about

Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

-Volleyball2150



BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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ok, i have clear skin. but you know when you have those problem zits that pop up every now and then? what can i use to make them go away..like something that doesnt take forever. i dont want to have to go out and buy something, but is there anything around the house that i could use besides lemon juice and toothpaste? i have clerasil, but it doesnt seem to work. thanks.

I don't know any home remedies that fix zits, but there's a product that i use

Clear & Clean

It has 10% hydogen peroxide, and that makes your skin dry so it makes the pimples go away.

You can put it on 1-3 times a day but I would start with 1 because in the beginning it can dry out your skin, then you have to put on a bunch of lotion.

http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=100303&navAction=jump&navCount=0&id=prod4384

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Okay well Me and my cousin Jill hang out with these girls Erin, Erin, Marissa, and Danielle.
well today we were planning a sleepover For tongiht And Everything and Then Like Out of No where They are Like, I am tired I think we Should Do it another night. But I just Looked at There Away messages and they are All having a Sleepover without Me and Jill.

By the way, This isnt the first time it happened, Its actually the 4th I talked About it to Them, the First TWO Times it Happened. and They flipped out on me. SO right Now i am confused I mean i wanna Tell them how i feel But They Keep on Flipping out on Me.

My Friend Heather used to be Friends with Them but Stopped Because they Kept doing This is to her too. I mean I kinda Wanna just forget about Them because They dont seem like Reak friends at all. But i kind that Hard to Do. I HATE Losing friends And its the Last thing I wanna Do.

So please Help, How could i Handle this? SHould i just Let it slide? Should i Ditch Them?
I NEED MAJOR ADVICE!!

You call those people your friends?!?!

ha I wouldn't...

they obviously don't want to be around you and Jill. and If I recall, you already posted a quesiton like this. And I think I told you to talk to them about it...

well you said that they flip out on you, just forget them!!!

I've had soo many friendships like this and I was stupid enough to continue being friends with them, then it got really badd...

stop this maddness right now and don't let it get too far. I know you said that you don't want to lose friends, but would you rather stick with them and always get hurt?? or lose them and make new and better friends that actually respect you and are actually your friends??

I hope you make the right choice
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i feel really stupid right about now. Because this guy that I really like. WEll he tALKS TO ME AND STUFF. He shows me that he likes me. I know that he likes me but he's messing me up. He makes me feel stupid because he'll act like he wants me so bad and yeah. Then he'll go away and wont talk to me. So I feel very stupid. I'm 14 and I'm not used to this stuff. Guys are so confusing. I think about him all the time. I just want him. Thats all. He has to make it difficult. although I couldnt really picture myself with him. It would be amazing if it was possible at all.

Ha Ha, yeah I agree.. boys are crazy and confusing. But what he is doing is sending you mixed signals. And hon, that means that he likes you... A LOT.

He's actually playing hard to get. and thats when he's showing that he likes you, but then doesn't talk to you for a while, making you want more of him... and his plan is working! Right now, you are dreaming of him.. arn't you?? You want him so badly, don't you??

Well, he had his fun, so you can have fun too. If you like him, try flirting with him and be all sweet and stuff, then when he is trying to talk to you, switch into the "ignoring" mode and don't talk to him for a while. ya know what i mean?

Make HIM want more...

-volleyball2150

PS: if you keep doing this, hopefully one of you will get sooo annoyed of this and will say something. Then you 2 can go out!

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Okay I dont know why But i get SOOOOOOOO Jelous whenever my friends hang out without me.!

I dont know Why, Like me and my cousin Jill are Really Good Friends With This Girl Named Heather and like Whenever they hang out without me i Get SOOOOOo jelous its not even funny.

And I really Want to Stop I hate Feeling Like That And sometimes it Causes Fights and I really Just want It to Stop.

So Please help Me Get rid of all this Jelousy.

maybe try talking to them about it. See WHY they are hanging out without you. maybe a reason will help your jelousy. Ask them why can't they include you too. If its' because you are busy with something... then take a deep breath and remind yourself that just because you can't hang out at the time, doesn't mean that they have to do that too. Maybe you are busy, and they want to do something... so they hang out with each other.

just relax and think of something else. maybe invite another friend over and hang out with them.

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Okay, so me and this guy that i really like named matt have been going out since 5th grade (im going to 9th grade) but on and off.. i really think we are like soul mates. but i met this guy thats going to be a senior this summer and i really like him. me and matt just started going out a few weeks ago after hating each other for a few mounths. this always happens, we break up and hate each other and then af ew mounths later we get back together. so right now we're 'in love' and stuff. but today matt was being rude to me.. and he kept hanging up on me and then didn't call back.. and hung out with his friends instead of hanging out with me, and im sick so he was supposed to come to my house. but i told the senior about it and he said that matt was only using me to 'get in between my legs' and so on.. he says i should break up with him and not wait but i really dont know what to do.. i mean i really like teh Senior, but then again i love matt.. but me and matt have been on and off for a long time.. and im wondering if i should try something new.. i've never been with a guy that much older than me but i kind of want to try!..help??

Ok now I know you may not want to hear this, but both of them are not for you.

Matt- I don't think he is using you, but if he truely loves you, he wouldn't be hating you for a few months... he would want to be with you every second. So If both of you are always breaking up and then making up, well thats not a good relationship and you can do better than that.

Senior dude- take my advice, stick with guys your age... because if you go out with people older or younger than you, it can turn out disguisting and bad. I've heard of a lot of people who think it's fine to go out with people that are 4 years older than them... but then they end up getting hurt.

Try to find a guy who is around your age and who will always be there for you and not breaking up and making up all the time.

I hope I helped!
-volleyball2150

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when does the next season start? and what number season will it be?

The 9th seasons starts on Wednesday, Sept. 19 at 8 p.m. on The CW.

http://www.etonline.com/tv/spotlight/49660/

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whenever i run alot my toenails feel like they're going to fall off and eventually they do. i'm pretty sure its not my shoes because i have 3 pairs of sneakers and 2 pairs of cleats and i tried wearing different ones but my toenails just keep falling off year after year =[ does anyone know how to stop this?

ummm... ha ha but no offense.. thats gross!!

I think you should see a doctor about this, it sounds really unusual to me. i've never heard anything like this.

Don't risk it, go to the doctor. It could end up being worse.

Maybe some kind of infection?? Try washing your feet and washing your shoes. Then put baby powder in your shoes and tap the extra powder out. Then try and see. But I would highly reccommend going to the doctor.

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is the girl "lonelygirl15" from Zoey 101 as "Lola" she looks like her!


AND! is she real? or is she acting

is "lonelygirl15" an AIM screenname? or is it an account on advicenators??

please try to give us more information!
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It's Tina, so you guys know.

Okay, so as some of you might know, my boyfriend died two weeks ago. A week & a half after his death, I got a rash due to how stressed out I was, and it hasn't gone away since. My mom made me a doctor's appointment, but she didn't feel good today, so I had to miss my appointment.

I've been using Cortizone 10 cream, and it works, but I hate the way it makes me feel all greasy & gross. I'm about to take a really hot bubble bath..Is there anyway I can try & get this rash to go away or at least calm down a bit until my mom can make me a new appointment? I'm really sick of being itchy all the time, and these bumps everywhere are pissing me off. =( If you guys know any home remedies, that'd be cool because I really, really need them.

I know that if I stop stressing out about this whole thing that it'll eventually go away, but me & his family have hardly any information about his death except for what I said in the mod forums, and I'm dying to know how he died, who did it, what happened & why it happened. And I'm just dying to vent, and I haven't been able to, so that's stressing me out as well. I'd love for this rash to go away, and for the stress to go away as well, but I honestly don't see my stress disappearing anytime soon. Any help? =/ It's getting to a point where I can't sleep at night because I'm so itchy..I'm at wit's end..Please help!

Hi tina,

I'm so so so sorry about your boyfriend! ='(
I hope you feel better and we will all miss you!!!!

Anyways, about your question... well I've had stress related rashes too, even hives, poison ivy etc. and I've discovered that Baking Soda helps. Just take a hot bath and pour a lot of baking soda in the water and mix it up with your hand. Then jump in the tub and sit there until it goes away. Sometimes it takes 20 minutes, sometimes 1 hour... it depends on how bad it is.

I hope you feel better!!!

-volleyball2150

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hi.
i need some help. i am currently dating this guy. for my situation he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we've told eachoter and we've gone out on a date. but the other night we had a "talk" and he just kinda said that he doesnt think i really do like him...and he went on to explain that i don't show it. well how do i show it? because i don't really get to see him that much. [we go to differnt school and we just work together so i don't wanna be all flirty and shit with him at work] so i'm not sure how else to show i like him.

any suggestions?

Well think to yourself, when do you see him the most? You don't see him at school, you don't want to flirt with him at work.... Maybe try to spend more "outside" time with him. Invite him over for a movie or something. There has to be another place where you can both see each other and that does not include work or school. So when you 2 hang out somewhere else, show your love for him by flirting with him, saying I love you lots of times, and just looking at him. If you don't understand what I mean, you can ask him how to show your love for him.

-volleyball2150

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http://i117.photobucket.com/albums/o79/Sabina-xo/-------------------someguy.jpg

yeah, that's Sean Faris.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0267511/

he plays in the movie Sleepover. that's how I remember him

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14/f

I do NOT have a clothing style. and sometimes this bothers me because when i go shopping, i feel like i dont really know what i want. i have a whole range of styles in my closet from scenish to preppy hiphoppy to sporty, but i dont want a style that can be so easily fit into a stereotype like that. so how do i choose?

I think its cool that you love to have different styles. You're just like me! In my closet, i have a lot of preppy clothes, fancy, sporty etc. just like you. But anyways, that doesn't mean that you have to choose one of them. Just find a store that has a style that you like. for me its-

Preppy- American eagle, aeropostle, hollister, abercrombie and fitch, etc.

not the usual teen clothes (fancy/clubbing clothes) - Von maurs, Deb, forever 21, rainbow, wetseal

sporty- pac sun, footlocker, Adidas,

so yeah, just because you love all of these types of styles, doesn't mean you have to pick 1. When you go shopping one day, just think of what kind of style you would like to go shopping for. Then go to those stores that carry that style.

If it helps, you could also go to department stores, they have a various types of styles.

Target, Walmart, JC Penney, Kohls, Sears,

I hope I helped!

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What are some places to shop at besides
- department stores
- forever 21
- hollister, ae, aero, abercrombie, etc
- deb

I know thats not really specific, but I'm trying to find some unique places to shop (16/f by the way) for a different wardrobe

PS please don't say check out your local mall, I already have...Thank You!

Plato's closet is also good. You can exchange your clothes there for money. and don't worry, it's not like kids stuff (limited too etc.) Its all teenager things. Some may be from hollister/ae/aero etc. but sometimes there are also things that look really cool. I bought so much nice things from there.

www.platoscloset.com

just search up the stores near you!

-volleyball2150

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13/f

Okay, so I have a very bubbly personality. Well, I'm staring 8th grade and I'm not nervous or anything, but some of my friends aren't in my classes. I don't really want to go to class alone. Especially in our school. Our school is bully central. The bullies don't bother me too much knowing I get away without being insulted, but I'm not too good in phyiscal violence. I mean, I am good at fist fights, but I wanna do good this year, not kill someone. I want some tips on getting to class without beating someone up. I'm a nice person when you catch me i na good mood, so could somebody get me some tips on starting 8th grade?! Please?! THANK YOU!

^_^ Izzy Uchiha!

hey

alright, well as for the friends part- You are gonna make new friends! it was about 3 days after school started and I had already made a lot of new friends. Just be nice, kind, and funny! nobody wants to hang around someone who is serious all the time. how boring would that be?!?!

bully- if someone ever does bully you, go and report them. Talk to a teacher about them or go to the main office and report them. But that is after it happens. When it actually does happen... don't get on the ladder with them. (aka don't start mouthing back to them, because then both of you will start to increase your tension and then it could be really bad, like threats, or bringing in weapons etc.) So just simply ignore them and walk away. If they call you chicken or scardy cat, just say whatever loser and then go away. Now, when you walk away... don't walk away where there's not a lot of people... walk into a crowd so that they will lose track of you. Or better yet, walk where most of the teacher are, aka in a classroom. even if it's not yours. Just pretend you have to sharpen your pencil, or spit your gum out, wash your hands... etc.

just don't worry and have fun!! most bullys like to pick on the kids who are quiet and shy. So just be yourself, talk to a lot of people, and have fun! School is not ment to be a place full of fear. you should feel safe at school. All that matters is that you focus on schoolwork.

8th grade is fun!! don't worry.

-volleyball2150

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okay so the other night, i met up with my new boyfriend at this elementary school thats close to our house to just hang out. my younger sis came, and two of his friends and mine that i knew from 7th grade ( we're all in 11th now) were there too. now its been since june that ive seen him because he was in nc with his sister, staying with his dad for a large portion of the summer since his parents are divorced.
so my sis and i were there and my boyfriend is in the middle of giving me a hug when we see my dads car pull up. he gets out and its soo obvious he was mad.
so my sister and i get home, and my dad lectures me telling me that i should call and tell him who i hang out with. and he was also bugged about how my boyfriend "had his paws on me"
My mom gets home from work that night and the first thing she did was come in my room and ask for my cell phone. i give it to her because i knew she would look at it to see if there were any from him.
later that night, she was saying how she doesnt want me hanging out with scum like him. she assumes that since his friend isnt big into education like we are that my boyfriend is the same.
she is finding every possible reason for herself to not like him. since im going into a better private school that costs well over 10 grand, she believes he's going to "distract" me from getting good grades.
yesterday she was mentioning how i should date people who have money and are close with their family. this really made me angry because back when my mom and dad were dating, my dad couldnt afford much and he was not close with his family.
shes basicaly told me she doesnt want me to see him. my boyfriend and i have known each other since 7th grade but we've been talking for about a year and before he left for NC we were quite close and we have strong feelings for each other. we've both decided to fight through all this.
I justt need help with how i can convince my mom to allow me to hang out with him?
has this happened to you before? what did you do?
thanks very much.

this hasn't happened to me, but it has happened to my best friend. I can't exactly tell you what to do, but i can tell you what NOT to do. You see, my friend was going out with some guy. and he's also my friend. well he wrote a note to her saying some things that shouldn't have been written down... and her mom found out about it and made her never to see or speak to him again. But they were inseperatable and couldn't last 1 week without seeing each other. so she talked to me, and we thought it was a good idea if she and i were hanging out and they 2 could meet. well..... that's the bad decision right there. DON'T LIE!!!!!!!! she lied to her mom about hanging out with me, then goes off and meets him. She eventually found out about it and you know what they did... she just kept on doing it.

so my advice to you- talk to your mom. Tell her that he is not the type of guy who doesn't do his homework, or is a distraction, or is poor, or is distant from his family. Invite him over to your house when your parents ARE there. so then they can see what type of guy he truely is.

Your parents are just trying to protect you from big jerks. Sometimes, parents are actually right!!! If they still don't allow him, then you better follow their rules and don't make the mess bigger than it already is. that's what my friend did and now she's grounded and I can't even see her until school starts. yeah, its that bad...

you can even have a talk with your mom and you tell her that just because a guy isn't rich, doesn't mean that he isn't a good guy! did you ever think that maybe the reason why a guy might be distant from his family, is because his family is in trouble of some sort? ask her that!

Tell her that when you get a boyfriend, he should be likable for you and your family. not just one of them.

do whatever it takes, but just don't lie!!

good luck!!!
-volleyball2150

PS: don't be afraid to tell your own opinion!

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ok so im in beuty school right now trying to become a hair dresser! its not that im bad at it or any thing its just theres this challenge i have to pass before i can become one.... and this challenge is a very sticky,NASTY and totally not sexy one. i have to style some ones hair who has LICE! yikes ... the school finds this abig deal since apparently we might come across this in the real world but i cant. its this weird phobia i have of them. theyre so big on this its actuallly required. i dont want to drop out because i only have a bout a month left of training then im a graduate. but serioulsy i cant do this. i might have to drop out which would be a waste of my years ive spent there. can anyone help me either get over my fear or give me something to say to the school?

just tell the school exactly what you told us. that you are scared of them. there is no way to be brave about them. everyone feels the same way about lice. just talk to them and see if they can give you another challenge. their choice! maybe even tell them that you are allergic to them? lol. but if you want to be a hair dresser, then one day you are going to come accross a person who has lice. Its better to practice now so in the future you are good. just get it over with!. maybe even wear gloves?? so that way you are not actually touching them.
I hope I helped!
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how r u like 9!!! cause u look like it. i came on this website to try to find a haircut but nvm

um excuse me?? what in the world are you talking about? do you mean to tell me that I look 9 years old? if you do, thats not nice. You should think about things before you say them (or in this case, type) seriously, i have no idea what message you are trying to say. maybe with better grammar, i would help you. it's not nice to judge people before you actually know them.

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Don't know if this is the right place but, I'm going to be in 10th grade this year and Volleyball season is starting in two weeks. I am so nervous I think I'm going to explode. I'm a good player (not to be a jerk), but I think I might lose it as soon as I step onto the court. How do I stay calm and keep my body relaxed as well before I end up having an anxiety attack? (again...)

thanks,
nervous

Hey, I play volleyball too and I know exactly how you feel. That's how I felt last year, even the year before that. heck, I've always felt like that. there's a saying that i heard someone once say "when you're nervous, you know that you're ready" So don't even think about you failing or messing up... just think about all of the positive things. If you keep negative thoughts in your head, bad things WILL happen. And you obviously don't want that to happen. You just gotta let loose and remember to have fun.

The main key about trying out for any kind of team is not only the skills and talent that you have, but also your pride and emotions when you do it. So don't play from your head, play from your heart. Play because you love to play. A lot of people are feeling the same way as you, and you know what happens to a lot of them?? they keep thinking the worst, and BAM! the worst actually happens and they get cut from the team... or something else. Just like the other advicenator said, do something that makes you calm.... laugh, cry, listen to music... anything that makes you calm and focused.

Also, have faith. You MUST have belief that you can do this. If you don't, then that means you truely do not want this. 20% talent, 80% heart. remember that.

just have fun! don't even think about making 'the' team... just be yourself and don't worry. think of it as 1 huge practice with a lot of girls. I garuntee you that you are not the only one who is feeling nervous. You just have to prove to these people that you can do it. that you can handle adversity.

-volleyball2150

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ok theres this guy austin whos a total player and never stays with a girl more than a few weeks. once he even told my bf to break up with me and find some "fresh meat" (grrrrr!). so it was really surprising when austin stayed with this girl ashley for 6 months. but anyway, he just broke up with her. he told my bf that the reason he broke up is cuz he just doesnt want a gf and wants to concentrate on sports, and how hard it was to break up with her. well that was 2 days ago, and he's already telling this new girl that she's hot and asking her to hang out. obviously the real reason he dumped ashley is for this new girl. so im just wondering, why he would tell my bf that? i mean, i can see him saying that to ashleys friends, so ashley wouldnt feel bad, but why would he lie to his one of his buddies about it? im just curious cuz it doesnt make sense, especailly with this guy.

you gotta admit, even your best buddies get curious about things. Maybe his friend got curious, so he just made up a lie and said that to him. It's not only ashley's friends that could get curious. ya know what i mean? Just like the other person, there could be multiple reasons. If I were you, just drop it and don't even go there.

-volleyball2150

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Ok...Im going through this stage where I want to meet new friends and kind of start High School with new people. I want to make new friends and be in a more popular group. I am kind of shy and I need to know how to get out of the shyness and how to make new friends. I am also kind of like a sporty kind of girl. I would like some help on becoming more "girly" and less "tomboy_ish." Thank you for all your help!

that's so cool. Well first off, try to take 1 day without thinking about sports or working out etc. That's what I do. Then start off by having fun... dress up in clothes, even if you think you look ridiculous in them. Then start putting make-up on, then do your hair etc.

Practice makes Perfect.

Invite a friend, for extra fun. Then go shopping together, a movie, a park, entertainment place etc.

When School starts, still keep in touch with your old friends, but talk to new people. If you are shy, just gather a bunch of courage and talk to people. Don't even care what people think, someone might actually think you look cool and fun and wants to hang out with you.

Just be yourself around them. be a social butterfly! Talk about things to people. First days of school are always about socializing and meeting new people. Just find someone you would like to be friends with and go up to them and introduce yourself. Soon enough you'll get their email address and start talking to them and have them as your best friend.

It just takes time.

be creative and have ambition to do this.

-volleyball2150

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