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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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15/f iv been with my guy for almost a year and we cant wait till we get married were going to at the end of high school, he gave me a promise ring that means the world to me, we are really in love and he knows me better than i know myself. All my friends love it that were together n say were the cutest couple ever, everything is perfect when I am with him. We do up to oral and sometimes r not to careful..
Things started falling apart about 7 months ago when I escaped rape. I now have severe post traumatic stress disorder, psychosis, mania and depression, chronic pain from my insides being ripped up and I get hospitalized a lot. It is very stressful on him because he cares the world for me and tortures himself when I am hospitalized or hallucinate. And he formed shared psychosis disorder from me.
i say life is great though ..But my questions are .1. I look pregnant, I’m skinny everywhere but the baby area on my stomach its like bam lol but I am a virgin and missed every period for the last 4 months but started today.. Even though iv jacked him he touched it then he fingered me.. My friends getting me a pregnancy test tonight. Could I be pregnant? Or maybe it could be my intestines? Since they are messed up big time.
.2. How else can I help him I feel so bad that he is like this since its my fault? And it seems like he is hurt even more since I almost got raped he wont forget the past. How do I help?
.3. I love him so much and I say only sex after marriage, but it seems like the time is so right, we have talked about it a lot and we might around our two year anniversary, should we? I feel like it’s the biggest decision ever and I want to but then I don’t since I am young.. He and my two best friends stayed the night Friday and I slept with him it was nearly impossible to resist.
If you could please answer any or all that would be great :D
I'm very glad to hear that you have such a great relationship with your boyfriend, I wish you guys the best and I'm sorry to hear about the rape :(
1. It's very rare to get pregnant without actually having sex. Take the pregnancy test if you want, but I suggest that you go to the gyno to get checked out. It could be something else, go just to make sure you're okay.
2. You can't really help him. I know it's hard, but he loves you so much, he puts the blame on himself that he wasn't there to help. Try telling him not to let it get to him. You guys can get through with this together. He won't forget about it, and neither will you but there are ways to move on from it. Give it a little time and he might get back to normal but understand that he's hurt, and it's not your fault.
3. I don't want to tell you to have sex or not to because that is not my decision. If you belive in sex after marrige, stick to that but if you also want to wait until the time is right, that is fine as well. It's all up to what you guys want to do. You guys love each other and trust each other. It's a wonderful bonding expirience for two people that love each other and it's very special. You know what's best for you, no one else.
I really wish you the best.
Hey, do u no how 2 do messy buns 4 short hair?
It depends on how short your hair is. You can tie it in a bun and put bobby pins where it falls out. When I had really short hair, I couldn't really tie it so I pinned it up & it actually looks a lot cuter and you can even wear your hair like that when you go out. You take small pieces and you twist it and put a bobby pin. You do it all over and it looks like a cute up-do.
Im 15 is my penis small? its like 5 1/2 inches
Lol, well that's the average size for a male. Don't worry, penis size is not all girls really care about and besides, you're only 15.
my boyfriend dumped me for this girl, but that was like a year ago is it okay to still be upset or jealous?
You're not weird just because you're still upset about it, but you should move on. Just because he left you for a different girl doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. You probably can do better then him anyways and being stuck on him will prevent you from giving another guy a chance. He's the one that missed out so don't let it get to you anymore. Guys will come and go, and you'll find one that really cares about you.
hey this isnt a quiestion i just wanted to say you have a real prep look start wearing your hair up in a high messy pony tail and a hollister shirt skinny jeans flats and a toat bag thats your whole look!
you can get alot of exspensive brands for cheap at platos closet skinny jeans only cost 10 dollars at the least the shirt at platos are like 10-20 toats are like 10-20 i got my for 5 dollars at old navy and flat are only like 5 dollas you could so pull it off not to much make up just like cover and lip gloss.
i would suggest taking a shower everyother day no offence but you just look cleaner and spray lots of perfume on and lots of lotion you have to be outgoing complement every one example [your shoes are like sooooo totaly cute!] even if you hate them always smile get good grades never hold back what you have to say but think befor you say it yes its difficult but im not done sit propper talk propper [no slang] use words like [omg][like][so] and [totaly].
you have to be social every where so carrie your cell phone the best thing in the world for preps is chewing gum well texting well playing with there hair.
hair styles: if you where your hair down it has to be straightend your in love with a hair straitener braids with a lilttle hollywood hump is great or just a pony tail your hair should be a little passed your sholders.
your bed room should be lots of color and TOTALY pink posters every whare and you know.
BUT...
thats all im going to give you because this is enough already
THE 1### THING SO YOU DONT LOOK LIKE A FOOL IS NEVER START THIS IN ONE DAY WORK SLOWLY take like two weeks to change acts and another two weeks to change clothes then start talking to them i used to be a prep then started hanging out with, not being races because im mixed but as people liked to call it the [ghetto] and am olmost on my way being prep again.
I HOPED I HELPED YOU AND YOU CAN HIT ME UP ANY TIME AT delmiita@gmail.com
BYEEEEEEEE!!
No offense, but DON'T tell me how to dress, act, or who to be friends with.
For one, I don't go by "labels". I don't consider myself as a prep or anything else.
I love to wear different things & I honestly can not stand Hollister anymore. I'm not trying to be just like every other girl out there, I don't care about that.
I'm not trying to fit in or anything.
I like who I am, and I'm not changing for anyone.
I think that this message is hilarious, it actually made me laugh out loud.. thank you.
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but honestly this is pathetic.
I wear my hair how I like it. Weather it's straight, curly, up or down.. I don't care.
As for personality wise.. I'm very outgoing. I love going out with my friends and I'm super social so you don't have to give ME advice about this.
I'm not going to talk by saying "LIKE, OMG.. YOUR SHOES ARE LIKE TOTALLY AWESOME!" I find that annoying.
Who taught you this stuff anyways and who's telling you HOW you should act and HOW you should be?
Here's a little advice for you..
Be your own person and be INDEPENDENT. Stop trying so hard to fit in by wearing certain clothes and acting a certain way. That's not who you are, that's who you are trying to be.
You did not help me. If anything you just pissed me off by trying to tell me who to be and what to look like.
Thanks, but no thanks.
Whenevert I pee, I pee, it really hurts after, and I don't know why, maybe we have sex too often but I don't know why that is. Does this mean I got have infectio or something like that?
It could possibly just be a bladder infection. A lot of my friends have got it from having sex and it's nothing too dangerous.
Here is a website that might help you out.
http://www.pharmcatalyst.com/patients/bladderinfection.htm
ok so im 16, and a female. i live in a small town were like EVERYONE smokes and drink. you hardly find anyone who doesnt. well my mom lets me drink if im with her. and she even said once when i asked her if i can get high, she said shed let me try it if im with her. cause ive never been high before, and me and my mom talk about everything, were very open with everything. well since i started highschool, i made came closer to alot of my aquantances, and i hang out with people that are always drinking and getting high, like every weekend,there like my best friends, and there always inviting me over to go get drunk. well my question is how can i get my mom to allow it? cause i tried talking to her and i dont think she trusts me to be drunk with my friends cause in her words "i dont know how to handle my alcohal" and she knows if i go then ill be drinking and probably smoking. she said she just has a contiounce and doesnt want anything to hapen to me, which i dont think is fair because she goes out almost night with her friends while im stuck at home, i told her im only gona be 16 once i deserve to hang with my friends and be a teenager, then she brings back all the "i wasnt allowed to go to a party til i was 19" and my friends and i have made a plan before to tell her im spending the night at my friends house then go somewere else or something then well drink but i have a huge contionce and i hate lying to my mom so i always tell them no. sorry im kind of rambling,well how can i get my mom to agree with me and let me go hangout with my friends at night and not worry about me so much., thankyou sooo much if you help me, and sorry this was long. =]
Your mother cares about you and she doesn't want anything bad to happen to you, but she's giving you the wrong message. She's telling you that it's OKAY to drink and smoke in front of her, but you can't with your friends. Actually, it's not okay either way but people still do it. If she knows that you're going to get high and drunk when you're with your friends, of course she would say no. She is just trying to protect you from anything bad happening and she doesn't think that you'll be able to take care of yourself with your friends. Your mom will ALWAYS worry about you. It's just how parents are. Sit down and talk to her and not just about getting drunk and getting high. Just because ALL of your friends are doing it, it doesn't mean you should too. Maybe if you invite your friends to your house, your mom will be able to meet them and trust you more when you're with them.
I have an oval shape face. My hair is thick and damaged so I'm sure inches will be coming off.
http://i42.tinypic.com/dy9kbm.jpg
http://i41.tinypic.com/332seb7.jpg
Any suggestions for a cut?
I think that if you go short, it would look really cute on you. Shoulder length with side swept bangs would look really good on you :)
15/f
My best guy friend just told me that he liked me on istant messanger. Then i told him i just liked him as a friend because that's all the feelings i have toward him. Then he got offline and i felt really bad. I figured i hurt his feelings and he didn't want to talk to me anymore. What do i do? What should i say next time i talk to him? Or should i say anything? Thanks!
You didn't do anything wrong and I understand why you feel bad. I've been in your situation before. You did the right thing by telling him that you don't feel the same way. I made that mistake by not telling someone I only wanted to be friends and I was scared of hurting their feelings, but that only made things worse. He thought that I was leading him on, and now we're not even friends! Just let your friend calm down. Right now, it's normal for him to be upset but he had to know how you really felt. Give him some time and everything will go back to normal. If he really likes you, he'll find a way to keep you in his life.
What are some good Christmas songs?
I'm not talking about "Jingle Bells", "Silent Night" or songs like that.
I'm talking about songs like: "Santa Baby by Marilyn Monroe" and "Merry Christmas Baby by Brighten" things like that.
I really need this for a mixed CD before Christmas.
Thanks in Advance!
Last Christmas- Cascada
whats a more breakable straightener?
CHI or GVP?
Any straightener can easily be broken if you don't take care of it. A lot of my friends have the CHI and they've had it for a while and it never broke.
What does it mean when a guy tells you that you got him sprung???....What does sprung mean???
Sprung means being crazy or in love with someone that you're interested in.
Ok...
So there is this guy (Kenny) that my friend likes and lately me her and him
have been hanging out a lot you know just being teens, like going to the park and playing disc golf...
anyway like today we were with me her, her friend Sam and Kenny and we were
playing disc golf and me and Kenny were just messin around you know like
throwing the discs at each other and hitting each other with them and I
guess now that I think about it, it would kind of look like we were flirting
but it wasn't intentional or anything... but yeah after I took him home and
I got back to my house she texted me and asked if I liked him and I said no...
for her sake because she has liked him for a very long time...she said that
she asked him the same question and that he wouldn't answer it...and she says she thinks he does..
Last night he texted me and asked me if at all it look like he was flirting with my friend and I said no and then she told me to ask him if he liked me and that is was an emergency so I did I said "Audrey wants to know if you like me" and he said "I told her its not like that between me and you" and I said “yeah I know I just think she might be jealous about I don’t know what yet…”
then he was just playing around and said “we should tell her that we are in love” and I was all like “yeah right!! haha she would shit a brick...”
then out of no where he was all like so... “how do you feel about me..”
and I told him that “I don’t know...”
ugh I don’t know what to do...
Help...
I think that both of you do really like each other, but for her sake, neither one of you will admit it. I understand that she's your friend and she likes him, but you need to talk to her about it. If you really like Kenny, that shouldn't stop you. You have to do what's right for you and look out for yourself first.
Umm... Hi. This is sort of an awkward and/or dumb question, but I'll just come out with it.
Well, I'm almost 14 and I still haven't gotten my period. But the thing is, I'm really scared to get it. I've heard SO MANY embarrassing stories about girls getting their periods at school and soaking through their pants, and I've also heard it doesn't feel like a thing, so you don't know if you pants are all bloody... I'm really nervous, and I have a feeling I'll get mine soon, but I need to know if there's some kind of warning or something that you get before you have your period... so, anyone?
Getting your period isn't as bad as people make it sound. Before getting your period, you should get discharge. Discharge is white/clear stuff that you'll see on your underwear. When you get that, you should be getting your period not too long after. Also, wear panty liners which will protect it from going on your underwear and it's not noticeable or uncomfortable. Make sure you carry either a pad or a tampon in your purse just in case you get it. Some girls also get cramps before their period or during their period so if you're stomach starts to hurt, it's probably because of that.
16/f
hi. okay so let me give you a little background on this. i'm going out with this guy and we've only been going out a week.. which is obviously a really short time. but like we've been hooking up all summer. he's been like one of my best friends for like almost 3 years. i really like him, but i'm like embarrassed to tell people i'm going out with him. i told 2 of my closest friends, but that's it. i don't really want to tell guys i have a boyfriend because then they all like ignore me. ya know? i think that's my real issue. like i was second guessing it from the second i said yes. i know that's wrong but i do really love him, he's like my life. the thing is, i don't know if i wanna go out with him. and i'm also leaving for camp in 4 days and it's co-ed. i want to be able to flirt... etc. do whatever i want but if i have a boyfriend i feel like my camp experience won't be as fun because i'll be the girl just sitting there saying 'oh hi i have a boyfriend'. i'm not really sure what to do. because if i break up with him it will like crush him. he's liked me for 2 years. but i think i want to break up with him anyways. because i'm kinda in the stage where i don't really want anything that serious and i just want to like hook up. but the thing is.. the thought of him hooking up with other girls besides me makes me like want to cry. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!
You have to do what makes YOU happy, and put yourself first. If you really "love" him, I don't understand why you would be embarrassed to say you're dating but I it's normal & I was in your position before. Since you're not sure about the relationship, break up with him. Even though it might hurt his feelings, you don't want to do something with someone else & hurt him that way. Flirting is a natural thing and we all do it weather we have a boyfriend or girlfriend. I think that the only reason you're afraid to break up with him is because you don't want to hurt him but you have to do what's best. Let him know exactly how you feel and just tell him that right now, it's not a good time for you to be in a relationship and if he cares enough, he'll understand and respect your decision.
So uh what the hell is the best straightener around? (preferably one that can curl)
1. CHI?
2. Sedu?
3. GVP??
4. HAI?
5. FHI?
questions
1)did i miss anything?
2) which one out of the five would you most recommend from experience or "you've heard"?
Thanks. im sorry im just reeeaaally confused on what to buy everyone says chi chi chi! but i heard sedu was really good and celebrities use it.
also they say that 3. GVP was a knock off of CHI and i think cheaper? BUT WORKS HELLA GREAT.
i think my top three would be chi, sedu (but does this one even curl hair??), and GVP.
what do you think?
should i change my order of the best? or recommend something else?
but dont forget to answer the questions! thaanksss :)
I would recommend the CHI. I personally don't have, yet, but I have used it many times and it does work very well. You don't have to go over the same piece of hair more than twice to get it straight and even though it's pricey, it's worth it :)
What should you do when a friend is lying to you?
Confront your friend about it and let them know it's not alright. I have a really tough time trusting people because of the fact that they lied to me so many times. When a fried lies, it's hard to trust them so tell them straight because it's not right.
I'm 16/f 11th grade, and I met this guy in 9th grade and ever since we've been friends. I'm being honest when I say that there was no tension, we both liked different people, we were friends. But, the last day of school before this summer I asked if he wanted to come over and swim at my house. The day before he was going to come over we were talking on the phone and he said he'd call me and tell me when he was comming over. So the next day he didn't show, or even call to say he couldn't make it. We haven't even talked for the rest of the summer, and I was afraid to call him or text him because I thought I did something wrong. Did he think I liked him because I asked him over? He's a good friend and I don't want to lose him over something stupid I said or did.
Thanks,
JustAsking
Honestly, I don't think that you did anything wrong. Guys can be so complicated, and they might take things different then how they really are. You should text him and just say hey! I think that he probably took it the wrong way but asking a friend to come over and swim doesn't mean much. If he's going to over react about something like that, it's lame. So, like I said .. just start talking to him and see what's he's been up to. You could even bring up that topic and let him know you didn't mean it any differently. Don't think you did something for him to act like that because from what you're saying, you didn't say anything to scare him away. The best way to find out what he truly thinks is so ask him personally.
In your opinion, how stupid are boys?
In my opinion, both genders are equally the same. Girls mature faster and we're more serious when it comes to relationships, but over all it's the same. Some guys don't really know what they want yet again, neither do girls. They're just complicated because most are afraid to show their emotions.
how do you know you love someone?
If you have to question it, it probably isn't love. This website gives a really good definition, so please read it. It'll help you understand better.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/42281/how_do_you_know_when_you_love_someone.html