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I want him to wear a condom but he won't do it
My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a long time without protection because we always trusted each other,and we swore not to ever cheat on each other.The thing is that lately, things are no longer the same and I'm afraid that he might be cheating on me,and that I might be making a mistake.It's no longer a loyalty matter right now,but a healthy matter actually.I don't know what to do cause if I ask him to wear a condom,I know that he'll feel frustated and he won't trust me either at the same time.Is it wrong what I am thinking?I need some advice,thanks!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Condoms?
Even if you are on the pill, you can still get pregnant. If you can scare him and make him think that pregnancy is a possibility and that using a condom would give you the extra protection that you need, he will probably go for it. Another idea would be to get specialty condoms, ones that have flavors, sensations, ribbing, or other fun features to enhance the whole experience. You should never have agreed to not use condoms to begin with. This is something that you should put your foot down about anyway, even if he isn't cheating, but especially if there's a chance. If he knows it's really important to you and he's aware that pregnancy is still a strong possibility even if you are taking the pill, he should not take issue with this. If you can convince him that you are really nervous about getting pregnant, he should respect that and you won't have to tell him. If he can't accept it, he is horribly selfish and immature. You should not be with someone like that. The bigger issue here, is if things have changed and you think he's cheating on you, why are you still having sex? It sounds like you're not even sure you still want to be with him! Maybe you should put sex on hold until you can get your relationship figured out. Good luck. :)
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Listen to your intuition, trust you feelings seriously don't doubt the vibes you get, and if he won't use a condom and that's what you really please tell him that it's your pussy and if he's going inside it I think you should decide how.
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I always tell women that if they feel in their gut that something ain't right it is way more than likely not right. Trust your gut, ladies.
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If he doesn't like it tough. If you don't want pregnancy, have health concerns, or suspect cheating than wearing condoms is key. If he loves you he would be fine with it. If it's an issue with him it shows he's selfish and doesn't think of you. Don't compromise your health or on this.
It's condom or nothing and you have every right to insist that of anyone no matter what you did in the past. If he objects tell him what you told us as the reason.
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Your boyfriend is being extremely selfish. Not wearing a condom in this day and age has nothing to do with cheating and everything to do with safe sex. While condoms do not prevent the transmission of all STDS the do prevent many of them. They are also about 85% effective in preventing pregnancy when worn correctly.
Your boyfriend is being selfish as condoms do restrict some of the feelings he will receive during sex, boo hoo. He is being disrespectful to you regardless of fidelity by not using a condom. He may not be cheating while dating you, what about previous relationships. Having unprotected sex with means you are having sex with each of his past partners and each of their past partners so on and so on.
Some STDS do not materialize immediately but take months even years as they lie dormant for a long period. This is why condoms are a must until you are married or in a long term arrangement.
My advise: Back in my day, which was long before AIDS and other STDS the girls had a saying; "No rubber no Lover". So keep you panties and pants on and tell this guy to take a hike. As I said this is not a matter of trust, it is a matter of respect and he does not have the respect he should have for you and that you deserve. There are men or boys out there who will cherish you and have the proper respect for you.
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You should always wear a condom unless your married. You can get prego an STD or anything and somethings can't be terminated like a pregnancy if something was to go wrong. Its not a bad thing that your thinking this way. You should of been thinking this way since day 1. It doesn't matter if you trust eachother you should be like i trust you have a condom or we aint having sex. Lols but seriously you should ask him and tell him how your feeling because if he does get mad then that means he aint a real man & he's doing things. Trust in your instincts there God's way of speaking to you
GoodLuck :)
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Whether he's cheating or not, he needs to wear a condom! Feelings and frustrations put aside, not wearing a condom is irresponsible unless you wanna get pregnant or an STD. This has nothing to do with trust, it's about health and remaining safe. Always have protected sex! Otherwise the repercussions will be devastating.
Good luck :)
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