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My boyfriend is 16 and I am 13, I know that is kind of a big age difference but he's alot more mature. I'm really afraid to go to the movies with him and stuff because I don't want him to try to make a move. I'll make out with him and stuff, but he might try to reach down my pants, and I'm soo NOT ready for that. How do I tell him that without sounding like a prude? He's had sex before so I told him that I'm not gunna have sex with him. This was his answer: "i dont care I dont want sex either I just want a beautiful aka you." So does it seem like he's after sex? And I'm really scared to talk to him on the phone so when he asked me to call him I said my phone is lost which it reallly isn't. I feel guilty, but my parents don't want me talking to boys. Haha, if I do go to the movies with him, should I bring a friend?
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Be careful. Being a relationship, you need to be able to trust the one you are dating. If you don't know him well enough, and your parents do not allow you to date, then go with a group. Therefore, if he turns out to be a creep, you have people there to protect you.
Also remember, you are still a young girl, and you may not have enough life experience to know that you cannot trust everyone. I'm sorry if this message sounds a little harsh, but if you say you are not ready for sex, it is probably because you are not. And, if he cares for you, he won't think you sound like a prude.
Good Luck.
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Hi. I'm 14 and my boyfriend of over a year is 21, so I can pretty much understand where you're coming from. From the way it sounds, he is really into you, and whats you and not sex or anything sexual. I mean, I don't think he would try to reach into your pants, just because he said he doesn't want sex, and thats pretty much related. But, if you really want to tell him not to, try saying like, "I just want you to know, I'm not ready for more than making out" Haha, I'm still scared to talk to my boyfriend on the phone, I think its a shyness thing. Try giving him your number and tell him to call. For me, its easier to talk on the phone when he calls. I can't really tell you whether or not to bring a friend. But if your parents don't want you talking to boys, take a friend thats a girl, and tell your parents you're going with her. Just make sure he is okay that you bring a friend! =]
Sorry this is so long..:/
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Okay sweetie;;
You should tell him that you aren`t ready for no more then making out.. If he tries something then he obviously isn`t good enough for you;; He doesn`t respect you..He shouldn`t try to rush a girl into anything they aren`t ready for..
So if he tries something anyways then you defiantly shouldn`t be going with him anyways;;
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If he tries to make a move slap him and walk out!Dont let him have a bad idea that girls are sluts.Show him that your not ready yet.Youve already TOLD him not to make a move,if he does it means that hes using you to get into your pants and doesnt relly like you BUT likes your body.NO dont bring a freind with you,let this sorta be a TEST for him,to see if he really respects your opinion or not.If he doesnt like i said slap him and dont ever go back to this guy unless you wanna get PREGNANT!
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I dont know.... have you seen "John Tucker Must Die"? He might be one of those guys. As in he says that he wants you for you and everything but that is really just his skill to make you trust him so he can get in your pants. If you go to the movies with him for the first time, he will most likly try to finger you... but you have a better chance of him not trying for it if you bring a friend. Also, try wearing jeans if you go to the movies with him. Def dont wear a skirt- it's pretty much an "Enter Here" sign. If you dont want to wear jeans because maybe its hott out, then wear shorts. Good Luck... dont let him get in your pants!! =]
Ex's and Oh's,
-brittany
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It obviously sounds like hes into you and not after just some girl to have sex with. This was something i had to deal with too. Im 13 and my boyfriend`s 15. When he first asked me to the movies i was scared that he would try and do stuff with me since he`s older. I talked to him about it and said im just not ready for anything more than making out and he was fine with it. I still brought a friend when we first went to the movies and now that i trust him not to do anything, we can go to the movies just me n him. So bring a friend the first time and if you think everything went good, you can try going just you and him. Everything should be fine as long as you can trust him. He sounds like a great guy =] Good luck!
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It doesn't sound like he's just going out w/ you for sex because he knows you won't and your inexperienced and sounds like he just likes you for you. Yet, those could just be lines. Set boundaries with him. Just sit him down and say I'm only 13 and I'm not ready to do anything but make out. If he ever tries to pressure you, DUMP HIM!! He's just some boy, don't do anything stupid. Your only 13 you don't need to be tied down to some boy, you don't owe him anything!! If it makes you more comfortable to go to the movies w/ him and a friend do it. Good Luck!
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