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is there any way to change your password once you have an account? if so how? thanx. x0

Yep, go to profile settings and you can change it there! Then click submit!
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♥ Erin

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I've always been one of those sneaky gurlz, (16~f) doin everything on da down low. My mom dont kno about none of my boyfriends, nor does anyone else except my sister, and she just recently found out.

Me and dis n*gga have known each otha for a while, we had kindergarten together. So we always been coo i guess, never really talked tho. Now it's like...we're always together. He calls me every night n everything. Everyone keeps saying we're too friendly...

Someone wanna define too friendly for me?

Well, I think it means that you're doing more with him than you should. If you just met him, that's why they're saying your're being "too friendly".
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♥ Erin

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How do you do those little hearts?

Hey! Just type & hearts ; but with no spaces.
It'll look like this: ♥
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♥ Erin

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I'm holding a handful of pills. I want to die so fucking badly but I'm afraid of destroying my family. They know i've tried to kill myself before*but endd up making myself just really sick* n havent let me see a shrink, i have absolutly no reason to be feelng this way. i had a fine day n now im looking at these things wondering what do to. i've taken a few, slowly. counting. but i jsut wanna fucking go but i dont wanna hurt people. i need to get the fuck out. can i run away for a bit w/o being arrested?
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OMG, whatever you do, DO NOT kill yourself. You're going to hurt a lot of people! You have to talk to someone! Talk to your parents, a close friend, or your school counselor, but don't kill yourself! Think about it. God put you here for a reason, you're not supposed to die right now! DON'T KILL YOURSELF!!!!!!!
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♥ Erin

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hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do

Just wear the dress you got. I'm sure EVERYONE isn't going to be wearing dresses to their shins. If you think it's pretty, wear it, because everyone else will think it's pretty, too. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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wow okay well im 14 and im not OVERWEIGHT but im on the high level of where people my age are suppose to be i mean im not skinny but im not fat like ...i just got a little gut.but im in a lot of active thigns..over summer...but during winter i dont do any thing and i hate it ..im usualy on 3 softball leagues and then voelleyball so i loose weight from there..any idea's? PLEASE ...

You have to make a plan. Do about 20-30 pushups, situps, and crunches at night, then increase them after a week or so. Don't skip breakfast, it screws up your metabolism. Eat healthier. Maybe try going to a gym if you can. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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At school...im popular, but im kind of ugly. i like boys but they dont like me back more than a friend. At dances im afraid to ask boys to dance and they never ask me. I'm not afraid of dancin with them i'm just afraid if they'll say yes or no. It's the same reason why i dont ask boys to go out with me or something. To top it off, im at a brand new school this year and i dont really know what they would say, if they're like the boys at my old school or not. What should I do?

Guys should like you for who you are, not for what you look like. I hate when guys do that. The best thing to do is just wait, because you WILL find that someone, I promise! Also, maybe try talking to more guys, so they'll notice what a great person you are. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I have 2 questions...
1) How can I decide what college I want to go to? I know I have to apply to a few, but, you know how everyone has there heart set on one, how can I pick one for me?
2) And, is there any kind of quiz online I can take to give me some good results on a career I could go into? I'm dumbfound when it comes to what I want to be and go to college for.

You just have to decide what kind of things you want to do and look online for colleges that provide the training for that. Sorry, I don't know of any websites. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Sorry about the length..and I hope this makes sense.. Okay, i have this friend..lets call her C...anyways, she will be really rude to me at school and it gets really annoying because i don't do anything at all so I ignore her or something. But then at home on IM she's like "I never say anything mean to you! Or im always just kidding! You are always so mean to me!" and she like doesn't get that i hardly ever do anything to her at all! Then she'll be like well you were calling me a bitch and a slut all day (which is NOT true, i don't!) but she will constently bother me about this guy i like and make fun of us when im with him and stuff and say she never did anything! It's soo annoying!!! what should i do to get it through her head???? thanks for any help!

I don't think she's gonna get it, but try writing her a note or something. But seriously, I would just stop being friends with her. What kind of friend is that anyway? Go look for better ones! Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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ok strange stuff has been happening to me I see like some thing happen in my head then they actually come true and soem times I will cry for know reason and then some thing later that day or week some thing really really sad happend weather its on tv or at home and then I told my friend that my cat might die becuz she was really sick and I promise 5 minutes later the vet called to tell us she died I think I am becomeing a freak

Hey, you're not a freak at all. Some people have what I think it's called ESP. Here's a good website about it: http://www.themystica.com/mystica/articles/e/esp_extrasensory_perception.html
And here's test you can take to see if you have ESP: http://web.tickle.com/tests/esp/?sid=2647&supp=nopop&test=espogt
Good luck
P.S. Sooooo sry about your kitty!
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♥ Erin

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ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

Ya, it does, but it's really unhealthy. If you want to lose weight, instead of going anorexic, make a plan. Do about 20-30 crunches at night, eat healhier, no junkfood, don't skip breakfast. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Hey guys =D here's my question.. there's this girl @ my school, we're pretty good friends. A couple of days ago, she told me she liked me in a more then friends type of way. Problem is i'm a girl & i don't swing that way. I want to tell her that i'm not attracted to her in that way, but i don't know how to do that without hurting her feelings... any ideas would be great! thanks!

Just tell her you're not like that, and you really just want to be friends. Tell her you really care about her and don't want to lose her friendship. She'll understand. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Hey, I'm a 17 Male from TN and I need a little help on how to deal with my brother. We are ferturnal Twins and a pretty close. He is a heavy drug user, smokes pot usually about twice a day and takes other drugs with it like Adderal (which he is not perscribed to). He's been doing it for around a year and a half now. He drives while hes intoxicated about everyday. He's been to Juvy, had his car taken away at least 3 times, and been on probation, but he wont quit!.

I want to tell my Mom about all hes doing, but it would ruin my relationship with him and would probably make his friends and my friends hate me (because we are twins we have a lot of the same freinds). Also, hes been in trouble so many times and hasn't changed that if i tell on him he might not change because of all the other times hes been caught. His life is in danger though and I might be doing the wrong thing by not telling him, but a lot of people need to choose by themselves or they won't quit. So I don't know what to do.

You have to tell your mom. I know he'll be mad, but later on, he's gonna realize that you only did it because you care about him. If you never told anyone, and he ended up in the hospital, you'd feel really bad. At least try to help. Tell him he can die from doing that. And I know how you feel, cuz my brother smokes, does drugs, and drinks, and he's only 18. But you gotta tell someone. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i feel really caught up inside myself. like i like this guy jake and he likes me but i haven't told anyone b/c my friend alexia just came out of a sort of relationship with him (basically he was off limits to people INCLUDING NOW!) i know that might sound selfish but that's just how alexia is. anyways i just want to go out with him but he won't ask me out b/c of alexia. i dont know what i should do as far as asking him out or just talking to him.

Well, don't go out with him at least until Alexia gets over him. But it might take awhile. Friends are more important than guys, remember that. Don't go out with him unless Alexia says you can. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

Wow, long question! Lol, it's ok. I think you should go out with again. I really think you guys have something. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i was just wonderin... well i just got my period for the first time yesterday and i wanted to know how many pads your supposed to go trough it one day?

There's not a certain # you have to use. It depends on how heavy your flow is. Just change them whenever you need to. And if you use tampons, you change them less often. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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i am going to be 14 soon nd i took a cpr class and i like children but i have never babysat before and i really want to but everyone always asks my older sister first and i would put up flyers but thats dangerous, what should i do?

Have your sister tell people about you. The word will spread. They'll tell there relatives and friends. Or just put flyer in your neighbors with little kid's mailboxes. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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hey..im a 14/f and i want to start playing hockey..if anyone can give me a good site that will give me some tips and tell me the rules and positions and stuff...or if you could just tell me a basic understanding of ice hockey..thatd be great...thanks!

Here's a good website I found on Google for ya: http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/syws/hockey/hockey.html Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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well there is this boy in my class lets name him john and for some odd reason he always goes out with everyones best friends and he just went out w/ my bff so im next in line. The only problem is that every1 just went out with him because they knew of wut he was doing which they thought was so retarded but i actually do like him and if my friends no i do they'll prob. laugh so what do i do

Well, I'd go out with him, but there's a good chance of him dumping you like everyone else. Idk, I'd go out with him and just see what it's like, and if you don't like him, dump him. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Okay,I'm goin out with this guy.And im starting to get sick of him pickin on me insted of loving me.Like the other day at a game he was like hittin my leg,i know hes just kidding.But its getting on my nerves..

Tell it bothers you, and if he likes you, just tell you! Lol. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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