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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I want to take up a babysitting job for extra cash but, i dont know the neighbors that just moved in and thats the ones whos baby i want to sit, and my dad doesnt get home from work till 5:00 and i want to babysit!
should i meet the neighbors and babysit till my dad comes home or should i ask my dad and risk not being able to do it?
please hurry
ill rate high

If you are going to be babysitting, your dad needs to know. Talk to him about what you would like to do. If he agrees then you may introduce yourself to the new neighbors and offer your services. The neighbors will not want to entrust their child to a liar.

i was wondering what the difference is between a graduate and an undergraduate is. could someone please explain or give me a link to go to. also, when i want to apply for a college, can i do it online or do i have to go to that college. by the way im 14 and i was wondering bcuz college is right around the corner!

Well my husband is currently in Grad school. Meaning he is going for his Masters. He has already been to 4 years of college and graduated with a Bachelors degree. That's Undergrad.

my birth details
name: charu
sex: female
dob: 01-01-1975
status: married since 6 years
place of bith: jhansi, India
time: 13: 42 pm wednesday afternoon

QUESTION: 1_) WILL I EVER BE ABLE TO CONCEIVE ? IF UR ANSWER IS YES LET ME KNOW THE MONTH AND YEAR OF CONCEPTION ALONGWITH THE SEX OF MY CHILDREN
2) BIF U CAN TELL ME PLEASE THEN LET ME KNOW WHETHER IT WILL BE A NATURAL CONCEPTION OR ATEST TUBE CHILD?

TYHANKS
REPLY SOON
REGARDS
CHARU

Sorry, but we are not psychic

what age should you try to get a girl in bed

When your married.

I am going to the beach soon and i need to know the following:

If my last period started on the May 17th and lasted about a week when will i get my next one??

Everyone's schedual is diffenent, and in young girls it is offten unpredictable. You have to determine your own schedual yourself.

well today is my bf's birthday so we are going to lunch at a nice (in other words, expensive) resturant with another couple. i invited him, so does that mean i have to pay for him? its a pretty expensive place and im 14 and he's turning 15. thanks!

Yes, absolutly you should pay. It's his birthday, and YOU invited him to lunch.

Hi, I know this might be a stupid question....
My boyfriend and I have fooled around naked, although not had sex. My period is now late, could I be pregnant?

Fooling around naked is sex. Giving a blow job is sex. It's called oral sex. Do you think lesbians are virgins because they haven't slept with a man? No. Since there was no penatration, the chances of you being pregnant are low, but there is always a possibility.

I want to send out a note with an invitation to a party and say presents are not expected but if anyone would like to buy a present vouchers would be very acceptable.

It is always poor etiquette to mention gifts on an invitation. If a guest asks you, then you may mention what you would want.

***EDIT***
Could you give me a reason why I recived a 1?
Go read Emily Post's Rules of Etiquette, she will tell you the same thing.

im 16 years old and 8 months pregnant..my boyfriend ..which is the father and is 19..wont have anything to do with me..he wont even touch me anymore yea he comes over every now and then but he doesnt stay long..it breaks my heart because i love him so much..he says he loves me but it definately doesnt feel like it..what can i do?

You have bigger problems than having a crappy boyfriend. You are soon going to be a mother! You no longer have the luxury of doing what you want to do, you have to do what is best for your child. And worring about a boy that doesn't want you or your child is a waste of energy. Your duty is now to your child.

It's time to grow up and stop being selfish. Life is not longer about you. If you can't do it, then I sure hope you put your child up for adoption so they can have a family that truely wants to love them.

What if I wanna have sex but I have tan lines from my tan how do I get rid of it without going to a tanning salon or tanning naked?

The person you are sleeping with should love you enough not to care. You can't get a full tan without getting naked or using fake tan lotion.

My period started early today and im going shopping tomorrow!! It wouldnt be a problem or anything but i have really heavy periods and the 2nd day is always the heaviest. Tomorrow is gonna be the 2nd day! im not calling it off because i cant let my friends down and ive wanted to get some cds and stuff im buying tomorrow for ages. any suggestions, like how i can cope and what i should do?! and when i say heavy i mean really heavy as have to use night pads in the day and change them every 2 hours.

You are going to have your period for many years to come. Are you planing on cancelling plans eveytime? Life happens. Bring a purse and some extra pads, and go to the bathroom when needed. It's not a big deal at all.

Well I have a biig problem! I like my best friend's brother. He's a year younger than me and he's reeeeally cute! I think he likes me cause everytime I'm over her house he flirts with me and gets all close to me and stuff. I want to go out with him but I'm afraid that my best friend would be sooo mad! Cause she like hates her brother and stuff and so yea. I really need some help! I rate high!

If you want to stay friends I would stay away from her brother. You don't want to put yourself between them. Not only will you hurt your relationship with your friend, you will hurt the realationship between them as well. They either will always be fighting for your attention, or your friend will hate you for trading her in for her brother. If she were good friends with her brother, then you could ask what she thought. But seeing as she hates him, I think having a relationship with him would only cause a lot of trouble.

By the time people are around 20, do you recon they expect sex as part of a relationship?

Not necessarly. It really depends what kind of person YOU are. If you plan on waiting until marriage, then it is propably best to date someone with simular belifes. If you are looking for a sexual realtionship, then date someone looking for that. If you have different wants out of a relationship from your partner, then it won't work.

(sorry i didnt know what category!!) ok i just started shaving my legs and should i shave in the direction my hair is growing or the opposite way?? please help im so confused!

Always shave the oppiste way. Use a good shaving cream, and moisterize after with a unscented lotion.

My name is stephanie, and I bhave beeen dating my boyfriend for a month now.But here's the twist! My BF(Chris)asked me to hsve sex with him after a band dance. I told him no, b/c I'm not ready to sexualy active just yet! Unexpectingly he said ok I'll respect that b/c I love. I figured that excuse would by me time, and it did! But now he wants more reasons as to why I can't have sex with him. But see what gets me is is that he's telling me he wants to have sex, but when I say no he's ok with what I decide, but he asks repeating , but never makes any kind of action leading to sex. I'm confused! WHY IS HE GIVING ME MIXED SIGNALS?

He's confused because you didn't give him a frim no. He still thinks there is a chance. Tell him you are not planning on having sex anytime soon, so please stop asking. You don't need excuses, or need to "buy time." Saying no should be good enough. Tell him you don't plan on having sex until you are married (which is a good idea anyway) and see how long he sticks around. Then you will know if he truely loves you.

so i just wanted to know how many of you guys like Harry Potter! if you don't, tell me and if you do, tell me. I want either a % percent or a no/ya. and if you want any other HP info i can help! =)

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ok ive had this boyfriend for almost 2 years. he is such a sweetie and i love him so much! but the thing is he never gets me a presant for my birthday. last year i was with hm on my b-day and he didnt even say happy birthday! i no this may sound greedy but hey girls love presants you know? so can somone help me i no this sounds dumb but what can i do?

Sorry, but there is nothing you can do. You can't change him. He obviously is not a very thoughtful guy if he can't even wish a Happy Birthday to his girlfriend. I personaly think you could do better. You should have a guy that WANTS to do stuff for you.

I have no idea whose column this is. I saw this in my friend's favorite advice sites. So I'll ask you. There's this girl at my school, Natalie D., real b****. Okay, she always bumps into me and doesn't say sorry and thinks shes so cool cause she went out with 'Chris S.' or whatever his name is. She is being a real bother. What should I do!?

i got this question in my advice column and i really want to no who it is. how do i find out who put this on my site. by the way natalie is me...i just didnt want to but my name on this site. and chris s. is my ex. how do i find out who sent this to me?

Sorry all questions are anonymous.

I want to make some extra money on the internet and I told my dad a few months ago this. He told me that he would ask the people at his office if it worked or not, but he still keeps putting it off! I would really like to have money to buy some nice things that I'd like, but it's impossible when he won't set it up for me! How can I get him to go quicker?

If you have good stuff to sell on Ebay, then yeah, you could make some good money. But for the most part, internet sites that say you can make money are just a scam. If they weren't everyone would do it, I know I would.

What's the best way to tell a girl how you feel about her? School's over so I can't tell her there. I could get her screen name from one of her friends and tell her over IM but I'm not sure if that's a good idea. Please help. I'm 14 and a guy.

If someone told you that they liked you, what would you say? Thanks?

Instead, ask if she would like to go do something, like see a movie. That way it is obvious that you like her, and you don't have to be embarassed by actually saying it. And you get to do stuff with the girl you like. If your parents don't let you date, make it a group thing with some of your friends, and some of hers.

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