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Confused.
two people other than me are involved in this situation:
-jimmy: ive talked to him for about 2-3 months over the computer. my friends know him so i know he's not a stalker or whatever. he's pretty cool, and i know he's liked me in the past.
-brent: other guy i've been talking to over myspace for the past week now. he's really cool and sweet, and i really want to get to know him outside of myspace. also, my ex-friend knows him, but i'd never talk to her about him because she likes him and already hates me. brent sends me sweet text messages like ily and stuff and im almost starting to like him:]
well.
jimmy one day noticed a comment on my myspace from brent. automatically, he IMs me and asks me how i know him. later, he goes on to tell me that he's really bad news, and that he's beaten up girls he's gone out with and has even killed someone! and i guess jimmy knows this because the girl he currently goes out with used to go out with brent. he told me that i can talk to him but i shouldn't get involved.
i don't really believe it cuz brent is such a sweet guy, but now i'm kind of scared to ever hang out with him. i know i'd bring friend's if i ever did but i'm still pretty scared. i don't know if jimmy is jealous for some reason or whatever.
who do i believe and what do i do?!
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Ok, well this may be kinda sneaky and underhanded, but there IS a way you can ask your ex-friend if you want to go that route...
You say she likes him, right? Ok, so you could say that a friend of yours told you all of this stuff about him, and that you are concerned? Maybe she could say something that would give you an idea if Jimmy is being truthful or not.
The best way to find out is from someone who knows him, and she would qualify as being a someone...
ALWAYS KEEP IN MIND that a man is beating his woman every day, and then turns around and charms her with flowers, gifts, apologies and promises, and whispers sweet nothings into her ear, just to turn around and cave her head in another day. Sadly, it is fact, and happens all the time.
You can't just assume that Jimmy is telling you the truth, but then again, you can't just assume that he isn't. Because, what if he IS telling you the truth?
Brent may very well be the sweetest guy on the planet, but don't believe for a second that an abuser can't ACT like the sweetest guy on the planet. Because, yes, they DO THAT. They want to charm you and suck you in. Kinda like "Yes, step on into my parlor, said the spider to the fly"...
Follow your gut. Our guts don't tell us no lies.
ygs-29/f
P.S. If you ask Brent, and he does happen to be an abuser, he isn't going to tell you that...
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well, i dont know who to belive but if i were you i would ask brent if that was true or aks sombody hes went out with but i think the other guy is lying but i dont know because i never knew any of these people so u have myspace well idk if its his friend or whoevers friend then hes lying or he isnt but i dont know but i think you should ask him or ask one of his exs
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