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I've recently decided I want to be a teacher and I've been studying so much to make it happen. My (good) friend who is always really honest said she doesn't think I'll make a good teacher as I'm shy and I don't have a great bond with children. I've never been around children younger than me as I'm the youngest in my family however I'm volunteering in a school from October onwards to gain experience. It really hurt me that my friend thinks I won't be a good teacher as its what I really want to do. How can I feel better about what I'm doing?
Hey, I'm glad you asked me this question! When my mom was in high school, she wanted to be a teacher so she told her guidance counselor. Her guidance counselor told her that she wasn't smart enough to be a teacher and that she should do something else. She went to college for something else and ended up getting a job in yet another field. She was never really happy and she eventually decided to go back to school to become a teacher. She is so, so happy with her life now and she's actually a really good teacher. She's so motivated to be the best because someone once told her she couldn't. If you really want to be a teacher, go for it. You don't want to waste your life doing something that you don't want to do. Your friend doesn't know what she is talking about. She's trying to be helpful, but she's no expert. She probably doesn't know that she's hurting you, but what she is saying to you is pretty terrible. Don't take her too seriously, she's just a kid. Do what you want to do and prove her wrong. Even if you change your mind down the road and end up not being a teacher, at least you don't have to wonder for the rest of your life if you should have tried it. I guess what I'm trying to say here is that you shouldn't let your friend control your life because in the end, it's YOUR life. Good luck! :)
Im a male teenager, straight forsure. But.. When I'm
Horny I watch gay porn it turns me on soo much and I realy like watching it , I would only date and be with girls, but I would wanna get my penis sucked and rubbed by another guy, or maybe even do anal one day. I'm striaght though I get these feeling a lot now, is it just puberty and growing up? I know I'm not gay or bi bit I know I'm
Bicurious, should I try things with a guy?
Just a disclaimer before I begin: throughout my response I am in no way accusing you of being bisexual or gay. I don't know you at all, but I do think that I may be able to help. I have no idea whether you're gay, straight, or in-between and honestly, it doesn't matter to me.
You keep reassuring yourself that you're completely, totally, and unequivocally straight, but it seems like you really want to try something that is completely, totally, and unequivocally not straight. Look, you have to be honest with yourself. You must know that you sound very wishy-washy. Until you can say to yourself that you believe that you are bisexual or gay, you're not ready to try doing something with another guy. If you identify yourself as absolutely, positively straight, doing something with another guy could be very damaging. What if someone found out? That could really mess up your life. If you're not ready to entertain the idea that you are bisexual, it's not a good idea to try something that's gay. Just wait. Then you won't make any mistakes. If you are straight, there's no need for you to do anything like this and you don't want to look back in your past and regret having done it. You'd want something like this to be a positive experience. If you aren't completely straight, since you're still vehemently identifying yourself as straight, doing something with another guy could further confuse you. For me, I waited until I was absolutely sure. I really feel that this was the right decision. It was a wonderful experience and I can't imagine that it would have been the same if I'd done it before I was ready or if I had done it and ended up not being bisexual. You are not ready to do something like this unless you can admit to yourself AND say to someone else, even if it's someone you don't know online, that you're bisexual. Just enjoy porn and get your feelings sorted out before you make a decision about this because it could really affect your life. Enjoying gay porn doesn't mean you're bi at all, it just means you have a reaction to human sexuality, which most humans do. Stick with that until you're sure either way. Good luck!
Check out these websites, they give some good information.
http://gayteens.about.com/od/gayteens/qt/Are-You-Ready-For-Your-Gay-Lesbian-Sex-Experience.htm.
http://www.avert.org/ready-sex.htm
If you do go ahead and go through with this, you absolutely MUST use protection. There's no risk of pregnancy of course, but there is a risk of infection/disease. You have to be confident enough in your decision to plan for it and bring protection along.
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a long time without protection because we always trusted each other,and we swore not to ever cheat on each other.The thing is that lately, things are no longer the same and I'm afraid that he might be cheating on me,and that I might be making a mistake.It's no longer a loyalty matter right now,but a healthy matter actually.I don't know what to do cause if I ask him to wear a condom,I know that he'll feel frustated and he won't trust me either at the same time.Is it wrong what I am thinking?I need some advice,thanks!
Even if you are on the pill, you can still get pregnant. If you can scare him and make him think that pregnancy is a possibility and that using a condom would give you the extra protection that you need, he will probably go for it. Another idea would be to get specialty condoms, ones that have flavors, sensations, ribbing, or other fun features to enhance the whole experience. You should never have agreed to not use condoms to begin with. This is something that you should put your foot down about anyway, even if he isn't cheating, but especially if there's a chance. If he knows it's really important to you and he's aware that pregnancy is still a strong possibility even if you are taking the pill, he should not take issue with this. If you can convince him that you are really nervous about getting pregnant, he should respect that and you won't have to tell him. If he can't accept it, he is horribly selfish and immature. You should not be with someone like that. The bigger issue here, is if things have changed and you think he's cheating on you, why are you still having sex? It sounds like you're not even sure you still want to be with him! Maybe you should put sex on hold until you can get your relationship figured out. Good luck. :)
I'm 13 years ols and I have fingered myself and I have used a dildo but I need sex I need to have sex with someone because I am horny all of the time .....
I don't no what to do !
If you have sex, it won't make you less horny. Sex will not cure you of feeling this way. It will do the same thing that the dildo and fingering will do. You will still feel horny all of the time. Your body is filled with hormones right now. The only thing that can cure you of your desire is time. Believe me, sex will not make you any less horny, it will not solve your problem. In fact, sex will complicate your life. Sex comes with so much risk. There are physical and emotional risks. If you can get off by using toys or your hands, stick with that. I promise you, having sex will not make you any less horny. The only thing to do is wait it out. Good luck!
'i am from india' i am of age 20.i had sex with my fiance.we had safe sex,used condom.i had the sex one day before my periods.but i did not get my periods for d next day.so i took i pill.i had bleeding for one day..i guess that is due to i pill side effect.so when will i get my periods? is their any chance of pregnancy?
The person that said to eat pineapple is wrong, that's just silly.
Every time that you have sex, even if it is safe sex, there is a chance of pregnancy. The chance for you in your situation is very small. You are probably fine. If you took a day-after pill, it probably affected your cycle. These pills are filled with hormones and they can put your body out of balance. I took one once and it made my period come 2 weeks early. Sometimes, it can make your period not come at all. Your cycle should be back to normal by next month. If you are worried, buy a home pregnancy test. If you were practicing safe sex there is not much to worry about, though. You are probably fine.
So, a few days ago I adopted a cat.
I'm a college student and I'm paying my way through school so I don't have a lot of money. I have a enough to take care of the cat though.
But yesterday I found out my apartment asks for a $400 dollar pet deposit which I cannot afford right now. I
After school I only have about $500 a month for groceries and things.
So far, I haven't told my apartment I adopted a cat. What do you think is the worst they would do if they eventually found out? Just ask I pay it?
Should I tell them and try to work out a payment plan or something. I'm just worried they'll want all the money up front and I have no way to do that. I would be devastated if I had to give her up.
I'm just looking for advice on the smartest actions.
They could actually kick you out. You are breaking the contract that you made with them. I'm not just trying to scare you, they could really do this. They have every right to put you on the street and they might be able to keep your original security deposit too. My guess is that they're not going to do that, they're just going to demand the extra money and threaten to evict you. The smartest, most responsible action here would be to return the cat. You can't afford it. You adopted it a few days ago. I know that a few days is long enough to start to really like an animal, but you're not going to be that devastated. If you want to risk it, you could keep the cat secretly and then pay the deposit in a few months once you've saved up enough money. If you're going to do this, though, you'll have to really sneak around. It's going to be rough. Would your parents or a friend look after it for a few months so that you didn't have to return it and you wouldn't be risking keeping it in the apartment? That's probably the best route. Did you read your rental agreement before you signed it? You may want to read through it again. It may say what will happen if you have an unauthorized pet. If you don't have it anymore, you can probably get a copy from your landlord or the apartment's office. I wish you the best of luck. You have to remember that you are the one that made a mistake here. You put yourself in an awkward position and you're going to have to be the one to decide what you want to risk. The right thing to do would be to return the cat, the smartest thing to do would be to have someone else look after it until you can pay the deposit, and the riskiest, irresponsible thing to do would be to hope nobody notices. If no one notices for awhile you may think you're in the clear and you're going to stop saving money for the deposit. That is absolutely the wrong thing to do. You don't want trouble. The next place you stay will want references and you don't want a bad record. You most certainly don't want to get evicted. Until you pay the deposit, the cat shouldn't stay there.
So i've been in love with my best friend for about a year now, and he has a girlfriend. they've been together for almost 6 months now. he always tells about how he wishes it would've been me he'd made a move on, instead of her but now he has to stay with her because he doesn't want to hurt her (or atleast break up with her for me) at this point he is always with her, and she hates me (jealousy issues) so he can never talk to me when he's with her so we don't get to talk near as much as i'd like. I've been trying to get over him for sometime but it's hard because of how close we've always been. So at this point, I'm not sure if i should stop talking to him for awhile (to give myself some time to get over him-pretty much give up on wanting to be with him) or if i should just leave it alone, and let whatever happens, happen. I really don't want to stop talking to him, i think it'd be really hard for me. and i never want us to stop being friends i just want to know what would be best for now. maybe we can end up together in the future, or something...i'm just sick of hurting because he is with her, and i've wanted him for so long..I haven't had a boyfriend in 2 years and i just moved to a new city, and i have no friends and don't know how to make any...so dating another guy isn't an option at the moment.
any advice helps, thank you very much C:
-18 female
Oh gosh. I know you like him and everything, but he doesn't sound like that great of a person. I really feel like you're looking at him through the fog of your attraction. There's more to him than what you've said, I know. However, you can't be with or trust someone like him. He's staying with someone else when he likes you so that he doesn't hurt her? That makes no sense. He's choosing to hurt you, the one he supposedly likes, instead? He's not that dense. Either that or he's lying to you. Staying with someone so you don't hurt them is not something that a good, or intelligent person would do. It's just not right on any level. If he really, really didn't want to be with her, he wouldn't. He's being very unfair to her by telling you that he'd rather be with you. Who knows if that's even the truth. It's kind of like when a married man has a mistress and continually promises that someday he'll divorce his wife for her, but he really isn't going to. It's not like the two of you are lovers, but believe me, he is getting a lot of satisfaction from knowing that you want to be with him. Even if you haven't told him, he's probably figured it out or he's pompous enough to think that of course you would. If you ever did end up with him, he'd probably be telling someone else that he wishes it was them instead of you. That behavior shouldn't be okay with you, it's so disrespectful. Even if you don't like his current girlfriend, you have to feel a little sorry for her. What he is doing to her is just not right. The longer he stays with her, the more it will hurt when it's over. I know you like him and everything, but he is just not dating material. You can love someone to death, but that doesn't mean that you should be with them. My advice to you would be to stop talking with him. He is being sooo mean and unfair to you. See this for what it is and see him for what he is. He's dishonest and he's untrustworthy. The best thing you can do is cut him off for awhile. You can talk to him again and be friends with him down the road when your feelings for him have dwindled. Cut him off completely for 6 months or so. He may not be a great person to be in a relationship with, but he may be a good friend. In order to be friends with him, though, you have to be able to move on from wanting to be with him. I wish you the best of luck and know that even if you don't have many friends, you're twice the person he is and you're destined for a better future.
i feel like my bf is being bored with me when we are having sex.what can i do to bec hot enough for him.
I'm sure you're hot enough for him. He's having sex with you after all! Lots of people need a little spice every so often, though, no matter who they're with, how hot they are, or how great the sex is. Try wearing something different, making different sounds, saying different things, a different position, a different place, toys, a camera, chocolate, ice cubes, just anything new. There are some really interesting positions that you can find if you search online. Good luck!
I just adopted a year old cat from the humane society and took her to a free exam at a local vet.
She's completely healthy but the vet said I should bring in a fecal sample to test for internal parasites.
He really scared me with all the talk of how they can harm humans. But they're really expensive and with buying the cat and all her things I can't really afford that this month.
I would like some advice from experienced pet owners, please.
Do you have your cat tested for internal parasites even if they're completely healthy?
Are they THAT big of a threat to humans as long as you wash your hands after cleaning the litter box and before you eat?
I mean, people had house cats ALL THE TIME before things like internal parasite testing existed and I've never heard of the great blinding epidemic from house cats..
I'm worried... but I really can't afford it this month.
It's probably something that you should do, especially if there will be any children living in your house or visiting. My advice for you is that it would be okay for you to wait until next month if you have to. Just don't put it off so long that it doesn't get done. Sure there's a chance that everything is fine, but there's a chance that it's not, too. Definitely get it done by next month. As flare suggested, perhaps you could set up a payment plan. Shop around, too. See if you can find a different vet. Get a second opinion and see if there is anyone that could do it for cheaper. You don't want to get sick, but you don't want to get screwed over either. Good luck!
What are some good sleepover ideas for 13 year olds?
LoveHopeFaith gave amazing suggestions. One thing I have to add is that camping can not only be fun, but can be a lifesaver for the parents. You can have a fire, cook food over it, and sleep in a tent. Sleepovers can get noisy and everyone always ends up staying up late. If it's outside, it's less likely to bother the adults. Even if outside isn't an option, I remember having sleepovers when I was a kid and we would set up a tent in the living room. It was so fun. Good luck! :)
I am having pain. I am not having cramps but pain down where a baby comes out. It isn't painful all the time. It is soar when I sit down or when I touch it and it hurts all the way around. I have never experienced this before so I am scared.
If you wait too long to go to the doctor, you could have more serious issues than what's going on now. See a doctor as soon as you can. If that means talking to your parents or setting up an appointment yourself, this is something you have to do. You can't risk your health because you want to avoid an uncomfortable conversation. Don't let your fear prevent you from doing what you must. Your fear should motivate you to do the right thing. This could be nothing, but it could also be something serious. Don't wait too long because it could get worse. You MUST see a doctor. This is nothing to be embarrassed about. Take responsibility for your body and health. Good luck!
My first period hasnt started and i have all the symptoms, when will it come?
It's great that you know what the symptoms are and you seem like you're ready for it. Well, as ready as you can be. The thing is, there's no way to know exactly when it will come. Since you have all the signs, it should be within 6 months or so. Do you know how old your mom was when she got hers? Often, daughters will get it around the same time their moms did. If you're not sure about when your mom got hers, ask. Otherwise, it's just a waiting game. Good luck!
My best friends boyfriend was cheating on her, I felt awful and wanted to do anything that I could to make her feel better, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to just give her a card saying, oh I hope you feel better. We've known each other since we were 2 and she means the world to me.
She'll be okay with time. The best thing you can do for her is just be a friend. Hang out with her a lot. Invite her to the movies or plan a sleepover. Just spend a lot of time with her. She'll appreciate it because when she's with you, she won't think about what happened as much. She'll feel less lonely and she'll have something fun to occupy her time and thoughts with. Be there for her if she wants to talk, but don't bring it up yourself. If she doesn't want to hang out, don't force it, but keep offering and inviting her to do things with you. Another thing to avoid is trying to set her up with someone before she is ready. Make sure she knows that you're there for her like her ex isn't anymore. Having great friends is the best way to get over someone. Be a great friend. She probably needs some normalcy and fun in her life instead of a bunch of friends that are going to feel sorry for her and keep reminding her about what happened. Sometimes it's best, at least at first, to just pretend as if nothing did. Good luck!
Recently, i saw a few pic of a few kids were born unormal, example, 2 head-one body, born with 6 legs, born with no hands or legs, and more. So, why is it? It is just so sad. Is it because of parents sickness, disease, or eat wrong food, or what? What are some reason. Can anyone tell me? So incase i dont do something scary before i have kids. Thank you so much.
I think that it's mostly just random. Sometimes, for no reason at all, something messes up and there is a birth defect. Sometimes it has something to do with how you start out with twins, but they get conjoined together. You can't avoid having twins, but you can lessen your chances of having twins by not taking fertility drugs.
Try not to pay too much attention to that stuff. Most children are born just fine. :)
Me and my sister and really good friends with this guy named Sam. I actually was originally friends with him, and me ad him really hit it off. Yes, ill admit i thought he maybe liked me, because we hung out everyday after school and texted everyday too.
than he met my sister. MY TWIN
so my sister is kinda flirting, and soon i realized he is too, so there was kinda a "love" connection between them.
At first i was sooo hurt because i thought me and him had something, but now i realize that i only like him as a friend.
However, i won't lie, it still bothers me to see Sam and my sister together.
I know that deep down, i really only like him as a friend, but every time he picks to talk to me over my twin, I get excited.
So last night he told me he is thinking about asking her to Prom, and that made me pretty upset. I don't know i mean, I was friends with him first, and for some reason they becoming friends kinda upsets me. Maybe because she gets most of the attention. Maybe because I am worried how they're "love" relationship can possible affected me and Sams.
Im not sure.
What should i do?
How should i feel about this.
I think that you should talk to your sister about this. You're twins after all. Tell her about how you feel. It will help to get everything out. You're not being silly or crazy or anything. Be happy for your sister and tell her that you don't want her to avoid going out with him because of you. She and Sam are going to do what they're going to do, but your feelings are probably important to your twin, right? If anyone will understand you, it's her. Tell her all of your thoughts and fears. She'll listen and it will feel so, so good to clear the air. Again, though, don't expect anything to change or anything to happen because of this conversation. It's only fair to tell your sister how you feel and it's fair to want her to not go out with him, but it isn't fair to expect her to change her mind because it makes you a little uncomfortable. Tell your sister how you feel and then let things play out how they will. You're young, even if she goes out with him, they're probably not going to be together for very long. Support whatever she does and she should do her best to respect your feelings back. She can't respect or be sensitive towards what she doesn't know about, though, so make sure you tell her! Good luck! :)
Hi. I'm 15 girl and still a virgin. When I was about 13/14 I started to notice a white (sometimes cream) discharge in my underwear. Can anybody help?
Unless it really smells, itches, or burns, it's totally normal. Check out this website. It explains everything really well and there's no nasty pictures or anything. Don't worry, this is something that most every girl has to deal with. :)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/vdischarge2.html#cat20015
well their is this guy at school that i like and he dosent like me well only as a friend and i hate the fact that he likes this other girl cause he is like so cute so plzzz help me plus i alredy tried putting on makeup and being like way obvious that i like him he stil didnt get like "the picture".
Have you tried telling him? It seems like the most obvious thing, but maybe also the hardest thing. The problem is that if you start putting on lots of makeup or dressing in skimpier clothing and that sort of thing, you may turn him off from you. That's not you anyway! While it may get his attention if you show off your body or wear makeup, it may not be the kind of attention you're looking for. You want him to see you as dating material and cute, not easy! The good thing about telling him what you feel is that when you know that someone likes you, you look at them differently. If you make him aware of how you feel, he will start looking at you in a different way. He'll give you the attention and hopefully the chance you're looking for. Unfortunately, guys don't always pick up on hints. They're just as confused and unsure about what they should do as girls are. You are going to have to just outright tell him. That's the best thing to do. Just work up the nerve and do it. If he's worth it, you should be able to do this! Just tell him and see what happens. Worst case scenario is that he says he's not interested in you and he dates the other girl instead. If you don't tell him how you feel, it looks like he's going to do that anyway. Give yourself a chance instead of waiting around and wondering. Good luck!
I'm 14 and I have an older sister who is 17 care about a lot. When we were kids, we were best friends, but shes a senior in high school and in a way different group from me. My friends and I barely ever party at all/...maybe drink and smoke weed sometimes. I still love her to death, though
My sister, on the other hand met this guy from another school and started making a bunch of friends in the cocaine crowd. She's only been doing cocaine since around New Years when she started dating this guy who is a a notorious drug dealer. Last week they decided to drive down to Mexico for a "vacation". My parents thought it was fine because they are so naive. When she didn't get back when she said she was supposed to and we couldn't get ahold of her we started getting worried. Sure enough, not two hours later, we get a call from the border police saying they had her. It took my parents $1,000 to bail her out and we drove an hour and a half to pick her up.
Apparently what happened was that, their care was checked because they looked suspicious. Sure, enough they found two kilos of cocaine in the wheel well of her boyfriend's car. They were brought back to the station. I guess my sister thought her boyfriend was just going to be arrested, but they decided to do a cavity search on my sister...made her spread her cheeks and they found 15 bags of cocaine stuffed in her butthole. I don't even know it was possible that someone can fit something like that in their butt!!! The drive home was silent. SHe has court next month and is probably facing a lot of trouble.
RIght now I am in shock and don't know what to even think. I want to cry, but I can't. I will always love my sister, but she must have a drug problem if she has resorted to dating a huge drug dealer and hiding things in her rear end. What should I say to her?? Is she going to prison? Thank you for any help you can give me.
Wow, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. As bad as it might seem, it may be a good thing that she was caught like this. Now everyone knows how serious her problem is and something might get done about it now. I can't tell you whether she'll have to do any time or not. What does need to happen is that your parents need to get her into a program to get her the help she needs. This might end up being expensive. It might mean big changes for the family. Everyone is going to have to make sacrifices. It's going to be really hard to talk to your sister because the situation is so shocking. It seems like you knew she was doing cocaine, but you didn't realize how serious it was. Take some time for the shock to wear off, but don't take too long. Your sister probably feels worse and more awkward than anyone. Maybe try just asking her how she's holding up. She may not want to talk about it, but maybe she will. Even though it's probably going to be tricky, try to talk to her. Build up the courage and start a conversation. Ask her the questions you want the answers to. When you're talking to her don't make what she did sound like it was the worst thing in the world Saying "how could you do such a thing", probably isn't the best idea even though that's what you want to know. Try approaching the conversation with the goal of understanding what happened and understanding what she is going through. If you approach her with a confused or caring tone rather than a shocked, angry, or "you're insane" tone, it's going to be hard for her to talk to you. It's difficult to give you specific advice because she hasn't gone through court yet. You also know her a lot better than I do. Even if she's changed a lot, she's still your sister and however you used to talk to her is probably the way to go about it now. If the court system doesn't give any help to your sister, like putting her into rehab or something, and your parents either don't know what to do or can't afford it, this may sound strange and kind of out there, but think about messaging Dr. Phil. I think that even if you don't want to go on the show or anything, you might get some good help or advice from someone who is a professional. You may also want to see if your school can set you up with someone to talk to. If you're not sure, ask your guidance counselor. You don't have to reveal all the details, but this is a crazy situation and you're going to need some guidance and advice from someone you can build a relationship and trust with in order to get through everything. Your family dynamics are going to be changing quickly. It's going to affect everyone differently. Be ready for a lot of your family's time, attention, and effort, to be completely taken away from you and focused all on your sister. That's something that can be really hard to deal with. Try to prepare. I wish you the very best of luck and I really hope that you seek help from a professional in your area that you can go to and talk with. With the right help, all of you can absolutely get through this. It may be a tough road, but know that it can definitely be done.
I've been losing interest in video games so I want to sell ALL of them. Where and what way would be the best to sell them? I don't wanna get ripped off. But I need atleast $300. I have a 120gb ps3 slim, about 9 ps3 games and 3 ps2 games. I'm not looking to sell online, I'll have to deal with shipping & possibly no buyers - I need the $300 for a used item that someone else can buy at any second. It's a really good deal so I don't wanna wait last minute and have them tell me it's sold already.
Try craigslist. As long as you live in or near a decent sized city, craigslist is a good bet. It's free to post and you won't risk losing any money or having to pay for shipping. You can also get an ad in a newspaper for pretty cheap. It may be worth the investment of a few dollars. Good luck!
i did'nt had intercourse with my love but i just touched my penis near her vagina & some fluid came out from her vaginal part which touched to my penis..is there is any chance to get pregnant??it happened after last day of her period...how much % chance of getting her pregnant..plz tell me how should i stop this pregnancy..best contraceptive pills...within how many days..should start giving her pills..
does pills have any side effect.. plz tell me..
Yes. Of course. Let this be a learning experience for you. Did you really think that it was a good idea to touch yourself in that area like that? I know you probably weren't really thinking too much and it may be difficult to think in times like those, but it's one of the most important times in your life to think and make good decisions. If you're not careful, you're going to end up with a lot more to worry about than a pregnancy scare. Don't try to make what you did sound like it wasn't a big deal by saying that you "just" touched your penis near her vagina. Just? That's kind of a big deal. Own up to your mistake and don't do it again. Further protect yourself by wearing a condom even if you're not having sex. If you can't trust yourself not to make questionable decisions when in the moment, which, judging by what you've done already, you shouldn't, it's best to have that protection in place.