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Bisexual things: I know I'm not gay or bi bit I know I'm Bicurious, should I try things with a guy?
Im a male teenager, straight forsure. But.. When I'm
Horny I watch gay porn it turns me on soo much and I realy like watching it , I would only date and be with girls, but I would wanna get my penis sucked and rubbed by another guy, or maybe even do anal one day. I'm striaght though I get these feeling a lot now, is it just puberty and growing up? I know I'm not gay or bi bit I know I'm
Bicurious, should I try things with a guy?
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Just a disclaimer before I begin: throughout my response I am in no way accusing you of being bisexual or gay. I don't know you at all, but I do think that I may be able to help. I have no idea whether you're gay, straight, or in-between and honestly, it doesn't matter to me.
You keep reassuring yourself that you're completely, totally, and unequivocally straight, but it seems like you really want to try something that is completely, totally, and unequivocally not straight. Look, you have to be honest with yourself. You must know that you sound very wishy-washy. Until you can say to yourself that you believe that you are bisexual or gay, you're not ready to try doing something with another guy. If you identify yourself as absolutely, positively straight, doing something with another guy could be very damaging. What if someone found out? That could really mess up your life. If you're not ready to entertain the idea that you are bisexual, it's not a good idea to try something that's gay. Just wait. Then you won't make any mistakes. If you are straight, there's no need for you to do anything like this and you don't want to look back in your past and regret having done it. You'd want something like this to be a positive experience. If you aren't completely straight, since you're still vehemently identifying yourself as straight, doing something with another guy could further confuse you. For me, I waited until I was absolutely sure. I really feel that this was the right decision. It was a wonderful experience and I can't imagine that it would have been the same if I'd done it before I was ready or if I had done it and ended up not being bisexual. You are not ready to do something like this unless you can admit to yourself AND say to someone else, even if it's someone you don't know online, that you're bisexual. Just enjoy porn and get your feelings sorted out before you make a decision about this because it could really affect your life. Enjoying gay porn doesn't mean you're bi at all, it just means you have a reaction to human sexuality, which most humans do. Stick with that until you're sure either way. Good luck!
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If you do go ahead and go through with this, you absolutely MUST use protection. There's no risk of pregnancy of course, but there is a risk of infection/disease. You have to be confident enough in your decision to plan for it and bring protection along.
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I'm glad you put in the part about going through puberty as it tells me a lot about your age and what you are feeling at this time.
First, relax your normal. What you are experiencing is finding out about who you are sexually. All of us, girls and boys, go through this during puberty. Many of us may even have a gay experience in our early teen years. This does not mean we are gay, bi or truly bi curious.
All any of us are doing is learning about our sexuality and sex in general. This is very normal. There are a lot of things that are done during this time that are brought about because of the new hormones puberty puts into our body. There is nothing wrong with this and it is all part of going through puberty and learning about sexuality.
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Bi means bi. It means you are attracted to both. Being bicurious isn't a bad thing, it's just who you are and what you are attracted to. You need to stop fooling yourself and just accept that you are attracted to both. Don't worry about what others say. Worry about what makes you happy. If you have the thoughts and do the things you do, then my friend you are bi. You are not bisexual as you have not acted on it yet. You are still curious. Just don't fool around with others emotions if you are going to start dating. Be who you are and let someone fall for who you are. If people can't accept it then forget them. They are too ignorant. Being gay, bi, lesbian, heterosexual, etc is a choice. What should matter is being attracted to that person not only physically but more for who the person is. Don't try to be complacent with the norms of society. Do what you want to do. If you want to experiment then experiment. If you like it then you like it. If you don't then you don't, but obviously your actions speak louder than words. The old phrase if you act like a duck, walk like a duck, then you must be a duck. So if you have thoughts about it and get aroused by it, well all you have to do is try it. LOL. Honestly, I couldn't tell you if are bi or not, until you try it. Maybe if you try it and don't like, then you may stop, but statistics will usually show that's not the case. Good luck to you on your journey.
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