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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Firstly sorry about the subject i didnt know where to put it.

My hair gets greasy so so so fast! I wash it in the morning and by the evening its greasy
I have to wash it everyday and its really annoying me.

What can i do so that i only have to wash it every 2 days or something?

any products i can use?

You could possibly be using too much shampoo. Make sure you scrub your hair really well in the shower with your fingertips. Deffinitly look into getting Herbal Esscence or pantene. THeirs different types of these shampoos, so if you look on the bottle, it should say what it helps with, like greasy hair. Conditioner usually has a big effect, so try not to use too much. Could it be, that your in need of a haircut? If your hair is extremely long, look into getting a hair cut to make it easier to help your greasy hair. If your still have troubles after this, deffinitly just go into a hair place, and ask them kindly what you can do about your greasy hair. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Why do women get their period at the same time as their families and friends for example? Such as when they are together a lot or live together. I'm so confused.

Thanks!

Usually families have periods around the same time because of genetics pretty much. Like, me, me and my sisters and my mom all have our period around the same time. But, its also because we were all born in the end of a month, so thats how our cycle works. Its usually very common, it doesnt have to do with living together, most girls/women have the same cycle as their amediate family. Hope i Helped!


-Brina

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Well there is this guy and I am totally starting to crush on him and I was just wondering if there is a for sure way to tell if he likes me back!! He is in two of my classes and i am a freshman in high school. Well anyways it seems like he is flirting with me, for instance he usually takes something from me and then he expects me to chase him around to get it back so i dont know if that is a sign because he does it in a sort of flirtacous. Sometimes when i glance over during class to check the clock or something and i will see him quickly glance away when i make eye contact with him when i see him looking my way. In our english class he was also mad because we have to change seats every six weeks and we use to sit next to eachother so he was mad because we werent by eachother anymore. I just really need to know if we have a chance even though we dont really talk outside of english and biology because we dont really see eachother. I really want him to be the one to ask me out or to just hang out so what should I do for him to know I like him back besides just flirting? I am also kind of shy unless u know me pretty well then i am extremly outgoing!haha! Last year I wasnt outgoing around guys but this year i am more chill around them and myself so I really hope that is a good thing. Well anyways i would really appreciate it if u could help me out because i am at a major loss!

Aw! He most likely likes you. You should absolutely ask for his Screenname, or email, or cell number. Deffinitly get a group together and hang out. You guys could totally hit it off. Its great that your not shy as much anymore, maybe this is your chance to prove to yourself that you can do it! Good Luck!Hope i helped!


-Brina

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where thers this boy and we dated 4 times and i keep breaking up with him. I dnt know why but i do. Its just i want to like him. Hes good boyfreind. But i dont no if i dnt wnt a boy freind and thats y dnt want to date him again or i just dont likme him. Oh yea hes in love with me and i dnt know if i am in love with him...


please answer

If this is so rocky, then maybe you guys arent good for each other. If your questioning your love for him so much, maybe you reallydont love him that much. Its not fair to him that you keep on breaking up with him and then going back out with him, and its not fair to you. Theres other guys out there.No worries. Hope I helped! Good Luck!

-Brina

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I'm Sorry but I count thsi question as a health question. Is it better to wax your facial hair or wax it? I have liek hair all over ym face and worse of all, a mastache! Im female by the way.

You meant wax or shave i'm asuming. Deffinitly wax it, it brings the hairs totally out, but if you shave, it grows back quickly. So deffinitly wax it. Dont worry, your not the only girl that has peach fuzz that makes her look like she has a mustache, its normal for some girls. Hope i helped! Good luck!

-Brina

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Alright, so christmas is in less than a month, and i have absolutley no idea what to get my boyfriend! My friends have told me what he's getting me, and it sounds REALLY nice, and i want to get him something good...but i just can't think. What do you think a 16 year old guy would like or want?
~Kaci

A cool shirt, maybe a polo or something if hes into that style,if he's into other styles, maybe get him a shirt from hot topic. Find out what his fav. band is and get hi a shirt from Hot Topic. Get him a CD of his favorite band. Or, get him a bracelet like the ones in the urls,they are guy bracelet dont worry {and inexspensive}. Watches are also nice gifts, maybeyou could get the date of when you guys stared going out on the back of one. Hope I helped!


http://www.hempjewelryshop.com/missy/hemp_brank_m/TNHEMPBRACANK28-M.jpg

http://www.hempjewelryshop.com/missy/hemp_brank_m/TNHEMPBRACANK24-M.jpg


Happy Holidays


-Brina

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Ok so heres my problem....
Im a 25 year old female living in Victoria, Australia. My dad left when i was a few mnths old and have never seen him. My mum abused me emotionally and physically all my life and my younger sibling was treated like royalty.I was called obsene names I was called worthless and stupid and other choice phrases.after fights mum would lock herself in her room when i was 5 and pretend she was dead. when i broke in she would still pretend that she was dead.....i'd scream at her til she got up and she would shake me and say "how would the family feel if they knew you killed your mother" i was abused physically and sexullay by my EX best friend and her friend. But lately i've been so miserable every day. nothing makes me happy and i've been cutting myself with a pair of scissors it doesn't evn hurt me. I pinch myself so i get bruises on my arms and legs....cuz i think i deserve it. It sounds stupid but i want someone to care about me and understand. but cant manage to get the words out. I don't want to be here anymore. How can i be happy again? what can i do?

I care. I know, most people cant even come close to what you've been through, but I care, I might not know you well, but I tend to be a very caring person. There is nothing wrong with you. Evidently, there is something wrong with your mother, which shouldnt even be called a mother considering how she treated you. Its great that your ex best friend isnt your friend anymore, you got out of that situation. Cutting is the sillyest thing to do. You dont deserve any of that, you shouldnt be punished for something that isnt your fault at all. You should deffinitly go to a clinic and tell them how you feel. Start a new hobby to keep your mind off of things. Instead of cutting yourself, get some rubberbands and put them on your wrist, and when you feel like hurting yourself, snap the rubberband instead. I know i'm 15, but if you need a friend, I'm here for you to email, or IM, anything I can do to make you feel better I'll do. You are not alone in this, and punishing yourself is not an answer. Hope i helped.


-Brina

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ok i like this new boy im pretty sure he likes me becuz 1 of his friends told me he did. and we always look at each other and glance away when we notice the other person is loking at us... well anyways wat do i do? i mean i want him to know i like him i just dont want to go up to him and say i like you do you like me?!? and if he doesnt like me that would b really embarassing! how do i drop hints and flirt? advice wanted from girls and guys especially!

thx!

Find out deffinitly from his friend if he really does like you. Sometimes sources dont always tell the truth. Get a little party together if you can, invite like 10 people and ask if he wants to come. Thats a way for you guys to chat, and find out more about each others feelings, without being too out there about it. Don't look away from him when he notices your looking at him, do a little smile, and wave cutely. That'll get him. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Well I met this guy at the dog park. He's incredible, and we totally hit it off. Then, this afternoon, we made plans to meet again, and we did, and though we didn't talk as much (there were other people there we were talking to) I had an incredible time. He's one of my myspace friends, should I message him and tell him I had fun, or would that be wierd? Should I wait a while? How long should I wait to see if he wants to hang out again?

Also I'm 18 and he's 24, do you think he'll think I'm too young? Ah this is so crazy I'm so infatuated with him.

Deffinitly message him. Just say The other day was great, hope we can hang out again! Just something sweet and simple. Dont worry, if he likes you a lot he wont worry about your age. If it takes a while for him to ask you out, then you could always ask him out, its really brave and guys like it. Hope i Helped! Good luck!


-Brina

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theres a guy whos in my math class who sits near me. He sometimes talks to me. Hes the kinda of guy whos just there. I dont feel too enrvous around him either. he often looks over at me and smiles at me a lot. He sat by me at lunch a few times, and i thought he was sitting by me cause there were his friends there. But I know his those arent the friends he talks to. so im kinda confused. he continues to stare at me often. any advice? thanks :)

Theres a high possibility that he likes you. Theres two types of ways guys flirt with girls, either being really rude, and annoying, or being extremely nice and friendly in most cases. Ask him to hang out one night, maybe watch a movie, just casual though, nothing serious, and see how he feels about you. Hope I helped!


-brina

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okay, so ive liked the same guy for about two years now, and he knows, and of course all my friends know..
but recently my friend and her b/f broke up ((she broke up with him)) and now it seems she might like the same guy i like! all she ever does is flirt with him, and i dont know.. it wierd.. i just dont know and im afraid to ask her.. what should i do?

Well, you can ask her, dont be afraid, but do it in a funny way. Like nudge her and say, so, you've got the hotts for so and so? If she says no, then she probably doesnt, but if theres a look on her face like she does, then she does, but its not a big deal. Just remind her again that you like him a lot. Shes probably just flirting with guys a lot because shes not on a fish hook anymore. Dont sweat it, if she does like him, stand out more so he notices you and might ask you out. GOOD luck. Hope i Helped


-Brina

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Hey. I'm a very sporty girl. I play soccer, basketball, and a little hockey. 70% of the time you'll find me out on the field messing around with my buds. But, since I'm so active I wear sports bras all the time. In fact, I only have sports bras. Lately my erm... boobs look odd in sports bras, It looks like I have one big one a "uniboob". I really want a real bra, a cupped one. But I'm soooo shy I can never ask my mom to take me to get one. Tips would be lovely yo help this conversation to go smoother. Thanks! 13/F

Go to some type of place in the mall were they have bras. Like, victoria's secret, or JC Penny, and dont be scared to go in VS, all ages of woman go in there...except little kids {lol} any sales rep will help you if you stil are having trouble after these tips. I reread this website about 5 times to make sure its what you needed, so just check it over, and tell me if it helped you :) Good Luck!

http://www.barenecessities.com/fit_sizing.asp

-Brina

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I feel like I'm more spiritual than Religious. My family is of the Christian faith. I'm not sure that I'm that religious. I believe in horoscopes (don't judge me) and the power of herbal healing and I feel like I'm more intouch with my spiritual side. Then again, I feel bad for being like that because I'm afraid I'm going to go to hell for not being that religious. I just feel guilty.

What are y'alls opinions on this?
What should I do?

Well, I'm Jewish, and my opinion is, that your religious, but you practice your religion differently. Its not bad to be in touch with your spiritual side. Don't feel guilty for nothing happening after praying for so long, most people pray, and nother ever happens. Don't feel guilty, If you've banged 250 guys, or shot someone, then you can feel guilty. ;). Spirtualness, is actual a type of religiousness beileve it or not.Hope I helped, good luck!

-Brina

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My best guy friend likes me (he told me) and I like him too. The problem is he is afraid of committment. I've been waiting about 3 months for him to ask me out, and I don't think I can take it any more. Any suggestions on what to do? Should I just give up on him, and find someone else?

If he liked you that much, he would want to comit to you. I say, shop for another guy for the time being. You shouldn't have to wait for a guy that says he likes you and then doesnt do anything about it, of course, you could do something, if you want him that badly, but in this case, he told you that he liked you, so he should ask you out. Just, keep your options open. Hope I helped. Good LUck!


-Brina

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kay a lot of my friends have been to second (aka, jerking off, fingering, whatever). im not ready for that, but i will probably be soon. it just seems kind of awkward for me- like where are you supposed to look or say or anything while you jerk a guy off or get fingered?! what is the etiquette for those kind of things? lol. i know it sounds funny but it's true!

Listen, you might not like this advice, but its good advice. Your friends have been to second base, that doesnt mean you have to do it. You just said your not ready for it, so your not, you wont be soon because like yo usaid, its awkward. Don't do what your friends do because they've done it! It doesn't sound funny, it sounds like you need to wait a couple years until you do this stuff, and have a sturdy relationship with a guy. Ask your friends about this stuff, since they've "all been to second".Good luck.


-Brina

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My name is **SARAH** and im 15 [[16 in 2 months]]. I have a boyfriend **JOHN** who is also 15 and going to be 16 in 2 months. Well JOHN and I have been going out for 5 months this Saturday. We get along so well and we talk about EVERYTHING. When we hang out we don't have to do stuff to have fun; we cuddle, talk about everything, watch movies, sit outside and watch the stars. Well the past few days we got ALOT closer. He is the first boy i went out with for longer the 1 week after my very first love and hardest break up of 2 years. Well; the other day we became alot more physical. I mean before that all we did was BARELY make out; but the other day. It was like we made out for 2 hours and he fingered me. I was the first girl he ever did anything with like that and he was the second guy who did it to me. [[my first love was obv. my first]]. Well; we both have talked and decided we don't want to ruin our relationship with being sexual all the time. He knows about my past and i told him i didn't want to have sex until i was WAYYY older and hopefully married. He tells me all the time he wants to marry me and that he loves me more then anything in the world and i believe him. Well, he also doesnt want to have sex until he is married. We have talked about this so many times; but i am afraid that one day i'm going to get to crazy and give in. I REALLY DONT want to. I already made this mistake before. Do any of you have advice for me? PLease don't tell me to talk to him about, we have. It doesnt have to be 1,000,000 dollar advice ANYTHING would help. Please help me and please don't criticize me.


**SARAH**

Thats great that your waiting till marriage. If you feel so passionately about waiting, then you wont give in. But, just in case, let this John guy know, that if you start to seem like you do want to, to not let it happen. No one should criticize this question,its a great one. Just continue believing in what you believe in and you should be ok. Hope i helped!


-brina

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Okay, well i have this freind, Jane, and she is the nosiest thing. She'll look aat my grades, eavesdrop on me and my freinds conversation and ask personal questions. it's like shes a stalker.
But shes realy nice, but annoying
what should i do?
-jan

If you she asks you something personal, or something you feel that she doesnt need to know. Just say jokingly, jeez jane, are you writing a book? Or, say, why jane, thats quite a personal questions. If she keeps bugging you about it, just look er in the eye and say, seriously stop. Yeah, shes nice, but a pain in the ass, not a good combo. So, if shes eavesdropping jus tbe like, excuse me, did you need something. Hope I helped.Goodluck.

-brina

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Well i weigh alot and im signed up to a gym but i don't go that often because i have aot of homework. Also i'm having some acne problems. And theres this girl i've been trying to impress latly so plz help me.

Find out the gym times, that way, you could do your homework, then go over to the gym. Or, you could bring your homework, like work on it while your on a tredmill or bike, because they usually have little stands were you can put stuff. The acne is probably caused by certain foods your eating, such as junk food, or oily foods. I have some tips about the acne thing. You could either pay a lot for pro active, or just do this:
Get a 2 dollar scrub from wal mart or some store, and get some oatmeal soap. Scrub your face lightly with the soap and scrub for about 3minutes, then, wash your face with warm water and then DAB your face with a dry towel. Repeat this for a while, rubing your face harder each time. And, as for the girl, girls love compliments. Tell her how mice she looks one day. Dont do it too much, she'll think your trying to hard. Just, find out what she likes. Ask her if she wants to hang out one weekend. Just do simple things, so that you can become friends, and then soon, become more if she wants to. Try for a new style that brings out your personality, something that she can notice. Hope I Helped! Good luck .

-Brina

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16-f

hey guys :] im in this really hard situation! so id like to tell you what happens and it might be kinda long but you need to know the details to know what im going through! so anyways..there is this really adorable sweet guy and ive liked him on and off for around 4-5 months. he never knew and still doesnt because he is one of my good friends and i see him alot, if not every weekend. because we go to different schools and my cousin is his neighbor. anyways before he got a girlfriend about 3 months ago me and him flirted like crazy i mean we would wrestle and get close, never KISS or cuddle or anything. but now that he has a girlfriend we dont do it so much anymore. sometimes i feel that he does have feelings or is still somewhat attracted to me. like tonight it was me and him and my two cousins together and like we were going to his girlfriends hockey scrimmage and so then we had to park far away because it was busy and my cousin forgot her cellphone in her car so hes like come on we'll meet her in there. and then hes like your my date come on! so he stuck his arm out and we like linked arms and then my feet hurt so i was like can you give me a piggy back ride :] and hes like yeah get on and so he did. and it was cute i was like aww i dont want this to end! and then like when we got back into the car he got really close but he was laughing and hes like ahh im cold and stuff! but then he moved back because we were both in the back seat and then his girlfriend came and she was with us for the rest of the night. one time we were playing football and then he like would give me the ball to throw because i wanted to but he would always like kind of hug me from behind and give me the ball. its like to ME he tires to flirt, without being too obvious and sometimes it feels like he likes me too! but doesnt want me to know or anyone else because he likes his girlfriend, but could there be a chance he likes me too? its like when i dont see him for a little bit im like good im getting over him i dont like him he has a girlfriend there is no point! and then right when i see him and we talk and like flirt all my feelings come back. im not going to stop being around him he is my friend and im soo happy when im around him. but then it kills me to know that he has a girlfriend and loves her not me...and me and him always joke like tonight i was coming home from work and they were coming to pick me up and im like i have to change first! and hes like okay you can just change in front of us ;) and started laughing! and then me and him both had to go to the bathroom bad so we pulled to the side of a road and my cousin was like go you two, you guys can have a quickie and then i laughed and then hes like alright lets go and smiled (but hes joking, obviously) but those kind of things come up all the time! like "sexual" but jokingly. and its like i dont know what to do because i dont want to be like nooo! ewww! because i know i wouldnt mind being with him but then i dont want him to know and be like okay! ahhaha. so i always just laugh about it. its sorta awkward but its cute how he answers. i dont want to tell him i like him because it would be soo awkward afterwards and woould pretty much ruin our friendship! and i try to deny to myself that i like him because i know i dont have a chance and that he loves his girlfriend but i just LOVE being around him. im always soo happy when i hear that im going to be seeing him :] i know i shouldnt put myself through this but i dont know what to do!!!! i love getting his attention and have him look at me and be around me but then i think. shoot he has a girlfriend :[


well here are some quotes that tell how im feeling if this helps any..


you tell me about her and i smile and say "thats great" but you know me and by the look in my eyes you should be able to see that i want to be in her place..

people constantly ask me, "are you two going out?" but they have no idea how much it hurts to say "no we're just friends"..

Yes, I love long questions, there so awesome to read and then...help with yeah. Ok, so, this situation sucks. I really know how you feel, except the guy that i had the hots for didnt have a girlfriend, and it was all so weird. Guys, sometimes dont realize how there making girls feel when they flirt like that. Yes, there is a 50 50 chance that he likes you. Evidently theres nothing you can do about it because he has a girlfriend. Its ok if you dont get over him right now, you dont have to, as long as you konw at this point you two cant be together. I think, that if you let him know how you feel, about trying not to like him, but hten suddenly liking him when you see him, that a burden will be lifted, and you'll be able to go on, dont be scared either, if he doesn't want to be friends because of that, then thats bullshit.About your quote:
"i just wanted you to know that i hate you for all this shit, but yet i still stick to you like paper on glue. i can never seem to get enough of you."
You should totally tell him that! It'll probably leave him dumbfounded, but who cares? You've gotta do what you gotta do! Hope I helped, good luck!

-Brina

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ohhh man :(
16 female..

well ive never had a boyfriend. ive never really been good with the guys because to tell you the truth, im pretty shy most of the time and im not a SLUT. ive only madeout twice and let someone kind of feel me up but like nothing in my pants or anything like that! but anyways..everyone including my parents are always asking why i dont have a boyfriend and like everyone else does. it makes me sad when i hear this! i mean im not a girl thats like quiet all the time, wont say a word, wont even talk to a guy! im outoging sometimes, its just when im around a cute guy i dont want to say stupid things and im not crazy as i am when im around my friends! my friends always ask me if i have any guy stories and im always like nooo..and there like why dont you? why dont u have a boyfriend your soo gorgeous you could pratically get any guy you wanted! i mean i dont think im ugly, but im not going to be conceited and say im like perfect or the prettiest girl in the world. i just dont know why guys dont like me. its not like im "mute" or super shy! im so sick of it though and i dont know what to do. im always meeting new people through friends but things never work out or they always have girlfriends! im a big flirt too but not over the top and also i think alot of them just think of me as "the friend" and it sucks soo bad! i need a guy in my life who will care for me and be there for me. i have the worst luck! and i always fall for the wrong ones...


well thanks :)

Don't worry, this isnt a bad thing. That special guy just hasnt found you yet. Depending on a boyfriend isnt the best thing, you said that you want a boyfriend in your life so he'll care for you and be there for you, thats not only what a boyfriend does, and you shouldnt depend on that. I think, if you have the hots for a guy, you should just ask him out. He'll think its deffinitly brave, and cute that you asked him out, its not bad to do that either.Dont give up, you'll find that fishy in the sea! Tell your friends your not trying to get tons of guys, your trying to get a great guy that you know you can have a real relationship with. Good Luck, hope i helped!!!


-Brina

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