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ok so im 16, and a female. i live in a small town were like EVERYONE smokes and drink. you hardly find anyone who doesnt. well my mom lets me drink if im with her. and she even said once when i asked her if i can get high, she said shed let me try it if im with her. cause ive never been high before, and me and my mom talk about everything, were very open with everything. well since i started highschool, i made came closer to alot of my aquantances, and i hang out with people that are always drinking and getting high, like every weekend,there like my best friends, and there always inviting me over to go get drunk. well my question is how can i get my mom to allow it? cause i tried talking to her and i dont think she trusts me to be drunk with my friends cause in her words "i dont know how to handle my alcohal" and she knows if i go then ill be drinking and probably smoking. she said she just has a contiounce and doesnt want anything to hapen to me, which i dont think is fair because she goes out almost night with her friends while im stuck at home, i told her im only gona be 16 once i deserve to hang with my friends and be a teenager, then she brings back all the "i wasnt allowed to go to a party til i was 19" and my friends and i have made a plan before to tell her im spending the night at my friends house then go somewere else or something then well drink but i have a huge contionce and i hate lying to my mom so i always tell them no. sorry im kind of rambling,well how can i get my mom to agree with me and let me go hangout with my friends at night and not worry about me so much., thankyou sooo much if you help me, and sorry this was long. =]
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Your mother cares about you and she doesn't want anything bad to happen to you, but she's giving you the wrong message. She's telling you that it's OKAY to drink and smoke in front of her, but you can't with your friends. Actually, it's not okay either way but people still do it. If she knows that you're going to get high and drunk when you're with your friends, of course she would say no. She is just trying to protect you from anything bad happening and she doesn't think that you'll be able to take care of yourself with your friends. Your mom will ALWAYS worry about you. It's just how parents are. Sit down and talk to her and not just about getting drunk and getting high. Just because ALL of your friends are doing it, it doesn't mean you should too. Maybe if you invite your friends to your house, your mom will be able to meet them and trust you more when you're with them.
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Obviously if everyone in your town commits illegal acts, your mother should let you too!
God, I don't know what kind of mother she is, to not let you endanger yourself. The nerve!
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