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Ex-Boyfriend, His Mom, And DRAMA??
Okay, so I'm 17 and a junior at my local high school.
I dated a guy for almost 7 months, and then realized I didn't have the same feelings for him, so I broke up with him Last Thursday. I Told him how I felt... that I didn't want a boyfriend at the time and that I needed to focus on my school (online and community college courses) and that I haven't been myself and that I wasn't happy. I also haven't been hanging out with my friends (which devastated me).
Anyways, so we broke up, Friday night, he tried arguing with me over MYSPACE (which was stupid and pointless) and basically told me I was nothing but a lie. The second day (Sat) I passed him driving home and he just stared at me, so my mom called my cellular device and told me that he called her asking for his stuff (which I told him I would give it to him on Tuesday night... the night I don't work.) And so her boss died that day, so she wasn't able to give it to him. I wasn't able to give his stuff to him because I was with my dad who was 20-30 minutes away from my mom's house.
So THENN, he called all day on Sunday and so we agreed not to involve our friends, I respected that... and then he INVOLVES MY MOM, AND HIS MOM. His mom came over and was basically talking shit about me. I didn't care...
So I've been over him since the first night... so then me and one of my best friends were commenting back and forth on Myspace.. well somehow someone found it... THEN THEY PRINTED FOUR COPIES OF IT, PUT IT IN AN ENVELOPE AND PUT IT ON MY FRIEND'S CARS (INCLUDING MY EX'S.) I KNOW IT WAS HIS MOM, it just makes sense because WHO ELSE KNOWS WHERE ALL FOUR OF US LIVE?? Anyways, so then today I knew he had read it, and so In the hall going to second period (I'm now in 3rd period) and so he goes "GOODLUCK GINGER!!!"
Well he's being a psycho bitch and his mom is fucking crazy!
I want to cuss him out so bad, but at the same time I want to show some major class to where he knows it doesn't bother me (It doesn't really bother me, except the fact that who else would stalk me and find out what I'm saying??), and show how much of a psycho he and his mom is.
How can I do that?
What Should I Do?
Thanks in advance! :]
By the way, when I found out someone did that... I laughed so hard and so did my mom. And the comments that I said were:
"My summer Goals:
#1 Have the Best time of my life.
#2 Get Drunk.
#3 Get Laid (I already have 3 guys in mind) Lmaooooooooo."
I mean, can you obviously see that I'm kidding... for the most part? Why can't he get a fuckin jokee??
Thanks so much guys, I'd really appreciate your help. :]
Oh p.s I've already deleted him off of my myspace this morning.
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I think that it is really great that you want to be the mature one and just ignore it and I also think that is the best thing to do. This is just immature highschool drama and it sounds like he just needs to get over himself and his mom needs to get her head out of his butt [[pardon my french]].
He is probably just upset because you broke up with him and hurt him, but if you don't care about someone in the same way that you used to then you should break-up with him rather than lead them on. You could probably try leaving him a message on myspace or something of that sort telling him that you didn't mean to hurt him, but that you felt it was better than hurting him worse in the long run. Let him know that you are not going to react to what he is doing, but that if it continues you may be forced to take action. If you feel it escalates to invasion of your privacy or harrasment I advise telling someone in power so they can deal with it, but until then just continue to ignore him and go on about your life.
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Funny, I'm proud of you for wanting to take the high ground on this and I don't even know you. Call it what you will, but class is class.
It was a mistake for you to talk about these things on any electronic medium, it is just as if you said all these things to the class gossip. Things you want to keep private, talk to someone you trust in private.
You are not what others think you are. You are not what you think you are. You are what your actions revel you to be.
Do you know how many times a day that what you are going through is being played out, in one form or the other, all over this country and world? It stems from the fact that you had a serious relationship with someone to immature to have one, but you should have found that out before you let it go to serious. You never said if you had had sex with him, but I assume you have.
Sex binds people to each other in a way that nothing else can, it can never be taken back. That is why you are suppose to test your partner to find out what kind of person they are to see if they are a psycho before you jump in bed with them, not after. At your age, that can take a while. If you did not have sex with him, you see now how important it was that you didn't.
You don't have to revel them to be psycho, they will do that themselves, or leave you alone. When people approach you about it, simply say, "I broke up with him, he can't handle it and went crying to mommy." When they get tired of this, it will stop, in case it doesn't, keep a log of what happens and write down what has happened so far, with dates as best as you remember them. It will be handy if you need to press charges to get it to stop.
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Well... wow this is some silly drama and for real you are too old to get caught up in it. If you guys broke up, fine it's over. Make whatever arrangements need to be made in order to provide him his things. By not doing this, makes it look like you are intentionally trying to hold on to his things. If you really want to be mature about it, IGNORE. If things of confidentiality are being discussed and/or posted on my space or the internet period, stop it. Nothing is private once posted on there - you know that. I always think of it like this, if it's posted and gets out, then there's nothing to be concerned about.
You suspect that it was his mom, don't make accusations unless she told you that it was her- now think about this: So, what if it was her... what's the point? You feel me? Don't stoop to anyone's level but stand above the lower levels that others are stooping to. Don't curse him out. Give him his things if you haven't already. Take extra precautions due to stalking concerns - stop posting things on the internet if it causes concerns of being stalked and ignore the drama.
You have bigger things to concentrate on such as college and finals... you don't need all that drama in your life. If his mother and he wish to entertain Drama, allow them - the only difference is YOU and that you don't have to do it, express it, play games, or digest it. Don't digest it or regurgitate it either. Be the bigger person girlfriend! When he starts it up, smile and say "Keep it Pushin lil' Buddy or Keep it Movin' partner" smile and keep on doin you!
Good Luck!!
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