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Q: so i didn't talk to my bf,
but i did talk to him more,
and like, i only wanna dump him more now.
he rides my bus
so see him a hella lot,
but like,
idk .
he's not the same,
and i talked to my ex.
he's gonna wait for me to give him permission to ask me out.
when im not going out with my current...
but yeah
so it's confusing
and i could be cheating on my bf now
but i care about him,
idk why
it's just bc i do.

what should i do about my ex.
i still care about him,
he says ily all the time,
and everything
but i love my bf.
and i don't want that to change.

i want my bf to know how i feel
how do i tell him,

hi, i'm michaela. i'm 13/f.
you seem like your in a kinda mixed emotion/feelings situation. well i think that instead of dumping your boyfriend you should just spend more time together, talk more, get your relationship flowing again. try hanging out with him and get to know him more,like his childhood,personal stuff like about family. and as for the other guy...i think you should hold him off for a while and talk with your boyfriend and try to get more involved in his life. instead of just dropp ending things. i mean there could be a whole other side that you dont know about him i mean like his personality. he could be someone you could really truly care about. never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love.the other guy may say he loves you but thoughs are just words and hes not the one your with that you cared about in the beginning,hes not the one thats with you now who tells you he loves you and can really show it. you just got to be more open with your bf. i dont think you should tell him about the other guy, but lay off on the other guy. ya know? i mean try communicating with your boyfriend more. love,trust,communication,honesty,and respect are the key points in a relationship. just try to make things work with your bf. if you just end it for that one guy..you could really hurt someone who really cares about you, and you may find that you really did care for him too. you never know what you have until you've lost it.

Q: ok, lets start of by saying.. i hav this boyfriend right... weve been together for about a month and a half. everything is going good but theres a few issues i dont know how to handle.
1) his Ex... who happens to be one of my good friends.. the issue is .... i mean, i love her to death.. shes pretty cool with me, but ill admit she can be a real... hmm.. b**** to him too sumtimes. she never liked him. she used him. he fell really hard for her and he had liked her for a while and even wen they dated for that little time.. most of the time she was cheating on him (which i didnt know at the time). well anyways.. even tho she broke his heart repeatedly he still liked her after that for a while. hes tried to hav a few girlfriends after that but they never worked out because 1. him n the girls were usually not friends. 2. he wud always go back to liking his EX, even tho she hurt him so much..
ive tried to be there by his side during every single one of these situations... and ive stuck around because we were best friends, so i know wat would happen each and every time. but this time, he says its different. he even told me he loves me and i told him the same. but back to his ex, im afraid the same thing will happen.. becuz he still kinda considered her one of his best friends still !! and i dont wanna get hurt if he tells me the same old story...
im asking for help on how to make the feelings kind of go away.. i trust him with my heart and to not break it, but the feeling of fear is still there.. is there is way to make it go away?
im kind of happy because so far hes lasted with me longer than the 3 othr gf's after her tht lasted lik a few days...
but he even promises me that he would never hurt me because i mean the world to him, i was the only one that helped him get over his broken heart and hes so amazing and sweet to me.. i know he would never hurt me, or anyone on purpose because he knows what thats like and i know hes not the type of person to hurt sumone on purpose... but sumtimes you cant control your feelings, but i see differences than with the other girls.. *he told me he loved me. *hes lasted with me longer than the other girls *hes still amazing to me, even after this time we've been together and hes not showing any "shifty" signs.. meaning.. he doesnt seem to be "Moving on from me".. at least it seems it because he still acts the same, only every day he acts sweeter to me and more and more amazing and tells me how much he really loves me and that im the first person to realize who he really is and truely accept him..

hi i'm michaela...
i honestly think from my point of view that you really shouldnt worry about you and your boyfriend. he's there, he tells you he loves you,and shows it. he's told you and some times thats all you need. hes been there and you youv been there for him. he tells you and means that he loves you.
your friend doesnt sound like a true friend. you may love her to death and thats okay. but dont let her disrespect him or you. your boyfriend is the guy you love right. well let her know and that you arent going to stand for that. tell her she can just go suck a fat one...(just a line of defense, dont take it litterally). also he deservese to know the truth about her..i mean i wouldnt go all out and say every little detail just like shes talking behind your back and that she says she dont care about you and doesnt like you as a friend or anything more. but be calm sweet collected and caring about it. with real sincerity! just be there for him, every step of the way no matter what :]

Q: okay so heres the story (please be eager to listen :))

3 weeks ago i met 2 people theyre bestfriends lets call them apple and banana. apple likes me . and he thinks he has a chance with me because he kinda thinks i like him too (i kind of a tease but i try not to but i end up looking like one even if idont do it on purpose). but i like banana. his friend .

whenever i talk in person with apple .. banana interrupts and (pops up) in the conversation but he doesnt talk with me. HE TALKS WITH BANANA. he goes like:

"Hey banana! remember when.....?" Things like that

i dont know if he's trying to catch my attention or he dusnt wanna be ignored in front of me and apple or he just wanna "FIT IN".. or is he being rude or what?

the thing is I LIKE HIM. id really dont know if he knows that [cuz im a good actress wink wink]

i dont know what to do now ... i dont like apple i like banana.. what do i do in this situation.. theres more besides popping up in convos but its too long to write.

hi i'm michaela... okay well i think that he does like you and wants to get noticed..you should try talking to HIM more then apple. but try not to tease apple as much and let him on like a friend..like make it noticable like " your a good friend" or "i wouldnt want anything to change our friendship." as for banana talk to him more. be a tease to him but not to much.. it kinda sounds like he is shyish..just hang a round him and be a little flirty. be open and leave room for him to be open to talk. talk about things you may have in common, and through in some questions to get to know him. hope i helped..feel free to ask me anymore ?'s.
-michaela

Q: Well, 1st of all my best friend in the whole world moved WAY far away. And then now me and my other best friends (like 7 of them) are at a war, does that mean that i am not a good friend, because i keep losing all of my friends?

well since your friend moved away you could find ways to communicate..like email,phone, or seeing if ever so ofter you or she could visit. as for your situation with your friends you are not a bad friend! if they dont want to be your friend and stick by you then they arent TRUE AND REAL friends other wise they would still be there! and mayvbe you could talk to each one privatly and ask what happened? and talk it out..not argue or make things worse..try to come to agree able terms and be friends again if you can. but dont talk to all of them as once. they may not express their whole feelings truthfully by eachother...but talk it out.

Q: I'm in 8th grade and 13. I like this guy. He isn't popular or anything either. He hangs out with like nerdy people or whatever. I don't label people but I couldn't explain it. So I like him and he has a twin brother. I sometimes talk to him but hardly ever. I have 3 classes with him and its just confusing. I really don't know what I should do. Whenever I do talk to him, I get all hyper or something like that. I usually don't talk much, only with my friends. But I feel really comfortable talking to him. We have more of tiny little small talks though. I'll give you some type of example except it wasn't much of talking. I was asking out loud if anyone had any paper. And he doesn't sit near me but he looked over and gave me 4 pieces of paper. Haha more than I needed but he did. I think he is really nice but the thing is I don't know how to stop acting so weird. I don't know if he likes it or thinks I'm stupid. Please help me out. Thanks so much!

hi i'm 13/f and my name is michaela. i know what your going through..i liked a guy like that and he has a twin to lol. but i think you should talk to him more, like even have phone conversations, or just go up to his desk and talk to him, like about earlier activities and maybe some questions. but be you and dont be afraid, many people are a fraid of talking and miss out on alot of things that could happen. be open, be a friend and maybe try to get closer than a friend. talk about interests you guys have and stuff you might have in common. try hangin out with him more like walking to classes or your lockers.. but dont try so much its annoying. just talk a casual talk. i hope i helped. if you have anymore ?'s that you think i could help with. i will be happy to :)

Q: I dont want to have children myself! But I would like to about some when I get married. So I'm going to get my uterus removed. Do you think that my future husband would understand? There is already to much stress to deal with in my life so I really dont think having periods every month or have a crying baby around that needs so much attention even when your at work! So I would like to adopt a 10 or 12 year old so I still have their kid years but not their baby years. I already know what a responsability it is to take care of a kid! My dad left me and my mom while she was pregnat and mom died about 2 years after the baby was born from cancer so we live with our grandparents that are always gone so I take care of my 2 year old brother! So my real question is, do you guys think my husband would understand about all this? Thanks to whoever answers!

not all babies are the same, some dont cry and some do. they are blessings..and well you see how could you ever know what your child baby would be like? if you never tried? there could be an alternative if you dont like the responsibility..like adoption. i think you have had a not to good first experience with having to pretty much raise ur younger brother but i am in a similar situation..and my brothers are no angels.. i dont see my father anymore..my sister is off to college and my mother is working all the time... and i am only 14. but i see the really beauty in them..their spirit..if you just look at your younger brother with a heart of understanding...he doesnt know his mother..or his father..he would have to grow up with that.but they are amazing.you just have to really look

Q: I can't seem to figure out whether i love my best friend as more than just a friend or as a bother and also vice versa i don't no whether he thinks of me more or just as his little sister. We spend nearly every day with each other and look out for each other no matter what. But recently we've started swimming and his attitude towards me changed. He has always hugged and kissed me but the other day he was doing it in the pool but it seemed lyk in a more flirty way. I can't seem to figure out whether he wants something more and whether i like him or not. He started liking my best friend for a while but even at that it was over and done with very quickly and i think i was a bit jealous. I don't no whether i was jealous of him and hers relationship or whether i was jealous that he'd spend more time with her than me. I'm so confused . Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

hey it sounds like your in a sticky situation girl. i'm 14/f. well my name is michaela and what i would do is the next time you are with him..i would really keep my eyes open and really look at him, i mean like really look at him for who he is not looks. but try to see how he acts around you and look for little clues to show that he may like you or just as a little sister. also i think you are a little jealous but its perfectly normal. just dont let him and your friend get to your head. because it may not even last. as for him spending more time with her he could just think she is cool, or likes her, or is trying to make you jealous. but see how he reacts to you if you try to flirt some. that could really bring him out..he may flirt back or just take it as a joke. also when the time is right and you think you should talk to him about how you feel definately do it, but make sure he feels the same or it may cause awkwardness between you to... but keep an open heart and an open mind okay.
i hope i seriously helped. good luck girl.

Q: okayyyyyyy

so i like this kid ; lets call him "aaron"
and ive been liking him ever since the beginning of the school year;and thats pretty LONG.

i know he likes me. and he knows i like him.

but hes really shy.
and that led to - hmm. 2 sentences said to eachother .. twice a week?

Yeah if im lucky maybe 3 times.

and its been like that ever since.

we would hang out occasionally and talk on the phone, but i heard hes planning to ask me out.

Hes been saying that for the loongest time, or so i heard ( but i know its true), and now that its getting to the end of the year; i KNOW hes going to ask me out

problem;
If he cant even talk to me now.. how is he going to talk to me when we go out?

Another problem:

Also. uhhh. ha, im falling for his close buddy.
lets call him "Dave"
Me and Dave always talkkkk.
And im never nervous with him, i tell him everything and im always myself and he actually TALKS to me.
the other day i hung out with "Dave" and .. things happened.
We got realllyyy close.
And thats how i got my first kiss...

Yeahh..
but uh; im not sure if i still like "aaron"
.. i do and i dont.
And i told one of my best friends about it; and shes not supporting me..
well.. she kinda liked him for a year and when Dave was going to ask her out, she decided she didnt like him- and then went out with another guy.

So, she thinks its weird and it wont work out.
Also all my other friends say "it will ruin everything"

and .. how bad does it sound when im going out with - the guys that likes me and i liked him-'s best friend?

UGHHH.
so me and dave have been keeping it a secret.
and i only told like 3 people about it.

im screwed.
How do i prove my point that its NOT a big deal if i DO like him- shes the one who REJECTED him and moved on. why is this a big deal?
.... i like two guys and that cant be good.

just someone..
help me. give me some good long advice.
its eating at my bones; i NEED to figure this out.

thanks.
I need help!

14/f
hi. yeah i wanted to try to help you out on this. my name is michaela. well as for "aaron" and not being able to talk to him well i would just go up to him and jsut start talking away..like not asking questions but yeah know just talking about random things that happened..or something like that. and well as for his buddy "dave" i would lay low and just talk more with "aaron" and get to know him and talk more than about two sentences or three. i know its hard and complicated but trust me you can do it. also your friend who isnt supporting you..she might be jealous..its an easy thing to be..:)but just try and see where she is coming from but also if she cant be there to have your back 100% then she isnt a true friend.. and i really mean 100%. but anyways what people are saying about you and "dave" not working and you and him will like ruin things or of your chances with "aaron" that is a loud of crap okay. first of all follow your heart and do what you think is best. you know yourself more than anyone. but seriosly before you just go off with "dave" take another look at "aaron" i mean get to know him alot i mean even if things dont work out you can never have to many friends. plus getting to know someone for who they are for who they are..well that can be a special thing and not many people do that anymore..and it can really open your eyes to alot.

Q:

i have really dry skin but i have a lot of acne.
like, all over my forehead
and some on my chin

i am really self conscious so i really would like some advice on this.

any of the stuff i have tried, dries me out so much my skin starts to peel, and doesn't reduce my acne at all.

what can i use then?
clinique, clean & clear, etc.
they all have that same acne medication, that dries me out.

please help. :/

okay well i use proactive and i know that alot of people say its junk and you may have tried it but see if you use it everyday and how you are supposed to then it works and stops acne. and it has a lotion in it that you are supposed to use after you have used the other products and stuff. and it really works for me. also try not to touch your face or places with acne because the oils and dirt on your hands get in your pores. and if you dont do that and use oily products then your acne may decrease. and i wash my face with the proactive twice a day in the morning and at night. and proactive has a lot of makeup products and stuff that also doesnt increase acne!
hope i helped
14/f

Q: ok so in the past couple of months ive tried to make friends by talking to them and having a conversation, and its generally working. however, once i find that this person might be considering me as "more than an acquaintance", i like freak out and cant handle the..pressure? like i feel that i wont live up to their standards of what they want me to be. and i know someone's gonna say "dont worry, blah, all you can do is be a friend" but like i have standards for friendship too..number 1, they have to make me laugh. and if a person doesnt make me geniunely laugh, then i feel like im forcing myself to be interested in them and i hate the feeling of..a superficial friendship? idk.

and the more i try to be closer to people the more i resent the person. like i feel like i cant talk to people about my problems, my life always has to be peachy. people frequently describe me as "[my name here]? oh she's always such a happy person!" but inside im really not, its only bc i cant bring myself to share my problems, because..i guess im afraid i'll get hurt or the person will think wow this girl is really uncool, she has so many problems. NOTE, when i say problems, i dont mean stuff like "omg i left my hw @ home" i mean like "when he said that it really hurt my feelings"..i guess that means i have problems talking about my feelings. i CANT bring myself to do it! i actually have tried several times with diff people, and i always find that after trying to talk about stuff like that w/ someone the person always treats me DIFFERENT. like with pity, or contempt, or a sense of awkwardness. they wont treat me NORMAL! and its just depressing..and it hurts..and i guess thats why i feel i cant talk to anyone without being persistently asked, not even my close friends or family, and even after that i'll only talk if im under pressure to talk, so i dont make it seem like it is coming up out of nowhere.

advicenators is the only place i can write this because im anonymous and ill never talk to you guys again, so i cant be hurt.

ugh..
advice is appreciated..thanks for reading.

f/14
okay alot of people would end up saying that all you can do is be a friend well you should just really be yourself. and well your standards are alot like mine...and i cant tell anyone my problems except my two home gurls. i've known them since one 3rd grade and the other 4th. and we have been tight since..only they dont get along with eachother. and i have had them in my life for a long time but see i didnt tell them what really went on in my life till we knew eachother for two to three years. trust and friendships take time to build and yeah people can have pity but i think its honestly rediculous to just show pity and think that way. it makes you feel pathetic. and i have gone through hell but i make people feel like they dont need to when they ask or try to. and well everyone thinks they have it the worst (well alot of people)but hey dont and you should just be yourself and even if i havent helped you well then i can say i tried
hope i did though. bye

Q: i like this guy and i think he likes me back. we see eachother on the bus and i usually sit next to him. he flirts with me and one of his friends told me that he wants to ask me out but hes too afraid. so what do i do? im desperate! :(

hi
well i wass thinking about your question and well maybe you should give alot of hints but not to strongly that you like him to and he shouldnt be afraid, maybe you should direct your attention to him more, but delicately.

Q: Alrighty, my boyfriend is in the United States Navy. We have now been together for 2 and a 1/2 years. I am a junior in highschool,and prom is coming up. Prom was supposed to be on April 19th and my boyfriend was going to be able to take leave to go with me..so I went ahead and got this super sexy dress, I was so excited to be able to get dressed up for him and for us to have a good time together. But my school is stupid and decided to change prom to April 11th....so now my boyfriend isn't sure if he can go..but he says probably not.He is very upset..... he is the jealous type...I cant blame him though...it's only normal when he only sees me every 2or3 months. I don't know if I should just not go and throw away the $400 I've put into prom, or if I should find a reasonable guy to go with, or if I should go alone and hope I have fun. Please help me.

i think you should go with your friends, maybe try and call him if you can...i dont know if you can but i'm just suggesting, and also i think it would be really sweet if maybe you made himm get dressed up and say your taking him to a surprise...but see the surprise would be like a mini prom so he could go, with your friends there... :}
i hope i gave you a possibility

Q: I started dating jesse in september, and we broke up early febuary. we still talk and stuff, but only a little bit.
i still really like him. and that's my problem.
i'm still suffering from a broken heart because i'm 90% sure he doesn't like me anymore. my optomistic side is what the leftover 10% represents.

how can i hint to him that i like him?
i don't want to be so forward that i tell him literally that i still like him, but lightly suggest that i do.

ah, thanks so much in advance.

hi, i had the same issue, and well i think that maybe you should just try to get back more into his life alittle at a time, like try to hang out with him more,talk more, be around just a little so that maybe you being around will make some of thoughs old feelings that he had for you will come back only stronger. some times feelings have a funny way of dealing with things.

Q: ok im gonna have a baby soon and i really want to name if its a boy 'sean' or a girl 'brooke' but i have no idea wat their middle names gonna be can anyone give me some suggestions.

13/f
random names that i really like are for a girl:
anna sophia
sophia ann
sophia
sophie
lovel (luv el)
saria (sar ee a)
maria
mine is marlene (i wish it were my first lol)
alexandria
serenity
helena
jimena
tianna
cali
jessica
heaven
a girls name in the family...

boys:
alexander
michael
stanton
benjamin
jacob
joshua
jacobus
jes
one of a guys family name...close family...ancestor...

the names i have for girls are not very common :]
i guess thats why i like them :]
well i hope i gave you some names that help and if they dont then maybe you can come up with a name.!!!!

oo and i also heard of it you cant find one that when they are born and you say a name to them and they open there eyes when you say a name that that is there name to what they would want to be called!!
good luck and i hope and know that all will go well. you will have a happy life. and your baby will be greatly loved.

your friend,
malene

Q: OK, i got a new account on advicentaros & im back. I got a small love problem.

There is this guy who i used to go to elemantry school with and we had one class together for 3 years, he went to high school and iswitched elemantry school and we did not talk for awhole year. Now, im in high school and hes in grade 10, we both go to different schools. But me and him and my friend and his friend chill a lot. So, my friend and his friend are going out. But me and him(the guy iwent to school with) had macde out, chilled every week, but than after we made out we chiled couple times and never flirted or kissed. He told my frined how he thinks it akward to go outwith me because he had known me for so long. But now i feel sad and i dont know what to do because ireally like him & i want to go out wiht him, we have many things in common and it would just be right. But, i dotn know what to do because he feels it akward..what should i ido if i still really want him :( ??

Thank you so much

you should just be a little playful around him i mean just joking kinda like flirting but dont let him catch on...just do it every so often. :]

Q: I go to a club and there is this boy that goes there. We got on normally, didnt speak a tonne to eachother but talked. He then got my msn and we started talking more, just normally. After three months of being friends he told me he liked me, but didnt bother doing anything about it. I didnt like him. I'm not ready for a relationship. This was about october. Then in january he asked me out. I told him id think about knowing that i would say no because i didnt like him. But then i began to think we'd be good together even though i didnt like him and it confused me. I came to conclusion that i didnt like him. I turned him down. It all turned out awkard and we got angry with eachother. Now we are friends and are acting like normal but i dont like it and its annoying because after everything we felt, or said is still there and its being pushed to one side. it ended before it started. Where do we take it from here - are we friends or not? Should I still talk to him?He compliments me a lot too

you guys should talk it out and dont let him push it to the side. if you guys keep going on like thins and dont talk about were you guys are at then it will just get worse and it will always be in your head. then you will never feel comfortable around him. approach the situation gently and just dont let him expect it.

Q: Ok... So My Boyfriend has some.. family problems with his older brother/guardian....like Incessant rape? I can't take it anymore I've been understanding about it and since I live so far away I can't do anything to stop it but talk to my boyfriend and comfort him when he's depressed. Some of my other friends call me "the fortune cookie" because I'll change completely from a hyper bubbly girl to someone who seems as if they're reading off of fortune cookies!

Countless times I've talked him out of suicide and harming himself, I've even gotten him to stop taking drugs and drinking.

But It seems I've run out of things to say to comfort him, and today I asked him what was wrong.
"My life." was his answer.
I tried to explain it as shattered glass, to relate to how he was feeling. but if anything I think I made him worse off.

So not only does it depress me to see him depressed, to know he lies about how he feels so I won't worry, but him lying just makes me worry more.

I've often said to myself, " How's it feel to know everything you do never matters at all? "

When we first met he said I'd leave just like everyone else in his life, but here I am...a little over a year later! and as each day goes by, no matter how much I love him I'm beginning to think that maybe I've made his life worse off?

So what should I do?
I'm open to any suggestions
because if it's able to make him happy I'm willing to do anything...

I say what I mean and I mean what I say, so I hope you can do the same to help me before I crack and go back to my own ways before he made my life happier...

okay i think that you are in a way in the middle situation. my name is michaela. i havent really gone through alot of what he has. i am hid in my religion.. i mean i go to church and pray alot when something is going on. but well i think that you should find a way to get him out of there. it could get bad. but i dont think that you are running out of ideas.. you jsut have lost them and cant find them... i think the best way to say something to comfort him is not by planning what to say to him but when something happens say it from your heart. you may be stuck but remember that well idk if u do but in a way that you love him. and if it hurts you to see him hurt then let him know how much you care by telling him. tell him you love him if you are ready to and tell him how proud you are that he has gone through all of what has gone on and that he is strong at heart and that even if he feels that he isnt and he has tried to long and is getting no where that he has you in his life and that you know that you will always be there and how you would feel it he did suicide or died. he is strong stronger than he thinks.. he just has to find his strength.god doesnt give us anything we cant handle.. it may be hard and seem unfare but everything happens for a reason and that love will always be in his life no matter what!! believe in yourself and let him believe in his self. life may start little but it is soon to grow! things will be set right.. just tell him to think.. to REALLY THINK!! to find a way to get away from what is happening to him.. and that drugs, over dose, and suicide isnt the answer. i think its away of hiding and making more for him to suffer by what he is doing to him self. and tell some one. who can help him get out of there.

Q: if a guy says "good night, beautiful" to you, what's something witty to say back to him if you like him? but you're not going out. like you're friends but he says that quite often to you?

well you should try saying something like "night handsome" but in a play full teasing way. i've learned that if you say something like night sexy or something then well you will either get a cocky smile or a look that says " that seriously didnt work right there" but ya saying a guy is handsome is a bit more suffisticated and guys dont here that alot. and it can be a good thing because it shows that if you say it in a way of teasing but you mean it then it shows that you are mature in some ways and that you arent some gurl who likes revulting things and that you can really mean it. guys take it as a compliment even if you joking and its a great way to hit it off. even if you are saying it as a friend then you can be good friends or...more

Q: The other girls my age tease me alot just because I'm a Tomboy. My friends that dont tease me just constantly talk about the boys they like and what make up would look good with the new clothes they bought and what hair styles would look cute and what shade pink to paint there nails and blahbly blahbly blah. I dont tease them because of it, I think it is mean to tease other people you should treat people the way you want to be treated! I'm just tired of being teased so much and not being invited to slumber partys because they are going to do make overs and not being able to hang out with my friends because they are always going to the mall or going to have some weird jappanese laddie paint there nails and talk on the phone and all this stuff I dont want to do. Not once have they asked me what I cared about or wanted to do or anything I'm really sick of it what should I do?

okay i am not going to say that i completely know where you are coming from but i love sports and being a tomboy myself. but i learned that from some gurls at my school who like some of the things i do like sports gave me some tips like i dont have to wear mak up and gurly stuff but doing it every once in awhile could help get me included. i never really changed who i really was. i still do sports and i hang with alot of the girls who play sports to. and i dont mean like the really gurlie gurlies who are just athletic. but there are some gurls like me and honestly my opinion is if your friends arent there to back you up on your opinions and include you in your life then they are not true friends. i think that you should try to find new fiends that have the same qualities and interests as you and that doesnt mean you can't be friends with the other gurls. and honestly if the friends that i hang with are not there or are being snobs then i hang with my boyfriend with his friends or some of the guys who like sports like me and that i am cool with.

Q: My boyfriend is getting me a promise sing. So I'm thinking about getting him one too. A silver one with outside engraving. I'm not sure what it should say. I was thinking of putting our anniversay date on it or I love you. I guess i don't want to mess up on the text. Any suggestions?

Should I just go for the names and a heart in between it?

okay well if you have not been together for a long time then it should be just simple. but if its getting serious you should try "forever" or " i promise forever" my friends have this relationship going on and its getting serious and all they say is "i love you baby and i promise forever" but idk how old you are or what.. my friends are older than me so ya. but i hope i helped you out alittle and gave you some ideas before you did the engraving!!! good luck!!!

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hi i'm michaela. i have had a pretty down life but there are good things. i think alot of people have had it hard. some people try to understand but only the person who has had that one thing happen to them can only really know how they feel.everyone has emotions and feelings that are different from others. even if others were in that same position. they just have a different perspective of it. well i have a huge family. i have some issues with my parnts but ya. i try to help lots of people.. as much as i can. i write things to help me deal with stuff but sometimes i have to find something else. i love to give advice and i am willing to help anyone with questions!! i try to give the best possible answer i can!!!