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:[ ok so i was at the movies on friday night with these hot guys i like um both but not sure witch one i should date well on friday i was liek all over one guy and then saturday i like made out with the other guy like 5 times when we we're at my best friends house what do i do because i liek um both and they both like me too but they are friends and i dont want to come between them :[] ahh what do i do!help is needed! (link)
They are best friends and you hooked up with both of them....uhhh, not such a good choice, haha, but it's gonna be okay.
I know that you say you like both of them, and that could be true, but ask yourself this question...
Do you just like the attention from them?
If your answer to that is yes, than you need to not think that, or want that, because your palying with these guys heads'.
If your answer was no and you sincerly like both of them, then you have to think about which guy made you feel the best. Which one gave you butterflies and made you weak in the knees? [Don't think about how good of a kisser they are] think about their personalities and appearances [not that physical appearances are everything, it's just tha you kinda are struggling with this decision so who are you more attracted to?]
And if you really don't want to come between them, and their freinship is in jeopardy because of you, wait a while and don't go out with with either one because you never know what kind of drama you could cause.
And no offense at all, but a lot of guys don't like drama, so try to stay away from that.
Good luck !!


Hey, I downloaded the trail for Adobe Premiere Pro 2.0, and it is quite good, so thank you.


Do you happen to know how to put credits in at the end, or little break points between scenes to introduce things with writing?


Thank you. (link)
Yeah, I don't know if you'll understand this but I'll try to explain it haha...
Okay this is what you do:
1. When you want to put writing in, you have to press, I think F8 or something on your computer, [I know F5 is capturing your video]
2. Write what you want
3. Put it above your video, and then space out your video clips, to make black, and then put the writing ontop of the black space [above it]
4. Then put transitions in
5. and for credits, there is a setting on the adobe that lets you format the ending for credits. I think it is somewhere underneath transitions.

Just play around with it, and I'm sure you'll figure it out. Hope I helped and I'm glad you like it :] Anymore questions, I'm always here and have funn.


me again! yeah, so i dont know if you were or were not telling me the truth or not (im guessing not because you didnt even try to look it up) but just so you know, i AM going to get that picture, because i listed a PUBLIC question for people to find it...to make this a question:
do you have a response? (link)
uhm go ahead. but you don't have to be soo mean about it, and good luck finding it. [not sarcastic] just know that you are being a copycat.
have a SUPER night. ha.
oh and i changed the picture, so nice try. I hope you have fun finding it.
Yeah, you're right, it would remind you of well, YOU. Hope I helped.


okay...i have a question "where did you get your picture of the green converse? did you find it on google? i want to know because i want that picture for advicenators too!" (link)
I am so sorry, I don't rememberr.


I really don't know. i got it a really long ago, a friend of mine gave it to me because I asked her for a cool pic, so i'm really sorry.


ok well im doing an project for my english class and it was to find a song i could relate to or something along them lines and i chose Somebody's hero by-Jamie O'Neal
i was wondering if it would work because i love my mom so much and she doesnt think she is much and we have a huge bond together and i tell her almost everything even tho everyone thinks she is lazy and fat but she's not she is maybe 40 pounds over weight and im helping her diet and she is the most amazing mom ever even tho she really worries about me and having a bf.

sound ok?? (link)
Sounds fantastic!
You are totally gonna Ace the project :]


is it possible to have your eyesight get better.

and im not talking about lazer eye surgery (link)
Actually it is possible.
My friend had glasses since she was a baby and one day she came to school without them and the doctor said she didnt need them anymore, it was amazing! Glasses take the stress off of your eyes, so no stress=getting better.
Good luck and talk to your eye doctor :]


so yea a columnist i asked to help me out to find songs on undiscovered bands refered me to you. i need undiscovered bands...can you help me out? (link)
Yeah, I love those kind of bads heres some...

-Mayday Parade
-This Providence
-October Fall
-Sherwood
-Hidden in Plain View
-Hit the Lights
-New Years Day
-FM Static
-Cobra Starship
-Riddlin' Kids
-Something Corporate
-Bleed The Dream
-Head Automatica
-Meg and Dia
-Millencolin
-Go Betty Go
-The Cardigans
-Unwritten Law
-Halifax
-SpitalField
-Saves The Day
-Strike Anywhere
-Roses are Red
-Pennywise
-day at the fair
-Driving East
-Secondhand Serenade

Enjoyy :]



I am a plus sized teen that love to wear cute skinny leg jeans but has trouble finding places to shop at reasonble prices (link)
You could try out Old navy [has the best selection], also marshalls, Deb, or TJ Max.
Havee funn


I have recetly become a vegetarian, i am 15 years old and i am a girl. I can be picky, but i need to know some good dishes to make for myself! Please help!
Thanks a bunch,
Gina. (link)
here are some awsome websites i looked at that have tons of info and dishes to eat and enjoy!

http://allrecipes.com/Recipes/Everyday-Cooking/Vegetarian/Main.aspx

http://kalynskitchen.blogspot.com/2005/04/vegetarian-dishes.html

http://www.vegetarian-restaurants.net/OtherInfo/FastFoodRest.htm

GoOd LuCk!!!


well, i'm doing a project for my class. basically, it's an autobiograpy. (when i was born, infancy, idolesence, etc) anyways, i want to add 3-4 songs. any one have any ideas on what songs should i put.

music i like: ACOUSTIC. indie. something easy to listen to. (no screaming, nothing loud.) something really soft.

thanks in advance. (link)
Better With You - Five Times August, would be perfect for what you need ! http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=3042492


my best friend killed himself 4 months ago. ive been literally a mess ever since. My mind is fucked up. I get soooooo sad if the littlest thing happens, and i am in a relationship right now. we've been togetehr for 5 months. he's been there for me a lot. he goes out and parties a lot, and he tries to fightwith other guys a lot.. whenever something happens, my body starts to shake incredibly, like i get the chills.. ive lost a lot of feelings in myself, like i am not ticklish anymore, have no appetite for food, every second of the day even when things are giong good i just want to die. Its too much pain, ive tried tooo hard to get better, and i did start to get there. now i am just terrible. Its not cause of my boyfriened, its just things he does and every other lilthing can do it too. anything that can possibly be bad or makes me feel like shit hits me one million times harder than a normal person.. i cantkeep giong on like this, i tried depressant pills, they fucked me up worse, i go to counceling.. its just that this is something that continously wears me down soo much physicaly and mentally.. i cant take it much longer.


idk, i need help..
any advice? (link)
i know exactaly how you feel, my old best friend's dad killed himself...we were EXTREMELY close. i just want to let you know, that i am here for you, right at this moment, and if you have ANY questions, or just want to vent, you can to me.
maybe you need a brake from your boyfriend, some "you" time. Just know that none of this is your fault, and at that moment your friend wasnt in the right frame of mind when he commited scuicide. Maybe you need your boyfriend more than ever right now. Either way you need to talk to him, and the people you trust most. let it out, cry, scream, punch your beanbag chair, dont keep it bottled up.
If your bf is kind of making you crazy, just simply ask him to keep it low, your not ready for the drama right now. Make sure to surround yourself in family and friends, and dont be affraid to let them help you.
Join a sport, or afterschool activity, go out on friday nights with your friends, make jokes, LAUGH and have FUN.
Take it easy though, and let yourself live, everything is going to be fine, just look at the bright side, and dont keep yourself hung up on the little things, it will be hard at first, but it can only get better. if you still feel as though in any point in your life that you want to end your life, i have some free of charge numbers you can call, all you need to do is ask. I am there for you.
It'S gOiNg To Be OkaY, yOu R oN tHe RiGhT tRaCk!!!


ok i have two questions
i was wondering if ghosts are real.
please provide me with the correct answer, im getting so many different ones.
and the second one is that show 'most haunted' real?
explain them both please because im really confused (link)
here is your non-sugar coated, straight to the point answer: :-)
are ghosts real?
~Some people just in general do not believe in ghosts, personally, people i know have had hands on experiences with them, so i do believe they are, yes.
~There are also spirits, i most definetly believe in them, and think they are real
~There are also these balls of light that move around on walls.
Some people are i-have-to-see-it-to-believe-it, others just dont believe, and some just plain out do. There is information that they are real though.
GoOd LuCk!!!



hi, my friend has been suffering from severe anxiety and has recently had tricochilloamania.(a way of dealing with anxiety by pulling out your hairs. she has a slight bald patch) there should be something to do about it but i do worry about her. is there something i can do to help her? (link)
Talk to her, be there for her, be a shoulder she can cry on and lean on. But if she is afraid to open up to you, tell her how much you care about her and that you want her to talk to you.
But if I were you, I would also tell a parent or guardian, maybe a guidance counselor at school, because she may need help; help you can't necessarily provide her with.
There are probably traumatic things going on in her life, and under pressure, people tend to crack, and she is hurting herself by pulling out her hair. That's not right and telling someone about your worries will help her and you.
I hope you do the right thing and I know that you will be there for your friend, because she needs someone right now, and that someone can be you.


well, i'm doing a project for my class. basically, it's an autobiograpy. (when i was born, infancy, idolesence, etc) anyways, i want to add 3-4 songs. any one have any ideas on what songs should i put.

music i like: ACOUSTIC. indie. something easy to listen to. (no screaming, nothing loud.) something really soft.

thanks in advance. (link)
I would do...

-Secondhand Serenade: Vulnerable [love ittt]

http://www.soundclick.com/player/single_player.cfm?songid=3812355&q=hi&newref=1
OR
http://www.soundclick.com/player/single_player.cfm?songid=4769694&q=hi&newref=1
OR look on this site for some more...
http://iacmusic.com/genre_chart.aspx?Genre=Easy+Listening%2FSoft+Rock

Good Luckk and I hope you find my advice helpful


Okay.So basically my best friend is one of the most gorgeous girls you could meet.I would like a guy and hed like me,but thatd just be until he met her.shes a major flirt and will go for it even if she knows i already like him.i know this sounds bad but it sucks i cant comete with her and i love her to death but does she have to get with everyguy i like?

idk what to do.

help ? (link)
honestly, i would tell you to talk to her about the situation, but i would suggest you dont do that. it may make her feel over confident, and take ahold of the whole situation, and just do it more. If she was really your friend, she would not go and flirt with every guy you like.
Maybe you should tell her when you like a guy, then see if she still flirts with him. You dont have to invite her to hang with you and your crush all the time, im sure you have plenty of other friends, or maybe you just want to go by yourself.
If you decide to end your friendship, maybe do it in a suttle way. Dont just come out and start drama TRUST me on this one, you need to just stay nice, say hi, and be friendly, you can still act like friends, just dont go out with her or share the secrets you used to with her, and you dont have to go out with her every friday either.
GoOd LuCk!!!


i really want a boy friend im not presured to but i am flat chested i hang out with the "popular kids" and im the omly one that hasnt had a boy fiend i dont even think guys are attracted to me (link)
Okay, so I am pretty flat chested myself, but worrying about what boys think of you really isn't that good, because it took me such a long time to get over the fact that my boobs aren't and never will be made to pop out of my shirts. I am 15/f and I want a boyfriend but I'm not going to rush into a relationship just because a lot of my friends have boyfriends, and you shouldn't either.
Boys will be attracted you if you think you are attractive and confindent, but hanging with the "popular kids" does not mean you have to have a boyfriend, but if you do like someone, I hope it's because of his personality, and not just based on his looks or popularity.
Things will get better, I promise.


Okay hey yall! I am 16/f. Tommarow night I am going to my friends house with a few other girls. All girls! Only like 5. We are planning on having some fun and drinking some alocohol like way later in the night. Ive never been drunk or buzzed before ive only had sips of alocohol. I want to do this! Im not asking if I should or not..so please dont get confused. But my questions are..How much should I drink if i dont want to get FULLY drunk? Will I throw up after 2 or 1 1/2 beers? Would i get a bad hang over sunday if i only get buzzed? I only want to get buzzed so how much should i drink? -If its just beer and vodka? Im not gonna drink more then sips of vodka ofcourse. I just really do not want to throw up..or feel sick the next day. Thankyou!!
(link)
Well, just to start, i really want you to know i advise you not to drink, but since you made it clear that will never happen:
~start out with one and see how you feel
~yes, you will mostlikely upchuck...if you get carried away
~everyone is different, depending on your size, age, weight, and possibly height, as to how much to be able to drink.
I want to just remind you, that this is very serious, and you CAN get serious alcohol poisining and have to go to the hospital...you could even die.
Vodka is VERY VERY strong,i will be honest, i have only taken a few sips of alcohol from my parents drinks in my whole life, so i am not very educated with this topic.
But i do know that vodka is strong, and i STRONGLY advize you to be careful, and not to drive home. If you feel sick, or pass out, or something goes seriously wrong, do not hesitate to go to the hospital, do not try to hide it, you must tell an adult.
Go easy, this IS your first time...If you do not know how you are going to react, i suggest you take it slow.
Do not do ANYTHING you do not want to, and PLEASE do not give into the pressure of your friends to drink more...especially if you dont want to
GoOd LuCk!!!



so im goin out with this pretty kool kid named mike, and he is really funny and super cute. But my X-boyfriend still has feeling for me, and i think i still like him.

what should i do? (link)
Before you make a decision ask yourself these questions:
What did your x bf do to make you break up with him or vise versa

has your relationship been rocky...on and off.

do you honestly feel that you could make it work out again

Okay, maybe you should like tell ur ex that you still need more time, and give this other guy a try.
GoOd LuCk!!!


im 16/f, im 5'1 and i weigh a little more than 120 lbs.
The thing is that since i was 12 I've taught myself how to suck in my stomach and now i do it naturally.
Anyways, because my tummy fat doesn't show, people tell me im skinny but i know i have belly fat and im gaining weight
Its because people are always saying im skinny and some even said that i could be annorexic(im not, i eat normal and don't think im that fat) that i have trouble loosing weight.
so what can i do to make myself not be innfluenced by those people and how can i make myself remmeber that i am gaining weight and im not that skinny. (link)
"beat to your own drum" haha random you think, right? i used to be the same way you are now...and yet still am. I realized one day over the summer when i went to a pool party, that everyone is completely different. I was so scared to take my shirt off because i thought that i had more "flubber" haha then everyone else. Once i saw how they were all different, and the boys didnt even care...i had a better time. I know its easy to get influenced by other people, but just know that theyre not the ones that are in your body, only you see yourself everyday.

Join a sport...i play volleyball (all year round now...but you dont have to play all year round sport) and just stay active. It sounds like you are a normal, healthy girl though.

Do crunches and pushups at night...TRUST me...watch some tv while you are doing them, do ten sets of ten, take brakes.

Instead of diving into sweats and chocolate at night (what i do ahaha) go to the fruit and...vegies...stick with fruit...unless you like peppers and stuff. If you do not have enough fruit...ask your parents to buy more healthy things than "junk" Its good to keep like grapes and stuff pre washed and set on your counter in a bowl...this way you can just get something healthy, small, and easy to eat.

More variety of healthy foods, means less eating that other stuff. Think about it...if you have an apple in your refrigerator...and TONS of chocolate and candy and rice crispy treats, what are the odds of you going for the apple? For me personally...not much. But if you have apples, bananas, necterines, mangos, grapes,etc, and a chocolate cookie...the chances of going for the chocolate cookie is less.
GoOd LuCk!!!



Ok so i have these two bumps on the top of my vagina. They look like two large zits. Does anyone have any idea what these bumps are? I never had sex and i dont mess around. 19\f (link)
Do you shave? I get those sometimes a few days after shaving there. They might just be ingrown hairs...if you shave that is.




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