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When I get married!!!
I dont want to have children myself! But I would like to about some when I get married. So I'm going to get my uterus removed. Do you think that my future husband would understand? There is already to much stress to deal with in my life so I really dont think having periods every month or have a crying baby around that needs so much attention even when your at work! So I would like to adopt a 10 or 12 year old so I still have their kid years but not their baby years. I already know what a responsability it is to take care of a kid! My dad left me and my mom while she was pregnat and mom died about 2 years after the baby was born from cancer so we live with our grandparents that are always gone so I take care of my 2 year old brother! So my real question is, do you guys think my husband would understand about all this? Thanks to whoever answers!
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Sure some guys might understand. Some may even be grateful to not have to worry about the hassle of kid's and birth control. What I worry about is you. I know, you think you know, exactly how you'll feel 5, 10, 20 years from now. The truth is however, time changes all of us. There may come a time, or a person, in your future that changes everything you thought you knew and felt about life. If that time or person comes along do you really want to find yourself in a place where you took away your options? There are so many forms of birth control that are effective. In fact Depo-prevara (hope i spelled that right) even stops your menstrual cycle so bleeding stops being an issue. Just remember, everything your life is today, will be completely different in the years to come. The stresses your dealing with now will eventually pass. Dont allow your frustrations and fears today, to limit your choices of tommorrow. Take Care and Good Luck.
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i understand were you are coming from but think of it this way...
wouldn't you want to have a child that you could love and adore, and give a proper family and home to?
also, if you are planning to adopt, i know from my mothers job (she translates for adoption agencies) that the majority of people who adopt kids at a late age (over a couple of years) have problems with the kids such as the kids feel they dont belong and so forth.
honestly, why don't you wait until you marry someone who you love, and see what they think then. by that time, your life might have gotten less stressful and your opinions might have changed. you will never find out if your future husband will understand because you don't know if the person that you fall in love with is going to want a family or not.
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not all babies are the same, some dont cry and some do. they are blessings..and well you see how could you ever know what your child baby would be like? if you never tried? there could be an alternative if you dont like the responsibility..like adoption. i think you have had a not to good first experience with having to pretty much raise ur younger brother but i am in a similar situation..and my brothers are no angels.. i dont see my father anymore..my sister is off to college and my mother is working all the time... and i am only 14. but i see the really beauty in them..their spirit..if you just look at your younger brother with a heart of understanding...he doesnt know his mother..or his father..he would have to grow up with that.but they are amazing.you just have to really look
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Unless you have an illness that requires it, no doctor will agree to sterilize a young woman. Trust me, I've asked. A lot of them.
Most doctors have said they would not consider performing any elective sterilization surgery on a woman before the age of 30, unless she already has several children, or needed it for health reasons.
They are too concerned that a young woman might change her mind and feel it would be irresponsible of them to perform it. Since it is an elective surgery, they are well within their rights to choose not to perform it.
To answer your question, some men will understand, and some will not. The best thing you can do is be honest and upfront with your long-term partners and not say 'maybe' to children when what you really mean is 'no way in hell.' You might find some people will not want to date you for that reason, and that is okay. It's important that a couple have compatible life goals.
Solving this possible problem is easy: Choose a husband who understands and feels similarly, and then you will have a husband who understands and feels similarly.
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