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FUDGIN UGH
okayyyyyyy
so i like this kid ; lets call him "aaron"
and ive been liking him ever since the beginning of the school year;and thats pretty LONG.
i know he likes me. and he knows i like him.
but hes really shy.
and that led to - hmm. 2 sentences said to eachother .. twice a week?
Yeah if im lucky maybe 3 times.
and its been like that ever since.
we would hang out occasionally and talk on the phone, but i heard hes planning to ask me out.
Hes been saying that for the loongest time, or so i heard ( but i know its true), and now that its getting to the end of the year; i KNOW hes going to ask me out
problem;
If he cant even talk to me now.. how is he going to talk to me when we go out?
Another problem:
Also. uhhh. ha, im falling for his close buddy.
lets call him "Dave"
Me and Dave always talkkkk.
And im never nervous with him, i tell him everything and im always myself and he actually TALKS to me.
the other day i hung out with "Dave" and .. things happened.
We got realllyyy close.
And thats how i got my first kiss...
Yeahh..
but uh; im not sure if i still like "aaron"
.. i do and i dont.
And i told one of my best friends about it; and shes not supporting me..
well.. she kinda liked him for a year and when Dave was going to ask her out, she decided she didnt like him- and then went out with another guy.
So, she thinks its weird and it wont work out.
Also all my other friends say "it will ruin everything"
and .. how bad does it sound when im going out with - the guys that likes me and i liked him-'s best friend?
UGHHH.
so me and dave have been keeping it a secret.
and i only told like 3 people about it.
im screwed.
How do i prove my point that its NOT a big deal if i DO like him- shes the one who REJECTED him and moved on. why is this a big deal?
.... i like two guys and that cant be good.
just someone..
help me. give me some good long advice.
its eating at my bones; i NEED to figure this out.
thanks.
I need help!
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hi. yeah i wanted to try to help you out on this. my name is michaela. well as for "aaron" and not being able to talk to him well i would just go up to him and jsut start talking away..like not asking questions but yeah know just talking about random things that happened..or something like that. and well as for his buddy "dave" i would lay low and just talk more with "aaron" and get to know him and talk more than about two sentences or three. i know its hard and complicated but trust me you can do it. also your friend who isnt supporting you..she might be jealous..its an easy thing to be..:)but just try and see where she is coming from but also if she cant be there to have your back 100% then she isnt a true friend.. and i really mean 100%. but anyways what people are saying about you and "dave" not working and you and him will like ruin things or of your chances with "aaron" that is a loud of crap okay. first of all follow your heart and do what you think is best. you know yourself more than anyone. but seriosly before you just go off with "dave" take another look at "aaron" i mean get to know him alot i mean even if things dont work out you can never have to many friends. plus getting to know someone for who they are for who they are..well that can be a special thing and not many people do that anymore..and it can really open your eyes to alot.
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Oh dear..sounds like you are between a rock and a hard place. I'll see if I can help you. Ok first off, it's not uncommon to have feelings for two guys. Secondly...your friends are making me mad (and I don't even know them). If they are truly your friends than they would want you to make the decision that would make you happy. She had her chance and chose to turn it down. It may be different if her and him had a long term relationship, but they didn't. Next you need to decide if something happens your friends turn against you for this (even if its not right) is it worth getting that chance at happiness with 'Dave'. Is it worth not looking back and wondering 'what if'. Your friend doesn't even seem to be into him but instead like the "thrill of the chase". Once she found out he liked her, she was no longer interested. Now that she knows he likes you...crazy...she's interested again. She needs to back off and let you have your shot. As for the choice between Aaron and Dave...as you said, you and 'dave' can talk about anything, you are comfortable with him, etc. As for you and Aaron..you like him but as far as communication is concerned, well there is none. Communication is extremely important. So here is my opinion (and remember it is JUST an opinion)...you give Dave a shot. You seem to like him a lot. If your friends are truly your friends than they will let you have this chance. Good luck hon and I hope I helped atleast a little. Sorry so long =)
<3 Leslie
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