, i get really really dizzy and i have to stop for a second and close my eyes. i dont know what this is either, but im thinking it must be normal and everyone gets it sometimes. but if im wrong, then we both have something wrong with us. haha=] -Michelle

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I've only kissed one guy b4, IT WAS A TOTAL DISASTER! SO, Im really nervous about kissing my b/f. I want to kiss him but I don't know how to make-out. I'll mess up for sure.
Any help is appreciated!
Websites
Personal experiences
Etc.
THANX IN ADVANCE!
~Kayla~

i found you some websites that might help=]

http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/kissing/ht/frenchkissht.htm

http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm

http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/french.html

those are all pretty good sites. hope i helped! and good luck..everyone gets nervous their first time but dont worry..if the time is right, everything will be perfect=]

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i was raped when i was younger and i don't know what to do anymore it haunts me in my sleep. I think about it all the time and when i see any of the guys that did that to me i freak out i start crying and they were all over five years ago so i can't go to the police and tell them i was raped i don't know any of the guys names. All i know is that they used to date my mom and when i told my mom that they were doing that to me she didn't believe me. I am now in foster care and i don't ever see my mom. But that fact that i was raped is scary and i need all the help and advice that i can get. so please anyone help me.

i know where you are coming from. one of my best friends was raped when she was younger by her neighbor that she sees almost everyday. just imagine. Ive heard her story..and everytime she talks about it she crys. so i deff. know what you are going through. it must be really hard to have gone through something like that and i want to start off by saying im sorry that happened to you because no one desurves having to go through that. try and keep your mind off of it and if you have a true friend you might want to talk to her about it..she could help you feel better. i hope you can stop thinking about it..and if you ever need someone to talk to about it..im always here to talk. feel better. -Michelle

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