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Flirting with female friends?
I'm a 15-year-old bisexual girl. I am naturally a flirt, but I find myself unsure of flirting with my female friends. All of my close friends know I'm bi, but it's not common knowledge in school (though if anyone asks, I'll tell them). I know my close friends could care less whether I flirt with them or not (or at least pretend not to care) but with girls I don't know as well, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. However, most teen girls jokingly flirt with each other A LOT. If they think I'm straight, they wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I feel this might be decieving. Is it wrong to flirt with girls if they don't know I'm bi?
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No, its not wrong flirting with girls if they don't know you're bi. If they become really into flirting though, make it clear that you are. Because even though they may make it seem jokingly. You may end up taking it as for real one day.
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No. It's not.
You aren't required to disclose your sexual preference to everyone you interact with, in anyway. Not people you flirt with, not people you work for, not people who teach you. I also flirted like crazy with girls in my teens, it is really common and depending on the direction your life takes it might fade a bit as you get older. It's noble of you to be concerned about it, but you are not required to shake hands with somebody and say "Hi, my name is Erin and I'm a straight, Jewish girl who doesn't like dead baby jokes." anymore then you are to required say "Hi, my name is Erin and I'm a bisexual, Wiccan who is afraid of clowns."
Being honest when asked, and being willing to allow it to come up and conversation naturally, is all you should need to do. If you know someone who you feel might be offended or confused by your being bi, then be respectful and scale down the flirting with them, or throw it out into the conversation.
Your job is to be respectful of other people. Their job is to be respectful of you. Honesty is an important part of that, but don't feel like you need to wear a pin that reads 'bisexual' on your shirt at all times just because some people would be uncomfortable with it.
The fact that you are worried about this, and sensitive too it, means you are going to do the right thing already on a case by case basis and are prepared to be respectful of other people. I'm very serious when I say: Way to go you! Don't worry about it anymore, just follow your conscience with each person you meet. You've got a good one. It'll steer you right.
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No it's not wrong to flirt with girls if they don't
know your bi it's not like your hurting them you shouldn't be ashamed to flirt because it's apart of life & everyone does it if you attempt to flirt with them & make them feel uncomfortable then you apologize yes it's true most teen girls jokingly flirt with one another alot anyways so just remember that if you find yourself unsure when it comes to flirting(:
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No I don't think its wrong cuz its pretty noticedable that your coming on to them and from that they should know your bi. So yeah now if you weren't bi and you flirt with someone then that will be wrong so feel free to show your true color and even if the other persons not bi so you are right so yeah hope I helped some bye friend.
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