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me guy friend
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My best guy friend just told me that he liked me on istant messanger. Then i told him i just liked him as a friend because that's all the feelings i have toward him. Then he got offline and i felt really bad. I figured i hurt his feelings and he didn't want to talk to me anymore. What do i do? What should i say next time i talk to him? Or should i say anything? Thanks!
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Obviously he's going to be sad that you don't feel the same way, put yourself in his position. If you told the person you were best friends with that you liked them as more than "just friends" and they didn't feel the same, you'd be pretty torn up about it. Just know where he's coming from because he might have some bitterness towards you for a little bit, sometimes guys take rejection hard, it hurts their e-go, yuh know? You should just talk to him and tell him that you don't want this to ruin your friendship and that you know he'll find a great girl and when he finds her that you'll be cheering him on, things like that to let him know you still care :] If he's still pissed, then let him cool off for a little bit and give him some space, I know you feel bad, but it's not your fault, he can't make you feel guilty for your feelings and following your heart. You can't just like someone who you're not intrested in, tell him you were looking out for his feelings because you didn't want to end up hurting him by going into a relationship with him not liking him that way .. yuh know? :] kay, well, good luck, fell free to inbox me and let me know how it goes ! hope i helped ! xxo
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just tell him you feel really bad. is there any way you would think of giving him a chance? like maybe you could try it and see how it works out.. if not, then what you're telling him is good. just tell him you want to be just friends. but tell him you don't want things to be awkward from him telling you this. you don't want to lose him as a friend =)
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well if yuoonly like him as a friend yuo dont want to go out with him if you dontlike him so get online and say yuor sorry you dont have to talk to him but if someone did that to you then yuou wuold at lease expect a apoligy and just say weeve been friends for a long time and i just dont like in that kind of way
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You didn't do anything wrong and I understand why you feel bad. I've been in your situation before. You did the right thing by telling him that you don't feel the same way. I made that mistake by not telling someone I only wanted to be friends and I was scared of hurting their feelings, but that only made things worse. He thought that I was leading him on, and now we're not even friends! Just let your friend calm down. Right now, it's normal for him to be upset but he had to know how you really felt. Give him some time and everything will go back to normal. If he really likes you, he'll find a way to keep you in his life.
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