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My sister's cocaine addiction
I'm 14 and I have an older sister who is 17 care about a lot. When we were kids, we were best friends, but shes a senior in high school and in a way different group from me. My friends and I barely ever party at all/...maybe drink and smoke weed sometimes. I still love her to death, though
My sister, on the other hand met this guy from another school and started making a bunch of friends in the cocaine crowd. She's only been doing cocaine since around New Years when she started dating this guy who is a a notorious drug dealer. Last week they decided to drive down to Mexico for a "vacation". My parents thought it was fine because they are so naive. When she didn't get back when she said she was supposed to and we couldn't get ahold of her we started getting worried. Sure enough, not two hours later, we get a call from the border police saying they had her. It took my parents $1,000 to bail her out and we drove an hour and a half to pick her up.
Apparently what happened was that, their care was checked because they looked suspicious. Sure, enough they found two kilos of cocaine in the wheel well of her boyfriend's car. They were brought back to the station. I guess my sister thought her boyfriend was just going to be arrested, but they decided to do a cavity search on my sister...made her spread her cheeks and they found 15 bags of cocaine stuffed in her butthole. I don't even know it was possible that someone can fit something like that in their butt!!! The drive home was silent. SHe has court next month and is probably facing a lot of trouble.
RIght now I am in shock and don't know what to even think. I want to cry, but I can't. I will always love my sister, but she must have a drug problem if she has resorted to dating a huge drug dealer and hiding things in her rear end. What should I say to her?? Is she going to prison? Thank you for any help you can give me.
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Wow, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. As bad as it might seem, it may be a good thing that she was caught like this. Now everyone knows how serious her problem is and something might get done about it now. I can't tell you whether she'll have to do any time or not. What does need to happen is that your parents need to get her into a program to get her the help she needs. This might end up being expensive. It might mean big changes for the family. Everyone is going to have to make sacrifices. It's going to be really hard to talk to your sister because the situation is so shocking. It seems like you knew she was doing cocaine, but you didn't realize how serious it was. Take some time for the shock to wear off, but don't take too long. Your sister probably feels worse and more awkward than anyone. Maybe try just asking her how she's holding up. She may not want to talk about it, but maybe she will. Even though it's probably going to be tricky, try to talk to her. Build up the courage and start a conversation. Ask her the questions you want the answers to. When you're talking to her don't make what she did sound like it was the worst thing in the world Saying "how could you do such a thing", probably isn't the best idea even though that's what you want to know. Try approaching the conversation with the goal of understanding what happened and understanding what she is going through. If you approach her with a confused or caring tone rather than a shocked, angry, or "you're insane" tone, it's going to be hard for her to talk to you. It's difficult to give you specific advice because she hasn't gone through court yet. You also know her a lot better than I do. Even if she's changed a lot, she's still your sister and however you used to talk to her is probably the way to go about it now. If the court system doesn't give any help to your sister, like putting her into rehab or something, and your parents either don't know what to do or can't afford it, this may sound strange and kind of out there, but think about messaging Dr. Phil. I think that even if you don't want to go on the show or anything, you might get some good help or advice from someone who is a professional. You may also want to see if your school can set you up with someone to talk to. If you're not sure, ask your guidance counselor. You don't have to reveal all the details, but this is a crazy situation and you're going to need some guidance and advice from someone you can build a relationship and trust with in order to get through everything. Your family dynamics are going to be changing quickly. It's going to affect everyone differently. Be ready for a lot of your family's time, attention, and effort, to be completely taken away from you and focused all on your sister. That's something that can be really hard to deal with. Try to prepare. I wish you the very best of luck and I really hope that you seek help from a professional in your area that you can go to and talk with. With the right help, all of you can absolutely get through this. It may be a tough road, but know that it can definitely be done.
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Hey, I am not too sure what the laws are like in America but over here drug smuggling is a big offence, and if the boyfriend deals as well he'll be in the most trouble. Your sister might get let off if she has a good lawyer and it is believed she was talked into doing these things because of her boyfriend but she will still receive a severe punishment I'm sure.
It sounds like she does have a drug issue and should be admitted into rehab to overcome it, the case may be that she didn't understand what she was doing at the time, or perhaps she did and didn't understand the consequences. Right now though I'm sure she would just want her sisters support, don't treat her differently, treat her like your sister and do the things you always do
Goodluck with it :) x
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Hi there,
First off, let me say how sorry I am to hear about your sister and the position you are in. It must be really terrible for all of you right now, not least of all for your parents.
I cannot really help you with the legal aspect since I am not from the US and law in general is not my strong point.
Your sister is in a very bad spot right now, and how she comes out of this will shape the rest of her life. This truly is one of those turning points. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do other than to be a loving sister. All you can do is remind her how much she is loved, that she is not alone, and that somehow she can get through this whichever way it goes. Beyond that, your parents should get her professional help to address the drug use and her behaviour.
Once again, I am so sorry for the position you are in. I wish I could have been of more help.
Best of luck to all of you.
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The bond between two sisters never dies.
That being said, you need to reconnect with her on the emotional level that you two had when you were younger. You are her little sister; you have a lot more of an impact on her than you may think.
Write her a letter. Let her know exactly how you feel about her, what she did, and how it affected you. Be sure to be specific and outline details so that she is entirely aware of your stance.
There is no way for an advice giver on this site to give you a definite answer as to if she is going to jail or not. There may be circumstances in her case that you are unaware of, thus, we are unaware of.
For now, I would not so much worry about if she is going to jail or not, but rather on rebuilding the bond that you had with her. You may be the only one who can connect with her, like you used to. I will keep you, your sister, and your family in my thoughts. God Bless.
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