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Which is more dangerous belimic or anorexia?

I will never forget a question on here asking which one was better to "get" because that particular person needed to lose weight.
They're both severe disorders which need to be treated before organs fail and death occurs.

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Me and my bf dated for 21 months and then we broke up because we needed to work things out (hes in his first yr of college 45 min. away) and im a jr. we fought alot so we thats what were working on. Anyways i have a formal dance coming up on friday and he told me he'd come but now he's not. I know this for a fact cuz someone told me and he hasnt called me yet to tell me that he isnt coming. How do i react? Im very hurt by this and its in 4 days and he hasnt called yet to tell me this....

i really want him to go

and please dont say well maybe he is going and that person is wrong. cuz i know that person is telling the truth

what do i say? how do i react?

It's pretty harsh considering you previously dated for 21 months and now he can't even be truthful to you.
If I were you and you are 100% sure the person is telling the truth, you need to confront him. He can't let you down the night before etc with a lame excuse. Tell him you heard he doesn't want to go and ask him if it's true. Say it's okay if he doesn't want to go and see what he says. It's perfectly normal for you to be upset and angry he's letting you down like this. and don't be afraid to show your emotions. He's simply being selfish and leaving it too late so you can't ask somebody else.
Ask him. Be straight out with it.
Or again, if you know for a fact he's not going, ask someone else and pretend you aren't bothered even though you really are. He must be playing some mind games here.. but you'll always be one step ahead of him.
Best of luck with the dance. I do hope things can work out.

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what age should you have sex at. :)

When you're ready to raise a child. Or when you are SURE you are in a loving, committed relationship and not underage.
You only get to lose it once. Make it worth it.

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13/F

I was thinking of downloading Limewire (just to get songs unavailable on iTunes), and I have a couple questions about it:

-How easy is it to get a virus from it?
-How easy is it to get in legal trouble for using it?
-Does it slow down your computer?

Thanks in advance :)

It's very easy to get a virus from it. Believe it or not, I wasn't familiar with Limewire at the beginning, but the very first song I downloaded was a virus. Thank Heavens for Norton antivirus!
But now it's possible to tell which files look dodgy by the size.
Look at it this way, millions of other people use it, so you shouldn't worry too much.
and yes it can slow down your computer, especially if it's slow already and you are running Limewire along with multiple other programs.

Happy downloading!

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ok, i have a major problem. i had sex the other day with my boyfriend... we didnt use a condom because he said he can control himself from coming. it was only for like 3 minutes and i said that we needed to stop and we did. i am scared now because i had my period on the 23 of december and its the 21 of january!! i am really scared and dont know what to do!!

What the columnist said below about being sick the next day if you are pregnant, is totally false.
He may be able to control himself from coming, but he sure as hell can't control pre cum.
Even if it was 3 minutes, that short amount of time has put you at great risk of pregnancy.
Wait to see if you come on your period. Bare in mind it can be late due to worrying.
If you don't, take a pregnancy test.
If you do, you can still take a test to be 100%
If you had sex less than 5 days ago, it's possible to still get emergency contraception. (not the pill, as it's only effective for up to 72 hours).. But I'm guessing this isn't the case?
Your best bet is to see if you come on your period and take a test.
If you are, you should speak to a doctor about your options. You aren't alone. and terminations (if you ARE pregnant and you are CERTAIN this is what you would want to do) are effective and easier in the early stages.
Never have sex without a condom again no matter how short the session will be.
Lesson learnt. :)
If you need any help or further questions, I'd be happy to help.
Try not to worry..

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Ok so i wanted to know if anyone knows any good techno/electronic music if so please and thankyou

Ladytron
CSS (cansei de ser sexy)

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I'm thinking of getting my belly button pierced and my ear pierced in the middle like in this pic:

http://www.thepiercingshop.co.uk/images/ear.jpg

So i'm just wondering how painful will it be?

Getting your tragus pierced will hurt for a few days only if that - and the pain isn't strong. It's more of a throbbing sensation. But if you accidentally knock it (whilst sleeping!) it can hurt a little, but soon subsides.
But the key thing here, as you know:
EVERYONE has a different tolerance to pain!
So you will only know, once you have it done.
But I advise you to go for it if you like it.
I had mine done over 4 years ago. No regrets. :)

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Last night I smoked weed for my second or third time and I got REALLY sick after I smoked. (Like right after I took the hit) I almost threw up..is this normal?! Also, my throat was killingg me..but it didnt hurt like that the first time I smoked! It was so weird. And today I feel really tired and a little nauseous and I have a terrible cough..is this normal? Is there anything I can do to feel better? How long do these feelings last?

You probably got hold of dodgy weed which basically wasn't pure and mixed with other things (poisons - even snake venom) which should never be inhaled into your body!
Also, were you drinking at the time? That can make some people feel nauseous.
Were you the only one who was affected this way? If so, maybe you just reacted badly - yes - even after your 1st time. and having a sore throat and lungs afterwards can be normal too.
If you didn't like the way it affected you this time, you should simply stop.
It's hard to say how long the symptoms will last. Seeing as it affected you quite badly, it will probably take a few days. If you feel any worse, you should see a doctor.

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Hey thanks for the advice! What exactly is this nose bump you speak of? lol

It can be caused by knocking it accidently whilst it's still in the healing process (normally within the 1st 2 months). Alot of people get them, so it's nothing to really worry about, only sometimes, they don't look very nice! (a red bump next to the piercing sometimes with a white head. Do not pop it!) salt soaks and tee tree help heal it :)

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i got my nose pierced and was told to clean it with an antumicrobial cleanser. i got Hebiclens, but it seems sort of strong...is there anything else i can use?? is antibacterial soap ok

If you feel it's too strong, why don't you mix it with water? If all else fails, use sea salt and boiled water. That's what I used. Needless to say, it's fine. Also, don't clean it too much or you may end up with what's called a "nostril bump" like i have.. which takes alot of time and hard work to get rid of. If you do get it, apply tea tree oil directly about 3/4 times daily :)
Good luck with your new piercing. If you need any help, drop a message in my inbox.

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Well I just got my nipples pierced, and I'm not having any problems with them at all. The question is this: will I like.. go off in the detector at the airport?! Very random, I know, but I fly a LOT and I'm just not sure. Thank you!

You most probably won't set off the walk through detectors because the piercings themselves are very small. However, if the hand detectors are used (ones which are held and quickly scanned over your body) there's a chance they will be picked up and in extreme cases you could be asked to remove them.
Hopefully it won't be a problem for you. :)

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if you have the left side of your lip pierced will it affect the way you give head? like, is it gonna get caught somewhere or something? haha i know that sounds horrible so im debating whether to get it pierced or not.

Advice from people with the piercing already would be greatly appreciated

It won't. Well, if it's oversized jewelry, I suppose it could cause some discomfort, but you just need to be careful. Normally, after the healing process, it shouldn't affect what you do. Bearing in mind, you gotta lay off oral sex for at least 6 weeks after getting it done. ;]

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Some-One Please Help meand tell me how to pash my boyfriend wants to pash me and i have never pashed and im scared i dont know how to plz some -one just tell me what to do ??

[Pash means to french kiss, to the people below]

Read through this site. It should help you with do's and don'ts. http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/kissing/ht/frenchkissht.htm :)
Also, Google has MANY others to choose from, if you type in something simple such as "how to french kiss"
Good luck :)
and remember, only do it if you're ready and feel comfortable!

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I am goin out with this kid and he is 15.. ii am 13.. he doesnt pressure me to do anything or anythign like tht.. its perfect.. but the thing is everyone is like calling me a slut nd stuff becuz he is older.. the only thing we have done is makee out becuz we have only been going out for like 2 weeks. What should i do.. cause ii hate being called a slut

The main reason is they're probably jealous 'cause you're dating an older guy.
If you both like each other and you know he's not pressuring you, I see no harm in your relationship. 2 years isn't much of an age gap.
As for the name calling, I guess they will soon get bored of it. There's not alot you can really do, but chin up, girl. Don't worry about it. and let them think you aren't bothered. :)

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okay so me and my bf really want to have sex. we are both virgins, so i was wondering is there anyway i can get something from him if he hasnt had sex and if he wears a condom wats the chance of me getting pregnat?

Do not listen to the first person who answered your question. You should NEVER wear 2 condoms at once.
In answer to your question, yes it is possible even if he is still a virgin.
Play it safe. Use protection.
There is a 2-6% chance condoms will slip off or break during sex. Hopefully it won't happen to you..
You should also be thinking about another method of birth control if you don't want to risk it. :)

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I didn't know what category to put this in.
Hope that's k.


What's a good/free photo editor??

Thanks =)

Try www.lunapic.com
it also makes animations :)

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Quick!!! I NEED AN ANSWER WITHIN 5 MINS!

-Does anyone have any pics of sidebangs????
please && thank you.

It takes longer than 5 minutes for the questions to be checked and put onto this site.
A search engine would have been a far quicker option :)

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Okay whenever me and my boyfriend are messing around and i like touch him or poke him down there...he always tells me im making him hard?? im not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing or even what it means..haha cause hes comeing over tonnight soo pleeasee help! thanks :]]

Getting hard means to have an erection., meaning he's getting aroused.
It's good if you want it to be.. and you're ready for that type of thing..!

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Water marking pictures means that when someone tries to click or save the pic...you can't right?

Well..what free program can I use?

That wouldn't work anyway, because you could just use the print screen button.
What watermark really means is;
"A translucent design impressed on paper during manufacture and visible when the paper is held to the light."

But it's mainly by putting something on the pictures to show it's yours. Like these examples;

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/tags/icebergs/

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ok went you tickle a girl where dose it usly tickle the most and by tickleing can you really make you wet your pants?

Poking the ribs sets me off every time and I'm usually ending up screaming with laughter.
and i guess it's true if you laugh so much you probably can wet yourself! Especially if you have a weak bladder.
Can't say it has happened to me though, seeing as when I feel I need to go, I do. To the toilet that is. ;]

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