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15/f iv been with my guy for almost a year and we cant wait till we get married were going to at the end of high school, he gave me a promise ring that means the world to me, we are really in love and he knows me better than i know myself. All my friends love it that were together n say were the cutest couple ever, everything is perfect when I am with him. We do up to oral and sometimes r not to careful..
Things started falling apart about 7 months ago when I escaped rape. I now have severe post traumatic stress disorder, psychosis, mania and depression, chronic pain from my insides being ripped up and I get hospitalized a lot. It is very stressful on him because he cares the world for me and tortures himself when I am hospitalized or hallucinate. And he formed shared psychosis disorder from me.
i say life is great though ..But my questions are .1. I look pregnant, I’m skinny everywhere but the baby area on my stomach its like bam lol but I am a virgin and missed every period for the last 4 months but started today.. Even though iv jacked him he touched it then he fingered me.. My friends getting me a pregnancy test tonight. Could I be pregnant? Or maybe it could be my intestines? Since they are messed up big time.
.2. How else can I help him I feel so bad that he is like this since its my fault? And it seems like he is hurt even more since I almost got raped he wont forget the past. How do I help?
.3. I love him so much and I say only sex after marriage, but it seems like the time is so right, we have talked about it a lot and we might around our two year anniversary, should we? I feel like it’s the biggest decision ever and I want to but then I don’t since I am young.. He and my two best friends stayed the night Friday and I slept with him it was nearly impossible to resist.
If you could please answer any or all that would be great :D
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I'm very glad to hear that you have such a great relationship with your boyfriend, I wish you guys the best and I'm sorry to hear about the rape :(
1. It's very rare to get pregnant without actually having sex. Take the pregnancy test if you want, but I suggest that you go to the gyno to get checked out. It could be something else, go just to make sure you're okay.
2. You can't really help him. I know it's hard, but he loves you so much, he puts the blame on himself that he wasn't there to help. Try telling him not to let it get to him. You guys can get through with this together. He won't forget about it, and neither will you but there are ways to move on from it. Give it a little time and he might get back to normal but understand that he's hurt, and it's not your fault.
3. I don't want to tell you to have sex or not to because that is not my decision. If you belive in sex after marrige, stick to that but if you also want to wait until the time is right, that is fine as well. It's all up to what you guys want to do. You guys love each other and trust each other. It's a wonderful bonding expirience for two people that love each other and it's very special. You know what's best for you, no one else.
I really wish you the best.
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I'm terribly sorry for what you went through, but with someone like that you can only go up. 1. There is nooooooooooo possiblity you are pregnant.. 2. Don't blame yourself, he probably feels helpless because he couldn't protect you from the incident. And 3. Just take your time and give a good thinking over. You have to love yourself before you can give yourself away.
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Dear 'love and abstinence and hardships'
1. Uhm, Listen hun, there is a very large change that you could be pregnant right now. You should DEFINITELY get that checked out. If he had semen on his hand when he fingered you... well, you might be in some trouble...
Okay, well, if you AREN'T pregnant, here is my other advice.
2. You and your boyfriend should take therapy TOGEHTER. Aw, too cute huh? I think it would totally help you relationship and help him to feel better. It would be good for him to watch you progress, and vice versa.
3. I think you should wait for sex. If you two do end up getting married, it will make your wedding night so spectacular. I am a firm believer in the "no sex before marriage" rule. Not only is it my religion but I just think waiting is the most romantic thing in the world. It means that you saved a part of yourself for your husband your entire life, before you even knew him. I just think its beautiful.
Well babe, I really hope you're not pregnant, but to be honest, I am a little worried at the moment. And I hope you and your lover make the right decision, whatever you may deem that to be.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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