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bf and his EX issues...
ok, lets start of by saying.. i hav this boyfriend right... weve been together for about a month and a half. everything is going good but theres a few issues i dont know how to handle.
1) his Ex... who happens to be one of my good friends.. the issue is .... i mean, i love her to death.. shes pretty cool with me, but ill admit she can be a real... hmm.. b**** to him too sumtimes. she never liked him. she used him. he fell really hard for her and he had liked her for a while and even wen they dated for that little time.. most of the time she was cheating on him (which i didnt know at the time). well anyways.. even tho she broke his heart repeatedly he still liked her after that for a while. hes tried to hav a few girlfriends after that but they never worked out because 1. him n the girls were usually not friends. 2. he wud always go back to liking his EX, even tho she hurt him so much..
ive tried to be there by his side during every single one of these situations... and ive stuck around because we were best friends, so i know wat would happen each and every time. but this time, he says its different. he even told me he loves me and i told him the same. but back to his ex, im afraid the same thing will happen.. becuz he still kinda considered her one of his best friends still !! and i dont wanna get hurt if he tells me the same old story...
im asking for help on how to make the feelings kind of go away.. i trust him with my heart and to not break it, but the feeling of fear is still there.. is there is way to make it go away?
im kind of happy because so far hes lasted with me longer than the 3 othr gf's after her tht lasted lik a few days...
but he even promises me that he would never hurt me because i mean the world to him, i was the only one that helped him get over his broken heart and hes so amazing and sweet to me.. i know he would never hurt me, or anyone on purpose because he knows what thats like and i know hes not the type of person to hurt sumone on purpose... but sumtimes you cant control your feelings, but i see differences than with the other girls.. *he told me he loved me. *hes lasted with me longer than the other girls *hes still amazing to me, even after this time we've been together and hes not showing any "shifty" signs.. meaning.. he doesnt seem to be "Moving on from me".. at least it seems it because he still acts the same, only every day he acts sweeter to me and more and more amazing and tells me how much he really loves me and that im the first person to realize who he really is and truely accept him.. <3
heres a connected issue.. his EX isnt really his friend.. even tho im his gf, she comes out and tells me mean stuff to my face, stuff lik she doesnt really like him and only talks to him when theres nuthing better to do.. shes really mean about it and hes confused because he told me he realized him and her are better off as friends and he thinks they are friends but theyre really not. hes being a friend to her, but shes not being a friend to him, instead she talks about him constantly. i always knew she never really liked him after they broke up, because even when they were together she wud be "evil" to him and still talk about him to her biffle.
the question is... wat do i do?!!!
he wants me to tell him whats up with her and why shes acting that way, kind of ignoring him.. but what he doesnt know is that shes not his friend even though he thinks it! wat do i do? how do i tell him...? i cant stand how hes being fooled with by her still...
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I think that if you really care about this guy that you should be truthful to him and let him know that that girl is being rude to him and talking about him. It sounds like you really care about him and don't want to lose him, well just have faith in him and your relationship. Be truthful to him and let him know you care. Tell him that girl is talking about him and really isn't what she seems to be. It may cause some drama though so be ready to deal with it, but remember that if you love someone it is always best to tell them the truth to start with, because a lie will hurt them more in the long run. I really hope things work out for you guys and you continue to have a wonderful relationship.
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hi i'm michaela...
i honestly think from my point of view that you really shouldnt worry about you and your boyfriend. he's there, he tells you he loves you,and shows it. he's told you and some times thats all you need. hes been there and you youv been there for him. he tells you and means that he loves you.
your friend doesnt sound like a true friend. you may love her to death and thats okay. but dont let her disrespect him or you. your boyfriend is the guy you love right. well let her know and that you arent going to stand for that. tell her she can just go suck a fat one...(just a line of defense, dont take it litterally). also he deservese to know the truth about her..i mean i wouldnt go all out and say every little detail just like shes talking behind your back and that she says she dont care about you and doesnt like you as a friend or anything more. but be calm sweet collected and caring about it. with real sincerity! just be there for him, every step of the way no matter what :]
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If he loves you then you just have to trust him. Honestly I don't think I would be friends with someone who cut down my boyfriend and pretended to be friends with them and called the names behind their backs. Not liking someones boyfriend is one thing but to trick him is another. You should let your boyfriend know that she's not a good person and that he should stay away from her. If he doesn't believe you then it might be time to tell him what she does. If I were you though I wouldn't put up with someone who's that evil. You should tell her to stop talking about your boyfriend and being mean or hit the bricks. I know that's blunt but she sounds like a real pill. If she's talking behind his back. She could be talking behind yours.
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First of all you probably don't have to worry about your bf. Sounds like he's ver interested in you.
Second, I would suggest telling him that she aint the person he might think she is. Then go from there.
Hope this helped a little at least.
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