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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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okay there's this guy I've been "good freinds" with for a while now and he keeps bugging me to have sex with him. I really do want to but he makes me nervous! It has always been easy for me to sleep with guys and feel good about myself but this guy intimidates me so much. we always get so close but I get nervous that my body isnt pretty enough for him and he wont like me anymore. I guess its cause all his ex girlfreinds that I've seen have been drop dead gorgeous and Im not quite there. What can I do to make my self feel more comfortable around him where I can have sex with him?

I guess if he doesn't have sex with you because of your body, know that he is shallow, and that he's not worth it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why?

You are seriously not alone. I've always been talked about behind my back for a variety of reasons.

I know how you feel. And I know how hard it is to try to forget about them, but that's what you have to do.

I found friends that don't do that stuff to me, and stuck with them, and payed no attention to the mean-spirited people. I know that seems like you can't do it, and it definitely will be tough, but if you keep telling yourself that they don't matter, eventually their comments won't phase you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I am 15 years old, and I have known my boyfriend for 4 years, he also happens to be my best friend's 13 year old brother. Just recently he and I became eachother's first boyfriend and girlfriend after we told eachother that we've always liked one another. It's been a few months now, we see eachother alot and just act silly and play like we always have....but it doesn't feel any different to me. I really wish to hold his hand or at least have him show the ways that he cares for me in person, instead of only showing them on-line :P. Then a few days ago he emailed me and told me that he cares for me so much but he doesn't feel mature enough to be in a relationship. He has also heard (from my best friend) that lately there have been some guys my age making moves on me...which of course i have no interest in tham at all! I was very understanding of his feelings, though it does make me sad. But he says that it makes him feel like a wimp that he hasn't made a move yet..He just feels nervous that he's going to mess up being romantic and he says that i deserve more than that. I really need some advice! I really truly like him, but should I just let this go and try dating someone my own age in the future?( which i can't imagine right now) What could I possibly do to help him with being more brave to show how he feels about me? Should I just be patient and let him start being romantic when it feels right for him?

Be patient. PLEASE. Let him hold hands, kiss, and whatnot on his own terms.

I can't tell you how many times I've been in a relationship with a girl, and she was ready to do all that stuff, and I wasn't, and I felt REALLY pressured into doing it.

Let him know that you think it's sweet that he's trying to not mess up this relationship, and that you are completely supportive of him taking his time. That is the right thing to do.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What is a good age-gap in a relationship? What is acceptable?

When you're a teenager, age difference is very important.

I'd say the most you should be apart is 3 years.

But, if you're older, ten years, or even fifteen, doesn't matter.

If you're 13, the oldest you should be dating is 16.

If you're 33, I wouldn't really care if you were dating a 46 year old, or maybe even older. It's perfectly legal, and I guess whatever floats your boat.

It kind of goes case-by-case, and I've never really had a rule for ALL ages.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Everyone seems to have a problem with age I dont see why its just the some person being born a different time. What do you think?

When you're a teenager, age difference is very important.

I'd say the most you should be apart is 3 years.

But, if you're older, ten years, or even fifteen, doesn't matter.

If you're 13, the oldest you should be dating is 16.

If you're 33, I wouldn't really care if you were dating a 46 year old, or maybe even older. It's perfectly legal, and I guess whatever floats your boat.

It kind of goes case-by-case, and I've never really had a rule for ALL ages.

--Jack
(17/m)

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me and my bf have been having problems lately...this female girl has been texting him and i dont like it at all.....yesterday she randomly text him and i told him to tell her to stop texting you..So my bf reply back and said "Please dont text me". and she said ok.....those this mean that he really care about me & love me..& theres nothing going on with his female friend? is he a keeper?

I think he cares.

But, honestly, I think you were being really jealous when you told him to stop texting her.

It's up to him who he texts, and as long as he's not attracted to her and is loyal to you, why does it matter?

Don't control his life.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Many people have their own opinons on family romance and im curiouse what are your thoughts?

Absolutely appalling. Like, one of the sickest things I've ever heard of.

Yeah... It's immoral.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay, so I really liked this guy. And I totally thought he liked me too. He definitely lead me on. But when my friend asked him if he had any interest in me he simply replied "She's not really what I'm looking for right now." Okay, so I know that's the nice way of putting it. But obviously he meant something else. You can be harsh, that's okay. If you were a guy and you said this, do you really mean it? Or is there another meaning to the words.

Coming from a guy, that either means:

1. You're not what he's looking for.
2. He's not really wanting a relationship right now.

It could be 1. It could be 2. It could be a combination of both.

Either way, he's not interested in dating you, at least for now.

Sorry.

--Jack
(17/m)

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kay so me and my boyfriend started dating last summer...we broke up in april, then got back together this july. our one year is coming up and we don't know whether to celebrate it or not...cause if we like wait 3 months, its not the same cause he asked me out in august not november and things would get confusing right? we're obviously gonna do what we want but i just want some opinions on what you would do if you were in my situation, thankss :)

I would just celebrate as if you didn't take a break.

--Jack
(17/m)

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(14/f) Well school is starting in like 3 days, and I just have this funny feeling in my stomach. I'm going to be a freshman, and actually, Friday is just orientation. I'm excited, but I'm also nervous/scared/dreading it. I'm just sad that I have to leave a bunch of friends behind. I have maybe one true friend that's going to the same school as me, but we only have one class together! She's the one I can talk to and go to anytime, for anything... It just sucks. I like making new friends, I'm pretty good at it but I feel nervous and self conscious. If I'm around a couple of my friends, I feel real comfortable talking to others because I'm not by myself. I keep thinking about things, and I don't want to be alone. I don't want to experience high school by myself, where no one understands how I feel. I also sometimes worry about what people will think about me. :\ I've heard that high school is better than middle school, and that it has less drama. I'm not sure if I can believe that quite yet. I'm worried it's going to be MUCH worse. Since there's more people, I'm concerned I'm going to have TWICE as much of problems than in middle school. I really hate drama... I can't stand people who act 'slutty' or want to show off their beauty and stuff. I don't want to be exposed to even more 'myspace whores' or something. i don't say this to be mean, I don't know how else to put it. It annoys me so much, and I'll admit that I get a little jealous of them sometimes. Like i said before, there's going to be more people... More people for me to just look over at and think they're really pretty. So will all the guys and stuff. -.- I don't think I'm THAT attractive. I think I have a big problem with my self esteem and confidence. :\ but you know how people show cleavage on purpose, or stick their booties out just to show off or something? Then they get a CRAPLOAD of comments like, "mmm sexy/this is cute!/you're sooo pretty and gorgeous/Hot body!" It annoys me, but I'm glad that I DON'T want comments like "ohhh niceee body ;)" I also can't stand 'teacher's pets' or 'suckups.' One of my teacher's has played 'favorites' all throughout middle school. I just felt annoyed and offended. Was it because she thought I wasn't a goody goody, or that I don't suck up to her like other have done? I just don't know how I'm going to deal with these nerves. I hate the thought of twice as much of copiers, fakes, sluts, teacher's pets... If anyone gets what I mean. Not only that, I can't stand people who think they're better than others either. D:< I don't like people who think their lives are better than mine, or others. More people can also mean more people that's better than me at something. I feel like I'm not good enough, and that I just suck. I don't want to be the BEST, but I hate feeling like I can't do anything right. As I keep wondering how high school is going to be like, I don't want people to judge me. I think about "what if I'm late to class because I get lost? I don't want to be the only one to walk in the classroom, I'll look like a fool." You know how you walk in the classroom and people just stare at you?! I don't want that to happen, cause I know people will judge me, especially by my looks. Sometimes I feel ugly, compared to many girls out there. I mean, I'm pretty flatchested. -__- I also think about when lunch time comes. How will I find my friends? Like what if I get there before them. I'll be looking for a spot to sit and eat, I'll look like a lonely fool. o.o That thought makes me feel awkward. D: Another thing I'm thinking about is that I have this Keyboard-Piano class during 2nd semester. I keep thinking, "how am I going to do in this class? I bet we'll have to make up our own songs and PRESENT them in front of the CLASS. And probably take tests too... in front of everyone." I'm worried I'm going to get judged by how I can play, or how i do. On the brighter side, this is in 2nd semester. I'm thinking I'll make some great new friends by then! I'm sad that I have to leave my old friends and school behind. I've grown attached. xD I KNOW I have to move on though. Friendships in highschool seem like chaos. I hope I can make some close friends, out of everyone in the WHOLE school. o__o I'm tired of being like the 3rd wheel. I may make friends, but maybe the kind where I'm just the 'backup friend.' :( I might be acting overdramatic though... Maybe I'm overanalyzing things? I can't get over the thought, I might be one of the suckiest violin players in orchestra compared to all these other skilled players. I won't be the prettiest girl around, so guys will always look me over for all the other cute attractive girls... I don't want to be judged. I don't want to be hated. and what about being in a relationship? I don't want to get hurt. There's just SO MANY people in high school to fall for. It can also be easy to cheat on someone. :| It's also hard for me to be myself when someone has the same clothes as me. I'm pretty sure everyone has had that feeling before. It's a small town, and where else are people going to shop? Most likely the mall. x.x I don't want to seem, act, or look stupid or like a fool either. I tried out for the IB program at my school, but I got 'rejected.' It was just a big slap in the face for me because i felt like I was stupid and wasn't good enough. I'm also kind of glad because I don't think I can handle all the work. :| Which reminds me, I'm ALSO concerned about the amount of work. I'm not very good at managing my time. I also haven't read any books in the LONGEST time so I bet my brain has rotted. Can anyone give me any advice on how I can cope with my nerves? I'm sure most people will understand how I feel. D: my friend has told me to think positive. I TRY, but it's not working very well! :\ I have a major problem of letting other people get to me. One little thing, or one person can just get to me and I get infuriated very easily... I need advice... Help! (Sorry if this is long...)

Hello.

I was a freshman three years ago- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!

Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.

People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.

Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.

Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:

Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.

Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.

All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school freshmen year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.

--Jack
(17/m/Senior)

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Alright so last night this guy came to give me a hug and I hugged him but he wouldn't let go. And I was like "Dude, I gotta go." And he kept saying "Tap out! Tap out! Tap out!" and laughing. What does "tap out" mean??

14/f

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=tap+out

To submit or give up.
I was fighting Corey and he was so hurt he needed to stop. So he tapped out.


I guess he was saying he had to leave.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My best friend told me she liked to watch things that starred Cary Grant. I thought I might buy her something for her birthday that stars the actor. Well, the problem is that I don't really know who Cary Grant actually is. I mean, I just assume he's an actor.

So, can somebody tell me some things that Cary Grant stars or has starred in? Preferably something good or something that he is famous for. Then I can take the information and go from there on looking for a DVD set or something...

My slogan is:

"When in doubt, Wikipedia is your best friend."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cary_Grant#Filmography

--Jack
(17/m)

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I was doing stuff with a guy and he wanted to cum on my boobs..but it didnt exactly go there, it dripped toward my vag area..like on it, but not in it..it was at the top of it and then i got up really slowly and carefully and rushed to wash it off but im really scared i could be pregnant. he said im not but i dont know

If the sperm didn't go into your vagina, then you can't be pregnant.

Please be more careful next time.

--Jack
(17/m)

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so my friend and her boyfriend were making out and like dry humping and he ended up jizzing in his pants and he she had no underpants on and so lows. she said her pants were wet and his boner was liek in her and she peed liek 15 minutes later. is it possible she could be pregnant? i told her to take an ovulation test.

Unless sperm went into her vagina, then no.

But, if "his boner was liek in her", then maybe.

Tell her to stop being so stupid when she does this stuff.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Your page doesn't show up. Sorry.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok well there's this song in spanish called "He Querido Quererte" By Franco El Gorila can anyone translate that whole song in english... thanks so much =]!

http://www.allthelyrics.com/forum/spanish-lyrics-translation/66250-can-someone-please-translate-he-querido-quererte-in-english.html

The second person translated line by line for you.


--Jack
(17/m)

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Hey ive got a HP Pavilion dv6 dv6-1133ea i know i repeated the dv6 but i took it word for word.Okay i am wondering which Graphics cards will fit my laptop and which one is the best

Theymos is right; graphics cards can't normally be replaced on laptops. Sorry. =/

--Jack
(17/m)

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15/f

iwant to know more faster chirsitan bands and music so i can put it on my myspace. i love hawk nelson and family force 5. i also love tobymac. that are good songs that other bands sing like those?

DecembeRadio, The Rocket Summer, Relient K, Everyday Sunday, Jars of Clay, The Fray.


**EDIT**

Laura above me mentioned one of my favorite Christian Rock bands, which I stupidly left out:

Stellar Kart.

Amazing =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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17/f

So everyone, it seems like last night I slept like a baby, but my dreams made me so uneasy every time I woke up. I know that some people don't believe in dream interpretation, others do. So for those who wanna take a stab at it, I'd really appreciate this :]

My first dream was basically either my bf's dad dying, or my dad. Either way, it made me feel super horrible in this dream. But before the death, I remember it was wintery, and there was a reporter doing what he did best (reporting lol) and there was a machine. Idk what it was but he put his eye close to it and all this glass shot out, hitting him in his eye. And all I remember is watching him roll around in pain and blood dripping and I couldn't do anything. Then he attempted to take out the glass and his whole eye came out but the eye was very long like in the cartoons and thats when I felt like dying in my own dream...

My second dream was pretty normal, I went somewhere to do paperwork, like the DMV, and after a while it seems like I'm walking home with my bf in my old neighborhood... When I get to the building I ring the wrong doorbells and this older woman comes out saying who the hell rang her doorbell so we ignored her and walked in the house. My parents were there and the lady unlocked the door... throughout that whole dream she chose me as her victim to put a curse on, she would follow us around with her daughter, making sure I would have the curse on me, and there was this guy on a missing poster, and I realized these 2 women put the curse on him too.

I don't know it's really weird, I RARELY dream about death of a loved one.. or death in general. To sum it up, I've never had these types of dreams... Anyone care to help?

Uniq :]

To dream about the death of a loved one, suggests that you are lacking a certain aspect or quality that the loved one embodies. Ask yourself what makes this person special or what do you like about him. It is that very quality that you are lacking in your own relationship or circumstances. Alternatively, it indicates that whatever that person represents has no part in your own life.

To dream that you or someone is under a curse, suggests that you are getting caught up in your own guilt. You also need to proceed with caution in some situation or relationship.

To dream that you or someone is cursing, refers to your inner fears. It also means that you are becoming a hardened person.




That's what I found on dreammoods.com

--Jack
(17/m)

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is it okay to not want people to go to your house?
cuz i always go to my friends houses.
do they want to come here?

Yeah, I think it's fine. Sometimes it just takes getting used to to have friends over.

Maybe they want to come over, talk to them about it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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