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Hey, I'm stuck in this bad situation. I like two guys. Well, one guy I like is really sexual, like I've never done anything with him, of course since I'm only 14.. And the other guy well hes like great, he always calls me beautiful and really cares for me but always says that I like the other guy. Who would you choose? I think I have an idea, but I'm not so sure. Thanks!

hey hUn! choose the guy you feel more comfortable with... if your not going to feel comfortable doing stuff with the sexual guy then you don't want him! If your just going to feel awkward around him! the other guy sounds super sweet... so i would choose him... even though i dont mind hooking up with guys... but i'm older so thats beside the point. choose the sweet guy! and hook up with him when ur ready! i dont know either of those guys... so i dont want you to choose this guy just cause i say so.. LoL.. choose the guy you know actually likes you and you can be yourself around! good luck! and let me know how it goes!
xOxO, aLeX

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why is it that everytime a guy i like starts to like me back, i stop liking him completely?

HaHa! HeY! i am sO the same way! Personally for me, it's because I like a challenge, and it's kind of exciting to try to get them to like you... so once you find out they do like you... your excitment kinda ends! dosen't it suck! haha hope i helped you hun!
xOxO, aLeX

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gah just got my period and im supposed to be seeing my guy this weekend what can i do to make it go away faster?

ahhh i am so wishing that girls didnt have periods! aHhH! iT sux! theres no way 2 just have it and then stop in a cycle.. which realy sux.. but 4 future refrence... use birth control just tell ur mom that u have really bad cramps and ur flow is really heavy thats y alot of girls get birth control... or i cant even believe i'm saying this... but if i have an event like a pool party, or prom coming up... and i know i'm gonna get my period.. when i dont want my period... i just will cut down on eating.... if u dont eat hardly aything... ur period wont come that month... and then eat regulary and it will come back and you'll be fine... i'm not saying u sould do this... so dont get pissed off if u think i'm telling u 2 "starve urself" but its just a suggestion! hope i helped!
xOxO, aLeX

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Ok, I have a choice between going to the movies, or going bowling... I totally can't decide! I am SO confused...

PLEASE HELP IT IS URGENT!!

with ur bf.... go 2 a movie!! if ur going bowling... its way funner 2 go with a whole group of friends... theres alot of good movies out 2 now! plus its good 4 u and ur guy 2 get some alone time! ;)
HAVE FUN!
xOxO, aLeX

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Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!

thanks

heY! thanx bY the way! bUt ne ways... uMmm i totally know what u mean!! buT you know that you guys aren't going to have a relationship... and u mentioned that it took u forever 2 get over him and that it killed you 2 hear he was hooking up with other girls... ahhh i've been in this situation before... kinda... but thats beside the point... yea u really don't want 2 get hurt like u said.. but yet again u dont want 2 turn him down. chances r hes just gonna be lookin 2 hook up and myabe thats what u wanna do 2... but dont want 2 experience everything again. aHhH oMg... this is hard. the best and most obvious answer is dont go for it... and turn him down... but if u actually put urself in the situation... its hard! so i personally wouldnt want 2 feel like crap again... so i dont think i could go for it.... but even just thinking about him after he leaves is gonna make u feel like crap 2... u dont wanna regret NoT hooking up with him... if u havent gotten any in a while... u dont have 2 worry about that... i'm sure theres lines of guys at ur school hoping for a hookup with u... ur have 2 consider how ur gonna feel when u leave and realize that hooking up is gonna be all for u guys... and hearing him hook up with more girls when he leaves is gonna kill u more... i dont really have a 100% answer... bt take all that into consideration... it sounds better if u guys just remain friends... but in reality... its kinda up 2 u! good luck with this! and im me sometime or drop 1 in my box and let me know how it goes! i hope i helped!

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I need something for my face that will make it more clear and make my skin more heatly and almost flawless. Any one know of anything good?

i use proactiv... it works wonders... i never had bad skin... but it keeps it that way! its a 3 step system... the face wash, the toner and the repairing lotion.. and u have 2 put it on twice a day 4 suRe! kinda spendy... but aWeSoMe!
xOxO, aLeX

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k..my friend is out of town right now and i like her boyfriend..the other day we madeout in his truck when he drove me home..and we've been hanging out a lot since she left for thanksgiving..i feel really guilty but i just cant get him off of my mind..i like him way too much..and i dunno what to do!..i swear im gunna end up going crazy..what should i do??

cHicKs bEfOrE dIcKs hUnNy! i know it might be hard: but think about it in the long run... guys are not always gonna be there especally when they have girlfriends... but friends can last 4ever! u dont have 2 tell ur friend about it... even though the guilt would be unbearable for me... but leave at at whats already happened....! find ur self another guy! i kno ya can!
xOxO, aLeX

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How do you get rid of freckles?

AwWw FRECKLES ARE cUtE! LoL! but u really can't... u can use makeup to make them less visiable... and dont go tanning cuz it really brings them out!
xOxO, aLeX

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What do you do with a not so secret admirer that u dont like? And dont tell me to ask him to just be friends.

well if its a secret admirer... how do u know who he is? LoL uMmM i hate it when this happens... tell him polietly that u would rather not loose him as a friend... so u guys should stick with bein bUdS! and dont let him keep persisting u... guys do that all the time... if he dosent take no 4 an answer.... then u got a problem! but good luck! or find another hottie and he'll leave ya alone! or u can use the "my bf can kick ur ass" line
xOxO,aLeX

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there is this girl that is obsessed with me at school. Before I even knew her she knew all of my classes, and now I see her ever time I turn around. After talking with her for only 5 min she said that her mom wanted to meet me. After she said that if freaked me out alittle and she was also saying bad things about one of my friends she I ignore her when I see her. Now she is applying at the place I work and I like someone body else that works there but it is going to be akward have her there. What can I do so she leaves me alone.

tHaT iS sTrAiGhT uP sTaLker! LoL! uMmM well its ok 2 have a HUGE crush on some1... but that is taking it 2 far... tell her that shes probably really cool... but u need ur personal space... and that u kinda dont feel comfortable... or just refer her 2 another guy! and get her off ur back! LoL!
xOxO, aLeX

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well one day i asked my friend catherine if she has talked to my boyfriend yet and she was like well no but he told me that if something hapeneds between you and him we will still be friends no metter what?
PLEASE tell me what you think that means should i talk to him about this or not?

well she just lied... u asked her if she had ever talked 2 ur bf and she said no... but then she said but he told me.... etc... so thats kinda shady... def. talk 2 him... its probably somethin harmless... but casually bring it uP! better sAfE tHeN sOrrY! LoL!
xOxO, aLeX

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sry i didnt know what category to put this under..but what really is cutting? i know you like cut urself but is it to let out anger? or do you do it to actually try to kill urself?? plz i need to know this my friend does it and im scared!

hEy! well i definately dont cut... i cry when i trip! LoL i cant stand pAiN.. LoL bUt ne ways... i know that people do it 4 all different reasons... for some its 2 let out anger and in a weird twisted way... it actually "makes them feel better" which totally does not make sense but it really does... its a reief for them when they have bf/friend/family problems... and some people do do it 2 kill themseleves but you'll most likely see it as an escape for people. its very serious.. and also really has some mental health issues with it... so ur friend needs hElP! good luck
xOxO, aLeX

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hey rach, ok i've liked this guy for the longest time...im a freshman and i've liked him since the end of 7th grade. i mean i've like other guys while liking him but no matter what i've always had feelings for him. the thing is: we NEVER talk anymore, and hes totally not my type..im really loud and hes a shy guy..what should i do? and why do i like him so much???

there will always be that 1 guy that u will always like... aHHh.. i know just who mine is... lol well u need 2 get 2 know this "special" guy better! maybe u just think hes just shy cuz u dont know him so good.. get 2 know the guy and see if he is really cool and if he is ur type... and iF he is... go 4 him! chat him up.. in lunch, go 2 his locker etc... i know easier said then done... and if it turns out hes totally wrong 4 u... there r plenty of hotties 4 ya! ;)
xOxO, aLeX

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ok i like hate my name so much .. it's Liana.. and well people sometimes "cant pronounce it" so they just say "Hey you!" or they just pronounce it wrong. Or sometimes their like "um..you.. i forgot your name" .. and well like is there anything i can do to get people to pronounce my name right or call me something diffferent that is easy to pronounce .. (maybe like a nick name)

p.s. sometimes my friends call me Lee for short but not very often

well i think thats a pretty name! my name: alex every1 says isnt that a boys name? ahhh excuse me... this is the 21st century... names arent all john and katie anymore.... lol but some nicknames: lia, (pronounced lee-ah) or ana since thats the last part of ur name... i know it can be annoying about ur name... but as soon as u meet people pronounce ur name 4 them... and they shouldnt forget! especially if their ur friends etc.... good luck!
xOxO, aLeX

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hey well I made dance team again this year and instead of dancing to the coaches dances..witch are pretty gay and we dont even dance its more of a robot thing and the dances she has have NO KICKLINES witch is stupid..but ANYWHO..lol..what is a good song [school apropriate] that has a good beat for kick lines and stuff.also does anyone know if there area any danc team wesites where I can get ideas for routeens? *I rate high*
Love-
Andie

well for danceline this year.... we did come on feel the noise... and it was perfect for high kick!! it looked so hot for us: and for websites... my friend gave me this website that has coool coreography... but not really a routine... www.pfunkonline.com/
also for like a song dance mixes look hot!
xOxO, aLeX

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I've had my period for almost 10 months now and it still doesn't come on the same days or "schedule" or whatever. I don't know when I am going to get it, because it's such a bad frequency. I don't want to leak in school, and I'm always scared that I did leak, and I didn't notice, and like people are laughing behind my back. I just don't know what to do. I don't wear pads either so..please help?

well.... for the 1st 2 years... you period os going to be irregular... kinda sux right? but its perfectly normal... 4 me.. i can always tell when i'm getting my period... pMs! pre menstural syndrome... u should get that and then you'll know... keep a sweatshirt in ur locker if an unexpected leak were 2 happen... but you'll kno if 1 does... trust me! and keep tampons in ur locker 2... if u dont carry a purse... or if u think ur gonna get it... do what my friend olivia said: wear long sox and keep a tampon in that! haha good luck!
xOxO, aLeX

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wat perfumes smell rlly godd but arent too expensive?

august from hollister
curve for her
cool water
happy by clinique
all perfumes are somewhat spendy... bUt these smell sOoO gOoD!
xOxO, aLeX

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all of my friends are destructive.

friend #1-cuts and gave head.
friend #2-drank shoplifts and sneaks out of her
house
friend #3-does pot and shoplifts
friend #4-shoplifts

this is so annoying. what do i do?!i still want to be friends witht them but they're all mad @ me anyways. that's a diff. story though. help!
signed,*cAuGhT iN tHe MiDDlE*

well... ur a teenager right? this is pretty normal... drinking, hooking up with guys shoplifting etc... but then again... i totally know where ur coming from..! u want 2 remain friends.... bUUuUUt.... u dont agree with what they are doing. talk 2 ur friends and tell them how u feel. in 9th grade i used 2 shoplift all the time... like unbelievely... i would go 2-3 times a week to the mall of america and get tONnNNs of stuff! my best friend had a face 2 face talk with me and told me that it was wrong and i shouldnt do it... cuz she dosent agree with it... and it makes her uncomfortable but she still wants 2 be friends... i totally took it seriously and stopped almost immediatley... because if their actually ur friends... they will stop/get help or whatever! GoOd LuCk!
xOxO aLeX

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hey im a 15 year old girl and i have oily skin, any body have any good concealer/foundation/cover-up/powder ?

biore shine control foaming clender.... about $5 at target/walmart! iT rOx!
xOxO, aLeX

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my best friend, is worring that shell never have a fist kiss i have from partys and crap but she isnt the person everyonw is dying to kiss....what should i tell her cuz shes really fing worried and none of my guys friends with jsut kiss her to make her feel better..what should i do.>

most guys would be dying 2 kiss her 2 get some i'm sure... she just probably needs 2 open up so guys will like her and she can get her 1st kiss... tell her 2 be more outgoing/flirty with guys!
xOxO, aLeX

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