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my friend is bi!
my best friend just told me shes bi. i always kind of thought that because she always tries stuff with me and our friends. it makes us uncomfortable and we always tell her to stop. but now she told me that me and another one of our friends turned her bi...and its creeping me out. i dont want to be a bad friend and stop talking to her, especially because we have to spend the next week together at camp, but after that i'm probably going to hang out with her less. i'm not trying to be rude and judge her, but that just really freaks me out. please dont tell me i am being a bad friend, because thats not what im asking. i need to no how i can make it seem less weird when im around her for the next week at camp, and how i can not talk to her as much after camp without it being obvious that the reason is because she is bi. and also my whole family thinks shes annoying and i do too, and although she is one of my best friends i have always thought about maybe trying to make more friends in high school next year and not really talking to her that much anymore. so it wouldnt be a big deal if we werent as great of friends i think. sorry if that sounds mean. but please help me!!! thanks. btw im 14/f
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You're not being rude, she is. Nobody has the right to make you uncomfortable around them like shes doing. Male, female, straight, Gay or Bi.
Same rules apply to all. You don't sound mean and you have every right to choose to hang out with friends who do not make you feel uncomfortable. :)
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wow..i know where you are coming from. my friend recently told me she was bi too. and she said she liked me! its still tough to be around her, expecially knowing that she likes me and all but i try and keep it off my mind. because she was bi before she told you and you were friends with her you know? i dont know you should do to avoid her, but try to be distracted with other things when you think she is going to approach you. i hope i helped! =]
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just play it cool and chill unless she does anythiing you dont like you need to tell her if she wants to be bi she can be bi but not to try to convince you into doing anything you dont wanna do
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Well, did you try explaining to her that you're uncomfortable around her? If not you might want to try. I'm sure she'll respect your space and won't try any "new things" with you and your other friends. If you really want to be around her less next year, try making new friends and gradually week by week hang out with her less. If she notices, tell her you're just trying to get to know your new friends better.
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tell her you're straight you don't like girls and you never will...i had the same problem with some of my friends lol we have a lot of bi girls at my school it's weird but once i talked to my friends they acted normal again!!!
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ok seriously you did not sound mean and your not a bad friend. all you can do tell her that your straight and that it doesnt feel right when your trying to make a move. cause to make this friendship work she has to relize that your not like that. say sorry but that doesnt feel right.
hope i helped.
luv ya lots.
sinserly, taylor
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Uh if you do not want to lose her as a friend then make it crystal clear you do not like her making moves on you. If she wont stop leave
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you have every right to stay away from her if she's making a move on you. cause that's just weird. try to respect her choice of being bi, but if she doesn't respect that you're straight, then talk to her about it and say, "look, dude, this is creeping me out." if i were you i would be a "distant friend"... y'all are friends but you can also hang out with other people. make some new friends at camp. anyway, don't just stop talking to her but gradually drift away. like, if she invites you to stuff, make up an excuse. this probably sounds horrible, but it's better than saying, "go away i hate you" anyway. good luck!
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