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I recently just got a napkin with someone's number on it, and we started talking and we've even hung out... (we'll call this girl allison) but the thing is i'm not really too attracted to her (maybe not yet at least), but at the same time its the only relationship i have going for me right now... and i don't want to sound like i'm desperate for a relationship, but i've really been looking forward to a serious one for years now... allison is 3 years younger than me (i'm 18 and a dude)... i don't know a whole lot about her...

on the hand though there's this other girl (we'll call her maya) i've met through an online forum about half a year ago, that i've befriended and hung out with her for the first time just two days ago... i've had a long running crush on her since we first started talking... i really didn't know if she felt the same way... and i've never been the kind of person that would make a move on anyone or say anything... recently though through another website named formspring (as some of you might know it) i got an anonymous message about someone having the biggest online crush on me, but they're to shy to come up to me... there was a few other hints as to who it may be... long story short, i believe maya is the anonymous girl... we really click in personality and she is just super amazing

so... what do i do?

I think you should choose Maya seeing as with Allison your not attracted to her & you probably
won't be if you aren't already you seem unsure and you aren't confident about her plus you don't know much about her on the other hand with Maya you both hungout and you've had a crush on her and if the anonymous message is her then she feels the same way
about you which is a advantage for you..you two really click in personality & you think she's super
amazing so i say choose Maya you've got to think of
who you'd be happiest with & you who you would see yourself getting along with better i think it would be Maya you seem to say better things about Maya then Allison so she'd be the one to choose(:

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15/female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and he ia joining the marine core in three years, he is 16 years old. He told me that he loves me and cant live without me and I feel the same way about him and he said in a year or two he would marry me and I said that then if he still wanted to join the marine core i would marry him and wait for him untill he gets out. But I am scared that he might get killed and maybe he will get really hurt. I am not sure what I should do. Are militay relationsionships really hard?

Yes military relationships are tough if your boyfriend goes into the marines he'll have to go through so much it would probably be a long time till he got out yes there's a possiblity that he could get hurt your young & you've got your whole life ahead of you to do what you choose he'd be risking his life to keep you & the country safe
marriage is a big deal nothing to be taken lightly you'd have to think of your husband & not only yourself with marriage comes lots of responsiblities like paying the bills on time &
working your young & should be experiencing everything the world has to offer you not thinking
about getting married leave that for when you get older & your more mature(:

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Ive been dateing this guy for three yrs and One month, Im 19/f weve always knew were gonna get married and all that stuff,but I wanna propose to him, is that wrong or somewhat stupid?
Thanks

No it's not wrong or stupid your 19 & legal it's not like your a minor even though your age is just a number if you want to propose to him then go for it nothing's holding you back if you think about it three years is a long time to be dating someone it's not like your relationship has just started
you two seem meant for one another(:

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i have fallen out with my best mate but she will not talk to me

If she won't talk to you then you make the first move & try talking with her tell her that fighting &
arguing won't get you both anywhere she can't hold a
grudge aganist you forever she's got to talk to you sometime find someway to talk to her whether it be going to her house talking in school or even on the computer getting one of her friends to say something to you be presitant & don't give up i'm sure she'll come around evenually(:

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Agh my parents are REALLY overprotective! And it sucks cause I can hardly go anywhere with my friends. I mean I can go out to like the mall and shops but idk and another thing is like i have NO way to get me to places my mom doesnt drive my dad works frum 630 am - 530 pm..and i can never have friends over..it just sucks cause shes ruining my life..im only 14 but i hate always havin my parents around.And everytime I talk to her about it she laughs she doesnt take me seriously. what can i do? And also its summer time here ->* What are sum fun things to do in the summer time with friends?

Talk to her and make sure she knows your serious say you'd like it if she took what you say more seriously & not so lightly also that since she doesn't drive the least she can do is allow you to
have some friends over i'm sure there's no harm in doing that seeing as it will benefit you if you can't get a ride somewhere then maybe one of
your friends parents will be nice enough & drive you
where you need to go tell your mother she should think about getting her license then she'll be able
to drive i'm sure she isn't ruining your life worst things can happen to a person some fun things are going to the beach or the mall the movie theater being in the pool eat icecream eat popsicles color in a coloring book there's some suggestions(:

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Okay, I'm just turned 16 today, and I get married in a few days! I'm 7-8 weeks pregnant by an 18 yr. old and I'm on probation. Ever since my grandma died on Christmas, things have been awful. I don't love my boyfriend anymore, but my mom relies on him to pay the bills and pay for my school stuff because she's disabled and she can't work. I really miss my old school and my old life. I wanna be back with my FIRST boyfriend and he wants me back too, AND I need some advice on what to do in my situation! How can I make things better without making them worse??

signed,
Miserable & Pregnant

With every relationship there's room for improvement even with yours i think you should give your boyfriend a chance he deserves one seeing as he's being generous & is paying the bills plus your schooling if you do choose to end the relationship you better make sure your first boyfriend is willing to pay the bills & your schooling for your mother's sake & yours if he isn't then it's probably not worth it to be with him & you should just stick with your current boyfriend your feelings may change for him that's a possblity you never know anything can happen there isn't much you can do about being on probation expect obey the rules & stay out of trouble the last thing you need is to be on it longer as far as being pregnant is concerned do all the right things so you don't harm yourself or the baby really think long & hard whether or not you want to leave your boyfriend because you
may not be so lucky with your first boyfriend(:

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okay heres the deal.
im currently dating this guy named matt. Hes sweet but we dont talk much.. its kinda awkward. the WHOLE school is against us dating.. (there making beats. the lot.) He talks him self up alot says he does drugs and stuff but deep down hes had it ruff and is a big softy. i dont do drugs or want anything to do with them.
idk if i like him i mean we dont got much in common and we barley talk.what should i do....
and at the same time i think my feelings for my ex are still there even though he likes another girl. should i stay with matt or dump him??? tell my ex or stick with matt and give him a chance

I think you should stay with Matt things could change that's a possblity you shouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly he deserves a chance with every relationship there's room for improvement you
might not have a chance with your ex seeing as he likes another girl so it's best you stay with Matt &
make it work ask your friends for some good conversation starters so you can keep the conversation going & you'll have more things to talk
about take the chance while you can because they don't come around very often & your lucky if you do
happen to get one so i say stick with Matt(:

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This is a very strange question, I'm sure. I'm 14 years old, and most people I meet for the first time outside of my family and friends think that I'm at least 17 years old, because of my appearance and general demeanor. I met a guy who I thought was 17, and he thought that I was that age as well... but he turned out to be 19 years old. Anyway, nothing really happened but I still think of him after a year, and I haven't spoken to him in at least half a year. I'm upset because this happens a lot; people think I'm much older than I actually am. I get emotionally attached to some of these people, and vice versa, but consequently nothing ever works between us. I'm not sure what I should do in these circumstances, because I've been through lots of emotional trauma because of it.

I don't think there's much you can do the same thing
has happened to me expect i'm opposite i get told i
look younger then i really am someone thought i was 16 when in reality i'm 19 iv'e been asked if i'm in school even though i graduated 3 years ago most who ask me are adults so i don't get emotionally attached like you it's just one of those things that happen which you can't control try to not get
your hopes up even though it's tough(:

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So theres this guy i like. Its more like a crush. Usually, when i have a crush, i dont do anything about it but i've been single for a looooong time and idk but i feel like i kinda wanna do something . But this guy, is interested in my friend . My friend doesnt like him and thinks i should make a move on the guy. I have TERRIBLE fear of rejection, and im 14/f but i've never done anything like this before. The only guy i ever dated approached me first. I also have low self esteem issues and I'm not someone that people find attractive. So what should i do? I was thining its best i just let him go and go back to admiring from a far since his got his sights set on my friend, tho she doesnt want him .

You won't know until you try you can't let your fear
stop you getting rejected isn't the worst thing that
can happen to a person if you do get rejected then at least you'll know you tried instead of not doing
anything all a person can ever do is try if you face
your fear you'll feel good about yourself & you'll gain confidence if you feel like you want to do something then go for it..it's worth a shot listen to yourself & your friend even though he's interested she's not interested in him that gives you a chance which doesn't happen very often so take
it while you can because it might not come around again yes i think you should go for it & face your fears you'll feel better once you do your fear is
nothing to be ashamed of it happens to everyone(:

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I'm a 16 year old girl who is wondering what would be a better option, sticking with your boyfriend of only a month that you sort of have feelings for, or breaking up with your boyfriend for someone who you think you would like more and that has more to offer than your current boyfriend?

I think you should stay with your boyfriend you two
have only been dating for a month if you think about
it that's not a long time i think it would hurt him
if you tried to break up with him seeing as you haven't been dating long & if you told him that your
breaking up with him for another boy you should stick it out for both of yours sakes and see how things go get to know him better if your wanting more from your boyfriend then speak up & tell him but yes i do think that the better option would be
to stay with your current boyfriend instead of leaving him for another boy give him a chance he deserves one the feeling's you have for him could change you never know anything can happen(:

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So there is this guy that I have liked for the past 5 years (i am 20 now). Me and him dated back in high school (when i was 15) and ended up breaking up because of drama with friends and never getting to see each other. We just started to hang out again about a year and a half ago (as friends) and as soon as i hung out with him again, i fell head over heels for him again. i have already told him how i feel about him and just recently he acted on it and told me a lot of things that i guess he had been holding back. well a lot of drama got started with my mother (i drove an hour and a half to see him knowing i was going to lose my car when i got home because i had no intentions of coming home until the next night) and right as i was getting ready to head home the cops showed up at his house to tell me to go home. i told him that i was completely embarrassed by what she did and he said it was no big deal. but since then, i have tried to call him and when someone picked up his house phone and heard me ask for him ... they hung up and nobody ever called me back. as i was told by my mom (who supposedly spoke with him today) he had told her that he didnt even like me and that he found me annoying and the only reason he wanted me to come see him was because i had a car and money. but some of it doesnt make sense from what he told me and his actions this past weekend. i have cried about this for hours now and dont know how else to deal with it. how do i just let him go when i like him sooooooooooooooooooo much?!?!?! i am so confused as to what im suppose to do at this point and really need help as to what i should do.

You deserve to be treated better & not be called annoying or be told that he doesn't like you just
by him saying that means things weren't meant to be between you two he was using you for your car & money you need to let him go & don't continue to waste your time on him there's other decent boys out there who will treat you with respect & treat you like you deserve to be treated you didn't deserve to be treated the way you did things weren't meant to be you can't change what's happened what's done is done(:

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15/F
hey okay so i am bisexual and my bestfriend just told me she thinks she loves me and i think i love someone else but i cant tell her that honestly she is so mean to me its hard to believe i need some advice on how to handle this news any advice?!?!

I think you need to ask your friend does she love
you as a friend or as something more seeing as she
wasn't specific if she says more then just friends then tell her that you think it's best that the two of you stay best friends seeing as you don't want you two becoming more then friends & it ruining your friendship that way you won't have to tell her that you love someone elese & you can avoid doing that(:

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I am really lost right now. Can any of you who have bad to deal with one of your parents dying unexpectedly help me hang onto my sanity?

I am so sad all the time and I can't stop crying. I don't leave the house and I don't want to. It just seems like there is nobody on the world who knows what this feels like. :'(

Help?

First off i'm sorry for your loss loosing a parent
is never easy death is apart of life sadly it happens you aren't the only one whose lost a loved one you've got to remember that your parent is
in a better place now heaven they are your guardian
angel & are watching over you even though you don't want to leave the house it would be a good idea just so you get fresh air & aren't stuck in the house don't be afraid to cry your mourning & that's alright everyone mourns diffrently try talking to someone it's better if you talk instead of keeping your feeling's bottled up inside that's not
healthy to do(:

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I'm a 15-year-old bisexual girl. I am naturally a flirt, but I find myself unsure of flirting with my female friends. All of my close friends know I'm bi, but it's not common knowledge in school (though if anyone asks, I'll tell them). I know my close friends could care less whether I flirt with them or not (or at least pretend not to care) but with girls I don't know as well, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. However, most teen girls jokingly flirt with each other A LOT. If they think I'm straight, they wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I feel this might be decieving. Is it wrong to flirt with girls if they don't know I'm bi?

No it's not wrong to flirt with girls if they don't
know your bi it's not like your hurting them you shouldn't be ashamed to flirt because it's apart of life & everyone does it if you attempt to flirt with them & make them feel uncomfortable then you apologize yes it's true most teen girls jokingly flirt with one another alot anyways so just remember that if you find yourself unsure when it comes to flirting(:

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17/f

So my best friend Laura has been getting really really close with her boyfriend lately. So close, that unfortunately I feel like she's been shutting me out. =(

We'll make plans with each other, like to meet up somewhere. But usually what happens is that I'll text her saying like "I'm here. Where are you?" and she'll text back "Oh sorry, I went out to breakfast/lunch/dinner/whatever with John. I'll meet you in like half an hour"

It's other stuff too, like the three of us will be walking in the hallway, and then it'll be time for John to go away because Laura and I walk to class together, but lately she just branches off with John and says to me "I'll see you there, kay?" Like no..it's not 'kay'.
When all of us (and I mean our entire group of friends) sits together at lunch, those two will be at the end of the table, ignoring everyone else. It gets on my nerves. It's like everything not having to do with John has become way less important to Laura.

=( I don't mean to come off as like a controlling bitch, it's just that me and her have been inseparable since like fifth grade, and now she keeps blowing me off. I'm feeling more and more shut out from her John world.

Your not a controlling bitch you have every right to
feel the way you do i think you should talk to Laura & say that your feeling left out seeing as she's spending more time with John & less time with you even though he's her boyfriend she's got to somehow balance both you & him and spend equal amounts of time with both of you so you aren't feeling the way you are tell her you two have been
friends since fifth grade & you don't want a boy coming in between your friendship you need to tell
her how you feel that way she'll know & she'll possiblity start treating you differently(:

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Ok so I like this guy, I sit in the middle of him and his friend in class.
One day in class his friend and him always scoots super close to me, it's really weird so I always push them both away. Another day the guy I like was like "are u cheating on me with my friends?" it was really random because we weren't going out, so I just laughed and said no. He always waves hi to me in different classes and I just smile and wave hi back, he never talked to me before I sat by him. His friends say hi to me now also.
He always takes my pencils and one day he took my notebook and so as I was pulling it away he was like " I have a crush on u." but I didn't know if he was joking or not.
Does he like me?

Yes i do think he likes you seeing as he said he has a crush on you and made it obvious i don't think he would of said that if it wasn't true plus
him waving & smiling at you those are advantages for
you..you could flirt with him or just talk to him & see where things go create conversation ask to hang
out get to know him better but yes i do think that he does like he wouldn't of made it known to you if
he didn't have a crush on you or liked you(:

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14 f

Ok, there was rumors going around that my bf kissed his friend. I was really worried over this and I talked to him about it and he said he never kissed her. He never lied to me before..we've been dating for 3 months now. I feel comfortable with my relationship with him..and I don't want to lose him. I just woke up and was worrying have to death again..so I got on face book and I asked his friend if it was true. Was that wrong of me? The only way I could no for sure would be asking her? I saw that she has a boy friend. My bf knows how worried I get..but I'm worried he will be upset by this...Should I delted the message to her?

No it wasn't wrong of you to ask his friend you did
no harm by doing that you were just curious there's nothing wrong with being curious even though your boyfriend already told you that he never kissed her you should trust him i don't think he'd lie to you but yes i think you should delete the message just in case your boyfriend does see what you wrote part
of being in a relationship with someone is being able to trust them & what they say so trust your boyfriend(:

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19/f i am not allowed to date. my parents are very controlling and don't allow me to do what i want. Well there's this one guy i met. He goes to the same gym as me. He saw me at the mall and he was like I've sen you before at the gym and we started talking. He told me his name was will. well he asked for my number and said maybe one day we could work out together, and i told him i wasn't really allowed to hang out with guys, and he was like not even workout? and i told him i would be at the gym the next day. I went the next day i went to go work out and my dad came with me. ha. and i saw will there and he said hey to me and high fived me. He was there with his friend so we didn't talk much. But when i was leaving i asked him if he was coming the next day and he said he might in the evening, and i told him i might too since i had to babysit, but i didn't because it wasn't a good day for me. i said bye to him and when i turned around he smiled and i smiled too. But i think he's a lot older than me im not sure though. But yeah this guy seems really cool and i want to get to know him but there's so much stopping me. :( please help!!! cause i don't know what to do.

You need to sit your parents down & tell them how
you feel say that you'd like it if they didn't control every aspect of your life they've got to let
you be your own person & be independent make decisions and mistakes and be able to learn from them say it would make you happy if they allowed you to see the boy that your liking tell your parents that your responsible & won't do anything stupid make them trust you so they'll allow you & won't be so controlling.. say you simply want to talk to him & possiblity hangout with him there's no harm in doing that(:

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So I was only with my ex for 3 months, but in that short amount of time, we had that amazing connection.. it felt like we had been dating for years. we were even engaged. but a week after he proposed, he dumped me. and had a new gf the next day. I know that he's moved on.. and I'm trying to but I can't. I love him so much. In that short amout of time, I fell head over heels for him. I need some help getting over him.. I just can't do it by myself. Please help me!!

You can't change the fact that he dumped you what done is done you've got to realize everything happens for a reason & things weren't meant to be
between you two yes it may hurt now seeing as it just recently happened & you were engaged to him but
evenually the hurt your feeling will fade away & you'll move on you can't change what's happened even
though you probably wish you could keep yourself busy if your doing other things you won't have time
to think about what's happened or him your mind will
be focused on other things there's better boys out there for when you do decide to date again(:

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Is it possible that a girl will fall inlove easily with any company or guy when they lose someone who they loved so so much?

Yes it's very possible that a girl could easily fall
in love with any company or a guy because once you loose someone that meant something to you..you start
to become lonely and start to miss the attention that the boy gave and you start wanting it back &
missing it so yes it's very possible(:

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