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My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex sometime soon.. within the month. We are both 16 + virgins and we are going out to buy condoms together. I'm also on birth control, have been for nearly 5 months and I'm excited for sex.

Is that strange of me? I'm actually looking forward to it and I feel really comfortable about it too. Most of my friends didn't feel like this before their first time.. so i feel out of place.
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It's actually great that you are comfortable with the fact that you and your boyfriend will be having sex soon. Just because your friends didn't feel like that does not make you strange. This could just mean that maybe they were not as ready for the experience as you are.

You're also being safe about it. Which makes it even better.

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when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

Yes!

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Okay so i started itching for the past two days down near my vagina at the beginning of it so I looked down to see if I had crabs(but I ain't have no sexual activity) and I saw like 2 or 3 little white things probably wouldn't be near as big a penny. It wasn't as big as piece of lead either.I keep on itching and I still see them white things that move . I don't want to go to the doctor and let me look at me down there I'm really self consious, I'm freaking out right now. What could this be? and What do worms do exactly to you? When people get worms what color are they?

Are you positive this is not crabs? It is rare but crabs can be spread through an infected person's clothes, towels, or linens. You could be mistaking these for worms. Crabs can be of the whitish color.

GO HERE FOR MORE INFO = http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/STDs/crabspubiclice.html

It would be of your best interest to go to the doctors.

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my boyfriend of a year and month dumped me today. i talked to one of his friends, and when my boyfriend asked if i did, i said no. when he found out, he got so mad. he was crying and he thinks that i hide everything from him and that he can't trust me anymore. the only reason i lied is because my boyfriend is so protective and doesn't like me talking to boys. i think that i should be able to talk to boys though. what should i do? i want my boyfriend back, but he doesn't think i should talk to boys. i don't know what to do or say to him.

That's ridiculous. It is perfectly fine to have guy friends, as long as they remain friends. This shows a big sign of him not trusting you whatsoever and also a sign of all his own insecurities.You should tell him flat out that it is pretty well insane that he doesn't want you talking to no boys at all. Tell him that they're are many men in this world and it would be pretty difficult to avoid each and every one of them. A relationship needs trust, and if he can't trust you then there's no fuctioning with that relationship.

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ok i just found out that my 17 year old friend is in love with me and im 13...i asked him if he knew about the age difference and he said that he didnt care....any advice?

Me and my boyfriend have an age difference. He is 17 about to be 18 in two months and I am still 14 but my birthday is in 7 days so basically I'm 15. I will tell you this from experience, it can be difficult at times because the older one tends to have more experience with relationships then the younger one. You'll have to prepare yourself for him knowing much more about relationships. I also have to bring up the point that he'll probably be more experienced with sexual things. Although if you two really do like each other it can be worked out, it will just need some time and I think it's best if you two talk. I know he says he doesn't care but what a 17 year considers a relationship and a 13 year considers a relationship are usually totally different points of views.

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ok. my boyfriend (of almost 2 yrs) is moving 3 hours away. im only 14 but i am in love with this boy. and he just might be the one. but he is moving this yr. and his parents said that they would drive him down EVERY HOLIDAY and on BIRTHDAYS. what should I do?

You're still young but it's your choice if you want to be fully commited to one person. If you truly feel you are in love with this boy, then it is very possible you can make it work. There's always talking to him on the phone, computer, or letters. Not to mention it's great that you'll get to see him on the holidays and birthdays. Sometimes it can actually be better for couples to see each other less and not constently. When you see eachother all the time it's no big deal but if you see each other less it's just more exciting each time you see each other. There's also other options like having an open relationship where you can see other people. I think it's best if you also talk it over with your boyfriend,get his opinion of the matter,and make sure he has the same loving feelings towards you.

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I have a guy friend, Erik and he's very nice, sweet, smart, and is just all the things that i could not want more for in a guy. He always walks me home from school and just about everywhere, because of this incident that happened to me awhile ago. Anyhow, I think I like him a little bit more than just a friend, and i told about it to one of my very closest friend and she thinks that he already started to like me and all, and all the things that he has said to me...he asked me to go to hungary with him for the summer! but unfortunately i couldn't go because of the summer school credit i need to get. He also waited for me over 20 minutes when i was stuck in the class, because a teacher kept the class in. And he taught me some of the driving skills and signs for my driving test. I think i like him maybe a lot more than i said before. But the problem is he is still in Hungary and not coming back until mid-August. what should i do once he comes back?

Well, from all the things you stated it really does seem as if he returns the same "more than friends" feelings to you. I actually had a really close guy friend that I met in one of my classes at school. His name is Josh, and he is now my boyfriend. It's pretty funny because he use to do a lot of cute things for me and I always denied the fact that he could possibly like me. Yet, one day he just admited to me that he liked me. Then he says to me "Well, I was trying to make the hints pretty obvious!". So, basically what I'm trying to say is these could matter of factly be hints that Erik is trying to make pretty obvious to you. Now, what to do when he comes back. You seem like you have a very close relationship with him so I wouldn't doubt that it's easy for you to talk to him. If you feel comfortable enough or confident enough you can simply tell him your feelings. It doesn't even have to be done in person you could do it on the phone, write him a note, or even email. It also depends what type of guy he is. If he's the shy type then it won't be the best idea to wait for him to make the first move or tell you his feelings. I think it should be out in the open first however that you really like him in a more than friendly way. I think it would be better than just making a move on him and hoping he goes along with it.

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my name is kristin and i have not made out or kissed anyone yet and i am planing to go to the movies with this guy and he wants to make out and i want to too. i told him that i have made out b4 too. how do you make out? and also is it okay to make out with my retainer in because if i take it out i have a missing tooth HELP!!!!

Okay, well truthfully it could be made more difficult if you are wearing a retainer. There is no "right" way of kissing someone. Everyone has their own techniques and you don't have to be all fancy with it. It really wasn't the best idea to lie and say you have made out before. If the boy did know that you hadn't made out before he wouldn't be expecting a well let's say more "experienced" kiss. Just make sure to move your tounge around almost like just rubbing his. They do say that if you care about someone enough there is no such thing as a bad kiss.

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