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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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hi, why does a boyfriend of one and half years asks whether he can ejaculate in me or not and also most of the times he says he wants to come in me. he knows that i want to have a baby. we're just not fully stable financely but he says we'll see whatever happens. we love each other a lot. we're in our early 30's. my question is he wanting to make me feel better or does he really want to or is he just being a guy because it feels good to ejaculate in a girl? thanks everyone.
Here is what you said: { e knows that i want to have a baby. we're just not fully stable financially}
If you aren't ready for a pregnancy then do not have sex without proper protection, Babies require stability and deserve parents that are stable enough to support them and provide them with proper care. Your boyfriend is being a typical horny guy, As horny men tend to think inside their pants rather than using their heads in the heat of the moment. You said it yourself, You both are not finally stable at this time to have a baby and therefore you should be smart and hold off on allowing him to have sex without a condom.
what is the reason that boyfriend wants to me to move in together with him? we've only been dating for a year now. could anybody tell me that moving together means, what? i reckon it is indeed a big step. thanks.
Don't move in until you two are sure you are both ready.
Living together with a spouse isn't something you can say yes to in a matter of a few minutes.
When two people live together they share living expenses, If rent would to be 800 a month you would be paying the half of 400 including half of other utilities. Living with someone can be a real deal breaker if you are committed to doing so but the whole idea doesn't come without any baggage either.
They say if you can live with your spouse for 6 months, Then you can live with them forever. Now whether this may actually be true or not.....I'm still figuring that part out.
I have lived with my partner for a few years now and I'll explain a few things I've learned...
Assuming you live at home with your parents, Living out in the real world requires a great deal of responsibility. It took me a few months to learn how to handle finances and learn to be around my other half a lot more than I was but I eventually got the hang of it.
Your boyfriend wanting you to move in is a sign that he wants to take the next step into the relationship but again don't do it unless you are ready. I'm not saying it won't work out but I'm saying definitely have a back up plan if it don't.
My kitten is so adorable. He always wants to eat whatever I eat. Just now, I took out a slice of cake and milk and he's trying to crawl all over me, and try and jump on the plate so he can eat it.\
And typically he doesn't meow, or mew.. Only when he's hungry, needs to go to the bathroom or just wants attention. I have his food out but he just wants to eat the cake. I have a glass coffee table that I have the cake set on, and he's trying to go underneath and see if he can somehow get it (so cutte!)
Anyways, I feel bad but I definitely know I cannot be feeding him cake or cow's milk. So what can I do to make him stop wanting it so much, and make him stop mewing?
Your kitten is just being a typical kitten
Sometimes babies don't always want what the parents feed them, They want what Mom and Dad are having. You just have to tell your kitten "no" and put the kitten down. This kitten is young and has not yet learned what it should and shouldn't be doing.
When the kitten does this tell him "no" and place the kitten in front of his food bowl or on the floor. You have to teach the kitten that he/she shouldn't be begging and whatever you do don't feed the kitten the cake!
Also, I mind as well let you know be very careful how much milk you give a kitten/cat as too much can cause an upset stomach, possible vomiting and diarrhea as cats are lactose intolerant.
I been having this odor down there and also brown discharge , its not because my period but i don't know why I'm having it .. I also have a bad uti but i don't think its from that either what could it be?
It could be a bacterial infection, Yeast Infection, Bladder Infection etc.
You should call your gynecologist and get it checked out.
17/f, i broke my virginty yesterday. it was protected sex. i had my periods till day before. and now all of a sudden, the very next day after sex, i got my periods again. am i pregnant? pls temme d precautions. wat shud i do now.? y is it hapenning>
It's normal
You cannot detect a pregnancy a day after you have intercourse, It takes up too 2 weeks to get an accurate result with a home pregnancy test.
If you don't want to become pregnant then continue to use all precautions, Something as simple as pre-ejaculation can cause a pregnancy. If you aren't already you could also look to seek some sort of birth control as well. The safer, The better.
is it a myth that if men suck on your boobs, they grow? because my boyfriend does it multiple times a day and ive been in the same bra size.
lol, No this isn't true. Don't believe everything you hear
ok i like these 3 guys and i dont know for sure if they like me or not. one of them has a girlfriends and the other 2 dont. like any other middle school girl i keep my love for them a big secret. my question is how to make sure i know that they like me or not.
Stay away from the one with the girlfriend, How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and some girl was trying to get with him? This guy is taken and is in a relationship with someone. Also, If you try and interfere with their relationship in the end all fingers are going to point at YOU. Do you really want to be that girl?
As for the other 2 guys, You talk to them, Get to know them and find out what kind of personalities they have. If you end up liking both of them then you are going to have to decide which one you can see yourself connecting with. It is wrong to date more than one person at the same time.
I love animals -- and I've always loved animals. Now, I have a kitten and he's absolutely sweet, and adorable though he likes to bite and scratch me sometimes.
Regardless, I honestly just feel like hurting him but I don't know why! All sorts of things come into my mind on how I can hit him, or kill him.
And I've already a couple of times, roughly thrown him or shoved him off of me when he was jumping on my hand/fingers to bite.
I mean I also get these thoughts about my family members from time to time as well like my brother. I love him, but even sometimes I want to kill him and I get really odd thoughts like wanting to stab him while he's asleep, or this one time when I was renovating my closet.. I felt like bashing his head with a hammer while he was alseep.
I don't know what's wrong with me (besides being crazy)!
DO NOT hurt or kill your kitten, This animal is innocent and did nothing wrong.
Frankly, I'm going to just be upfront
You need to seek some sort of help, Your behavior is NOT normal. What you are doing is abuse and if you get caught you can be charged with a shit load of crap. Which right now I am going to honestly say I feel you deserve some sort of punishment.
You don't deserve to own an animal nor do you deserve to own any for this matter. If you are having thoughts of killing or hurting a person or an animal then use whatever sense you have and call 911 IMMEDIATELY and get yourself evaluated. PLEASE!
My ex broke up with me just over a year ago, we didn't stay friends (my choice) as I felt it was the best way to move on. A few weeks later one of his friends messaged me and was flirting etc, it didn't lead anywhere as I dismissed it but he wanted it to and since then we've remained friends, although he still will often hint that he likes me as more than a friend.
A year down the line and a different friend of my ex is flirting with me. I know my ex doesnt know about either of his friends contacting me because he wouldn't be able to keep his mouth shut about it and they don't flirt in front of him, I'm just wondering why his friends are choosing me to ask out?? even a year down the line?
His friends probably figure a year is enough time to let it all blow over, However I really recommend not dating any of his friends. Dating a friend of your ex is never a good idea. It leads to drama, Jealousy and stress.
Your ex may still like you it's very possible but lets face it normally when a relationship ends it rarely ever works out the second time. Your best may of been to just go your separate ways instead of getting involved in a friendship.
Now on the other hand, If you want to date one of his friends then go for it but be prepared to have some sort of huge blowout between all of you. Nobody can tell you that you can't date whoever you want too date and a year is a hell of a long time to still dwell on the past.
If you really want my opinion.........Stay away from him and his friends, Start clean by meeting new people.
im 13 female and my boobs hurt....but not growing hurt...everytime i grab them it hurts and i dont even grab them hard......is this normal...whats happening??? im confused!!!!!
These sound like period symptoms, This is a very common sign in women who are expecting their period soon.
Hey there. Well my boyfriend is always super nervous whenever i dont text him back and whatnot. I tell him not to be but it persists.
Im 16 and female
Talk to him
Let him know that you feel he doesn't trust you and it bothers you. Everyone needs their space once in awhile in relationships and it is not healthy to demand every second of someone's attention. Simply asking your boyfriend for some space is not a bad thing. If I had my partner up my rear end every second......I promise you I'd probably go insane.
Open communication, Your boyfriend needs to learn to trust you.
Hey I'm 20/f the past 2 months my period has been late by like 4-7 days. The past year or so it's always been right on the day. 28 days exactly. I noticed last month that it was 4 days late and i had my normal period i was suppose to start my period today and once again i haven't gotten it. Why is this all of a sudden happening? I'm not anymore stressed out than i usually have been. Anyways thanks for the advice i do rate.
Every women is different, Sometimes we are regular and then we end up drifting off a time schedule.
4-7 days late isn't anything to panic about, As long as you are getting your cycle every month you should be fine. In many cases the cause of period delay can be a sign of pregnancy, depression, poor diet and lack of exercise. If your period is a week late I wouldn't make a big deal of it. If you haven't seen a period in a month, Then I would be concerned and if that were the case you should schedule an appointment with a gynecologist.
Since i have this self esteem problem i focus on guys and the way they are alot more then other people might. What ive notices is 20 plus years ago longer labias were prefered and guys didnt make fun of woman for what they looked like, men respected woman for what they had. What ive notices about now adays is all guys want is sex, they will lie, and munipulate to get it. I have heared famous people like Dane cook, and people off the movie Hallpass making fun of girls appearence and it seems to me that small and tight is right and loose and long is wrong. I know it doesnt go for all men but why do you think the generations evolved into such vulgur behaviour? it must have to do with the porn.
Time changes everything, Today 13 years old are ending up pregnant while 10 years ago it wasn't as common as it is now.
People are just more arrogant and rude, Not all people are this way but most are. I really cannot tell you why the generation has changed it just happens. I can tell you every time I ever had sex, It never even crossed my mind to what someone looked like down there at all. Now as far as Dane Cook and celebrities go well...They all seem to be a bit cocky in Hollywood they expect the perfect-ism in everything and anything but reality is nothing is ever perfect now matter how famous or rich we are. Nobody is perfect, Not even a porn star.
You should learn to appreciate your body, Be happy with yourself. Being with someone in a relationship is about love, respect and trust. Not about how perfect someone is and picking out their qualities. I do not know you, I have never met you but I am sure you are beautiful inside and out. It is not about looks, It is about who someone is. Like I said previously a vagina is a vagina no more no less.
k so im 16 and still a virgin, i masterbate all the time but only with my fingers...i want to use a vibrator because im scared that when i do it the first time the penis wont fit, so do you recommend i use a vibrator and if i use a vibrator does that mean im not a virgin anymore??? Please help!!
If you use a vibrator, You are still a virgin. You will be a virgin until you come into sexual contact with another person. Is it a bad thing to be a virgin? No. Having sex is not a race, I didn't end up having sex until I was almost 18 years old. Sex isn't about loosing your virginity, It is about sharing something special between two people that trust one another and been together for a long time. As for a penis, Vagina's stretch and trust me you won't have a problem getting it in. A women gives birth to a baby......That should tell you something. I really would recommend reading up on some information before you think about having sex.
Hello,
My name is Kailey and i am a 17 year old female. I am writing becuase there is a problem i have with my body and i am to embarassed to find out in person, the answer. My Labia is alot longer than it used to be, i have no idea why. But i hate it. I feel like it is keeping me from feeling good about myself. I hear people making fun of them all the time and it kills me. so what i want to know now is, Are long labias attractive or repulsive? becuase i personally think there repulsive and vaginas should be cute, pink, and easy to play with.
You are over looking it
Vagina's come in all shapes and sizes, There is nothing wrong with your labia, It is definitely something you shouldn't worry about.
Now for the very end of your question; Vagina's are not cute, They are not supposed to look cute.
A penis doesn't look cute, All a vagina is, Is a body part on the human body. Right now it may seem like a huge deal seeing you are 17 and at your age people seem to be talking about sex etc. Honestly? When you have sex with someone that person isn't going to care what your vagina looks like and if they do, They are way to immature to be having sex with. Seriously, Don't worry about in the long run it isn't going to matter at all what you look down there. Being intimate is a whole lot more than worrying how attractive you are down south.
In the last six years my mother remarried. He's from Sudan. In my opinion he's a crap husband; he's never there, he makes no effort to be a good husband or a step dad and I dont particularly like him. I think she married a dead beat. But thats okay. Its her choice, not mine.
They have two young children. It's the eldest I'm most concerned about. He lacks discipline. He messes around, takes tantrums and doest eat his meals. My step dad will often shout at him or smack him, and while i don't approve of such outdated parenting techniques, it's not against the law to smack your kid.
Today I visited for dinner and as usual he was messing around at the table. My brother spat out his food apparently and my step dad just snapped. He started shouting and slapped him in the face - though not a huge adult slap - and grabbed his cheek and started twisting it. All the while my brother is screaming and crying in both pain and fear. My mum came through from the kitchen and he grabbed my brother by the arm and took him to his room and shut him in. I shouted at my mother that i'd call social services and my sister shouted at him, saying he went too far.
For the next few hours my brother kept calling my step dad a 'bad guy'.I've seen my step dad before really nipping him for no reason, pushing him, smacking him too hard etc.
Before I left my step dad apologised to my brother, hugged him and told him he loved him. My brother is not introverted, he doesnt show any signs of fear from my step dad unless he's angry and is generally outgoing, if a little shy. He doesnt have the behaviour of an abused child and loves his dad it seems.
Im at a loss. I am heart broken and livid that my brother was so afraid of his father and I've seen my step dad act inappropriately towards my brother before, just not as bad as this.
My sister has since texted me telling me my mother told him that if he does it again he's out the door but im still concerned.
Does this constitute of physical child abuse? Should I go to social services because of it? I have no idea what to do. My father dismisses it as a cultural thing; he was regularly beaten with bamboo as a disciplinary action by his father (though his father was a drunk and they lived in poverty in hong kong). As does my step mother dismiss it. But they werent there and they didnt see the fear. Perhaps my step dad is parenting the only way he knows?
Yes it does classify as child abuse, Smacking your children to the point where they are terrified is child abuse. Shouting can also fall under the category of emotional abuse as well. Children should have discipline don't get me wrong but there is a fine line between punishing a child properly then scaring them out of there wits. Now your father may classify this as a cultural thing but it is NOT normal way to treat a child. If the child seems to be in harms way (He is by what you've posted) Then I would call the child services and let them be aware of what is going on. Yes absolutely, This is about the safety of a child.
A day after my pperiod, me and my boyfriend had sex for roughly 5 to 8 minutes. He didnt cum inside me, or at all. But i have heard you can get pregnant from precum. and im not sure if there was any precum or not. But what are my chances of being pregnant? I wasnt ovulating and my period had JUST ended. But i still am a little worried and feel stupid for ever doing it without a condom.
So what are my chances?
Diane is very wrong...
Pregnancy can occur at any given time, Despite a period ending, How long you did it for etc. It happens
If you do not want to end up pregnant then I would start using a condom at all times, Yes you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculation and it is a lot better to be safe then sorry.
we have been dating for less than a month...hes very nice! and well i don't know what he likes. and well i don't know what to give him!! :(
please help me! his birthday is in less than a week!!!
PLEASE GIVE ME ANSWERS??
If you aren't exactly sure of what he likes, Then get him a gift certificate in a card. You can't go wrong on a restaurant.
I had sex last night and used a condom and took plan b the next morning..or literally like 3-4 hours after we had sex. I'm just freaking out because I'm not on birth control and wondering what my chances of pregnancy are.
If you used a condom, Then your chances are slim
Condoms are 97% effective, Good for you for being smart!
My boyfriend always ignores me. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days over it. And then made up. But still, I felt weird when we hung out, scared almost. I was scared to say or do certain things in case I came off as clingy. We went through the day just fine. And afterwards he didn't even call or text and every time I give him space he doesn't bother to answer.
I mean first the relationship was perfect. And then it just went downhill... He said we'll fix it but he isn't doing his part and whenever I text or call to talk about it, he ignores me. My mom said to ignore him even if he ends up contacting me, but I just wanna get it over with. Should I break up with him or go with my mom's plan?
We told you to end it on your last question...