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Hi everyone, does anybody know good ways to make money? Thanks, I'll rate the first three that answer a five. (link)
if your a girl you can sell yourself lol. um if your old enough try a casion, or making bets with your friends. or if your young enough bug your parents. also you can sell all the crap that you never use anymore


okay so i smoked pot once and then i did it again for the second time. I told my friend and my friend said i broke a promise saying that i wouldnt do it again but i never promised anything, now i think my friends mad at me. what should i do? (link)
IMO as long as youre not doing it too often then theres nothing wrong with it. if your friends are willing to ditch you over something like that then they arent really friends after all. tell them you dont presssure them into doing it so they shouldnt pressure you into not doing it. they probably jsut dont understand that doing it twice really isnt dangerous and are jsut looking after you. expalin to them that you can take care of it and not get addicted (assuming you can) try to make them understand.


I have a problem with getting a boyfriend! I don't know why because I think I make a really great girlfriend (I'm told this also) and I'm extremely loyal. I'm not ugly either. I think I'm pretty OK looking (long brown hair, blue green eyes, 5'5", tan). I'd show my picture but you all would probably say "No wonder you can't get a boyfriend!" But anyway, I always seem to attract guys way older than me who are perverted and just want me for one thing. Sex.

Is there any way I can get a guy to notice me? I know this sounds cheesy and stupid, but I don't really feel "complete" without one. I don't have any friends at all. I had some but they're unreliable and never want to hang out so screw them. I want a boyfriend really bad! Plz help.

I rate btw. And also don't tell me I'm pathetic... (link)
hey all guys are after sex, even the ones taht say they arent. older guys tend to go for younger girls its just the way it is. if they arent too much older (more than 125% of your age) then you should go for it. if you want guys to notice you then the best thing to do is dress sluty, sorry that really is the only reliable way. you could always make the first move, guys like that.


My friend keeps copying everything I do. Like getting contacts.. my sneakers.. classes. Stupid stuff like that. It just annoys me and I dont want her to get upset over it but it just gets on my nerves. How can I bring it up without hurting her or making it seem like I'm sick of her or something liek that ? (link)
when did she start? if its a recent thing start acting like the way she used to act before she started copiying you. i know it sounds corny but it should work


i really like this guy that lives in my neighborhood, but im scared that if we ever go out it'll be awkward cuz we're neighbors...what could i do? (link)
uh why would it be akward?


I am on someone elses user name. Is advicenators expierencing aome techniquel difficulties?

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yes they are its happening to everyone jsut log out and log back in.


hey! i asked this one guy out(13,f) and he said no but he still wants to be friends. we hang out all the time and he TOTALLY flirts with me and i do the same! he has to know how i fell, he would be a complete dork not to, but i think he feels the same, but he said no?! how do figure out what he's thinkn'? (link)
sorry he doesnt like you that way. some guys are jsut flirtacious like that with friends. asking a friend out once is dangerous enough, asking them out a second time is a really bad idea.


I'm 13. I have 5 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of pants, 5 shirts and 2 sets of pJ's.

I keep asking and asking my mom to take me out shopping, but she always keeps saying no. I get in trouble at school a lot because my shorts are to short and my pants are too tight, but I can't help it if my mom never takes me shopping!
How do I get her to take me out shopping? (link)
heres the best solution find your shortest shorts put them on. put on your most revealing shirt and go to school. make sure to really flaunt. you will get in trouble and your mom will get called in. that will escalate it to the point that she has to buy you stuff. of course if you dont want to get in trouble you can jsut keep bugging her until she agrees


okay i realli need help..
heres my story:

i had this boyfriend before and he treated me "okay" when we were going out..but then he also pressured me into doing stuff with him that i wasn't readi for! then one day he broke up with me..and i was crushed for about 3 months..and he would always fight with me after we broke up and everything..and i told myself that i would never go back out with him..but now after 3 months have gone by..we are realli good friends and he told me he changed..and and i hung out with him last night and i do kinda see a change..but i realli n truely love him..but i don't wanna get hurt if i say yes if he asks me back out! which he alreadi told me he was going to! but my real question is..can people realli change?
please help me! i rate realli high!
thanks!

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getting back with your ex is a bad idea in most cases. you remember all the good stuff then when you get abck together it becomes obvious why you broke up in the first place


im a big christian. very religious--but the guy that i like, and likes me, is jewish. i know that sounds dumb, but seriously, i dont know how my parents would feel. what should i do if he asks me out? (link)
judith id jsut like to say you have no idea what yor talking about. why would a jew believe that jeses came back a second time if they dont believe he ever came back a first time?

unless your at taht age where marriege isnt far off you have nothing to wory about. he'll be busy friday nights and youll be busy sunday mornings. its shouldnt be a prolem. your parents might not like it though.


okay .. i`m a sophmore in high school and the school is extremely huge .. its the biggest in the state of SC .. anyway .. going to school in a big high school means that there's a lot of guys! which is good for the us (the girls) but , i just can't seem to "get" one. its not because i'm ugly --what i think it is , is the fact that i am what you could say "a quiet one" i lyk can't talk to any "hot guys" i get all nervous and crap and then if i do talk i make a complete IDIOT outta myself. I dated this 18 year old for almost 2 years on and off and it was the best 2 years of my life .. i was happy and he treated me well but then we called if off since he was going to college and i was starting high school .. so i have mixed feelings about that also .. i want a boyfriend but i dont know how to get one i guess is my question .. how should i do this?!

Sincerely,
Boyfriend-less (link)
notes wtf? shes in high school not elementary school. guys like confidence so thats what you need to work on. if your cute then you really have nothing to worry about. flirt around with guys wait till one asks you out.


I like this guy named Ben and hes really really hott and nice and I talk to him online like everyday and I met him at a highschool game and I asked him if he wanted to go to homecoming and he said He MIGHT ask me Is he going to or not ? Cause he said it in a happy way but I dunno help me (link)
no, sorry. if he says he might hes either trying to be nice about blowing you off, or checking other options.


I hate myself . And I can't stand it . I want myself dead . I used to cut myself , but I'm just an unloved rocker who just writes depressed,dark,killing,mental songs now for her rock band .
I just turned 14 and I started high school . I have only like a few new friends and all my old best friends . But , yet I still feel alone .
I hate myself . I think I'm ugly . All I want is a guy to like me and noone would ever . I guess people don't like me because I have crooked bones in my feet and I'm "gothic" because I dyed my hair black and bleached it blonde on top like the girl from my fave band The Start ( check out the pic I look exactly like the lead singer www.thisisthestart.com ) Anyways , someone help me . I sound depressed and I'm really , really , really depressed ...... so bad .... I cry to much .... nobody loves me ...... maybe suicide is sweet and swift better than here .......
Ally (link)
suicide is not swift. even slitting your wrists. your brain kicks into over gear and no matter how much you want to die youll try and save yourself. if you look exactly like that lead singer then you're preatty cute. you will find a guy who likes you, some guys dig the whole gothic thing. good friends are hard to find, great friends are 1 in a billion that means if your lucky you will have 6 great friends your entire life. all teenagers hate things about themselves. killing yourself is not the answer.


I'm thinking of selling my old computer. It's a 486 with 4 megabytes of RAM running windows 3.11. How much should I be asking for it? (link)
wow thats old. i dont think you would get much for it at all. the average computer has 256 megs of ram.


arite i'm 15 i been goin out wit this boy for almost a month n knew him for like 2 1/2 or w/e cept it's online. he lives somewhat close n everything n he's my age-ish. he really wants to meet me cuz we have real strong feelings for each other, strong as they can get over the computer. i've seen his pic he aint seen mine but i told him everything i look like, eyes hair, and that i'm overweight. he said he doesnt care n he just wants to be wit the person he cares for this much. i'm a naturally shy person n i'm even more shy/scared now cuz i don't want to lose him. how do i meet him n not be shy or scared? shuld i trust that he doesnt care about looks? what do i doooo? (link)
really a bad idea to meet people from online. a pic is extremely easy to fake. id strongly advize against it. but if you must you must. tell some one where youll be that way if anything happens the cops will have something to go on.


One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?

~Amberlynn (link)
i would say stay away from him. if he dumped your friend because he "heard you liked him" means he doenst get attached to the girls he dates. he'll dump you as soon as some one hotter comes along and youll have a broken heart, and your friend will hate you.


what is the name that chicago is in? thanx (link)
central timezone. easy google question


my mother and her whole family are white. however my father is half & half..(black/white)
..everyone in his family is white, except for his father.(my grandad) so..what am i? half/half? or just white? and if any1 knows, what percentage of each would i be? :) ty! (link)
really now way to determine from that. you might have gotten all of his white chromosomes and be all white or you might have gotten all of his black chromosomes and be half and half. since you knowing if you are a boy or girl would affect it slightly. anyways id average it out and put you at about 25% black a little more if you are a guy a little less if you are a girl.


Ok, so this year I just started highschool and I love it. I'm making alot of new friends, and people are starting to like me more. But there is this guy. I like him alot, he's a senior. And he is popular. we are friends but i like him alot. I want to get to know him more but i dont know how. we have one class together and we talk alot but i just want to know how to become good friends with him (link)
the age difference isnt a factor in case you were worried about that. jsut keep talking to him if all you wana be is friends tehre really isnt much you need to do.


me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months and i was at his house the other day and we were getting kind of sexual... we didn't have sex or anything but we were like "dry humping" and my underwear shifted and his penis went in... it wasn't for like that long because as soon as we both felt it we like jumped apart from eachother. he said that he didn't cum but there is still the whole issue of pre cum and he might have a little bit... he didn't go in deep though it was like hardly an inch. is there a chance that he could have cummed a little bit and i could get pregnant? or does he have to go in deeper? (link)
yes i supposed you could be. not that much of a chance but it is there. if you miss a period the you should be worried. if you are the paranoid type take the morning after pill assuming it hasnt been that long




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