about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

any ways, i've lost my t-mobile razor. i can't go through the summer without a cell phone. and i deemed it lost and they said i have 30 days to find it or else it will be a $200 cancellation fee.

they said something about a sim card not being there... does any one have ANY idea of what i could do?

Well, if your SIM is gone, then someone found your phone and replaced it with their own SIM.

Best bet? Get a new phone with a new SIM. You will have to pay for the phone. Yah, I know, that sucks, but it's cheaper than paying off the contract with the phone company.

Go into your local T-Mobile store, and tell them what is going on and what you need to do. They will set you up with a new phone. I would advise getting a low priced model, just in case your Razor happens to show back up.

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I downloaded the game Audition and it signed up, and logged in and now it needs the verification code that was sent to my e-mail. Everytime i copy and paste it, it says that it doesnt match? I'm getting really frustrated. Is there any way i can get this to work?

If you can't get it to work as YG told you, I would be sure to get in contact with the people you downloaded it from and complain about it.

If it wasn't a free download, then you should damn well be able to get what you paid for, right? Let them know that, and make them fix it. I certainly would. I'd be on them like white on rice until it worked...

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two people other than me are involved in this situation:

-jimmy: ive talked to him for about 2-3 months over the computer. my friends know him so i know he's not a stalker or whatever. he's pretty cool, and i know he's liked me in the past.

-brent: other guy i've been talking to over myspace for the past week now. he's really cool and sweet, and i really want to get to know him outside of myspace. also, my ex-friend knows him, but i'd never talk to her about him because she likes him and already hates me. brent sends me sweet text messages like ily and stuff and im almost starting to like him:]

well.
jimmy one day noticed a comment on my myspace from brent. automatically, he IMs me and asks me how i know him. later, he goes on to tell me that he's really bad news, and that he's beaten up girls he's gone out with and has even killed someone! and i guess jimmy knows this because the girl he currently goes out with used to go out with brent. he told me that i can talk to him but i shouldn't get involved.

i don't really believe it cuz brent is such a sweet guy, but now i'm kind of scared to ever hang out with him. i know i'd bring friend's if i ever did but i'm still pretty scared. i don't know if jimmy is jealous for some reason or whatever.

who do i believe and what do i do?!

Ok, well this may be kinda sneaky and underhanded, but there IS a way you can ask your ex-friend if you want to go that route...
You say she likes him, right? Ok, so you could say that a friend of yours told you all of this stuff about him, and that you are concerned? Maybe she could say something that would give you an idea if Jimmy is being truthful or not.
The best way to find out is from someone who knows him, and she would qualify as being a someone...

ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND that a man is beating his woman every day, and then turns around and charms her with flowers, gifts, apologies and promises, and whispers sweet nothings into her ear, just to turn around and cave her head in another day. Sadly, it is fact, and happens all the time.

You can't just assume that Jimmy is telling you the truth, but then again, you can't just assume that he isn't. Because, what if he IS telling you the truth?

Brent may very well be the sweetest guy on the planet, but don't believe for a second that an abuser can't ACT like the sweetest guy on the planet. Because, yes, they DO THAT. They want to charm you and suck you in. Kinda like "Yes, step on into my parlor, said the spider to the fly"...

Follow your gut. Our guts don't tell us no lies.

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P.S. If you ask Brent, and he does happen to be an abuser, he isn't going to tell you that...

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teens are always looking for reationships. i find that no matter how
good my relationship is i get dumped in the most evil ways. my current relationship is steady but i am struggling. i feel so akward when she is in the room like of all the better boys in her life. why me. i feel that im not worthy of her affection. she still doesnt know that i (this souds corny but its true) Deeply love her. i would tell her but i cant shake this feeling that if i tell her she will hate me.

14/m

We ladies love to be loved. Or 99.5% of us, anyhow.
If you truly love her, then say so. I wager that would make her feel really good knowing that.
If, by chance, she is among that .5%, then you will know that she isn't the right one for you and not worth wasting your time.
Listen, never think you aren't worthy of some one's affection. You deserve it as much as the next guy.

Don't think of all those other guys as being the better boys in her life, because if that were the case, she wouldn't be with you, now would she? No, she wouldn't. She would be with one of them. So that makes YOU the better boy in her life.

Don't base your future relationships on how they have ended in the past. We have all been through nasty break ups in the past, but we all have to just move on and look to a brighter future.

You sound like you are pretty down on yourself. STOP THAT. Have confidence and keep that chin up, alright? You are NEVER unworthy.

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lets say your moving to the another country or state soon and your good friend comes up to you and say"can you do me a favor?" and you asked them what it is and they say"can you not leave?"---do you think this is cute?

I think it is, though it makes it harder to leave. But it shows how much they like having you around, which it's always nice to know that someone cares about you so much they don't want you to go. :)

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i've given my boyfriend little presents in the past months.. but i've never received a gift from him. i mean i'm not asking to be showered with gifts.. but you know.. possibly a THANK YOU note/card. something :/

he never pays me back when he says he will.

help?

also i think he's mad at me. because this guy likes me and gave me roses for the past few days.. i dont know what to do ?

Well, maybe he doesn't have money? I don't know, you didn't say.

Listen, guys are just that way. Or at least a good chunk of them are.
We ladies are more of what you'd call 'romantics'. Gifts, flowers, cards, all that warm and fuzzy stuff, and guys generally don't tend to be into that sort of thing. We are just so different from each other, yet so much the same.
A woman can remember every detail of the day they first met, down to how many stripes were on his shirt, and a guy is lucky to remember his wedding anniversary.
We are just different from each other in how we do things. That includes giving gifts to one another.
See what I'm getting at, here?

Just think of it this way- when he DOES give you a gift, it will mean so much more to you than it would if he gave you little gifts and cards all of the time.

If he is a good guy, and his only flaws is not having money to pay back and gifts to give, then I would keep him around. Material possessions are merely material.

Don't ever let a guy sweep you off your feet just because he has a truck full of roses to give to you. Yah, it's romantic and all, but what if he's really a complete jerk who hides behind romance? Hmmm...

I hope this made some sort of sense to you. :)

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ok so I have been cutting for like 2 years.
and I have seen a coucelor, talked to friends, my partens know, I'm on medication for depression and anxiy cause I took these tests and it said I needed it. soo yeah. I've done alot to stop. but nothing seems to help. idno what to do. its like theres no hope left. i just keep cutting more and more, deeper and deeper. soon I might go a little too deep. or do something else stupid. I got into this, and now I can't get out. Its become and adiction. I wish that I could say "oh I haven't done it in 2 weeks" or something. but I haven't done it in one day. I'm afriad of this getting worse. I neep help, but it seems as if ive tried everything, and nothing is working.
help anyone?

Have you considered talking with your parents about admitting yourself into a psychiatric facility for a while? It is summertime, so you wouldn't miss school or anything.

I know it sounds crazy, but going there would mean you are under constant supervision, you have constant mental support, and constant medical support. We aren't talking visiting a counselor a couple days a week here, we are talking about around the clock care.
You wouldn't have access to anything you can cut yourself with.
You are caught up in a vicious cycle, and that would be a way to help force yourself out of it.

You can maybe get to the root of the problem, and over time learn to cope with things without self mutilation or even medication.
You have been cutting for 2 years, so it is going to take some time, patience, and hard work to stop.

The best of luck to you, and I hope that you find a way to get past this, weather you follow my advice or not.

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I am on a tight budget and would like to know how to do it my self
thanks
amy

If you don't hear from UltraTunaMan, ask him in his inbox. He gives great auto advice. :)

Follow the link below to his column and click "get advice" along the top of the column.

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=UltraTunaMan

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I accidently hurt my friend's feelings over a picture I head on my cell phone. When I showed it to 3 people she sent me a text saying "Why the f*#$ do you have a picture of me on your phone?" and she has hated me ever since. I have tried to apologize many times but all she has ever said is why do you want to be my friend so bad and that's just plain wierd. She is a 15 year old Sophmore and I am a freshman at high school. I see her as somewhat of what I want to be, a great soccer player. She has made Varsity since freshman year and I just want to be as good as her. I dream about my mistake every night and that it becomes fixed, but when I wake up it is only a memory of what I want. Should I just forget about her(even though I see her twice a day and it's hard to do) or should I try something new to get her back?

Listen, you have to allow her time to chill out so you can have a logical conversation about it. As long as she is mad, she is only going to be negative about the whole situation.

Once she has gotten over it, then explain to her that you didn't mean to upset her. You didn't know that she has a problem with people taking her picture and all. Apologize about it and ensure her that if you ever plan to photograph her again, you will be sure to ask her permission before hand.

Don't give up on your friendship unless she gives up on you. If she is unwilling to make amends, then I would say move on.

But, like I said, before you go to such measures, give her enough time to calm down and then apologize. Go knock on her door if you have to. If she doesn't accept your apology after a good cool-down period, then she has given up on you.

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how do you know if you don't really love somebody anymore?

i have been dating my boyfriend for a while now and i used to be butterflies in my stomach can't stop thinking about him in love. He was the same way to me, and the thing is he is still completely head over heals for me but im afraid i don't love him. he changed alot lately, he lies to me now, hides stuff from me. he's doing alot of stupid stuff like getting arrested when he is with his friends. i talked to him about it, we even went on a break. he appologized did anythign to get me back and the second i did, he lied to me again. im a good girlfriend and i don't cheat or lie and i am there for him when he gets in trouble but im afraid i don't love him anymore. how will i know for sure?

When you are first in love- you know that ass over tea kettle, tummy of butterflies, and walking on clouds sort of love- it is obvious you are in love, or at least extremely infatuated.

Now. Just because that first feeling of love isn't there anymore, doesn't mean you've done fell out of love. Actually, it just means you've passed from that ooey-gooey, ouch my butt hurts from Cupid's arrow stage into REAL love.

Real love includes excepting his flaws. If you can't do that, then you need to let him go- you likely don't really love the guy.

Honestly? If he can't think enough of you to stop lying to you, then he isn't worth your time to begin with, weather you love him or not.

Sounds like you make a wonderful girlfriend, and there are many guys out there who would be happy to have a girl on their arm who doesn't cheat or lie, and who will be there for them in their time of need. And they would appreciate you, and give you the respect you deserve by treating you as you treat them.

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Which Springfield is hosting the Simpsons premire for thier movie???? i tried googleing it but i couldnt find a deffinite anwser

I can't find one, either. Seems a couple Springfields are fighting over which is the best city for the premiere.
Since it doesn't come out until the end of July, it may take a while for them to decide which one. I would just check again in a week or two and see if Google brings up any of the latest news on it.

Sorry I wasn't much help. :(

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My mother is getting married in September and I really think it is a mistake. I think she is really forcing her fiance to marry her and he feels guilty about telling her he doesn't want to. She tells me that he really wants to, but I don't think he does. I have spoken to him many times and he doesn't act like he is very interested in the wedding or in being married. I know he cares for her, she had two major heart attacks and he was by her side for both - and she broke her ankle recently and he was there for her every day. He goes places with her, comes to family gatherings, etc, so I do not doubt that he loves her, it's just the commitment of marriage - he was married before, and his ex-wife left him for someone she met on the internet, so it was not a nice separation and my mother was married to my father for 20+ years and it was a horrid relationship. My father was abusive and a compulsive gambler & liar - so I think she is just looking for peace in her life. I don't want to deny her any love or happiness - but forcing someone to marry you is not right. Her fiancee is still caring for his aging mother and the mother lives in his house, which my mother will be moving into after they are married. My mother thinks that his mother is not going to live very long, and if she dies, they are selling his house and moving out to a adult community. Now, this is what she is telling me, I haven't heard his side of the story.

I would hope he would tell her if he did not want to go through with this, but like I said, he doesn't want to make her unhappy. She is very obsessed with moving into the house and the wedding. This will be the first house she will ever live in, she lived in apartments her whole married life, and her fiancee is putting her name on the mortgage, so she feels that she owns the house with him. Legally she does, but the house is still her fiancee's and his mother's because they were there before she was. Her fiancee is remodeling the kitchen and other parts of the house, for her I suppose, but I am wondering if she is making him do that? It really bothers me that I feel this way, but I cannot shake it and I am on the verge of telling her how I feel, but I am wondering if that will damage our relationship or even if that will make a difference in how she is acting towards all of this? I have told her before how I feel, in a round-about way - but not directly. My two sisters feel the same way, but their attitude is that she is a grown woman and can make decisions on her own, and that her fiancee should tell her if he is not happy, but I really think he just doesn't have the guts to do so. Does my mom really want this fake happiness for the rest of her life? Should I tell her how I really feel? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

I also agree with your sisters that she is a grown woman who can make her own decisions. You have to just let her live her life as she sees fit. That's really all you can do, other than make her upset by telling her you feel this way, and she does it anyhow.
Look at it this way, he has already been with her through better and worse. He was there for her when she was sick, when she was injured, and through all of the good times they have shared. Things will continue to be the same between them after they get married. His love for her won't disappear.
I would be willing to bet that if he didn't want to marry her, he wouldn't. He wouldn't put her name on his home, wouldn't remodel for her, wouldn't move her in to share a home with his mother.
Before you consider outright telling her your feelings, do you know for fact how he really feels about this marriage? Has he told you she is forcing him, or do you just think it seems that way? If it is the latter, remember that things aren't always as they seem.
He may act like he isn't interested, but that doesn't mean he isn't. Guys don't seem to tend to be all that interested in the whole wedding thing, anyhow. It's more for the ladies to be all up in arms about that big day. Guys tend to just show up single and walk out with a wife. ;)
I can see how she would be obsessed with the wedding- she is excited on having life with a husband who is good to her, who is there for her, who looks after her when she's sick, and who she wants to watch the sunset with when she is old and grey.
I can see her obsession with moving into the house, because she has never been 'the lady of the house'. She does own that house with him. Not because he put her name on the deed, but because he has opened it up to her and is doing work on it to make it her home. Yah, he and his mother were there first, but they must be welcoming her into the household to be remodeling the kitchen and such.
I really don't see a man putting a woman's name on his mother's home unless he wants her to make it her home, too.
Why would you think this happiness is fake? Seems from what you have told me they must be happy together without a marriage licence, so why would that happiness change with a piece of paper? I wager they will be just as happy with one another as husband and wife.
Keep in mind that change can be stressful. Planning and preparing a wedding is very stressful. Remodeling your home is very stressful. He could just be feeling this stress, which can be mistaken for unhappiness. But stress and unhappiness are two completely different ball parks.
Since I don't know the answers to the questions I've asked, I will have to say that your best bet is to just sit back and wish them all of the best. Try to support her as much as you can. Try to be excited for her- this is a happy time for her, and she wants it to be a happy time for you as well.

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Hi...I was wondering when you're pregnant I know you can still have sex unless directed by your doctor not to for the safety of your baby...anyways when you are pregnant and having sex your husband can cumm in you right???????
Just wondering...I mean it would make sense since you're already pregnant....Thank you !

I just had a baby back in February. You don't have to have doctor approval unless you are having a pregnancy with problems.
With a normal pregnancy, it is perfectly safe to have sex. They say the rocking motion even helps soothe the baby. Or, it may make them become active because they like the motion. You won't hurt the baby, nor does it even know what's going on. Your husband's penis can't reach into your uterus where your baby is snoozing or kicking away.
I was told it was fine to have sex the entire time. However, come the last month or two, I highly doubt you will feel like it. Too many aches and pains, too much swelling, too much inability to get comfortable.
Also, your husband ejaculating does no harm either.
Ask your OB any questions or concerns you have, and be sure to ask them this question, too. Unless you are having a problem pregnancy where sex would be a risk to the child, they will tell you it is safe, fine, normal and perfectly natural for you to have sex with your husband.

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my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and my 26 year old siter is bi and i didn't find out until recentally my other 24 year old sister told me and iam under so much shock right now how do i get over the shock of finding out my sister is bi?
How do i help my sister?

Help her by supporting her. Sadly, there are people in this world who will look down their noses at her, and loving support from her sister will mean so much to her.
Like everyone has said- she's the same girl she has always been. Her sexual preferences will never change who she is.

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Hey, to anyone wanting to help.
So I've had my dog for about six or seven months, now. I'm pretty sure he's eight months old, and he's about 80 lbs. He's a pure bred German Shephard.
I love having a dog to death, but he can be one of the most vicious things you'll ever see. For example, when I sleep at my dad's house, I usually sleep on the couch. I'll usually last the night, or half, but my dog always ends up jumping on the couch and biting me until I wake up. Then, I basically have to fight him off, or get up and put him outside.
He also just randomly jumps at me, and I do fall over, he dosen't weigh much less than me, so then he's good to bite and scratch and everything. I'm pretty sure he's just playing, but I've tried to teach him to stop, with the squirter thing, and with the rolled up newspaper, but I think he just thinks I'm playing back.

I'm sick of going h ome with tons of scratches and cuts, and I want this to stop before he gets any bigger, too.

Please help. I don't want any advice to just get a cage or put him in another room, we can't do that, and he barks too much to leave him outside all night.

Thanks so much!

Well, if he's 8 months old, it is likely that you are right in your assumption that he is playing, but this is something I can fully understand that you wish for him to not continue doing.

German Shepherds are very intelligent dogs. You may consider calling around and pricing obedience training for him. Be sure it is a course you are allowed to be actively involved in. He is your dog- you want him to learn to obey your commands, not some stranger's.
I know they can be costly, but I promise it would be well worth the price to have a pet that you love who also knows how to mind his manners.

Just be sure that you are consistent on whatever you teach him- even if you try to train him at home before seeking the help of pet obedience training. With a dog, consistency is the key.

For example: The newspaper. Give him a pop on the behind while giving a firm "No!" and be consistent on how you do it. Dogs can read your tone of voice, so be sure that you are always firm in your commands.
Try using hand gestures as well. With my dog, I would firmly say "No!" and hold up a finger every time I did, and say "Down!" while holding my flat palm towards him, etc. Now, I really don't have to say anything; I can just use the hand gestures he has learned to associate with each given command.
Just make sure it is a completely different gesture for each command, so he doesn't become confused in what you are trying to tell him.

Like I said, they are a very smart breed. With a little work, and a little help from a professional trainer if needed, he will make a fine dog for you.
Good luck!

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Ok well one time when using a neutugena face scub, I got some in my eye and it stinged so bad!

the bottle said flush with water, whihc i didn't know how, so i kept try to get some water into my eye.

then when I wear my contacts on or cry a little, it stings so bad! like not the light sting when your cry but the burning stinging like someone threw salt water in your eyes!

help i don't know what to do!

Actually, it would be probably a lot less uncomfortable on your eye if you don't put it directly under the running faucet, though it does work if you do it that way.
Let the water run at a pretty fair pace, and allow your cupped hands to fill and overflow with water. Get your eye down in your hands, while allowing room for fresh water to keep flowing in. I know most eye flushes call for you to do so for about 15 straight minutes.

HOWEVER. If this happened, say for example yesterday, and your eye is still irritated: #1 REMOVE YOUR CONTACT LENSES RIGHT AWAY! #2 You should call your eye doctor and ask what you should do, and do that right away!

It is possible that you injured your eye in some fashion- possibly scratched it. You definitely don't want to wear contact lenses if your eye is scratched! That equals bad news!

Use the eye flushing instructions for next time something like this occurs.

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all over the floor! he's not new, he's 5, and we've had him since he was a little puppy and he never used to do this. he's a little on the heavy side......anyone have any idea why he's randomly doing this? How can i make him stop? Thanks.

Well, he's trying to tell you something. He hasn't done this before, so something is causing him to start now.

Has there been any reason you have been busier than normal and haven't been able to give him the usual amount of attention? That could cause things like this.

Is there any reason he hasn't been able to spend as much time as he used to outdoors? Not meaning you don't let him out to do his dogly duties, but maybe he isn't having enough run around time outdoors due to a busy schedule?

Not saying you are neglectful at all. Just saying that a change of schedule, or things being out of the normal realms of what he is used to can cause him to do this.

Someone new move into your home? Someone who has been there for as long as he can recall move out?

You may want to consider calling your vet about this to be on the safe side. He shouldn't just start going potty in the house; there is some reason he is doing it.

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I'm new to this thing lol, but my mom made me a screen name in 7th grade and I would like a new one but i can't think of one. Can you help?

Well, I made mine say something about me.
My mom works on this site and got me into it. She goes by younggrandma- aka YG.
I'm her daughter, so I chose 'ygsgirl'.

Since I know nothing about you, I can't help you think of one, but like I said, maybe make it a name that says something about you.

Welcome to the site!

:)

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I'm only 15, but I'm looking for a job, and I'm sure a lot of people know, a lot of people only hire kids 16+. Well my older sister, a lot of other people have been telling me, that if I have working papers then I can still apply and possibly get hired at these places (I'm turning 16 in November if that helps) is this true? I have working papers already, btw.

I got this information from the link I provided at the bottom. I don't know if this answers your question, but I hope it helps some. :)

"An employment certificate, often referred to as "working papers", is required for minors under 18 before they may begin work. High school graduates, minors who work for their parents, and minors who do industrial homework are included in this group."

"MINIMUM AGE FOR EMPLOYMENT

There are certain exceptions to these rules and they are subject to the employment certification regulations that follow:

Minors not yet 14 may not be employed at any time, neither after school nor during vacation

Minors 14 and 15 years old may work after school hours and during vacations, but not in factory work. They may do delivery and clerical work in any enclosed office of a factory, and in dry cleaning, tailor, shoe repair, and similar service stores.

Minors 16 and 17 years of age, if not attending school, may work full time throughout the year. Factory work is permitted for minors 16 years of age or older. (See State Prohibited Occupations and Federal Prohibited Occupations"

http://www.labor.state.ny.us/workerprotection/laborstandards/workprot/wphmpg.shtm

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whats sometime really cute you can say to a guy you like
not sometime cheezy
but just cute
that will make him smile
and fall for you even more?

How about:
I hope it didn't hurt. You know, when you fell from Heaven? Surely you must be an angel to have a face like that...
LOL

Ok, it may be cheesy... Maybe cute cheesy?

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