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Sex: What do I do if he asked to have sex?
if he asked to have sex
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You have to decide for yourself if you're ready. Unfortunately, you didn't give a lot of information about your specific situation. If you're in a relationship with him and you tell him that you don't want to because you're not ready, he may break up with you. That's what a lot of girls are worried about. The thing is, no matter how much you like or love him if he's going to try to threaten you or force you to have sex with him he is not a good person at all and is not the right guy for you. Having sex before you're ready could seriously damage your whole life. Being ready for sex is a lot more complicated than just feeling ready. Since you're asking this question, my guess is that you're not even sure if you feel ready. Go to this website and go through each of the steps: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). This will help you decide if you're ready or not. It is the worst idea in the world to have sex before you're ready even if it means losing someone that is special to you. If he's really that special, he'll be okay with it anyway, right? :)
Good luck!
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If you are under 18 I don't suggest it. There is too much risk involved in having sex, especially at that age. Plus most people you would ask might say that losing your virginity isn't all that its cracked up to be. I at least lost mine with someone I loved and cared for at the time. I waited until I was 20 and honestly it was by choice. You should do what makes you feel comfortable and don't fall to peer pressure or pressure from your bf. Follow your beliefs and etc. Do it when you feel its right. If you are over 18 then its different a little bit, but I would still wait until after college or at least I got my goals and career started. Yes they have the morning after pill (Plan B), birth control, condoms, etc. but there risk of disease and too much emotional drama involved in even just sex. It always means a little more to one of the two parties involved. It could be they want to start a relationship, one last fling before marriage, a way the let loose or get revenge, etc... Sex is awesome, don't get me wrong, but it means more if it's with someone whom you are in love with. Just be honest with him. Tell him your reasons if you do or not want to. Feel him out and see if he is with you just for that or more. If you are under 18 makes sure you wait. I know it's hard, but trust me its better that way. If you are 18, think about the fact that maybe he will not be your bf in 5 to 10 years. LOL. Yeah I know the truth is won't. But make sure its something you are wanting to do. Don't do it just to make him happy. Be careful and use protection if you do.
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