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please make her stop
ok so my mom smoked and than she stopped becuase of breast cancer but than she started again and than she stopped recently and now she begun again a few days ago ! i dont udnerstand it. i try and make her stop all the time but she just doesnt listen. she ingores the fact that it can kill her and do all other things. and i really dont know what to do and i really want to get her to stop .. please give me some adivce.. i really dont want smoking to hurt her.
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OK, i know this is the answer you are most not looking for, and the least you want to hear BUT, here it goes. 1st smoking is a very bad habbit to get into in the 1st place, and it's very hard to stop, so give her some credit for quiting as much as she has already. 2nd it's her life, you can't live it for her, if she is going to smoke as much as you don't want her too, and as much as she knows that it is not helping with her cancer smoking is the thing that she does have left. and she will stop smoking if she wants to bad enough to live longer for you, and for many others who care about her. but don't nag her, or anything because i sware it won't do any good. believe me i have tried everything with my family. so let her live her life they way she wants to live it. i know it's hard to just sit back and watch her make her cancer worse but you can't stop her. i am sorry. all you can do is tell her how you feel about smoking and how you feel about her. and hope that she cares enough about herself to slow down the cancer with not smoking. i hope this helps. and good luck.
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I`m going through the same exact thing you are except with my dad. I`ve pretty much done everything, talked to him, printed out papers on smoking, and i even cry about it because i dont want anything to happen to him. So to start off, your not alone.
I would sit down and have a talk with her. Really make her notice that it is hurting you and you want her to be around to see you get married and have a family. Let her know that its really important to you. I`m not positive that she will stop but it can sure help.
Good luck. -Michelle-
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This probably won't help a whole lot but I'm gonna add it just in case your mom is anything like I am.
Express your concern but do not do it constantly.
There are still smokers who if nagged will continue just because "you aren't going to tell me what I can and cannot do."
So if you've ever heard that...back off for a few days. If a cancer scare didn't get her off them she probably isn't ready. And to quit you have to be or it won't happen. :)
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Ok here is advice from a smoker who was able to quit smoking during my pregnancy (let me tell you I still want to smoke!!) Let me put it this way it is harder to quit smoking then it is to quit using heroin. Now there are a couple of ways that may work for your mom.
As quitting cold turkey is near impossible unless you have a strong desire, there are some stop smoking aids that might help: zyban which is a pill perscribed by a doctor, there is the commit lozange which is better then the gum (I think) and then of course tons of others.
Tell your mom how you feel but don't be accusing maybe even write her a letter, you can't make her quit. What has worked for some teens I know is that they ask their parents to smoke outside as they don't want to risk getting sick, smoking outside bites!! Also point out when asking this that since cancer runs in your family you are at risk.
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Well you probably know how alot of people say smoking is hard to stop? Well that's probably true in your moms case. I wouldnt know cause im not addicted to anything like smoking or drinking but ya. Do you have a really bad habit of doing something? For instince bitting your nails like i do? ive been doing it so long its hard to stop. Because its a bad habit. Well my advise for you is just believe in her. DON'T give up on her, if you really want her to stop. If she ever lights up a ciggerette in front of you then grab it from her. and if she gets mad then its her choice to not stop. i think the only thing that can make her stop is herself. Theres really nothing you can do but stand by her.I'm pretty sure she knows that smoking isnt increases her health she knows it makes her worse but shes doing it to her self so she must be somewhat aware. Just try to take them from her if she smokes or take her packs of ciggerettes. I'm really sorry thats all i can suggest. hope things work out for you and your mom.
god bless you :]
&&heart's;;kayla
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My advice was to just sit down with your mom and just to explain to her that you care and love her sooo much. That you couldn't imagine your life without her. That she is really important to you and you don't want her to continue smoking because it is slowly killing her. Also, i went to google and got this picture...so you could print it out and show it to her.
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If you cannot get this site, go to www.google.com, then click on images, then type in smokers lungs. you will see the same pic.
I hope you can get your mom to quit, and i hope i helped.
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