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ok i have rlly thin hair. i hate it cause it gets rlly oily and thin like 2 days after i wash it and i hate it. all the girls in my school have rlly thick healthy hair and i rlly want thick hair. i use these nioxin shampoos that are supposed to help stimulate hair growth but they dont work that well. i eat pretty healthy i NEVER eat fast food always home-cooked, organic. i dunno what to do! its so thin and i want it to be thick and healthy :(

Volumising products will work.
Also, you should try back combing. Just at the roots to give your hair the appearance of it being thicker and fuller. Then fix with a touch of hairspray!

Why is it that i'm not allowed to change my belly button ring for 6 months after i got it done? Would somthing bad happen if i did (it's about a month later)? If i did it really carefully and made sure it was really clean.

Taking it out too early aggravates the healing piercing.
I've learnt from this in the past by cleaning one of mine too much, then developing a nasty bump on it for MONTHS. it really wasn't nice..
If for some necessary reason you must change your piercing, always go back to your piercer to do it for you. Because sometimes, the holes close straight away. It would be a bit of a bummer if you were on your own and did it.. and didn't have a specialist to help re-pierce it, wouldn't it :P

I got my ear cartilage pierced a year ago in december. Well I kept it in for a whole year and it didn't cause me any problems. It completely healed. But the past 3 months or so my piercing got sore and and inflamed and formed a hard bump. It feels like there is a hugs pimple under the skin. But it surrounds the hole. I researched it and I'm guessing it is a Keloid. The hole is still there, but is it safe to keep wearing an earring in the hole? Or should I let it alone? Will the keloid go away? I saw some pretty disturbing pictures on the internet...it isn't going to spread is it? I'm quite worried.

It might not be a keloid. I have my nostril pierced and I got what's known as the "nostril bump". It sometimes looks like a pimple, but other than that, it's a raised red/purple bump. I actually popped mine (with properly sterilized equipment) and now it's totally gone. I'm trying my best to not aggravate it so it doesn't come back.
What I suggest you do is to change your jewelry. It could be aggravating it, or it could be in a slightly bent position which makes it hard for the bump to heal. Also, apply 100% pure tea tree oil onto it a few times a day (get it from your chemist/pharmacy). It helps to shrink it and bring anything under the bump (pus etc) to the surface.
It could take up to 2 weeks before you notice a difference, or if you're lucky, within 3 days.
It's great stuff.
Also, try warm seat salt soaks for about 10 minutes morning and night. It helps to sooth and shrink the area.
Also, don't touch your piercing and try your best to not bang it.
If you are unlucky enough to have actually got a keloid after a year, and it's proving hard to remove (which isn't surprising), take a trip down to your piercer, or even a doctor can help.
Feel free to ask if you need any further advice.
Hope it gets better quick!

im 16 female turning 17 in 3 months and im 5'6 1/2 and i was not suppose to get up to being that tall my doctor told me that i was most likely going to stop growing when i reach 5'4 but i havent grown since last year and iv been 5'6 1/2 since last year and people keep telling me that im going to grow even taller than i am now because im not fully grown yet but i dont really believe them and i dont want that i dont want to be all extra tall so is being 5'6 1/2 at the age of 17 tall??

It's not that tall at all. Most of my girl friends are this height and some are bigger. I'd love to be in your position, because it gets boring having people towering over you at the age of 18, and getting crushed/not being able to see at gigs etc ;]
You should be happy about it. If you haven't grown at all for a year, you may have stopped or might have a little more to do. Learn to love it! I know I would.

im flat.
i want boobs.
i feel like a little girl since i dont have them.
but im 13.
so im really not a "little girl"
and i dont feel pretty.
anything but stuffing.
would be nice.
[:
thanks

You're 13, so really, you are little! Or a little lady could be better :P
You've got years to grow in that area, so in the mean time, eat well and exercise as you normally would and perhaps invest in a push up/padded bra? You can get them at all stores :)
Good luck!

Okay so ive been with this guy for about 6 months and well, we've been getting more physical as time goes on. Last night, as previous nights, he inserted his penis, not all the way however. well that's what he says anyway. I mean it hurt and everything but as I started to pull him into me he stopped me and said "no, don't put it in all the way." Does this mean we are still both virgins? Another thing is that he likes oral but im not too crazy about it. Ive told him before that im not too comfortable with it and he said he was fine with it, but when we're in the moment he starts to beg for me to give him oral. what do i do?

It doesn't matter if he didn't go all the way in. A penis still entered you, therefore, you're no longer a virgin.

and to the second part, don't put out for anyone if you don't feel comfortable doing it.

I'm really sick (i've been bed ridden for the past 3 days) with some kind of bacterial infection and I already threw up like orange juice today- and now i feel like i want to eat food (like real food- not just drinks) but i'm not exactly "hungry" i just feel the need for food. Almost like PMS cravings.
I didn't throw up after i ate a popsicle today.

What should I do? try to eat? i'll probably puke it up.

also- im having difficulty breathing because of this congestion in my chest.

After 3 days of having an illness and you're seeing no signs of improvement, it's normally a good idea to see your doctor, because you'll probably need antibiotics to help clear it up.
When I'm sick and I feel the need for food, I know I probably shouldn't, but I have 1 or 2 tea biscuits. You know, the plain ones with no chocolate or sugar etc added!
If you're throwing up fruit juices, it's probably best to stick to water and the popsicles.
To help you breathe a bit easier, have you tried sucking on menthol losenges? They could help. But if I were you and if I wasn't feeling any better by tomorrow, it would be worth making an appt. :)

Okay I know I'm being totally old school here but why doesn't my bf open the doors for me and whatnot?

I know I know totally weird for asking that but my mom, aunt, uncle, etc, will get on to me about that if she sees how he kinda let the door shut on me.

Also, I'd like for him to do that as well because I dont know im weird like that

But I dont think its right for me to say

"dude, you are suppose to hold the door for me"

so um whats up?

I don't think he realizes it's the gentleman thing to do. You could say something like; "fine! don't open the door for me!" in a jokey way. It might spur him on to do it in the future. :)

You know when some girl's skirt is too short they wear this like thin but pretty pant material that seems like its for dancing but goes like to the knees under the skirt?
What's the name of it?
I heard the word legging a couple of times but i'm not sure because I want to find some.

Yep, they're leggings. You can also get footless tights too.
Leggings are made from a thicker material, whereas footless tights are basically tights without the foot part ;]

Well this morning at work I was really bored, so I sent an email to my friend then I decided 2 look in my boyfriends emails, were both totally comfortable with doing that other wise we wouldn't have given each other our passwords! We've been together for nearly 2 years! He's 20 and i'm nearly 19!

So I clicked in his inbox and found an email from him to this girl who is a lot younger then him! From what I could tell they were talking to each other before hand then my boyfriend sent this girl an email saying 'hey yeah its me hope everything will be ok i hope you feel better soon, just remember i'm always here 4 you ok? bye bye gorjus xxoo MWAH xoxox talk to you real soon' something along those lines.

Then she replied, oh thank u for your email it was so sweet it means so much to me, yeah i've had a bad day hopefully everything wil be ok soon. well like you said i'll talk to you real soon luv Nic xxoox. (something along those lines)

Now when I found this email I couldn't contact my boyfriend because he works in a factory, so when he finished he came to my work, I totally believed him that he hasn't or wont cheat on me. But I wanted to talk to him about it, i've spoken to him about it and he's apologied and I guess I made him feel a bit guilty but now I feel guilty because I made him feel guilty!!!!

I love him so much and I know that he loves me.. were suppose to be moving in together but I just don't know! I do not want to doubt him at all but I just need your opinion on this!

I keep asking myself why would he want to throw away 2 years..?! He's not like other guys he's sweet and different!

I just don't know what to do.. I don't want to break it off with him! I love him too much!

It's natural to feel this way. I guess it plays on your mind and hurts when you see your boyfriend calling another girl gorgeous. I do think however, your boyfriend was just trying to be nice to this girl, especially as she'd been through a bad stage. He was probably trying to boost her confidence?
Now you've actually told him about it, I think he realizes you were quite hurt by this and probably wouldn't do it again.
If he gave you his password, he obviously trusts you and it looks like the email he sent her meant no harm.
Try not to let it bother you much at this stage.
He's apologized, you've accepted and now you should let it go.
I wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend and hope everything works out just fine!

im scared cuz i use mascara and sometimes sleep with it and now i feel that my eyelashes are kinda getting less. i wanna know if eyelashes do grow back am scared help plz

From experience!.. yes, eyelashes do grow back :)
So don't worry about it and try to remember to remove make up before bed time.

Hi , I am a girl. 1 am 26 yrs. I allready have sex with somebody. but not very deep. but i am not sure i am still vergin. now i am going to married with differen person. now i am very up sad because if the person know that i already sex with somebody else mean sure this person dont want me. my questions is the person can find out that i already have sex with somebody else? please advise me?

It's impossible to tell if you've had sex in the past.
Yes, your hymen may have broke, but that could have happened at any time due to exercise, masturbation etc. So in answer to your question, no, he won't be able to tell if you have had sex in the past.
If you would like any more advice, feel free to ask.

my hair pokes through my panties? is this weird? or does everyone have this? what can i do?

I'm sure that happens to everyone if they don't trim it :) Nothing to worry about.

i am 15 and its getting to that time where im feeling pressured to loose my virginity i feel that i have to loose before all the girls get to expeirenced what should i do?

Seriously, what on earth is the rush for people to lose their virginity? It's something I will never understand.
I didn't lose mine until I was 100% positive I wanted to do so and knew he would be the person I'd be with for a long time. and I still am. and this was just over a month of turning 18.
Noone should ever feel pressured to have sex.
Obviously you should wait until you are actually at the right age, but more importantly, you need to know everything about it. All the facts.
Why choose to give it up to someone because "you have to before all the girls get too experienced" ?
They're all rubbish reasons and you probably will regret it later on when you actually find that one person you want to get intimate with.
Call me old fashioned, but it's a big choice to make. Don't ever give in to peer pressure. and do it when you are absolutely CERTAIN you want to.
Only you can decide in the end. I hope you make the right choice.

omg. i have a singing competition TOMORROW well i have to hand in the form to what song im singing. i have no freaking clue what song i will choose. ive thought of these so far..

Bye bye blackbird - Shirley Bassey
If I ain't got you - Alicia Keys
Over the Rainbow - Wizard of Oz
Fly like a bird - Mariah Carey
Deja Vu - Beyonce (but i cant get all those high notes. the same with the mariah carey song. i cant sing EXTREMELY high like they do, but like at a moderate level i guess)

any other suggestions? seriously give it your best shot cause tomorrow i'll wake up and just choose whichever song you guys pick before i go to school. it means alot to me and its for a teens art festival coming up soon. i think i sing pretty good.. maybe i could practice in front of my parents and friends to see if im good.. im kinda shy about singing around people that arent my family though, too. like usually in chorus people sing super high especially for this broadway musical im in now called Oliver!. sometimes i have to fake sing cause i wanna sound like the other kids and not sing too.. like.. different. my parents are from africa so like.. no offense but i dont really sing like white people (im not racist!!!!!! lol just to make that clear). but like any song sugestions? i guess i'd be an alto.. sometimes i can get a little higher but not too high like da sopranos. thankyou!

13/f

I agree, If I ain't got you sounds like a wise choice. Also, as you've said you sing different to others, it will probably show off your voice more. Alicia's really talented. and I think you should go for it because It's quite original, whereas you can guarantee Over the rainbow will always be done at a singing competition!
I wish you the best of luck in the competition, which ever you choose to go for.

ok so i really really want to get my belly button pierced but i'm kinda worried that it might hurt..a lot. i don't do well with pain. also does it matter if your stomach is flat or has a little flab?

thanks in advance :]

In most cases the clamp "hurts" more than the actual piercing itself! With all piercings, you'll experience a sharp pain. I like that pain. It makes you fully aware of what you're doing. It's addictive, almost.
Something I always tell people who are nervous about piercings is to basically not worry. The outcome is far too exciting to be drowned out by worrying about getting it done.
Of course it doesn't matter how big you are. How many people have a perfectly flat stomach anyway? Not alot, that's for sure.
My advice is to go for it if it's what you really want. It might be sore for a while after, but sea salt soaks will soon cure that and make it feel tonnes better.

what will get rid of hickies fast?

Ice, cover up (foundation/concealer) and it may sound strange, but brush over it gently with a hair brush to help restore the blood flow and get it back to it's natural colour. Actually works.

I got my period, but I havent told my mom. Im shy and its weird talking to her. How should I tell her?

I was the same. So what I did was casually walk into the kitchen and say "mum, where do you keep the pads"?
she soon caught on and that was it!

okay so i tried the www.i-village.com thing to change my eye color, but now i can`t save as because it has a flash. so what should i do. I need the picture.

Press the print screen button and paste into ms paint?

what does "LMAO" and "BTW" mean?

LMAO = Laughing my ass off / Laugh my ass off
BTW = By the way

LMAO example:
"You fancy him don't you!"
"LMAO no!"

BTW example:
"btw, what are you doing tomorrow?"

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