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my boyfriend of a year and month dumped me today. i talked to one of his friends, and when my boyfriend asked if i did, i said no. when he found out, he got so mad. he was crying and he thinks that i hide everything from him and that he can't trust me anymore. the only reason i lied is because my boyfriend is so protective and doesn't like me talking to boys. i think that i should be able to talk to boys though. what should i do? i want my boyfriend back, but he doesn't think i should talk to boys. i don't know what to do or say to him.
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You should be able to talk to anyone you want to, he should trust you, you are being loyal to him and you have done nothing wrong. If he doesn't want you to talk to boys and you listen things will be very hard for you - you would have to talk to people at your school/college and een when you get a job. You can't stop living your life just because he is "protective". explain this to him, but remember everyone relathionship is based on trust.
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That's ridiculous. It is perfectly fine to have guy friends, as long as they remain friends. This shows a big sign of him not trusting you whatsoever and also a sign of all his own insecurities.You should tell him flat out that it is pretty well insane that he doesn't want you talking to no boys at all. Tell him that they're are many men in this world and it would be pretty difficult to avoid each and every one of them. A relationship needs trust, and if he can't trust you then there's no fuctioning with that relationship.
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I agree with you. You should be able to talk to other guys, as long as you aren't cheating on him, then it shouldn't matter. I'm sure he talks to other girls, and if he does, you should tell him about that too. I think you should talk to him about this, and let him know he really needs to just trust you.
It's his insecurities that are making him act this way, and for your relationship to work -- he's going to have to stop being insecure, and begin being more trusting of you.
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Awe. I'm sorry. Sometimes I feel like the exact same way as you, although I lost a lot more then not being able to not talk to guys. I lost my girl friends too! He doesn't talk to his guy friends either because we're so attached. I feel like i'm in a god damn cage sometimes. I tried to talk to my boyfriend before, we've been going out a year and a month also, it didn't work. You should definitly try talking to your ex though. I'm sure you two will get back together! Tell him you've been with him this long, and you obvisioly don't want another guy so to calm down because you love him. Explain you want to be with him alot, but things need to change. Tell him he shouldn't be protective and you wouldn't have to hide things like that if he didn't care so much. Explain that it's HIS friend and not some weirdo random kid. He should understand that his friend wouldn't do something like that. Good luck. If you need anymore leave it in my inbox.
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