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Did I do something?
I'm 16/f 11th grade, and I met this guy in 9th grade and ever since we've been friends. I'm being honest when I say that there was no tension, we both liked different people, we were friends. But, the last day of school before this summer I asked if he wanted to come over and swim at my house. The day before he was going to come over we were talking on the phone and he said he'd call me and tell me when he was comming over. So the next day he didn't show, or even call to say he couldn't make it. We haven't even talked for the rest of the summer, and I was afraid to call him or text him because I thought I did something wrong. Did he think I liked him because I asked him over? He's a good friend and I don't want to lose him over something stupid I said or did.
Thanks,
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its crazy how much your story matches whats happening to me but im in the opposite position ..lol i would be the one that didnt show, and now i feel like everything is soo akward because we dont talk anymore like we used to. Well i would say just talk to them and let them know how you feel. I had a reason why i didnt show, and im sure the guy you asked over has a reason also. =] hope i helped.
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the only sure way is to just talk to him. send him a regular txt or phone him asking him how is summer is going and is everything okayy... then bring up the subject.. if he's a good friend he won't push you away over something little like that... good luck!
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Honestly, I don't think that you did anything wrong. Guys can be so complicated, and they might take things different then how they really are. You should text him and just say hey! I think that he probably took it the wrong way but asking a friend to come over and swim doesn't mean much. If he's going to over react about something like that, it's lame. So, like I said .. just start talking to him and see what's he's been up to. You could even bring up that topic and let him know you didn't mean it any differently. Don't think you did something for him to act like that because from what you're saying, you didn't say anything to scare him away. The best way to find out what he truly thinks is so ask him personally.
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well your first mistake was letting weeks go by without asking why he didnt show. i feel like things would have gone alot smoother if you just asked what the deal was earlier right when it happened. one of the options that you could do would be to just let it go. i wouldnt choose that option considering that your on this website asking what to do. that proves that you cant seem to get over it and clearly i dont blame you, considering you have feelings for the kid. even though this whole situation is a little dragged out, id still call him. dont call him just to bring up what happened, call him to see how he is. if things go well, then you bring up the whole situation and see what he has to say about it. go into the whole phone call postitive! remember its better to be late than sorry.
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