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The fifth wheel
17/f
So my best friend Laura has been getting really really close with her boyfriend lately. So close, that unfortunately I feel like she's been shutting me out. =(
We'll make plans with each other, like to meet up somewhere. But usually what happens is that I'll text her saying like "I'm here. Where are you?" and she'll text back "Oh sorry, I went out to breakfast/lunch/dinner/whatever with John. I'll meet you in like half an hour"
It's other stuff too, like the three of us will be walking in the hallway, and then it'll be time for John to go away because Laura and I walk to class together, but lately she just branches off with John and says to me "I'll see you there, kay?" Like no..it's not 'kay'.
When all of us (and I mean our entire group of friends) sits together at lunch, those two will be at the end of the table, ignoring everyone else. It gets on my nerves. It's like everything not having to do with John has become way less important to Laura.
=( I don't mean to come off as like a controlling bitch, it's just that me and her have been inseparable since like fifth grade, and now she keeps blowing me off. I'm feeling more and more shut out from her John world.
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When you get your 1st real boyfriend you will understand. dont be to hard on her she will get over this stage and see what she is doing. maybe try to hang out with othere friends for awhile and allow her to do her own thing. Then you both will have something to do and be happy.
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Your not a controlling bitch you have every right to
feel the way you do i think you should talk to Laura & say that your feeling left out seeing as she's spending more time with John & less time with you even though he's her boyfriend she's got to somehow balance both you & him and spend equal amounts of time with both of you so you aren't feeling the way you are tell her you two have been
friends since fifth grade & you don't want a boy coming in between your friendship you need to tell
her how you feel that way she'll know & she'll possiblity start treating you differently(:
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You are not being a bitch. This type of thing happens a lot with people your age. Having a boyfriend is a big deal at that age and its easy to get swept up in everything. Your friend is not deliberately trying to ignore you, its more like she's actively trying to be with her boyfriend. I bet she doesn't even realize what she's doing. I know it leaves you feeling lonely, but try to cut her a little slack. She's "starry-eyed" right now, but it will wear off, eventually, and she'll figure out how to create more of a balance between boyfriend and friends. She's "in love", and that makes you do strange things. Have you ever liked someone so much that you've acted a little crazy? Not yourself? That's what's happening to your friend. Give it some time. I know it hurts right now but it will even out soon enough. In the meantime, do your best to concentrate on other friends and situations and ignore their "icky" behavior. Having a boyfriend comes with its own set of problems and soon enough she'll need a friend she trusts to talk to, so don't let yourself be driven away, just hang in there and look at this as an opportunity to forge some new close friendships. Good luck.
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