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people think I'm much older than I actually am.
This is a very strange question, I'm sure. I'm 14 years old, and most people I meet for the first time outside of my family and friends think that I'm at least 17 years old, because of my appearance and general demeanor. I met a guy who I thought was 17, and he thought that I was that age as well... but he turned out to be 19 years old. Anyway, nothing really happened but I still think of him after a year, and I haven't spoken to him in at least half a year. I'm upset because this happens a lot; people think I'm much older than I actually am. I get emotionally attached to some of these people, and vice versa, but consequently nothing ever works between us. I'm not sure what I should do in these circumstances, because I've been through lots of emotional trauma because of it.
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I don't think there's much you can do the same thing
has happened to me expect i'm opposite i get told i
look younger then i really am someone thought i was 16 when in reality i'm 19 iv'e been asked if i'm in school even though i graduated 3 years ago most who ask me are adults so i don't get emotionally attached like you it's just one of those things that happen which you can't control try to not get
your hopes up even though it's tough(:
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I would say to stick to being around people more your age then.
I suppose being 14, and acting like a 17 year old is good, but also remember you still are young. Don't grow up too fast because other people think you are older than what you actually are.
It does suck when you get emotionally attached to someone and they leave. Try not to get so emotionally attached to someone right away, wait it out.
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This is the easiest piece of advice I've given all day: don't lie about your age. Make it clear that you are only 14. Honestly, I do not understand how you can become "emotionally attatched" to someone who does not even know how old you are. Obviously your relationships are not built off of honesty or actually getting to know each other.
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Then don't do it. Go for people your own age, no matter how out of place it might seem. Your better off dealing with problems your age has to deal with than with people's problems that are much older than you.
Though it is much better to look older than how you are. Adults respect your more because they think your much more mature. People tend to trust people who seem older. Your going to get a lot over time, so its better to give up on people who guess your age and be with people who know your age. If you get carried away with hanging out with people older than you, you will find yourself in more problems than you need, especially at 14.
So trust me, your much better off just being you and not trying to be someone older.
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