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Q: My name is Sarah, im 13. I don't know if what i am doing is right, here it goes;
I really like this guy, it's a feeling i can't explain. There one problem, he lives in New York, and he started this band that sorta got into a TV show and now he's all famous. But.. we never actually met in person. But i don't know what to do, because i have lots of confedance in meeting him someday but maybe.. im just falling in love with another celeb?..
Please help.
Sarah

Well first of all, you are 13 years-old and you really don't need to be worried about falling in love, be a kid. Not to be rude. Second, if you never really met the guy in person then you really don't know him and therefore cannot really know if you love him or just his internet persona. My advice to you is to just let him go. Another guy will come along pretty soon and completely take your mind off of this celeb guy.

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I'm sorry if thats really not what you wanted to hear, but I really do not believe that I deserved a 1. You said yourself that you didn't know if you were falling for him, and if you were in love with him you would know. Time can only tell what you feel for him, but if you aren't sure if you love him then you probably don't. But for the time being just live your life to the fullest and don't worry about love just yet sooner or later your life will be filled with drama caused by love.

Q: Well couple of weeks ago my boyfriend had girls over at his house & he lied about it. Well now i just cant trust him & its so hard not to be with him all the time to make sure , he lives in a neighborhood FULL of freaking whores & his friends are the greatest influence on him either. He says he's getting tired of it because i always have some smart stuff to say about it , Im just SOO scared its going to happen again even though he says its not but im scared because of my scaredness & not trusting him that its eventually going to break us up because he says he's already tired of it , idk what to do & tomorrow he's getting his license so it makes things worst on my part . idk what to do , helpppp !

Well if you really want your relationship to work then you are going to have to learn to trust him. He may screw it up and lose your trust but if you don't trust him then things are never going to work out.
Let him know that you do trust him, but that because he lied you don't trust him a full one hundred percent yet. Make sure he knows that it may take some time to get it back and if he isn't willing to take that time and try then he isn't worth it and you should just let it go. Sorry if I was a little blunt ;]
About his friends, most guys are highly influenced by their friends and as their girlfriends there is really nothing we can do about it. You could try befriending them so they respect you and won't try to pressure him into anything, but it may not work.

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Q: 28/f

me and my husband have been married for 7 years now and have been together for 9. the whole time we were dating we were very sexually active and for the first three years of our marriage we were very spontanious with our love life. for example we'd have sex everywhere from the kitchen counter, our hot tub, the shower. But now we have a six year old son and i'm always taking him to soccer practice or something after school and me and my husband work full time. i feel like we have no time left for ourselves. our sex life is practically scheduled for wednesdays only because thats when my son goes with a carpool to soccer practice, leaving me and my husband alone at home, when normally me or my husband takes him and stays with him there until its over.

i want to know how to spice things up because we do want more children but i'd like to know how to make our situation better before it gets worse. we're still young, it shouldn't be this hard.

You guys really just need to make time for yourself. Maybe try letting your child have a play date with some of his friends, or maybe get a babysitter, or send them to your mom's for the day? Anything to give you and your husband some alone time, so you can keep your sex life going. Maybe even having a quickie on his lunch hour or something. Be spontaneous with it.

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Q: when told to take birth control "at the exact time" everyday to make it like..regulate better

is 5 minutes before or after the "set time" a big deal?

No 5 minutes isn't a big deal at all. As long as you remember to take a pill everyday and stay on track you should be fine, but remember it still isn't a hundred percent way to prevent pregnancy.

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Q: 36/m

Briefly, the facts of my situation are as follows:

I had an emotional affair. It was a long-distance matter between me and a woman I used to know before I met my wife. When my wife began to realize what was going on (and it didn't take her long, because I'm lousy at keeping secrets and she's very perceptive) I ended it, and told my affair partner that I would not be contacting her again. I meant it, too.

That might have been the end of it, but a couple of days ago my wife looked into my e-mail account and discovered everything had been going on - things that she had not been aware of and which I had not intended to tell her. To make a long story short, the nature of the affair had turned sexual, and there were E-mails sent back and forth where we described that sort of thing in detail. There were confessions of love from both sides, and intimate revelations of other sorts. There were also plans for us to try to get together sometime soon (plans which I aborted before my wife even found out about anything, because I came to my senses about that much at least). I was lying to my wife about all of these things, and now those lies are fully exposed.

Of course, my wife is furious and terribly hurt, and she is considering ending our marriage.

I am deeply remorseful of what I've done. Right now I can barely look my wife in the eye, because I am so ashamed of myself. I think I might take my own life if I didn't know that it would only make things worse for my wife and child (for now, my child remains unaware of anything wrong, that goodness for that).

I know that I committed a terrible wrong, and I want to make amends and repair my marriage. I need advice on how to do that. I am willing to do literally whatever it takes to make things right again. I want to change myself so that I will be a better man, someone she deserves to have for a husband, instead of the lying cheater that I have proven to be.

Does anyone have any thoughts on what I can do or say to convince her that my intentions are sincere, that I truly am sorry, and that it absolutely will not happen again? Are there any of you out there who have gone through this on either end and might have some advice for what I can do now? And can anyone give me some idea on how I can work to improve myself and my own personal integrity so that this doesn't happen again?

I ask only that responders refrain from slamming me down regarding my wrongful actions - nothing that anyone can say will make me feel worse about it than I already do, so to harp on that will be pointless. Please, just tell me what I can do now.

Getting someones trust back after you cheat can be a very long and difficult process, but if you really care about your wife and family it is possible.
The first step is admitting that you were wrong and apologizing to your wife. Then really all you can do is to try your best and show here that you are really sorry and that you really want to make things work.
She is going to be pissed, I mean who wouldn't be? But everyone makes mistakes and she has to realized that, you may also want to think about maybe seeing a counselor if you can't work the problem out on your own. That can be a very fruitful option.
As for making yourself feel better, you may never forgive yourself for it. You seem like you love your wife and that you are truly sorry and forgiving yourself for hurting the people you love can be harder than people actually forgiving you. You just have to realize that you are human, you aren't perfect and things can fixed and okay. If you really love one another and want things to work then they will, but you have to be willing to work for it. It will be hard, for both of you, but it will be worth it in the long run.
Good Luck with everything and I hope it works out.

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Q: I'm researching Birth Control alot lately because I just started it about a week and a half ago.

I had sex after being on it for a week.
With a Condom
and My boyfriend Didn't even ejaculate.

Is this statement true...
"For the first 7 days of taking the Pill, a girl should use an additional form of contraception, such as condoms, to prevent pregnancy. After 7 days, the Pill should work alone to prevent pregnancy."
?

Because I see it in a few places. I just am a very causious and safe person, and don't want to worry myself at ALL ..because it may just delay my period.

Any Birth control facts about beginning sexual intercourse or anyting, let me know :)

When I got my birth control I was told to wait a month before engaging in intercourse and to still use other types of contraceptives, just in case. You should still use condomns even if you are on the pill, because nothing is 100% except for abstinence. Just to be safe use condomns =]

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Q: if you're on your period,
should you NOT get fingered?

It's not that you shouldn't or can't, it's just that it is kind of gross for the boy and can make a little bit of a mess. In my opinion, I would say not to do it, but if you want to then more power to you.

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Q: haha this is weird but when you get fingered do you like stand up or lay down?

There really is no right or wrong way to doing it, but laying down would probably be less painless and alot less awkward for the both of you. Standing would put both people at awkward angles and you wouldn't be able to enjoy it as much, if you are laying down you are comfortable and able to focus on it rather than keeping your balance and such.

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Q: Okay, so I'm 17 and a junior at my local high school.
I dated a guy for almost 7 months, and then realized I didn't have the same feelings for him, so I broke up with him Last Thursday. I Told him how I felt... that I didn't want a boyfriend at the time and that I needed to focus on my school (online and community college courses) and that I haven't been myself and that I wasn't happy. I also haven't been hanging out with my friends (which devastated me).

Anyways, so we broke up, Friday night, he tried arguing with me over MYSPACE (which was stupid and pointless) and basically told me I was nothing but a lie. The second day (Sat) I passed him driving home and he just stared at me, so my mom called my cellular device and told me that he called her asking for his stuff (which I told him I would give it to him on Tuesday night... the night I don't work.) And so her boss died that day, so she wasn't able to give it to him. I wasn't able to give his stuff to him because I was with my dad who was 20-30 minutes away from my mom's house.
So THENN, he called all day on Sunday and so we agreed not to involve our friends, I respected that... and then he INVOLVES MY MOM, AND HIS MOM. His mom came over and was basically talking shit about me. I didn't care...

So I've been over him since the first night... so then me and one of my best friends were commenting back and forth on Myspace.. well somehow someone found it... THEN THEY PRINTED FOUR COPIES OF IT, PUT IT IN AN ENVELOPE AND PUT IT ON MY FRIEND'S CARS (INCLUDING MY EX'S.) I KNOW IT WAS HIS MOM, it just makes sense because WHO ELSE KNOWS WHERE ALL FOUR OF US LIVE?? Anyways, so then today I knew he had read it, and so In the hall going to second period (I'm now in 3rd period) and so he goes "GOODLUCK GINGER!!!"
Well he's being a psycho bitch and his mom is fucking crazy!

I want to cuss him out so bad, but at the same time I want to show some major class to where he knows it doesn't bother me (It doesn't really bother me, except the fact that who else would stalk me and find out what I'm saying??), and show how much of a psycho he and his mom is.

How can I do that?
What Should I Do?
Thanks in advance! :]

By the way, when I found out someone did that... I laughed so hard and so did my mom. And the comments that I said were:
"My summer Goals:
#1 Have the Best time of my life.
#2 Get Drunk.
#3 Get Laid (I already have 3 guys in mind) Lmaooooooooo."

I mean, can you obviously see that I'm kidding... for the most part? Why can't he get a fuckin jokee??

Thanks so much guys, I'd really appreciate your help. :]

Oh p.s I've already deleted him off of my myspace this morning.

I think that it is really great that you want to be the mature one and just ignore it and I also think that is the best thing to do. This is just immature highschool drama and it sounds like he just needs to get over himself and his mom needs to get her head out of his butt [[pardon my french]].
He is probably just upset because you broke up with him and hurt him, but if you don't care about someone in the same way that you used to then you should break-up with him rather than lead them on. You could probably try leaving him a message on myspace or something of that sort telling him that you didn't mean to hurt him, but that you felt it was better than hurting him worse in the long run. Let him know that you are not going to react to what he is doing, but that if it continues you may be forced to take action. If you feel it escalates to invasion of your privacy or harrasment I advise telling someone in power so they can deal with it, but until then just continue to ignore him and go on about your life.

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Q: me and my boyfriend broke up last night and he says its because of who i am...that im just a messed up person...our arguements are so dumb and when we get to a point were we are going to break up over them it just kills me and all of our arguments i dont ever have a say so...i dont ever get to explain my self...its always him pointing me out that im wrong for this and that and im just a shady person...and when i do try to explain myself he tells o just shut up those are just excuses and for me to just keep it real...I FEEL LIKE IM BEING LOOKED AT AS A LITTLE KID THAT CANT TALK BACK TO THERE PARENT... OUR LAST ARGUEMENT WAS OVER CLOTHES.... WE WERE SUPPOSE TO GO TO A WATER PARK WITH MY FAMILY AND WE WERE TALKIN ABOUT HOW I HOPE THERES GOING TO BE NICE WEATHER AS SOON I SAID THAT HE SAID, WHY WHAT YOU GOING TO WEAR? I TOLD HIM I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MY MOM ARE SUPPOSED TO GO SHOPPING FOR SOME CLOTHES BEFORE WE GO TO THE WATER PARK. HE GOT MAD AND SAID, MAN WHY DO ALWAYS TRY TO GO AROUND THE BUSH I SAID HOW? HE SAID YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO WEAR DONT ACT DUMB THATS WHAT YOU ALWAYS DO YOU TRY TO TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD TO WERE YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO WEAR. I TOLD HIM THAT WHAT ARE YOU TALKIN ABOUT I JUST TOLD YOU I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MOM ARE SUPPOSE TO SHOP FOR SOME CLOTHES. HE JUST KEPT GETTTING MAD AT ME AND TELLIN ME IM A LIAR THAT I DO KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO WEAR AND THAT I JUST WANT TO NOT TELL HIM BECAUSE I KNOW HES GOING TO GET MAD OF WHAT IM GONIG TO WEAR HE ALSO SAID THAT I JUST WANT TO WEAR WHAT I WANT AND SHOW OFF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY AND THAT IF I LIKE LOOKING GOOD FOR EVERYONE ELS THEN I SHOULD BE A MODEL AND POSE FOR EVERYONE. THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT I DO I JUST GET DRESSED BECAUSE I LIKE TO LOOOK CUTE...I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM I HATE WHEN YOU ACT LIKE THIS....AM I WRONG?? OR IS HE THE THATS WRONG...WHAT SHOULD I DO?

In my opinion he sounds like he is the shady person and that he really has some control and anger issues. You are right to be angry at him for getting angry with you and blowing up on you like that. If you can't communicate and talk about your problems rationally then there really is no room for a relationship.
I think that you should really get out of the relationship as quickly as possible. Relationships like this can quickly escalate to abusive ones, physical and emotional. You need to stay away from him until he learns to deal with his anger and control himself. Let him know that you don't like the way he has been acting and that you believe that you need to get out of the relationship. But be careful about it, because you don't want things to get out of control. If he does hit you or you believe he is emotionally abusing you, tell someone quickly. Remember it's not your fault, it's his.

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Q: 20/f
So...I dated this guy for awhile in my freshman year (of college. I'm now a senior), and we're still very close. Well, we were. At one point I felt like no one knew me the way he did, and he felt the same way about me. We called each other our best friends, never referred to each other as exes and hung out for days on end, sometimes, and at the last day wouldn't want to part ways. He'd stay the night with me and cuddle me in his sleep, too. We broke up because the timing was just...bad. He couldn't handle what he was feeling for me, and I was freaked too, but instead of running I wanted to stick it out. He's a commitmentphobe, and he just wasn't ready to be in a steady relationship. He never cheated on me, though. I don't resent him for ending things, and I've forgiven him for the damage he caused.
He was my closest friend for so long, and all of a sudden I feel like he's pulling away from me, even though we've been hanging out more lately. He used to include me in everything he did with his friends, but last night he was gonna watch the basketball game with a couple of them. I was there 'cause we'd been hanging out before, and he was like "You can go if you want, ***'s gonna be here any minute."
Which is his way of trying to be nice about asking me to leave. So I responded, "I kinda wanted to watch the game...unless you just wanted to hang out with ***."
He said, "I kinda did, but I mean you can stay if you want."
So I took that as my cue to leave, put on my shoes, and walked out. I told him "Don't worry about it, I'll go home and do some artwork." (I wound up just watching the game alone) 'Cause I didn't want him to feel bad, or anything. He's entitled to want a boys' night as much as I am to want a girls' night.
I feel like I have to push and push to get him to hang out with me, when he used to call me every chance he got, just to say hi. He went to Vegas with his family over the summer, and called me five or six times a day because he missed me.
I don't get what happened. We didn't have any fights or anything, so I'm just...confused.
Not only that, but for god knows what reason, I really miss being with him. Our relationship pretty much sucked, and I haven't actually missed him in a really long time. I just keep thinking about how safe I felt in his arms, how I never felt the way about anyone that I did about him...still do...I don't know what's going on.
I guess I'm just kinda asking for some feedback.

Well you do have to kind of accept the fact that you aren't dating and you are just friends, therefore you can't get mad at him for not hanging out with you. It isn't that he is necessarily pulling away, he may just be hanging out with other friends and wanting to experience other things. I know it is hard to deal with losing someone, especially someone that you are really close to and feel safe with, but you really just have to let him go and realize that if you guys are meant to be together then you will and if not, oh well you will find someone better.

Maybe you could try talking to him and letting him know how you feel about him. You guys don't have to make a relationship out of it, but it may change his opinion and make your friendship stronger. Don't force him to hang out with you though, he may feel like you are suffocating him and if that happens then he is really going to pull away and you may lose him as a friend forever. Accept that he wants his space and give it to him, and in time maybe he will realize how much you mean to him and how much he misses your company.

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Q: ever since me and my last boyfriend broke up people wont date me because they think im a whore but ive only dated 3 guys this year do you think im a whore or whats up

I think that alot of rumors get started, especially if you are in highschool. You aren't a whore just because you have dated 3 people this year, and if people are going to believe that and not date you then they are just idiots. Ignore them and don't make a big deal out of it, sooner or later it will pass.

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Q: okay so im 16& i have this boyfriend. and ive been "going out" with him for a month. i need to break up with him but i dont know how. i did before i felt bad so i took him back. this time i want it to end for good. hes too clingy and is all "i love you". hes (no offence) weird..like he listens to weird music and thats somthing i dont like. i cant related to him anymore. hes kind of a poser and a REALLY BIG LIER!(he even lied about his age!)and i cant take it anymore. he told me that hes going to kill himself or he tried. and that im the only good thing ih his life!he told me i wood break his heart if i broke up with him cause hes in "love" help!!

The best thing for you to do is to let him down easily, you can't put yourself in an uncomfortable situation or when you aren't happy, just for someone else. Here is another tip, most people who tell you they are going to kill themselves really don't have the guts to do it or at least not the intentions to. They just tell you that so you won't leave them.
Let him know that you just aren't compatible, but that you would still like to remain friends.

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Q: 13/f
so this is a classic story of im in love with my best friendd...with a huge twist.

ok so my best friend(we'll call him 1.) is an amazikng guy. i am in love with him and have been for a while now. my problem is that my friend told him i liked him and he said he only thought of me as a friend. that hurt me really bad. so i tried to accept it but i am having some troubles with it. he acts like he likes me too. and he is not like this with anyone but me. here are some examples

he plays with my hair
he says my name more than anyone i know
he finds anyway possible to touch me
he looks me straight in the eye
he tries his hardest to make me laugh
^which is pretty easy for him
he gets his head REALLY close too mine when he can
he tries to impress me
he will try to find a way to be beside me a class

ok so yea...does he like me or not?

HERE IS THE TWIST.
about 3 months ago i started talking to a guy online. he is really nice and can easily comfort me and make me feel better. well as soon as we started talking he asked me if we could date. being excited i said yes. so it ended after about 2 1/2 weeks(i ended it). i told him i didnt know him enough and we took it too fast. he understood. so we have been talking for a long time now as friends.well i realized that he is a WONDERFUL guy and i have feelings for him. not love but something like idk i would date him and see where it goes. so i told him this and he said he still liked me too. so i asked him if this meant we were dating again or what. he said it was completely up to me. so i told him that i wasnt sure what to do because of this other guy.and if i did date him i would feel kinda guilty because i like another guy. he said that if dating him was going to make me feel guilty he didnt want me to feel that way because of him. i told him i would feel bad because i wouldnt feel 100% true to him. he said that it was my decision and the ball was in my court. i told him that yes i wanted to date him.

so here is my other question... did i make the right chioce or did i make a bad choice because i am in love with another guy? help please!!

Well you are only 13 years-old so you have a long time before you really have to worry about falling in love right now. Don't worry about making the wrong choice, live life to the fullest and the best way you know how. If you screw something up then oh well, you have a long time to make up for it. Go with your gut, but don't jump to conclusions, if you don't know the guy on the interenet very well, then I would say to just give it time. You may also want to give your friend some time to see where he stands.

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Q: I am deeply in love with a girl. She happens to be my class mate nd we are pretty close friends. I told her how i felt cos i couldnt keep it inside any longer and I thought it was best to tell her. Well she doesnt love me the way i love her for now (Thats wat she said). She says that I am a great guy and all. She just wants to be my friend for now (thats what she said exactly).So I asked her if anything could happen between us in the future (A pretty stupid move i think) and she said probably not. That hurt a lot and it still does.One of my our friend also asked her (when i was not around) if she thinks anything could happen between us in the future. She told him that she doesnt know. she likes me as a friend for now and would like to know me more. And she keeps saying i am a great guy and stuff. The problem is that I cant stop loving her. What am i supposed to do? Does anyone think I stand a chance.
we've known each other for the past 5-6 months only..

Maybe she does have feelings for you or may develop them, but doesn't want to dive right into a relationship with someone she has only known for a few months, I think that is very wise. You should just keep hanging out with her and being friends, don't make yourself stop loving her. Maybe sooner or later she will grow feelings or admit to them and you guys can give it a try. But for now your best bet is to just give her some space and keep on showing her who you are. Don't give up on it just yet, who knows what might happen in a month or a year.

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Q: okay hey guys so i just wanted someone else’s opinion on this.

last year I went out with my ex boyfriend for about a year and then last September he all of the sudden broke up with me telling me he had no more feelings they changed. We had a great relationship and nothing was going wrong at all and he always told me no matter what he was always going to love me. Ever since the whole break up I haven’t spoken to him unless I had to because of school or something related to school.

I have music class with my ex and he’s always looking at me or talking really loud so I can hear things about his band and always making out with his girlfriend of the week in front of me and he’s always playing the songs he wrote for me in music class. Keep in mind I don’t ever talk to him and I sit and mind my own business in the back of the room.

I really don’t understand it. Every other girlfriend and boyfriend break up and either they talk or they don’t. this has been about 9 or 10 months now that we haven’t been together and I feel like it just doesn’t end I feel like there’s still something there.

Thanks so much I just wanted to know someone’s opinion on this whole thing

I think that he is trying to make you feel bad and jealous, he may have really liked you and regret breaking up with you, so he is trying to make you miss him so maybe you will try to talk to him and get back with him. Or he may simply be playing games with you and trying to be a jerk about it. I think your best bet is to just keep on ignoring him, don't let him have the satisfaction of seeing you hurting. Stand your ground and just let him play alone. Sooner or later he will get bored and move on, hopefully.

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Q: my ex boyfriend and i were friend for like 2 yrs before and we became close. he treated girls kinda badly and could be a jerk but when hes alone hes great. we have liked each other on and off the whole time but i had a bf and he dated a couple girls. finally after being 'together' for a while he asked me out. i had just transfered schools so he and i didnt see each other at school only at church or when we hung out. he treated me great and was so nice and sweet and always had time for me. he became my very best friend and i depended on him. he knew i was moving but as it got closer he started pulling away. this was the complete opposite of what i wanted to do. i wanted to spend all the time i could with him so i was clinging on. he had less and less time for me and i was upset and crying all the time. he said he missed me and stuff but didnt show it. finally we broke up and now we arent even friends. this is because hes avoiding me because he doesnt want to have to deal with the emotions of me moving.

he doesnt have many friends because he is a jerk with a lot of people but nice at church/one on one. i have found out that he flirted with a bunch of girls at school and stuff cause i wasn't there which makes me so hurt. i thought he was special. he and i had this bond and he was different from the other guys i had dated. he was the first guy i have loved up to the point that i can love a boy because i know I am young but i did care about him a lot. he said he truly cared for me and i think he did but i think hes too immature right now. he feels very self conscious and is treated badly at home so he needs to feel like he can get a girl to make himself feel better.

i know i should be over him but i miss having someone always there for me. i told him everything about me and he knew me as well as i knew myself. and i feel so bad and feel like i should be there for him because his home life is really screwed up. i guess i dont miss HIM but i miss having SOMEONE there for me who cared and everything. also i feel SO hurt and betrayed for him distancing from me and flirted with those girls. he hid things from me and lied. but a part of me wants to hold on because i want a person there for me. i know i need to be independant but i dont know how to get over this feeling of needing him. part of me feels so pathetic and is so angry torwards him but the other part holds on and worries about him. he wont talk to me either and avoids me so i just dont know what to do anymore. this has been going on for about a month. i NEED to get over this but i just cant figure out how. i want to feel independant and like i dont need a guy. i also want to let go of my hurt and pain and sadness and anger and frusteration and i think sitting down and talking would work but he wont talk to me. i have tried many times. and i have written down my feelings but it doesnt change anything. PLEASE HELP

This can be a very difficult thing to deal with, losing someone you love in way like yours makes it hurt 10x's more. He may be pulling away because, like you said, his homelife is bad and he can't stand the thought of losing someone else that he cares about. So he distances himself from everyone and therefor avoids all the pain that is involved with any relationship with another human being.

I think you best bet is just to let him go. Move on with your life in the best way that you know how. Get hobbies, hang out with friends, and give him space. Maybe in a few months you can try to talk to him again and you can be friends. If you don't want to just give up and let go maybe you can send him a message somehow that lets him know all of your feelings, that way at least you know that you tried to be there for him and you let him know what you were feeling. If he doesn't respond then just forget about it and move on, though that is one of the hardest things to do.

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Q: ok, lets start of by saying.. i hav this boyfriend right... weve been together for about a month and a half. everything is going good but theres a few issues i dont know how to handle.
1) his Ex... who happens to be one of my good friends.. the issue is .... i mean, i love her to death.. shes pretty cool with me, but ill admit she can be a real... hmm.. b**** to him too sumtimes. she never liked him. she used him. he fell really hard for her and he had liked her for a while and even wen they dated for that little time.. most of the time she was cheating on him (which i didnt know at the time). well anyways.. even tho she broke his heart repeatedly he still liked her after that for a while. hes tried to hav a few girlfriends after that but they never worked out because 1. him n the girls were usually not friends. 2. he wud always go back to liking his EX, even tho she hurt him so much..
ive tried to be there by his side during every single one of these situations... and ive stuck around because we were best friends, so i know wat would happen each and every time. but this time, he says its different. he even told me he loves me and i told him the same. but back to his ex, im afraid the same thing will happen.. becuz he still kinda considered her one of his best friends still !! and i dont wanna get hurt if he tells me the same old story...
im asking for help on how to make the feelings kind of go away.. i trust him with my heart and to not break it, but the feeling of fear is still there.. is there is way to make it go away?
im kind of happy because so far hes lasted with me longer than the 3 othr gf's after her tht lasted lik a few days...
but he even promises me that he would never hurt me because i mean the world to him, i was the only one that helped him get over his broken heart and hes so amazing and sweet to me.. i know he would never hurt me, or anyone on purpose because he knows what thats like and i know hes not the type of person to hurt sumone on purpose... but sumtimes you cant control your feelings, but i see differences than with the other girls.. *he told me he loved me. *hes lasted with me longer than the other girls *hes still amazing to me, even after this time we've been together and hes not showing any "shifty" signs.. meaning.. he doesnt seem to be "Moving on from me".. at least it seems it because he still acts the same, only every day he acts sweeter to me and more and more amazing and tells me how much he really loves me and that im the first person to realize who he really is and truely accept him..

I think that if you really care about this guy that you should be truthful to him and let him know that that girl is being rude to him and talking about him. It sounds like you really care about him and don't want to lose him, well just have faith in him and your relationship. Be truthful to him and let him know you care. Tell him that girl is talking about him and really isn't what she seems to be. It may cause some drama though so be ready to deal with it, but remember that if you love someone it is always best to tell them the truth to start with, because a lie will hurt them more in the long run. I really hope things work out for you guys and you continue to have a wonderful relationship.

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Q: seems like everyone in this world can not just be with one person. they end up cheating. why are people like that?

Though it doesn't happen often it does happen, I think that usually people, especially younger people, commit to soon and they don't have time to get to know one another. They dive right into relationships or marriage, then they lack communication and the relationship fails, because they can't talk about their problems and work through them. If any person works hard enough and wants to be with someone then they will.

I also think that it is this generation. People are never satisfied with what they have and they are more selfish. They worry about themselves and no one else, they are used to having everything to themselves and not having to work hard at anything. Relationships take time, effort, and unselfishness, and most people won't give it the attention they need.

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Q: Ok, well im 14/f and i havent had my "first kiss" yet and all of my friends have. They always ask me in front of other guys, "have you kissed a boy yet?" and im like, "no." But anyways, i feel weird because all my other friends come in and their like "Omg, i totally made out with this guy and he was such a good kisser!" I know i shouldn't feel like this but i do! Please help.

There is nothing wrong with no having your first kiss yet, maybe you just haven't found the person that you want and that you can celebrate that great moment together. When your friends embarrass you, just laugh it off and ignore them and if you really don't like them doing it then ask them to please not bring it up. It will happens when it happens and you will remember it forever.

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