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So right now I'm feeling very anxious to see this guy that I like. However, when I do see him sometimes I find myself slightly less attracted to him. Or even embarrassed? But only when other people are around. I should explain.
My last boyfriend had flaws that I suppressed in my mind. He is not the most intelligent person ever (This is in no way to be a snob, but he is more of a party-going guy who doesn't like the idea of school. I live to learn and do really well in school so obviously there is a problem). My parents also hated him because they feared he wasn't "right" for me. And also he isn't what I consider extremely attractive. But I really liked him, and even loved him at one point. However, with all of these "flaws" I would sometimes look at him and suddenly be nearly repulsed (that word is too strong, but the point is that from one day to another my feelings for him would change 180 degrees). It's almost like he was a different person but obviously he hadn't changed, it was me who had the problem. Eventually my "hot and cold" behavior was our downfall. It caused so many problems. I broke up with him several times and wanted him back soon after. And he told me several times that I acted very weirdly and changed: that alone I would be one person and in public another. I had problems with "acting like his girlfriend." He told me that I treated him more like a friend. Eventually he stopped loving me and broke up with me for good.
Now I like another boy. And by his behavior I get the idea that he likes me as well. I don't find myself repulsed by him but rather uneasy. I told my friend that I liked him and now whenever I talk to him during class I feel like she is staring at me. I can rationalize that no one really cares and that even if did something stupid and people noticed it wouldn't matter. I'm usually not that self-conscious of myself in general in public. This tends to happen only with crushes or relationships.
I don't know why this happens and am honestly afraid that my last relationship will repeat itself with just a different face. My attraction for this new guy is completely different (he's smart, polite, my parents would like him, etc.) but I'm still afraid that this will happen. I thought that I'd gotten over this issue (it's been 7 months since I ended the last relationship) but I realize that I've just pushed this all under the rug and now it's coming out again. Am I psychologically disturbed? I don't know, but this is very aggravating. :(
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Okay, well, here's the deal. Your mind is playing tricks with you. It's making you think that what happened last time, with your ex boyfriend, will repeat it's self. It's a very normal thing for your mind to do. What you have to do is, just simply tell yourself that things WON'T be the same. Eventually you'll learn to believe it.
Good luck!
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I've fallen hard for this boy, Taylor, since last January of '09. Last summer, we had a 'thing'...Taylor kissed me and essentially let me know that he reciprocated the feelings. However, things didn't work out because I was entering my first year of college while he was entering his senior year of high school. We were at two different places and decided what was best for us is that we did our own thing. Taylor got a girlfriend, and I began talking to other boys. However, I couldn't stop comparing them to him.
Well, February of this year, we started talking again. He broke up with his girlfriend, and I found out through his best friend that Taylor just didn't feel anything with her and that every time he talked to a girl, he compared her to me. His best friend continued to tell me that Taylor was still in love with me. But (I know this is weird) I saw on Facebook that he was always talking to this girl from work and it got me jealous. I never did anything to confront him or scare him away. After all, we weren't dating. He took me out on a date and ended up kissing me and making moves to basically show that he still had feelings.
He ended up getting real drunk and making out with some girl. He doesn't remember the night. We had a talk and I legitimately believe that...I mean, it doesn't take away the hurt but I've been there and understand. However, this led to a talk about "us", and from what he said, all I can gather is that "he doesn't know where he's at" and "he's in love with me but he wants to try being single for awhile" (he's always had a girlfriend). I called bullshit and he asked me what I wanted, I said I wanted to be with him but what was best for me was to not talk to him until I got my feelings together...he was really upset about this. But today I found out that he's trying to decide between me and the girl from work...me = long lasting relationship, someone who cares, a nice girl...her = a short term fling, really hot but no depth...
Basically, I just don't understand why he would take me out and do all of those nice things when he didn't want anything out of it...he said in the future if he wants a relationship, he wants one with me but I don't want to be the stupid girl that waits. All of his guy friends are telling me he's going through a "phase" but I feel like that's an excuse. I'm tired of feeling like Im not worth the risk. But at the same time, I have never ever ever felt this way for anybody. I really feel something with him and we have something good going on... (link)
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High school guys don't want long lasting relationships. Especially if their in their senior year of high school. He'll be going off to college soon, and going to many parties and getting drunk and making stupid decisions. He's simply trying to find short term flings that will have no hard core relationship parts involved that you're trying to create.
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hi im michelle and im 17 years old. i have bi-polar and skitsafrania(dont know how to spell it) i take 2 diffrent meds and i have been trying to get pregnant. i know im young but i have my reasons. i have not been successful at all. i have no family history of being sterile or history of family having trouble getting pregnant. i can not figure out y i cant get pregnant. can anybody help me? (link)
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You should consult you're doctor and see if the medicines you are taking will affect your chances of getting pregnant. If they make you sterile, then try to talk to your doctor about finding different medications that won't make you. Tell him/her that you're trying to become pregnant but it hasn't been working and see if it is because of the medicines. If not they have tests that can tell you whent the best time to try and get pregnant is. I know they sell them at the drug store. I just can't seem to remember what their called.
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I'm a 15-year-old bisexual girl. I am naturally a flirt, but I find myself unsure of flirting with my female friends. All of my close friends know I'm bi, but it's not common knowledge in school (though if anyone asks, I'll tell them). I know my close friends could care less whether I flirt with them or not (or at least pretend not to care) but with girls I don't know as well, I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable. However, most teen girls jokingly flirt with each other A LOT. If they think I'm straight, they wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I feel this might be decieving. Is it wrong to flirt with girls if they don't know I'm bi? (link)
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No, its not wrong flirting with girls if they don't know you're bi. If they become really into flirting though, make it clear that you are. Because even though they may make it seem jokingly. You may end up taking it as for real one day.
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hey guyss! I'm 18/f. I weigh between 135-140lbs and I'm 5'4. I have been in sports my WHOLE life. Freshman year in high school I had small abs and was in really good shape. I tore my ACL during summer basketball and like normal I gained weight. I use to be about 125-130 before tearing my ACL. After that I blew up to almost 150. Junior year I went down to about 145 and stayed that for the rest of high school.
May of '09 I weighed myself and I was almost 150 and I was sick bc of it. I know I wasnt FAT but to me it was. I went down to about 140-145. And slowly since then I have lower my weight to where it is now. I feel and I think i look fat. I KNOW im not obese, but fat. Im not sure if its bc I have that mental thing that anorexia people do, where they are actually skinny but see their selves as fat.
My boyfriend and sister tell me I'm not, but my boyfriend is a lineman for college so of course I'm small compared to him. My body type is my legs are big bc of my muscle. I have always had big thighs. I have C boobs. I wear a size 5 in jeans but the legs are tight bc of my thighs.
Idk, maybe I do have a mental thing going on.
if you guys wanna see a picture or something to actually help me just ask.. thanks :/ (link)
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Okay, well, I think this is all just in your head. You're still a teenager. Your body goes through alot of changes. Gaining weight is one of them. From what it sounds like you are no where near fat. Just keep trying to convince yourself you're not, and it'll work, eventually.
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I am a 16 year old female. There is a guy I like but he hardly talksto me sould just forget about it or should I talk to him more? (link)
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Okay, well, here's the deal. Guys are TOTALLY clueless as to what is going through our heads. They can't tell when we like them. Even if we had it stammped to our foreheads they'd still have absolutely no idea. Get to know him first, and talk to him. See if you truly do like this guy. If he shows signs of intrest, and you end up liking him still too, then tell him- because thats the only way he'll know.
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I have been on birth control for about 2 years now. When I'm on my period there is a week when I am not taking the birth control pills, but i'm only on my period for about half of that week. The other days when I"m not on my period, but not taking the pills...am I more likely to get pregnant if I have sex? I'm worried because I'm not taking the pill those days. (link)
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No, even though you're on your period for only a half week, the other pills they give you to take on your period are simply sugar pills. Nothing else of the sort. Their just to keep you on your schedule of taking the pills. You have absolutely nothing to worry about. Just make sure you continue to take the actual pills (:
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so on my newsfeed it shows the things people become a fan of (or 'like'), and when someone comments on someone else's wall or pictures. but for some reason when i go someones wall it wont show what they like or what they commented on. it only shows their status updates and comments from other friends and pictures they added.
its like this for everyone
i dont think i changed any settings
and it reallllly annnoying
any ideas? (link)
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The other people might have different privacy settings.
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My friends are ALL talking about Justin Bieber's interview today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkKqihEUmH4&feature=player_embedded
Here is a link to the youtube video if you haven't seen it.
So since he doesn't even know what the word German means even when he reads it off a card, why are all my friends still crazy about him? I was the only one who thought he sounded like a girl and had stupid scene hair. Now he shows he is a moron and they just "think it is cute!" AWWW! I could vomit.
Can you tell me why morons with stupid hair are sexy? I don't get it.
I will rate you! (link)
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Okay, well, some girls are just totally head over heels for morons with scene hair. It's just their thing. They don't care what other people think. I, however, think that JB has a nice voice, but is totally stupid, and looks rather gross looking.
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Ok me and my boyfriend just had sex 2 weeks ago and I don't get my period till next week. We didn't use protection and he cummed inside of me. When he told me he did I ran to the bathroom and tried to clean it out because I got scared. Can I end up pregnant? Please help me because I am really scared! (link)
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Yes, you can still end up pregnant. If he cummed inside, then the sperm has reached eggs. Cleaning it doesn't do any good. The only thing that could have saved you was the Plan B pill. The best thing you could do is go to the drug store and buy an early result pregnancy test. If it comes out positive, figure out what you're going to do.
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There is this guy I have my eye on. I'm in 7th grade. Some what pretty. We talk and stuff and mess around. But he is going out with my best friend!!! So I know this is going to sound soo stuck up but is there anyway I can get him to like me, because i dont think she is good for him. We were doing a school performance and him and i were backstage hanging out and it was dark and he reached over and held my hand and scooted closer. and asked if i had a bf. I thought he liked me... what should i do??? (link)
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First off, figure out who means more to you. Your best friend- who will always be there for you- or this guy- who probably won't stay too long, guys come and go.
If you come to think that your bff is more important, then tell the guy you're really not into him.
If you think this guy is more important, you're gonna be stuck. You have to tell him you like him, and then break it to your best friend and hope she understands.
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Ugh it's so annoying; my ears have been all blocked up since a school trip on Wednesday. We took a plane and my ears, of course, got blocked up. Really bad. It's getting pretty hard to hear.
And on top of all that, I have a cold. My mom says it's from my cold, I think it's from the plane....anyways...owN
How do you pop your ears? Other than holding your nose and blowing, cuz that hasn't helped. Also, a way to decongest yourself.
I apreciate all comments :]
-M (link)
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There's certain kinds of "medicines" if you would like to call them that, that you can find at the pharmacy. Just go and ask your pharmacist.
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What are some awesome bands/singers like MC Frontalot and Gorillaz? Any others you'd recommend? New and old's good. Thanks (link)
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The Good, The Bad, & The Queen--one name. Blur. Daft Punk. Massive Attack. Radiohead. Thom Yorke. MGMT.
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am a female and i had sex with my bf for 8 months and unprotected and he has cummed inside of me. but i realise that my period hasn come yet and i feel this horrible pain in my puvic area.. also my breast are so sensitive and they hurt so much. i also started getting dizzy and i berly can stand strait some times.. Can i be pregnant?? (link)
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Yes you most certainly can be. Go to the drug store and buy a few pregnancy tests. After you take those, to be absolutely sure that you are/are not pregnant go to the doctors and take a pregnancy test there.
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hii. i was just wondering if wearing two condoms is better than one ?
thanks
kaitlyn (link)
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Wearing two condoms= most definitely NOT! When you're guy wears two condoms, the rubber rubs together and they break. Way too easily. That is one of the biggest reasons most teens get pregnant. They think two rubbers is safer, when truly, they break.
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So my ex broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. He said he needed some time apart and he just didnt like me as much as he did before. We obviously hungout less and talked less.He got sick and I didn't see him for a whole week ,but he talked to me one of those days.Then in class,we had to work in groups and he wanted to be in my group and ofcourse he flirted with me and what not and we made plans to hangout ,so we went and hungout at his house and watched tv and he wanted me to come lay next to him and we did the classic play fighting etc. and we just talked a lot ( i made sure not to bring up our relationship or anything like that) and we didn't hookup, but the tension was there. Then we went to a volleyball game and sat really close to eachother and it seems like everytime we talk ,i just feel like he looks at me as more than a friend. Also, he left his shoes at my house from a long time ago and i said we could get them after the game but he said "he'd just get them from me over the weekend " implying that we are gonna hangout on the weekend.. i don't know if he still feels for me or just likes me as a friend..I dont want to bring it up because that might push him away because maybe these hangouts are his thinking times to decide whether or not he wants to try again and i don't want to rush him or annoy him so im letting him come to me for hangouts and talking ,etc. or what should i do!? (link)
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First off, you have to talk to him. Letting things go on too long like that, could end up in even more heartbreak for you. Guys who break up with you because they need "time apart" normally just feel too clinged to. So maybe he feels as if how you two are both handling this at the moment is how he wants the relationship to be. That is if he wants another relationship. By simply asking him what he wants shouldn't be annoying him. Just ask him how he feels and that you feel that he is giving way too many mixed signals, and that you think he still likes you. If he does, then talk about what you two are going to do, and talk about the problems you had in your previous relationship. If he doesn't then continue to stay friends, but ask him not to send the mixed signals.
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